• http://outtamymindwithworry.blogspot.com/ margalit

    I’m so sorry, Heather. Please be brave and GO to your doctor’s appointment. Even if it costs a fortune, your life is worth it. You’ve got me worried and I’m going to have my doctor look at something creepy growing on MY arm tomorrow. Take care!

  • tksinclair

    My aunt and mother have recently had melanoma’s diagnosed (my mother now has a boomerang shaped scar on her face from her ear to her nostril to her upper lip) and I can relate to the feeling that every mole, scratch, tiny vein or blotch has now become suspect. It seems as if I’m sprouting skin “lesions” by the hour that I never noticed before. I would love to go to the Dr. and have every single up-until-now insignificant freckle and mark removed but we only have insurance that kicks in after my death.

    It’s frightening and totally sucks when you hit that point in life where “things” mean “things.”

    BTW, some people can say insensitive things. I’m sure they mean well or in the least don’t mean harm. Take care of yourself and try not to get too freaked out. I will be thinking of you and wishing you the least amount of emotional and physical trauma possible under the circumstances. Self employment – no health care, no paid sick days either.

  • http://www.nothingbutbonfires.com Nothing But Bonfires

    I am wishing there were a way to erase the day I spent lying in the sun by the pool yesterday, which I am now feeling TERRIBLY GUILTY about. Never again. At least not without a full-body jumpsuit. With complicated zippers.

    I think Ed’s middle name should be Basil, which is sort of like Basal. I am sending him lots of bad, gnashing-of-teeth vibes, and sending lots of happy, organic-food-on-sale, cute-pair-of-shoes-at-TJ-Maxx ones to you.

  • danioz

    As and aussie that grew up in the 70′s (pass the bronze-oil) we now have full body skin cancer checks every 12 months. They tend to cut the whole thing out first and test later – i’ve had a couple of near misses and now swim in 30+ sunscreen when I leave the house. Last time I had to wait for a result I basically assumed that I had it and what a nice life I had so far… of course it was fine.

    Hope this is the last we hear of it from you.

  • Coralie


    I might just put some suncreen on before going to sleep. So, you know, I can be ready for tomorrow.

    Best of luck. We’re all rooting for you over Ed on this one. May he be confined to the jar.

  • baseballmama

    Heather, I’m so sorry. I had melanoma when I was 22. It scared the shit out of me, but I’m okay now. They were able to get it all with surgery. I still go back every six months and get checked and have any suspicious spots removed, but none have been malignant since. It was/is a terrible ride, but I’m just thankful that its a type of cancer that can be cured. You have my best wishes and fervent prayers that yours is as simple as mine was.

  • Kate

    Good luck Heather. I’ve had a mole on my upper thigh (..okay, my ass) for awhile and think it’s grown/changed colors. Hmm, you’ve inspired me to get it checked out. Seriously, take care.

  • Bitter Betty

    Well, that’s some scary ass shit right there. But just know that lots of cancers can be managed. I was diagnosed with thyroid cancer 3 years ago and I’m still around to bitch and moan about it.

    If you need any advice or information please feel free to e-mail me and I’ll do whatever I can to help. Hang in there, chica.

  • M@

    Hey Heather,

    I personally loved when my doc told me I had “THE GOOD CANCER” 7 years ago. Nice eh?

    Problem with mine is that it was like an iceberg so they needed to take a lot more than they had originally intended.

    That being said, not to scare you, but to show you that 7 years later, with full body scans every 6 months, I’m still cancer free and I go outside and play in the sun and even lay out sometimes.

    Just make SPF 50 your best freakin friend. :)

    Breathe deeply and be calm. Keep us updated pls.


  • http://thesuperbongo.blogspot.com/ thesuperbongo

    Sounds scary. Also sounds like an opportunity to pick one or two really items of Jon’s (or any other family member) and demand it be gifted to you or forever banished for the sake of your health and your child growing up with her mother. I say, milk it for all you can. You held it together when they shoved your child in the big tube not once, but twice. You deserve some consideration here.

  • zmom

    Horrible news. You’ll be in my thoughts and, dare I say it…prayers. Good luck with the removal!

  • http://www.wahmconnections.com/shopping/blog Tammy

    I will reserve my wit and charm for my next post as you don’t know me yet BUT I’m thinking of you ~ I grew up in a time when the highest SPF was Coppertone oil at SPF 2. I seemed to always start my first sunny of summer getting burned to a crisp then had to wear long sleeve white shirts the rest of my school vacation while I healed.

    Praying everything is easy on you! As for blogging, this week, I tried to explain blogs to my shrink (sort of) then she gave up and asked me how to spell it for her files on me. :-)

    Tammy – Thinking of you from Maine

  • Heather

    Hi Heather,

    You seem to be handling this new challenge well with your extraordinary blend of humor, grace and style. Best wishes for a thorough and speedy recovery!

