Didn't that woman blog about Al Roker's nipples?
Tuesday, May 13 2008
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When the producer for NBC called me and asked if I'd be interested in flying to New York to be on a live segment of the Today show to talk about the business of mommy-blogging — okay, wait a minute, I think I should address this right here, right now, this label MOMMY BLOG. Do I consider my website a mommy blog? Not really, no. When I sit down to update my website I don't think to myself, "What will I say today on my mommy blog?" The first thing I think is, how can I give my father a heart attack? And then I back up a second and go, nah, I'd miss him too much, I will just have to write this story about Jon's Brazilian wax in my personal diary. Dad, are you paying attention? It's because of you that the world does not get to hear about Jon's genitals. I HOPE YOU'RE HAPPY.
But I also don't get offended when people call this website a mommy blog. Not at all. Because even though some people use that label to belittle the fact that there are women out there writing about their experiences as mothers, how dare they? Who do they think they are? NO ONE WANTS TO HEAR ABOUT YOUR KID, YOU MOMMY BLOGGER! Yeah, that. Turns out lots of people want to hear about your kid. Oh, and did you hear? All this writing about motherhood is bringing people together and changing lives. So you go ahead and wrinkle your nose and dismiss those mommy blogs. And I'm going to sit over here at my laptop and be totally flattered that someone thinks I'm worthy to be among their ranks. Hell yes, I'm a mommy blogger.
So I was prepped for an interview about mommy blogs, the lot of us, how this thing we started to document the tiny and intimate moments of our lives has transformed into our jobs. Our jobs that pay us money. And I was totally under the impression that it was going to be a more in-depth interview than the usual, so, tell us about your blob, is it? Your blop? Your blonk? Little anecdote here, the driver they sent to JFK to pick me up turned out to be Chelsea Clinton's personal driver when she's in New York, which does not have anything to do with the point I'm trying to make here other than that he said she is always shouting from the backseat, "GO FASTER! GO FASTER!" And I don't know why but just knowing that about Chelsea makes me want to invite her over to play Scrabble while chugging Kentucky bourbon. It just makes me love her even more to know that she gets impatient at stop lights, and that maybe she has once or twice waved her middle finger at a stranger, not because it would make any difference or cause traffic to go any faster, but because IT FELT SO GOOD.
Anyway, the driver asked me why I was in New York and what I did for a living. My friend, Maggie, is going to be so proud of me for this because I told him, "I'm a writer." And I thought it was going to sound natural coming out of my mouth but in fact it did not whatsoever. I could have said, "I teach English to genius pandas," and the look on my face would have been the same. He asked me what kind of writing, and that's when I looked around to see if anyone was within earshot, and duh. It's New York. At any given moment there is someone having intercourse with a goat within earshot. So I whispered A BLOGGGGG. And I am not even kidding, his whole face shriveled inward as if he had just been sprayed with mace, and he said, "Does that hurt?"
Yes, it hurts. But I'm taking antibiotics.
So I got a call from the producer about 20 seconds before boarding the plane to New York telling me that they had bumped the segment to the fourth hour of the show, and that I'd now be interviewed by Hoda and Kathie Lee. I knew right then that the interview that was supposed to happen was not going to happen, but I still had hope. I knew that a taped segment featuring other bloggers (Kristen Chase, Mir Kamin, and Jill Asher) was going to run before me, and I thought I'd still be able to get in a word or two about why I think companies are so interested in marketing to this group of people, why they are sending us thousands of PR emails saying DEAR BLOGGER, PLEASE WRITE ABOUT MY PRODUCT ON YOUR WEBSITE. Except how many times have we been sent an email addressed to the wrong person? I've been called Heather Anderson, Sarah Armstrong, Hannah, Halley, and one time someone even called me Jim. Note to PR people: maybe pretend that you are paying attention.
I'd been to Rockefeller Center before but never inside the Today Show studios, and I don't know how to say this without someone deliberately misinterpreting it, so I'll just go ahead and blurt it out: it was kind of sad. The green room was tiny, and the make-up room looked like it had been haphazardly set up in someone's garage. Not that I was expecting the walls to be lined with gold, but you look at the set and see how sharp and clean it is, and then you go backstage and, oh my god, has my daughter been playing in here? Because there was stuff and paper and little bits of things everywhere. Like, I had a thought that if I took off my shoes and walked around for a little bit back there that I'd stumble over a Barbie corvette and maybe cut myself on that missing Polly Pocket shoe.
And that is less a judgment than it is an observation, because the experience I had with the make-up people was more than professional. They handled me with great care and made me feel like a million bucks and didn't mind Jon as he furiously circled the room with our camera:
Just as I was about to walk back to the green room I asked Jon if he thought my make-up looked okay, and in front of about 10 people on the Today show staff he said, "Okay? OKAY? I'd lick you right now if we were alone. COME ON!" Someone started laughing, so Jon continued: "What? WHAT? Doesn't my wife look good? I'm allowed to say that about this woman because I saw a baby come out of her body!" And thus commenced a chorus of disgusted EWWWWWWing. And I was all, okay Jon, you can stop. And he was all, "Not just ANY baby! MY BABY! OUT OF HER BODY!" This is obviously proof that one side effect of Prozac is acting like you're drunk when in fact you are not.
15 minutes later I'm sitting on a couch opposite Kathie Lee Gifford and Hoda Kotb. And we're making small talk in the four minutes leading up to my segment. They're asking me all sorts of questions about my website and where I'm from, and then I think but I can't be sure that Kathie Lee Gifford winks at me. Just out of nowhere. WINK WINK. And I'm so caught off guard that my face changes its expression involuntarily, and she says something like, yeah, that was a wink, it's something we do on television. I go, okay, so you weren't trying to hit on me, just clearing things up. And she says, no, she wasn't hitting on me, but honey (she called me honey), I am totally her type.
I am Kathie Lee Gifford's type. You know what? I am not even going to start decontructing that, and instead I'm going to let you consider what that says about my husband.
And then she said something to me that made the rest of my day one giant confusing puzzle that I have still not been able to put back together. I don't remember her exact words, but she asked me if I get a lot of criticism for writing about my family on the Internet, and when I said yes she said she could totally relate. Because people were all over her back in the day when she talked about her kids on television. She told me she could empathize. For those of you who have not seen the segment I'm going to post it here, and afterward you're going to think to yourself, "HUHHH?"
I don't know what happened to frighten Kathie Lee in the span of four minutes, but my guess is that she had either been instructed to bring up that controversial aspect of mommy-blogging, or maybe she herself thought that she needed to layer the interview with that perspective. Either way, it did not make her a friend of this community from what I've read on other websites and forums.
And here's my take: this is obviously a case of an interviewer not being adequately familiar with the topic at hand (also, probably not a good idea to have someone afraid of computers interviewing someone about their job using computers). And I'm not about to jump into the crowd and start calling Kathie Lee names, she does not deserve that from me. I'm not so much angry at her as I am disappointed that this topic was not given the service it deserves. Blaming Kathie Lee for that would be misguided, and in fact, I don't think there's really any one entity responsible for how this played out other than the beast that is broadcast television. The segment got bumped, things were shuffled around, and maybe because of some miscommunication here and there it wasn't the piece it was supposed to be. Instead of looking at this as a setback I'm thinking that this is a great opportunity for someone out there willing to take a look into the heart of this community. Start the interview with the fact that you are uncomfortable with what we do, and then let us answer you. Unless you are afraid of us, and if that's the case, well, here, let me rub your head, you poor little bunny.
