• Rachel

    Good for you Heather. All that matters is your health, the health of your baby, and what your doctor tells you. I am happy for you and your family!

  • http://www.undergracephoto.com/news Michelle Ross

    Speaking from one mentally wacky mom to another, those people are stupid. I was on medication my whole pregnancy and my daughter is JUST fine, thank you.

  • http://orangetangerine.blogspot.com Orange Tangerine

    You know what I call women who can get through a pregnancy without medication? LUCKY. I can’t relate at all. My son and I might both not have survived if I hadn’t taken meds while pregnant. And I would have survived the migraines, but pregnancy was decidedly less miserable with prescription headache medicine than without.

    You know what I call a baby who gets gestated inside a medication-riddled womb–but then is born into a loving home with running water, electricity, and access to health care? LUCKY.

  • http://thedalaimama.net the dalai mama

    I love your candor, honesty and strength. I can only imagine how judgemental people are towards you–one only has to read the comments.

    You rock and there are women out there now breathing a sigh of relief knowing they are not alone.

    Rock on and take care of yourself.

  • Nikki

    As the mother of 6 children…..yes SIX, I can say that I took Paxil with my 3rd child, and Prozac with the last 3. The ages of my children are 18, 14, 12, 9, 8 & 6.

    They are all beautiful happy, healthy well adjusted, children with absolutely no behavior problems, no adhd/add etc. In fact, my 8yr old is a gifted student and my other children are all making me proud with their performance at school..

    My point here is not to brag about my children, but to say that I did take those medications before, and throughout my pregnancies, and I did have those same fears while doing so, yet it seems the doctor was right, and my fears were unwarranted.

    Me? I’m still batshit crazy. lol

  • Holly

    Sigh. I don’t like it when one person claims to speak for many.

    I haven’t read through all these comments so sorry if I am repeating what someone else has said, but 167′s “European” experience is NOT typical here in the UK. I speak as someone who has seen the mental health system both as a patient and a social care/mental health worker. In fact, there has been widespread controversy over offering too much medication because it is cheaper than therapy, so in a sense, 167 has had an extremely well-funded breakdown.

    It’s a little ridiculous to suggest that sectioning someone would be seen as preferable to giving them medication, either from a mental health or budgetary point of view.

    I have never been sectioned and the NHS has provided me with lots of psych meds, most of which were completely useless (it’s just how I’m made, I don’t respond to much) and also lots of therapy and psychiatric care. I am now pretty much as fully recovered as possible and very grateful that I was given the treatment I needed, but “free” health care has its own cost. There was a good bit of waiting around until services became available and lots of personnel changes throughout (I could have lived without telling total strangers my very intimate story of how I lost my shit over and over again, and it was only the consultant psychiatrist who could tweak my meds, so when he was working elsewhere for 6 months I was told to sit tight and keep taking something unsuitable). I was lucky in that I was not suicidal so I just tolerated it and it worked in the end.

    Dooce, I really enjoy your blog. Good luck with your pregnancy. A fetus is a very robust and adaptable creature.

  • http://bluestalking.typepad.com Lisa Guidarini

    Bless you and your baby bump. By the time I was as far along as you I could have fit sextuplets in my bump. You are lookin’ fine, girl!

    Here’s to no more morning sickness soon. Sending all good karma.

  • Stacey

    I think you’re absolutely beautiful, in all ways, and can’t even express how inspirational you are. Thank you for sharing your life with complete strangers, despite not being able to choose which strangers will share THEIR lives with YOU. That takes an incredible amount of guts.

  • erica

    Congratulations on making a healthy decision for yourself and your baby. I work for a community mental health center and we always advise pregnant women to continue taking their meds (particularly anti-depressants) throughout pregnancy. It can help prevent symptom relapses in postpartum women. Congratulations on your new baby and good for you for continuing to take care of yourself. If you take care of yourself you will be better able to care for your babies!!

  • http://pamsdogmobile.spaces.live.com Big Dog Mom Pam

    Yea, Dooce! Congrats on the new addition to the family. I totally support your decision to continue the Prozac while pregnant. And for those who say otherwise – pfft. It’s between you and your doctors.

  • http://www.joeprose.typepad.com HeyJoe

    Hey I have a bump too! But mine is from pizza and not from Jon sticking his dick in me, alas. I mean thank God!