  • http://fridayplaydate.blogspot.com/ Susan Wagner

    The subtitle on the August masthead absolutely MUST be “malignant blogger.” Please.

  • http://www.laughitupfuzzball.com Tracy aka Fuzzball

    We’re all here for you, Heather. I’m sending hugs from Houston :)

  • http://www.kerrianne.org kerri

    Sending you loves and anti-cancer karma. Be well.

  • http://sadandbeautiful.typepad.com Sarah

    Anytime a doctor says the word ‘biopsy’, I think it is scary. I hope the removal goes smoothly and quickly and that nothing else occurs!

  • http://tiggerlane.blogspot.com Tiggerlane

    Was so worried about you after yesterday’s post – and so glad that it’s not melanoma.

    Keep up that sense of humor – it will carry you thru!

    Thinking of you – and hoping that Jon isn’t worrying too much, thereby driving you crazy.

  • http://wackymommy.org/ Wacky Mommy

    Best wishes and I know everything will be just fine. And yes this means a “get out of jail free” card on as much chocolate as you want. Sending you a virtual candy jar full of M&Ms.

  • mediaguy74

    How about naming it “CHIP?” By having it removed you are getting rid of that “chip” on your shoulder :)

  • jpka

    You’re in my thoughts. Thanks for sharing with us. I wish you a speedy recovery with copious amounts chocolate and Leta snuggles to get you through.

  • http://fishunderwater.blogspot.com jaime

    my thoughts are with you in this time of arm cancer and such.

    seriously. be well.

  • http://www.thrusher.blogspot.com thrusher

    Wow, what a blow. We’re thinking of you, Jon and Leta!

  • http://kellycurtis.blogspot.com/2006/06/sneak-reading.html KellyC

    Heather – I feel badly for you because it is scary. But I, too had basil skin cancer removed from my shoulder about 1 1/2 years ago – and I am fine. I still have to go in every 6 months and my doc always finds something else to cut off, but so far, nothing else has been basil skin cancer. Most likely, you’ll have to keep a watchful eye on your skin forever, but it is totally cureable.

    If you need any reassurance, I’d be happy to oblige and offer more of my experience.

    Best wishes to you.

  • http://psycho316.livejournal.com sperose

    god, that’s scary. :-/ y’all are in my thoughts. *hugs*

  • http://www.lateshow.org Chris

    Heather, I might be so bold as to also suggest naming it “Jedd”. Just a thought. Hope all goes well for you!

  • Sandy

    I’ll be thinking good thoughts for you!

  • http://annejelynn.blogspot.com/ Annejelynn

    It happens to the best of us. I hope the removal goes well and clear.

  • http://wendymacblogs.blogspot.com Wendy Mac

    Heather, I was worried for you after yesterday’s post. I could regale you with stories of my own, but I won’t trouble you with those- you must be hearing a gazillion stories from everyone.

    Just know that we’re all praying for you, we’re all sending you our best healing vibes, and I am so very sorry to hear the news.

    I wish you nothing but the best, please keep us informed. You’re in my thoughts. Take care.

  • Velma

    My Husband the Oncologist (Awncawlogist?) says to tell you that “Basal cell cancers don’t even count.” There. Doesn’t the word of an absolute stranger’s unknown husband make you feel better?

  • Jackie

    Just wanted to send you a quick few words of support. Hang in there. You’ll get through this.

  • skippy delight

    Oy va voy – I’ve had 6 BCCs in the past few years and while they’re ultimately not that big of a deal on the cancer scale (ovarian cancer is the one that terrifies me), they’re EXPENSIVE! It costs a lot more to have the MOES procedure where they cut them out than it does to go every six months to have things burnt or frozen off.

    I now visit the dermatologist with my suspicious areas circled in black felt pen. Leta can help you with this – it will be fun.

    Thing is once you get one you tend to get more as they’re from what you did when you 12 not what you’re doing today. That said I don’t go to the beach without #30 sunscreen, an umbrella and clothed from head to toe and that’s only between the hours of 4 and 6.

    Take good care of you!

  • http://metwee.blogspot.com wind-up-bird

    Dooce, all best wishes. My mother had the same, and managed to survive to kick the asses of (a) diabetes, (b) a heart attack, and (c) me. It’s going to be OK. And, health insurance in America? Basically sucks. Love, all respect, and well wishes.

  • http://metwee.blogspot.com wind-up-bird

    Dooce, all best wishes. My mother had the same, and managed to survive to kick the asses of (a) diabetes, (b) a heart attack, and (c) me. (I should probably stop eating butter.) It’s going to be OK. And, health insurance in America? Basically sucks. Love, all respect, and well wishes.

  • http://digitalelf.net/ bahamat

    Is it ironic that I have a roommate named Ed that acts more like a cancer than a real person? It’s not in a jar by a window in the kitchen, but it’s in a dark room constantly playing World of Warcraft.

    In all seriousness, best wishes for you and your family.