1. shaunacon said:
First comment on your ever so popular blog. I am honored...
Good to hear your perspective on the whole thing.
2. Leslie said:
That was my favorite post to date. You are the best!
3. RH said:
Despite its glitches, what a great experience for you! Congrats on all the attention - it is very much deserved!
4. Carrie said:
I was shocked by the interview. Really, they gave you such short shrift, and the way Kathy Lee acted like she was in a debate with you and didn't let you make your point.
You looked great, though. Congratulations for bearing up under ridiculous treatment.
5. Erica said:
I thought you did a great job. Beside the fact that they were rushing you and cutting you off.
6. Ev said:
It was a fabulous segment, even if it wasn't what it might have been. You looked and sounded great and I watched it with great pleasure. Heather, Jon, Leta, Chuck and Coco, you guys rock!
7. Ev said:
P.S.: Did you hear Al mention you the next day on the air, talking about bubblicious??
8. Jules said:
Wonderfully written by a wonderful writer. I think it takes a huge person to handle this situation with tact and decorum. Thanks for taking the lead for all of the mom's out there who have a voice and want to be heard. We are women bloggers not just mom's and wives.
9. Carrie said:
It's true, it was a weird interview. KLG clearly didn't know what she was talking about. . but that's not her fault. Somewhere, someone is hitting themselves on the forehead for not prepping her well enough. You carried yourself very well. . . and, yes, you did look smashing!
A proud moment for "mommy bloggers" everywhere!
10. Jan said:
A most appropriate pulling of a punch. One of the numerous reasons your blog is so popular is that although, like other "mommy bloggers" I won't name, you are outrageous, funny, profane, sometimes angry, whimsical, sometimes childlike -- you are a mature and thoughtful adult. Poor bunny indeed.
11. kirida said:
KLG is like a spazzy Meredith Viera. It's like what would happen to Meredith Viera if she developed a drinking problem and moved to Boca Raton.
12. Anonymous said:
Never before commented but now is a good time to start. First, the Today Show messed me up because I was waiting for your segment and it was delayed or bumped or whatever and then I was late to work. Second, when I finally saw it posted on someone else's blog Kathie Lee's dress burned my retinas. And third, it was hardly the piece it should have been. I'm not even sure why the Today Show bothers with that fourth hour thing but as neither a Mom nor a blogger nor...I don't know -- your supposed target audience I can just say that I was disappointed in the extreme. It would have only been worse if Ann Curry had interviewed you while bungee jumping. Oh but how I loved your dress.
13. Amanda said:
You handle yourself so gracefully (with just the right amount of humor). I stayed up late last night to watch you on Nightline, and all I could think afterwards was, "That family is so cool!" I loved the shots of you and Leta dancing.
14. robinv said:
I think I love/hate Kathy Lee for the obvious reasons. I love that fact that she is so blissfully unaware of how she comes across to people and I hate the fact that she has been able to do it, on tv for so many years.
She is totally uninformed about her subjects most of the time but YOU handled her perfectly! I could tell that you had more to say but she didn't know enough about the subject to ask the right questions. You looked great and your hair was so Cute!! Well Done!
15. Robin G. said:
It did sort of come across like you were reaching the end of the segment, then Kathy Lee thought, "Oh! Crap! I was supposed to mention how this woman might be putting her daughter at risk to crazed lunatics, so we can do a Dateline segment about here with scary DUM DUM DUM intro music!" and then sort of threw it in right before things wrapped up.
It is a shame, though, that the topic wasn't discussed. Because it's an interesting one, one that would be well served by an honest, open debate.
16. Scargosun said:
As usual, you rock and your post about the Today show is incredibly insightful, not that I would expect anything less. I now pity KLG just a little. :)
BTW, the Nightline segment was fab! You looked great and your personality, as well as Jon and Leta's came thru (that's a good thing).
Congrats on all your success! You truly are a wonderful writer.
PS - Sorry so sappy but couldn't help it. I am proud of you.
17. Jen said:
I totally agree with you about everything on this interview. Kathie Lee puts her foot in her mouth all the time...she should of not been apart of this interview. "I don't know much about computers!" Ack! And they didn't give you credit or the respect you deserved.
18. Dangermonkey said:
I always find it odd when people admit they don't know how to use a computer. Not know how to program, that's one thing. But turning the damn thing on and getting to the internet? C'moooon. Isn't that sort of mentality what made AOL so popular?
Good segment, despite the terseness and the rushed feeling on their end. Did the dress plans change since it was Kathie Lee and not Matt Lauer? ;-)
19. Haley said:
I love that you are enjoying this so much yet still staying so humble and it is great to get to read about what really goes on at these things!
CONGRATS on all your success and keep on doing what you do!
20. ricanhavoc said:
When I heard you got bumped to the 4th-hour wasteland, I cringed inside for you, but I thought you handled yourself with aplomb.KLG is a hypocritical Luddite. "I don't understand computers." WTF? And how quickly she forgets how she completely whored Cody & Cassidy out on TV for YEARS, and she had the nerve to look down her nose at you? At least you never employed sweatshops and had a geriatric husband who screwed stewardesses! Keep doin' what you do, whatever "they" decide to call it!
21. Coyote said:
When I watched you on the Today Show, I was thinking, "Give me a break, Kathy Lee or whatever your name is. This segment isn't about you -- it's about the person you're interviewing. Crikey! Get your clueless, self-involved little cranium out of your hygenically sealed butt."
22. Chris said:
Oh boy - I've commented on Jon's webpage and I think she did an extreme disservice to all 'Mommy Bloggers' All it did was make her look so hypocritical after her garish display of her children in the 90's.
23. Loraleigh Vance said:
Honestly, I can not believe the unprofessionalism and thinly veiled nastiness with which that interview was carried out. It was total horse shit.
You handled it well. Good on you!
24. Margie said:
The interview finally made me able to quantify what it is I never liked about KLG: One can never disagree with her. About anything. She's right, she's always right, and there's nothing more to be said. You know she doesn't reside in NY and has a rooftop patio, don't you? PLEASE let's not talk about this Computer Stuff anymore.
25. Starr said:
Please post a response to Kathie Lee and post it. Since you didn't get the chance on the Today Show. (You don't have to start it "Dear Kathie Lee" or anything...just address the "I have safety concerns" issue she brought up before quickly segueing to outdoor furniture.)
26. Joel said:
Nice job Heather. The media blitz is awesome. Keep it up.
And it's pronounced cray-on not crown.
27. Andie said:
I youtubed the video right after your last post about the segment and clicked away thinking "huh" as well. Your reaction here says a lot about who you are. Well done.
a.
28. kirida said:
On second thought, maybe KLG wasn't spazzy at all. Maybe she was just suffering a man cold that day.
29. Natasha said:
I agree that it was awkward and I felt bad for you. I don't blame Kathie Lee for her opinion, I just think, like you said, that it's unfortunate they chose an interviewer who couldn't ask more relevant questions because she was unfamiliar with the topic. Maybe that was the point, though. Maybe she was supposed to represent the majority of people out there who aren't that familiar with blogging. It's not like The Today Show's demographic is primarily teens and 20-somethings, is it?
If that was the point, I wish they would have allowed you more time to explain. Ending the interview with this big ignorant question was unfair.
I was disappointed that you didn't get to show your shoes! You looked great, especially your hair.
30. Pete Dunn said:
You were brilliant and articulate. The piece was what it was. Obviously the ABC piece was much more generous.
31. Sarah said:
Enjoyed the interview... well, the hearing from you part. Kathie Lee, I could have done without!
Love the blog, though!!
32. charity said:
Amen. I watched your segment and I was totally left with the HuH feeling. There is sooooo much to this society and they did not even scratch any of it. Maybe it should be an on-going segment? That is a good idea I think. anyways, good for you, you did us proud. IT's also great you flustered KLG, she needs that every once in a while
33. eej said:
The most offensive part of that interview was KLG's dress.
34. Elizabeth said:
I saw the interview on TV, and I must say that I was disappointed with how the interviewers handled it. Kathy Lee didn't even seem to know what a blog is. I (personally felt- correct me if I am wrong) that you seemed to have an out of body experience and watch this interview crash and burn as Kathy attacked you- didn't let you defend yourself "HAHA I don't live in New York City- Tricked you" and then went to commercial.
If she had even visited your blog long enough to read your letter to Leta, she wouldn't have said any of that- AND if they are so concerned about the exposure that Leta was getting online- then why did they even show her pictures on the air?
I was stupefied- still am.
35. Kirsten said:
Hi! Love your blog - just found you recently :D
I expected worse from the segment. It just sounds to me like Kathy felt she needed to say something, anything, to get herself into the interview. I think it was a meaningless un-thought-out attempt at depth. And: the interview itself was just what I expected and pretty much why I don't watch AM TV: it doesn't truly teach anything, it's all a gloss over, a "we're on top of the trends" show.
Blogs do way better :D
36. Miz Booshay said:
Oh Heather,
You are really being gracious. And you handled yourself so well on the show.
Just think that a lot of us get our news from these shows....
um...better rethink that.
Sound bites. That's all they are good for. Not even as thorough as the local newspaper.
But hey, you looked real pretty and you were not the one to come away looking hypocritically paranoid and ignorant. So that's a good thing.
37. zchamu said:
I feel like saying you are right, that it's unfair to trash Kathie Lee for being ignorant about computers and blogs.. and yet, it's her job to understand what she's talking about when she interviews people. If she didn't get it, perhaps she should have let Hoda do most of the talking?
I am also amazed that she actually addressed the fact that she got flack about talking about her kids in public with you directly.. I must commend her bravery for taking the angle she did with you, then, since she had already given you the ammo to shoot her ass right out of the sky if you had wanted to.
Can I ask: What was the point you were going to make when she cut you off?
No matter what, though, you were amazing. Very eloquent and your hair, girl, I would kill for your hair.
38. Becky_N said:
I've been reading your blog for a year now, and I had this *mommy* instinct to protect you when Kathy Lee said you made her uncomfortable. What makes me uncomfortable is that table cloth of a dress she had on. Good for you for taking the high road and responding as a professional writer. I'll prod along and ask the difficult question "just what store was that moo moo purchased from in order to chop it into that horid dress?"
39. Adiel said:
It was truly uncomfortable to watch Kathie Lee speak about this topic...
I'm always amazed with people's apparent ease with being on television. I would probably being tripping over my words non-stop. You were great on there, you looked super comfortable in front of the camera.
40. Lori said:
I can't stand Kathie Lee myself but that's beside the point..or is it? Anyways, I thought you handled yourself like a trooper and congrats on such a momentus occassion;)
41. Valerie said:
I was really uncomfortable with the end of the segment. I feel like Kathie Lee sucker punched you and then walked out of the room all "Oops! Out of time!" It was weird.
You, on the other hand, looked FABULOUS. I would have licked your face, too.
42. Windy City said:
I agree with most everybody when I say it was hard watching the interview because Kathie Lee looked so uncomfortable and obviously didn't know your work at all. I was sorry the new book didn't get mentioned at all because it's FABULOUS! You, however were very gracious and effortless. Keep up the brilliant work, you always brighten my day.
43. cristen said:
Very nice response, Heather. Good job with that. I was very interested to read what your interpretation of the event would be. This is very grown-up and civil. Shocking!
44. Rachel said:
Morning talk how segments always seem to me to be so simplistic; there is just no depth of conversation because of how fast they're trying to move on to the commercial for feminine hygiene products. You handled the interview -- and the wacky last 30 seconds -- really well. Congratulations for making it through the trial by Today fire.
45. Angel said:
I was very shocked at the piece. It didn't do our world justice at all. I know you were prepared to talk more and I felt like they just cut you off. How dare you Kathie Lee? I think it's partly her fault as well as she should have done a little bit of prep work before the interview. Sheesh.
You looked amazing though and your hair was stunning.
I did watch the Nightline piece last night and I was much more impressed by it. So if you all haven't see it, you definitely should. I believe you can see the video here, but the article is there if the video isn't. http://abcnews.go.com/Technology/story?id=4836738&page=1
46. Mandee said:
For people who are willing to see things for what they are, Kathie Lee looked foolish and you handled her with grace. I haven't understood all the people who are so up in arms about how she "treated you." You gracefully refrained from petting her on the head and saying "there, there." The focus should be on commending you for how you treated her.
Similar to your point with the Mommy Blog label--it's the people who don't get it who are ultimately painting a picture of themselves.
Certainly, it is frustrating that the mainstream media keeps missing the boat on blogging. I thought the Nightline segment was the best I've seen yet (although, it had its weaknesses,too). Thanks for being willing to stick your neck out.
47. HouseofJules said:
Watching it live, I felt kind of sad for Kathie Lee. I mean, I had to pick my jaw up off the floor afterwards and everything, but I thought at any moment the grim reaper was going to pop up from behind that couch and put her out of her misery. You handled the chaos very well on camera, I was seriously impressed.
Jules
48. Angella said:
Watching that segment was like watching a train wreck in slow motion.
I actually felt a little sorry for Kathie Lee, because she was the absolute worst person to interview you. I am guessing it was not her choice.
Her interviewing you would be like me interviewing a rocket scientist. It would not be pretty. Or even coherent.
You, however, came out of that interview with a whole new level of respect and awe from everyone. You handled yourself with grace and flare. Well done.
49. ae said:
You did an amazing job staying classy under pressure and I heart your accent. That you continue to remain classy when it would be easier to point fingers speaks volumes of your class still.
Besides... the Nightline segment made up for the Today show segment a million times over. We got singing AND dancing in that one. What more could we want?
50. marysia in tx said:
For the record, you looked dazzling. I'm sure many people would lick you.
I feel embarrassed for KL, because she came off not seeming "I'm old fashioned, relate to me middle-aged people," so much as "I'm disrespecting the interviewee and in general not so bright."