  • Jenny

    I had malignant melanoma when I was in sixth grade, and all I have to show for it is a scar on my left arm that looks like lips.

    I’m disgustingly incautious in the sun despite that and I’m twenty now. I go for regular checks (annual at this point) at the dermatologist and keep track of potentially funny spots or moles.

    Basal cell is usually not too dangerous, and as long as you watch your skin and take caution with your skin and Leta’s (who is adorable and very fair) you have nothing to worry about. The good thing about skin cancer is it’s VERY EASY to catch in time. :)

  • HannahB

    I’m only 21 and I’ve had 13 biopsies so far, owing to family history (the same family that takes bets on how many holes I’ll come back with every time I visit the dermatologist…). Not that you need any more advice, but here’s some anyway: schedule an appointment with a well-regarded specialist NOW (the good ones will take at least 6 months to get an appt with). It’s worth the financial expense for the peace of mind — I’ll click twice on the ads to do my part :) My mom waited until she was 40 to get checked out, and now she’s going through some very painful treatments involving acid — ouch! One more thing: have someone (Jon) photograph you all over so that if you find a suspicious mark, you can check to see if it’s new or not. If you already have spots you want to watch, put something standard-sized (dime, pencil eraser, etc) next to it in the photograph so you can tell if it’s growing or not.
    Take care!
    Charlottesville, Va

  • jodieyorg

    I just had two biopsy’s done yesterday and im scared shitless…

  • http://temporarydisarray.blogspot.com SaraChickey

    My mother is going through melanoma treatments. Suffice to say, I’m really relieved to hear you don’t have that, Dooce!

    Best of luck. (And I am totally in favor of the suggestion of pay-per-view shots of Ed to finance this undertaking!)

  • Amy

    I hope you can remain positive and that you receive all the support you need during this time and the times to come! Keep us all posted on your progress!!! Take Care.

  • http://barbie2be.blogspot.com barbie2be

    get it tended to and move on… with lots of sunscreen. i had an icky spot in my breast crease that started out as a chicken pock scar but turning into squamous cell cancer. they carved it out and things have been fine in the 7 years since.

    hang in there Heather.

  • Xan

    I, like Sarah, also have translucent skin. And I also have skin cancer running throughout my family on both sides – most recently with my father who had a large chunk of his back removed thanks to malignant melanoma.

    I wear this shirt with pride:


    I may not be able to wear yellow because it makes me look like I’m dying, and my legs may blend in with my socks, but at least I know when I’m 50 my skin will not resemble a Louis Vuitton bag.

  • http://lawyerish.typepad.com lawyerish

    Dear Ed: You suck!

  • http://anamstubbington.typepad.com/ anam_kihaku

    yikes. hope youa re able to get through this sanity, bodya nd bank balance in check.

  • bonkersmomof4

    Lots of hugs and prayers for a speedy recovery and no recurrance coming from Memphis! I am sure you will handle this with your usual grace and dignity and amazing sense of humor.

    (But you did scare me badly with that post the other day and no explanation.)

    Your alphamom post about your brother was so beautifully written, it almost made me cry. Precious memories!

  • shredbettie

    I’ve had two of those removed so far… one just a couple weeks ago from my shoulder, another from my calf that still irriates me whenever I snowboard… the scar is so huge because it took the doctor three times to remove alll the diseased skin, and on one of those times she poked herself and made ME get an aids test. I was really, really pissed…

  • http://www.sliverssnippets.blogspot.com JayAre

    I wish I were funny, but I’m not, so I’ll just tell you that I’m thinking of you and KICK SOME CANCER ASS.

  • http://jawnbc.livejournal.com jawnbc

    Not good news certainly, but in the cancer lottery it might be the number to draw (since you don’t have a prostate. Unless you count Jon’s).

    Keep an eye on them, get ‘em removed whenever possible. My brother’s had it for a decade, and aside from discomfort and anxiety, the prognosis is very good. Like be mindful but don’t freak.

  • jill

    I read Marie Claire this month and they did a skin cancer piece. I though, “Hey, I should get checked.” Then I read this, checked out the link and believe that I too have a cancerous thing on my ankle. First I thought it was a light mole (I’m a moley person), then I thought it was a wart (not usually a warty person) but the wart remover didn’t work…not a wart I guess. It’s been growing a little faster lately. Next trip: Doctor. Thankfully, I’m Canadian.

    Thanks for the heads up, Heather.

  • http://www.supersimbo.co.uk supersimbo

    wowsers the “C” word………..last year i noticed a mole/freckle on my leg getting a bit bigger and it started to itch so naturally i crapped myself and was thinking about who would conduct my funeral service but i was super pissed off when i went to my doctor and he kind of chuckled in my direction as he named some kind of skin thing that can happen to freckles to make them itch…………………in other words the git made me look like a real faggot in front of his computer!!
    Hey i hope you are ok, in the words of evryones favourite champion of “skin disorders”………………BEAT IT!!