I've never really had beef with KL, and I don't mean to seem protective of Dooce, but you're right. HUH???
51. Kim said:
It would've done a lot (or a least a little) to humanize KLG's image had she said that bit about empathizing with you, etc, etc, on-air and not merely in private.
52. Julie Jackson said:
You are so gracious. Well done.
I wonder if Cody and Cassidy had anything to say about this on their myspace pages. Surely those exist?
53. Kate said:
Didn't the Today show do the same kinda thing to Melissa Summers? Asked her to the show for one thing and then it became SO something else? Perhaps that's their schtick over there at NBC.
Oh well, kudos to you!
54. kelly said:
i've been looking forward to this post for a long time. i knew i would laugh out loud, and i did, at jon totally freaking out when you could have used some cool. can't say he's predictable! thanks for your blog, and for giving it the old college try on the today show. and i agree, this topic does deserve more, but this'll do for a start.
55. Nate said:
I saw the segment when it aired, and that's exactly how it struck me - I figured Miss Kath was given a real, real quick, rudimentary, bare-bones overview of what you do and what she should ask you, and then she went from there into all kinds of wacky conclusions. It's what happens sometimes, and it's a shame.
Though what was with her turning around to Hoda and going "She's REVILED!" What was that.
You're not reviled, Heather. Not by me, anyway.
56. Mental P Mama said:
You know, I was Twittering the whole time about what an idiot KLG is. And now, I just feel sorry for her ignorant old self. Good for you for taking the high road, and letting it be.
57. magpie said:
You looked great. And this post, so very eloquent and funny, is the "Craig Fergueson" response of "mommy bloggers". If that makes any sense what-so-ever.
58. Melissa said:
That Kathy Lee part at the end seemed so strange, perhaps you're right that they instructed her to say that, because she says it and then the segment ends. It seems as if she were throwing it in there just because.
Good job though :)
59. Rachel said:
Hate that the interview was not what it could have been. :(
You still looked great. And AWESOME pics by Jon. :)
And because you said not to be mean about KLG, I won't say that OMG I CAN'T STAND THAT WOMAN. GAWD.
60. AmyM said:
I saw the segment when it originally aired. I was annoyed by Kathy Lee. And kind of embarrassed for her. And I also thought it was all rude when she cut you off about not living in New York. But I thought it was totally AWESOME that the preview of your blog they showed mentioned Al Roker's nipples.
I never watch the Today Show anymore, so my kids were all whiny and "why can't we watch cartoons instead?" And is it weird that I was all excited and came thisclose to saying "Because I know that lady right there!" (Yeah. I'm a dork.)
61. Allyson said:
Kathy Lee is so bizarre. Why is she still on TV? I thought people didn't like her? Oh well, keep up the great work! I often have to explain myself as to why I keep laughing at the computer like a crazy person.
62. Ann from Montana said:
WOW! This post is as intelligent, insightful, gracious, warm and genuine as your interviews have been!
I've commented on Blurbomat and since we don't get all that many chances here - it is wonderful to see the mutual respect, encouragement and support between you and Jon.
Best, best wishes to you, Jon and Leta - may all of your success continue!
63. Mike Z said:
I think KLG probably thought she was speaking for "Jane Six-pack" when she said she didn't like what you were doing with the website. She saw how angry people got with how she kept whoring out Kody & Cassidy way back when and assumed people were feeling the same about you, not realizing that your personality is much less grating than hers is.
I must say, after watching the Nightline piece, I would watch a Dooce reality series.
64. Joe Crawford said:
I wish I could say "Hell yes, I'm a mommy blogger." Love that you outed yourself as one. Keep at it!
Also, LOVE the mop-top photo.
65. Justine said:
A very balanced persepctive considering YOU were in the room and know all the facts. Thanks for that!
I of course, was all fierce and protective of you in the face of Kathie Lee and her winking and sass, and to me, feigned distress over the use of your child on the (gasp) internet! It has been said eight ways to Sunday that she was the exploiter of her own kids (not to mention the ones in the sweat shops!) throughout their early childhood, so no need to belabor the obvious hypocrisy.
So stoked you are getting much recognition and one day hope that I can relate to you on levels that include an actual husband and kid of my own. For now, I will continue to enjoy your humor and humanity and pretend that you are my friend drinking whisky sours together!
66. Kristy said:
I am glad to read your reaction to that hideous interview (you were awesome!) BUT more important than your thoughts on that particular issue I want to know what happened to the dress you posted in your style section?!?
67. Rachel said:
p.s. KLG was just thinking that she would totally have been licking you if you'd been alone.
68. Jodie said:
By watching it, I remembered how much I disliked KLG. She was uninformed and vapid. She accused you of putting your daughter at risk and didn't let you respond. You did great even though you were probably nervous (hair flipping gave that away). Didn't get to see Nightline as I was asleep, but will look and see if the film clip is online.
69. RJ said:
As a new reader I can safely say that the best part about the interview was the fact that it bought me to your blog, which I love to the point I am rereading it from the start :) I only continued to watch the Today show to see the segment and I was totally disappointed about the lack of time and research that was given to the blogging subject.
Although I must say why are we all surprised? At least once each day I get completely frustrated that the segment that I was wanting to see has been squished down to allow another segment deemed to be more 'informative'. Unfortunately is seems it is just a part of the morning shows makeup - that is program loads of mini segments into a short time span thus reducing any thought provoking information/dialogue/active thinking to emerge. Guess will just have to log on more to hear your views on this and any other subject that pops into your head.
70. Jennifer said:
I think it is wonderful that you are getting this kind of publicity. You are so brave to share as much of your personal life as you do each and every day.
71. Amanda said:
You did great! Sure the interview didn't go the way it was planned but I think it made Kathy Lee look like a total fool! KLG (because I'm too lazy to type her name) looked like a total LOOSER....seriously this day and age and AFRAID of the computer...hahah!
You looked awesome and keep up the good work!
72. JennyM said:
You: are awesome.
73. Lily said:
Like anyone can't just Google her name and then have a thousand different entries on her and her family appear.... Nobody cares that much, do they?
Earth to Kathy.
You are on the internet.
74. Crocomama said:
Heather, you were great! You were very professional - especially given the circumstances. It probably would have been good for Kathie Lee to know prior to interviewing you that she had posted on Today's Family Blog back in April: http://allday.msnbc.msn.com/archive/2008/04/21/929229.aspx
75. Danielle said:
I wonder if KLG was pissed because she wasn't better prepared for the segment. I know I wouldn't want to come off uninformed or old fashioned, particularly in front of a younger, competent woman on the rise. And I wanted to thank you for your thoughts on "MOMMY BLOGGER". I have resisted the moniker because as soon as you tell someone you blog about being a mom they assume it's all first tooth stories and romper pictures. It's been some of that for me, but my blog has also been a way to reach out beyond motherhood because it is only one part of my life (albeit a rather large and consuming part).
76. lsr said:
the pre-taped segment: mostly fair
your live segment: mostly unfair
you conducting yourself with more professionalism and credibility than either of your interviewers: totally predictable.
Think of the future and potential reach of blogs, and the the future and potential of...daytime TV, and be comforted in your clear and decisive WIN on the cosmic score sheet.
77. Todd Kravos said:
It wasn't until I saw your segment that I realized Kathy Lee Gifford was a part of the Today show. When the heck did that happen. No matter though, YOU did a great job and the exposure is so much greater than any of the little bumps you endured to get there. Good on you!
78. j=sKit said:
Dooce, I'm sorry but you're not taking this seriously enough. These women are afraid of being replaced by you, the whole television industry is petrified that bloggers, especially ones who use (VIDEO)...are going to replace them (which we are). Do you not know women well enough to know they were trying to sabotage you. Where's my Psych 101 notes, oh, here
. Just scroll to the bottom of those boring ol' comments.
Next time, insist that I go on with you and I'll take care of mesmerizing those beauties, while you get to say what YOU want. Peace out!
79. Anonymous said:
Great analysis. On a totally different topic - I saw you on Nightline last night. That was awesome. I think it turned out great. What did you think?
80. Christina said:
I dont like Kathi Lee.. I never ever have. I didn't watch her when she was with 'reeg'and it was very hard to watch her with you.
She just plain gets on my last raggedy nerve.
By the way.. the look on your face.. was brilliant.
oh and off the topic completely..
I just had the joy of watching the movie Hitch (ok it was a little funny).. you are the spitting image of the "rich" girlfriend in that movie. just thought I'd share.
81. Brat said:
Heather, you did so well on that show. And I could listen to your voice read the phone book!
I won't call Kathie Lee names either, because I'm with you. I think she was ignorant, and kudos to her for admitting as much.
There will be more [and better] interviews, and you'll go to interesting places and, just like life, sometimes it's gonna be good and sometimes it's gonna be not-so-good.
But Girl, YOU LOOKED MAHVELOUS!
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82. kitty said:
Thank goodness for the Nightline piece. Watching the KLG video upset me because it's true what others have said -- she really didn't do you any justice. It's not just that she didn't know what was going on, but that she seemed so *unwilling* to understand and so cutting. Boo to KLG!
83. Melissa said:
I think it's great that you got the press, and hopefully more dedicated fans. But honestly? I think that show was a complete waste of your time. The hosts are a couple of boobs (not the good kind) and there was absolutely nothing of substance said the entire time you were on.
I'm just glad you got to go to NYC, sell books, and take pictures.
84. Heather said:
You showed a lot of restraint, considering what you were up against.
85. Laurie said:
The interview was a major disappointment because it seemed rushed and like it was thrown together at the last minute. I think its nice of you to defend Kathy Lee but I don't think she's that insightful to throw out other people's perspective, I think she was throwing out her own thoughts and clearly like she said, she's not up on the whole computer thing, and obvious the wrong person to interview a segment on blogging. Anyways it was great seeing you on television and I'm happy for your success, I love your blog!!
86. Vanilla said:
I think it's getting to the point where it's almost irresponsible for someone in Kathie Lee's position to be so ignorant of the internet, especailly given the subject of the interview.
87. merlotmom said:
I saw the segment, rehashed it on the forums, but your take still had me peeing in my pants (and I wasn't coughing OR sneezing). Having worked in tv, I suspect you're right about last moment shuffles and such but still she had overnight to research (have her assistant research and she read the notes) on what blogging is, etc. You'd think she of all people would support moms being innovative about finding a place in the working world. I was just upset you didn't get to ask her about Al Roker's nips. Maybe next time.
88. kellincatty said:
You know? I first looked at this interview the day after it aired - and I thought, "Man. Kathie Lee is not prepared!!!" In fact, I have no resentment towards the woman at all (although I've known a chef who used to do cooking segments with her and he didn't have nice things to say)(And my boss was at her baby shower) - but I have to comment that I'm wondering if Kathie Lee thinks she's so good at what she does, she needs no preparation... It's not the case. If she didn't know much about it, she should have opened the segment with "So - I'm new to blogging - and my understanding is that it's like a diary or digital scrapbook... Is that right?"
I hate it when broadcasters make their videos more about themselves and less about their guests... KL is already a lovely, accomplished tough woman... She needed to let the subject shine - and I think missed a cool opportunity to do so.
89. Brad said:
I'm a blogger parent, so my view may be skewed... but I think your site and what you write about your family is wonderful. It's real, and that makes it very entertaining and gripping to the core of all of us parents. I worry about my kids' exposure so I'm sure you do too, however, I really doubt Leta will be anything but proud of the WAY you have shared her life with the public. It's touching and it reflects the person she already knows as her Momma.
I have a question for you that would probably answer all of my questions about that though. If you lived in Chicago, or New York, or Washington DC or Dallas, would you feel as secure about sharing so much personal information? ie. does SLC give you a bit more security about your home and family?
90. Jarrard said:
Congratulations for taking the high road. You are a better person for it.
91. Rachel said:
BLAH! My first impression of the interview before this post was exactly what you hit on: Kathie Lee's ignorance of computers, much less these newfangled things we call BLOGS on the EEN-TER-NET. Seriously, an eight year old child would have appeared more intelligent on that sofa. Shame on the industry for putting an ill-equipped person in the position to interview you. You should have just done something totally ridiculous to turn the attention from her blathering!
92. Lindsey said:
Though it isn't really hard to look intelligent when placed in the middle of such obvious ignorance, you did a splendid job of relaying your initial points and looking fantastic. It is unfortunate that the has-been interviewer would end someone's often Only shot at ever being on television with such a childish-'hah'-I'm-not-wrong-you-can't-get-me attitude. Such is the world of network broadcasting, I guess.
The child in me wants to kick her in the teeth with one of those FANCY SHOES you got. Regardless, you were phenomenal.
93. Sarah said:
For a short segment on a network show like "Today" I thought that it probably couldn't have gone any better than it did. I know that this is a *lame* comparison, but my b-i-l is a self proclaimed "superhero" and has been on all sorts of talkshow circuits and is constantly mis-represented. There's just no way that they can get it right in 2 minutes time.
My hat is off to you for allowing yourself to go on a show like the Today show. If for anything else than to make people more aware that mommy-blogs exist in the first place.
94. trish said:
Since you've shown so much restraint, I'm going to say that what KL did was LAME (I have a post almost ready to be put up on my blog). And the Nightline interview was WAY better.
Hmm...I'm trying to see how I can set myself apart from all the other comments saying the same thing, and I just wish you could see me immitating the BLEEEHHHH, with tongue sticking out, that you did at the end of the Nightline piece. That's what I'm doing right now.
95. Svenja said:
Hi Dooce!
I'm soo excited to post a comment on your site. I'm a university student living in Germany and just discovered this blog a few weeks ago. I haven't commented yet but I just had to jump at this one.
I am shocked to hear them pin pointing you as a mommy blogger, or saying that you are the goddess of all of them. Of course I don't disagree with the goddess part - you changed my life and I started my own blog through your inspiration, I read yours daily, starting at the back and working (although it's more work than fun ;) ) my way to present.
What I am appalled at is the fact that they reduce you to being a "mommy blogger". Now I'm not saying that that is a bad thing per say. I get that it's an important subject and am worried to hear that it was not shared before that hey, raising kids is damn hard. Why not speak up about that adn share experiences?
But to me, dooce.com is so much more! Frankly, if all you wrote about was Leta, I wouldn't be reading this, despite your uncomparable humor. But you write about all kinds of stuff, through the whole span of life.
So I guess what I'm saying is please keep it up, don't let the labels get you, and you have one fan more to counterbalance the hate mails :)
96. Anonymous said:
Not that I was expecting much more from KLG, but the way she handled the interview totally left the viewer wondering what else the very interesting woman (w/great hair) on the screen with unprecedented success in an up and coming field had to say, and left the viewer totally uninterested in outdoor furniture. Oh, that, and her dress was awful. You were fabulous, keep up the great blogging.
In Louisiana, we say "colors" instead of "cray-ons" or "crowns."
97. lifeinthebend said:
You're far too fair to Kathie Lee. How can you be a professional "journalist" and not understand computers? It was a disappointing interview and I wish you'd had a chance to express your opinions more thoroughly. Thank you for your work in the blogging medium. It inspires me and so many other people.
98. Rebecca said:
I think you should be called a Hottie Blogger as well...thanks for putting a smile on my mommy face every day! Your dedication is amazing!
99. Megan said:
Heather.
As usual, there is something about you I find inspiring. I am not yet a mother, I don't have pets and I am not/was a mormon but I feel the same based on your writing on so many topics and subjects. I love reading about your daughter and your daily life. I think your segment was unfortunate because that cow Kathie Lee Gifford did what she always does, makes it about herself because she is confused and jealous....and so should she be with you in the room. Keep up the great work and writing and thanks for being an inspiration for us that need a smile everyday
100. kerry said:
what i found weird about the whole thing was the interminably long taped intro to "mommy bloggers" before the interview. why was that really needed? did it really need to be that long if they were then going to interview you? it seemed pointless, in my mind and ate up too much of your interview time.
i thought you did great, though, considering the circumstances they put you in.
101. Anonymous said:
The Today Show interview was a joke - I'm sorry they didn't give you the respect and time they should have. I feel sorey for KLG and I think your perspective on the whole experience is great. I enjoyed the Nightline segment very much. You did a wonderful job with both opportunities - keep up the good work and know that many of us out here in the world appreciate you! Wishing you continued success. Love, a first time commenter but long time reader
102. El said:
Hmmm...I sort of took Kathi Lee's comment as an expression of concern not criticism. Like..."people know where you live and what your daughter looks like. Are you worried about crazy stalker, kidnappers?" Not necessarily a criticism for writing about your family, which she can relate to because she's done it, and invading their privacy or something.
That's what I thought she meant anyway... for what it's worth.
103. LC said:
That Morning Show interview was a blip.
I saw the piece on Dateline. You are officially my hero. And you and Jon are officially awesome.
104. Julesritter.com said:
You showed more professionalism, poise and intelligence than both of them, and I would also add the producer for employing them, combined. What is happening to TV in your country? Scary. The BBC has been accused of dumbing down over the years but this was dumber and dumber.
I laughed - I also hate the word blog and blogger (blogette?) it makes me feel cheap but "I am a writer" smacks of pretension. I get around it by saying I have a website (as in I have a house in Africa à la Meryl Streep) that seems to foil them for a while. Julesritter.com Switzerland.
105. Amy said:
I think you did a fantastic job and you looked sensational. Kathy Lee is kind of a tool, we all know this. But it stinks that you couldn't make your point. Cuz it's such a good one. That aside, great job. And great post. :o)
106. JennyM said:
The Nightline segment was really good, by the way.
I don't have children and probably never will be a mom myself, but your voice definitely speaks to me and has for years. Cheesy, but I really do admire you tremendously. Keep on rockin' on...
107. LC said:
Dateline/Nightline - whatever. I don't live in the US so I am sorry for the confusion!
108. Heather said:
I wouldn't go into a meeting a work that uninformed and having done that little research on a subject, let alone do an interview on national television. Shame on NBC for letting their interviewers get away with that kind of lackadaisical attitude. I mean, it's not like it would be that difficult to sit down with your blog and at least read some of how it got started and what you've written about Leta. Ridiculous.
But you looked fab, and all of us out here who understand why what you do matters can at least feel comforted knowing that those people are responsible for providing us with in depth coverage of world events (good gravy).
109. Jamie said:
I thought you were great, and I agree with your thoughts that KLG was totally out of her element. She seems to be the kind of silly "television personality" that turns everything into a story about herself. She looked nervous, and you looked like a confident, competent woman who was waiting for the real interview to start. Maybe you should have let Chuck do the segment. His gravitas might have calmed her down a little.
Also, I would wear the title "The Woman Who Made Kathie Lee Gifford Uneasy" as a badge of pride.
110. annajordan said:
Heather -
I'm really glad you posted about this because I was so frustrated with Kathy Lee's comments. I thought - for sure- she would relate to you after the unbelievable scrutiny she has experienced over the course of her career. Talk about putting your children in the public eye!
I was really upset by the show when I watched it and again every time I think about it.
You, however, handled yourself SO WELL during KL's version of the Spanish Inquisition.
All the best to you!
111. Anonymous said:
Let me echo what so many others have said... you looked fabulous! And you seemed so much more intelligent than the 'hosts'. (Is Hoda there to keep Kathy in line?)
I was very disappointed with the interviewers and sad that they didn't allow enough time for you to sneeze or anything. (That's one of the reasons I don't watch the Today Show any more... they want quanity over quality.)
If nothing else, you got a great makeup session. Right?
I always enjoy your writing.
112. Terra said:
I've been looking forward to reading your interpretation of everything that happened. You are a great writer and I always enjoy reading your long posts. I was in such disbelief after watching the interview that I just wanted to laugh and scream at the same time at the absurdity of it all. I commend you for how you handled yourself in such an awkward situation. I truly admire you.
113. Erin said:
Yet another reason to dislike Kathie Lee... it just came across like she was trying to throw you under the bus at the end there. No matter, you handled her with grace and you looked fantastic -- good choice on the dress!!
114. Kelly said:
I thought you did well. And as someone who's neither a mommy or a wife; I love your blog.
115. Shanna said:
I think you did great with what they gave you. It was obvious at the end that she didn't want you to fill in the blanks for her. Lame.
Too bad they didn't give you the time you deserved!
116. Aimee said:
I am writing about the exact same thing right now. She put her kids out there for the world to see and she's saying she's uncomfortable? Not only that but now to know before hand she said she related to you???
Hmmm, so we'll chalk it up to ratings, popularity, feeling more unsafe because it's a computer and not a TV?
Good for you for being nice but I have a big problem with it. She took a lot of flak about her kids being thrust in front of us every morning. Her kids took a lot of flak too, which I think could potentially be damaging. And I guess it makes me angry.
Also, I have an 11 year-old boy and he loves when I write about him. I've said it before, I am able to express my feelings for him better in words than in person. So, through my blog he gets to see how I love him in an outsiders sort of way. Nothing but good has come of it. Your daughter will enjoy reading about her early years. Sorry, novel, here. Touchy subject I guess.
117. AnonymousJ said:
Its a shame your blog hasn't gained even more notoriety, or you could have really let KLG have it for her ignorance. I think you did well to play it cool and not stir things up.
You looked great, and you handled it all with the utmost grace.
I am sure she was indeed given a cursory review of blogs, etc., but as an interviewer its your job to know what you are interviewing the person about, not to let staff try to explain it to you last minute. This is a good example of that strategy not working. Unfortunately, with her "REVILED!" comment, KLG showed us her lack of experience on the subject.
revile[-viling, -viled] Verb
to be abusively scornful of: his works were reviled and admired in equal measure
re·vere (r-vîr) tr.v. re·vered, re·ver·ing, re·veres
To regard with awe, deference, and devotion.
I think miss KLG was actually going for the word "REVERED" and somehow mis-spoke, but I am not affiliated with her nor do I speak for her so I can't say this is true.
I think the truth would be that this blog has been BOTH.
There were the early years where Reviled would be accurate, but the segment was to be about how it is NOW, where the word Revered would be much more appropriate.
Definitions from: http://www.thefreedictionary.com
The American Heritage® Dictionary of the English Language, Fourth Edition copyright ©2000 by Houghton Mifflin Company. Updated in 2003. Published by Houghton Mifflin Company. All rights reserved.
118. Chris G. said:
Dag you put this well. Your perspective, always a pleasure.
I do hope someone, somewhere, sees the opportunity to really ask the good questions about blogs (mommy or not). I figure this very post might in part inspire that discussion.
119. Lauren said:
I had an experience where some of my close friends were going to do an interview on Good Morning America after a tragic accident hiking, but they got bumped and eventually cancelled altogether. I'm sure there's reason behind it on their end, but it really just makes you feel like big TV execs don't care about your story. They're just looking for ratings and apparently, the number of hits on your website couldn't actually equal ratings for their show because blog readers don't watch TV. We just wait for you or Jon to post the video on your blogs. (Not true.)
120. Gaile said:
Hi Heather. Thanks for the peek behind the scenes of the Today Show interview, and for sharing your thoughts.
I will never be a fan of KLG, and have to say it was great to see that the Nightline interview was everything that the Today interview was not.
Continued success to you and Jon!
121. Luana said:
Didn't Kathy Lee use to talk about her kids on, oh let's see, TV!? Who is she kidding? She and that other woman are painful caricatures of Stepford Wife TV anchors, spewing frivolous, useless, nonsensical nothings. They must be so embarrassed!
In any case. You have this and you seem happy. People can be jealous. You came across like a whole, interesting human being (on both shows) and I am very happy about all your success. Smart women fucking rule.
122. Rosemary said:
I watched you live that day, and man, as soon as I say Kathy Lee I knew what was coming. After you were done, I was laughing at the fact that she had no idea how those few minutes were going to make internet people hate her. You did a great job. You have this way of creating success for yourself that I am jealous of. You definitely deserve a proper interview by qualified people.
I also have a clear view of the Today show were all the anchors sit around the table talking about segments of the day, or making humorous small talk, and Al sitting there, beginning to say "Hey, did you guys hear Dooce talk about my nipples?" - You have got to make that happen.
123. Heather said:
Ok, that was weeeeird. I think you're right that it is part of the beast of broadcast television. After all, the fact that they stuck you with someone who doesn't even "get" the subject matter of the interview didn't matter because she is Kathie Lee.
I'm sorry that she made it odd at the end there but you should be really proud of what you put out there. I thought you did a great job.
Also, your dress is fantastic!
124. Anonymous said:
Loved the Nightline segment!
125. Anu said:
First of all, let me congratulate you for looking so ravishing and completely at ease on national television. I think you did a great job talking about your blog and why you do it. I feel that your are right in not blaming Kathy Lee for the way the interview ended. I've watched countless interviews on the Today show and have felt many times that the guest is never given enough time to say what they want. In fact I stopped watching the show for a while because I was so irritated by the hurried manner in which they conduct their interviews. All said and done, it was a great opportunity for you to be known nationally and hopefully it will direct more traffic to your blog where you can say all you want without being rushed or interrupted.
126. Karissa said:
"Scared of computers." Well how fortunate for you that she's the one to to the interview! I rolled my eyes so hard that they almost got stuck.
You handled everything exceptionally well and looked amazing while doing so.
127. Jennifer said:
Perfect timing for a Family Guy Quote:
"Peter: Lois, there were only two cakes left and trust me, you do not want the one of Al Roker with the Hershey Kiss Nipples on it."
That and...I am SO friken jealous and happy for you.
LUCKY!
128. Katrena said:
Heather - I'm upset you didn't call Kathy Lee a bitch! She totally was and I was dissapointed in the interview. You did handle it with grace though and Kathy Lee looked like a fool.
129. Ole'Energy said:
I found you on a search i did on blogging yesterday. I was searching to learn more about it because of this email my son received from his cousin who is a young mother and a huge blogger.. her little girls raised over 2000,00 in three hours for my sons therapy. The letter and his website www.gogarrett.org are self explanatory. But the rest of the story is that this money raised was largely due to the blogging that went on the week before the lemonade stand opened for business that saturday morning.. its a beautiful story and shows what great things go on in the blogging world.. I enjoyed learning from your blog and thought you were splendid in New York. Thanks
Mitch
130. geminijen said:
Kudos to you for still going on the show once you knew it got bumped and would be talking to KLG. I would have cancelled immediately! I was disappointed, but not at all surprised by her. bleck!
131. AnonymousJ said:
To Clarify:
Being reviled is what happened when you lost a job over this blog.
Being revered is why you were on Today, and Nightline both! ;)
PS-The Nightline Segment was Awesome!!
It was well done, and professional.
132. Michelle said:
I hardly ever watch the Today show. Watching this segment made me happy about that. While you were great, they did not extend you the courtesy that you (or any person being interviewed) deserved.
133. Slynnro said:
When I heard all the outrage and then saw the interview, I was like, okay. That wasn't mean. She had a right to bring up that aspect of what you do, but what angered me was 1) the OBVIOUS hypocrisy (CODY!CODY!CODY!) and 2) the fact that neither of them had any clue what you do or what a blog is or anything at all about the matter at hand. I'm so glad you wrote this post because I'm happy to see that the way I interpreted things was the way you saw them too.
134. Amy said:
I thought you looked, sounded, and acted with a lot of class on both the Today show and Nightline (I TiVo'd you), and in this post. Brava! You're doing all of us "mommy bloggers" proud!
And I am so excited about the "talks with Hollywood" that you mentioned. Can I play the wannabe blogger who visits your blog and posts trying to get traffic to her own rinky dink little blog? Let's rehearse. http://prettybabies.blogspot.com
Hahaha!
Amy
(lacks class, shamelessly self-promoting, decidedly undoocely)
135. Jill S. said:
I was so surprised by all that the interview WASN'T, and that's shame on the Today show. But you did great and handled yourself great and looked great . . . I was proud to be a "mommy" blogger watching you represent.
136. dani said:
Yes - that was very left field. But I cannot say I have ever watched her before (they don't show that in Australia). I think she was told to bring up the 'contraversy' that you didnt have...
Anyway your dress looked great! Your hair awesome! and those earrings...
137. Mary Ann said:
Kathie Lee wishes she could fit into a pair of Polly Pocket Shoes. I think they cut the segment short because Kathie Lee sounded so idiotic and it was obvious she did not know WHAT she was talking about.
I am a proud Mommy of two and I am all for blogging of all kinds. But, your site is the absolute best.
You are an amazingly talented WRITER ( get used to the word ).
Can my four year old daughter Gabriella have a playdate with Leta? We live in NJ.
138. Steph said:
I always wondered about the mommy blogger label myself because when I think "mommy blog" I think "online equivalent of scrapbooking complete with glurge-filled vellum stickers" and not, say, writing about calling poison control last week when my toddler ingested a naturally-occurring form of LSD.
139. Jessica said:
I thought you did an excellent job with what you were handed, it would have been great if they hadn't cut you off and let you explain yourself and by the way? You looked HOT. Hair was absolutely fabulous and your accent? Loved it.
140. Wendi said:
This was a great post... I don't really have anything to say about the Today segment that hasn't been said, EXCEPT that you seemed as totally uncomfortable in the hairdresser's smock as I always feel! You looked fantastic though, so I guess a little smock time was worth it :)
141. Mariah said:
I can't believe you didn't get that much time to talk.
Jon was hilarious for once embarrasing you!
142. The Domestic Goddess said:
Honestly, I think folks are SCARED of mommy bloggers. Because they know mommy bloggers rule the world. BWAHAHAHAHA!!!
Seriously. She wasn't prepared. See, her style on Regis was useless banter. On Today you have to know about topics. I love Kathy Lee, but seriously? She ain't Katie. I think that's what they were hoping.
143. MisterBear said:
Congrats on the latest round of media appearances; you did well (except for the hideous gray dress) and you didn't let KLG's personal issues and ignorance of the topic throw you.
As someone who formerly worked in media for a lot of years, I can say you are exactly correct when you say that no one entity is "responsible for how this played out other than the beast that is broadcast television."
Television news is thoughts and opinions expressed by committee, and no segment ends up airing exactly as it was pitched in the production meeting, hours, days or months earlier. Dozens of people have their fingers in the pie, advancing their moral and political agendas, shouting one another down, and generally making an unrecognizable mess of whatever the original story premise was to have been. And the greater the number of meetings in which the story idea is discussed, the more it shape shifts and becomes something entirely different, until the producer and the subject (you) reach the point when they look at one another and ask, "What the hell was the point of this, again?"
That's just how modern television news is, and you can't possibly control it - you can merely hope to survive it with your self-respect intact. And you did. Congrats again.
144. WhatIsAllTheFussAbout said:
Kathie Lee's empathy is for Heather being criticized about talking about her child, which is what Kathie Lee used to do as well. Kathie Lee likely sees concerns with Heather posting photos and videos of Leta. Heather takes an additional risk by providing images of a child to people in a widely read media outlet. Heather and others may not have fears with showing photos of their children to the entire world, but certainly some people do (although likely a small minority in today's world).
145. Amber said:
I am just reminded how much I can't stand Kathie Lee....
146. Lori said:
When she said she was scared of computers... that is when I thought, 'Huhhh???'. But reading your post about what happened prior to air made me think, 'Say what???'
Your blog is terrific, and as someone who is not a mother (but am thinking about it), I really appreciate your brutal honesty when it comes to this subject. The love you have for your family is undeniable, and that is quite inspiring!
147. Jenn said:
Watching this clip made me think they replaced Kathy Lee with Kelly Rippa because she's smarter....
Good job Heather! :)
148. Sarah said:
Would it be stupid for me to say I am proud of you? Yes, it would. I don't even know you. However, that is how I felt when I read this. You could have been very negative. You could have said some rotten things. Even if you felt some negative emotions after the interview you did not vent them here. Bravo to you, Heather. I write about my experiences as a military wife and raising 4 children on my little corner of the world wide web and I get WONDERFUL responses (some hate mail too). It is my therapy and I love it.
Love, Internet
149. Kate C. said:
Man, Kathie Lee Gifford is vacuous. And you were awfully nice to her.
I really loved the post Dutch wrote at Sweetjuniper about blogging about his kid. We wrote about how his wife used to work with one of Calvin Trillin's daughters, and no one ever seemed to get too upset with him for publishing about them in the New Yorker.
Calvin Trillin is a lovely writer. His essays about his family, and his transparent and total love for his wife and daughters, is one of my great reading pleasures. I don't really see mommy blogging as different. That is Maggie is right when she says you should just say "I'm a writer."
150. Crunchy Carpets said:
Totally off the topic..but I LOVED that top you were wearing for the segment..am jealous.
I thought you handled it all really well.
I would have been very flustered by someone like Kathie Lee.
It has generated a lot of talk about respect and understanding of blogging and mom bloggers so I SUPPOSE that is a good thing.
151. Luana said:
Okay, this second comment has no purpose other than for me to say that I actually read your post now and I see you've already addressed everything I said in my first comment. Just wanted to get that out there so people who'll never read this comment don't think I'm crazy.
And also, like everyone else said, you looked at ease and very hot. Gag if you want, but you really are v inspiring.
152. Ms. Moon said:
You know, I am approximately the same age as Ms. Gifford and not only do I read Dooce, I have a blog of my own. It's not just an age thing here, folks. It's a mental block or something. And I'm trying to be kind.
Anyway, I think it's amazing for young mothers, especially, to have the creative outlet available to them in blogging as well as the fact that it's a way to create a community. Mothering can be very isolating and dammit! it is hard. To be able to share the glories and the fears and the joys and the frustrations must be so gratifying.
And to be able to make money with it to help support a family!
Genius!
Heather, I really enjoy and respect your writing. You ARE a writer and of that, there is no doubt.
Blog on.
153. Amy said:
You are forever rocking my world. <3 blurbodoocery.
154. Madness said:
Kathi Lee Gifford should be fired and banished from TV forever. All Hail Dooce!
155. Laura said:
I'm one of your newly-welcomed, two-time-member-of-the-BYU-Alumni-Association readers. And I guess I should mention that I teach at BYU, too. But I still think we should be best friends. I bet Jennifer Aniston would hang out with us, too.
I think you handled the Today show interview and your response to it with grace and aplomb.
But I really want to tell you that I've spent the last 72 hours flat on my back with some sort of torn muscle, and your website got me through it. I lived your last 7.5 years and I am grateful. Thank you for sharing yourself with me.
156. Andria and Co. said:
I think you need to take over Kathie Lee's job. Who the heck ever approved of giving her a job again on national tv???!!!
157. Chantel said:
Some of my very close friends have the same reaction to blogging and the internet. They don't "use" the resources or social networking sites that we are exposed to on a daily basis. I would extend that they don't understand it and they don't "get" the community and safety that we have created with each other as bloggers.
They also spend waaaay too much time watching 48 hours and other CSI shows that only scare them from the medium. I don't know how many times they've asked me to not blog this, or not mention their name or never, ever post a photo of them or their children. I honor their wishes because they are my friends and also because I'm a selfish attention whore.
However, they also don't bother to try and understand the technology; they don't even read my blog or view my pictures on the internet. Its a source for email, jokes or free porn only. There will always be naysayers. WE just have to get on with it and ignore it.
Just because its different, doesn't make it wrong; its just different.