  • Kim

    Yep…I’m that woman rending her garments and second guessing herself constantly about whether to stay on my Prozac while we try to get pregnant. I know what happens when I go off, so I know it’s not really an option, but I hate the fact that I have to make the decision at all. People act like I haven’t even considered going off my meds. HELLO! It’s practically all I ever think about!

    I’m so excited for you and your family, and I thank you for putting yourself out there and standing up for us no-good pillpoppers!

  • Sherri

    #621. Anonymous….you’re an idiot.

  • Lee Montgomery-Garvin

    Has Jon started a sympathy bump yet???
    be happy….

  • http://www.repliderium.com repliderium.com

    THAT’S A BABY BUMP? I’m bigger after a soft taco night in front of the TV!
    As for the meds/critics- unless they have M.D. after their name, fuck ‘em! (and if they DO have M.D after their name, let them know that you’re no longer taking on any new doctors,it’ll be familiar territory for them.)

  • Anonymous

    do the world a favor and sterilize yourself please. if you have nothing better to do than come here and criticize dooce, then you need to just shut the fuck up.

  • http://www.surprisingwoman.com/blog Brenda Kidman

    When my daughter was pregnant with my six year old granddaughter I went to all her doctor appointments. My daughter quit going to work (where she had health insurance) and quit getting out of bed…. just all the classic symptoms of depression.

    I told the doctor about her not going to work (before she had actually lost her job) and I BEGGED the doctor to put her on antidepressants. I was so scared for her.

    The doctor (a complete bitch) didn’t ask her about antidepressants, she left the office and came back with information on welfare, medicade, food stamps and WIC. Yeah. I wanted to report her to the AMA.

    When my daughter got pregnant this time with my grandson that is almost seventeen months old, the first thing she did was go on antidepressants. She makes the prettiest, healthiest babies and HATES being pregnant. Silly girl.

    My grandson could not be more perfect and after being on the antidepressants while pregnant with him my daughter was able to breastfeed and really enjoy his time as a newborn instead of having to go to formula and being so sad she cried all the time. It made such a difference.

    Good for you and your doctors.

  • Anonymous

    I am tempted to spam you with a lot of kind emails in the hope that they will drown the mean ones so you’ll never get around to reading them…

  • http://www.myspace.com/culinarygal Angelbee

    We have a saying around my work…


    Fuck ‘em.

    It involves a really funny story about a vegetarian who had been a vegetarian for about 20 years and one day a friend of mine was having lunch with him. During said lunch he was eating chicken, so my friend was like “What are you doing? You’re a vegetarian!”
    And he goes “I woke up this morning and thought…chickens, fuck ‘em.”

    So now we say that all the time. It’s what I would say to anyone that disagrees with the choices that you make for your own body and child. :)

  • http://lannaleemaheux.com/ Lanna Lee Maheux-Quinn

    I am so happy for you and your family. When you made the announcement, I cried. And I cried again reading this post. And we have never met! (Of course, sometimes I cry at commercials, so maybe that doesn’t signify.)

    [Sorry about the trolls.]

    Congratulations! Here’s to many more months of baby bumps!

  • http://date-with-kate.blogspot.com DateWithKate

    Your bump is awesome! It is not so awesome when you have the same one and are not pregnant, like myself. ( :

    Your decision to stay on medication is the right thing to do. You’ve consulted with the right people about this and with yourself. You need to be healthy, physically and mentally, in order to welcome your baby into the world. Anyone who criticizes you can just fuck off. Happy Pregnancy, lady!

  • Stacy

    I have a idea. After watching the latest edition of Momversation, I say we hustle those special elves to make all the trolls special brownies. It could be a world wide performance of a scene in Dumb & Dumber only the special elves could use Ex-Lax instead of Turbo Lax. ;)

  • Jaimie

    The hater that used the word spawn cracked me up. Jesus, it’s not like you’re Satan. Or a salmon. People who are obsessed with hating you are envious. Simple as that. I know I’ve turned various shades of green reading you before …

    and then I read Under the Banner of Heaven. OMFG. I’ve never educated myself about Mormonism before, and probably wouldn’t have except that I’ve become a Krakauer-phile. Why the Mormon faith isn’t lumped in with other nutter belief systems as say, oh, Scientology, mystifies me. (And the university you attended?! Did you walk on the grass? Did that act of disobedience instill guilt?) It’s amazing that you’ve created such a beautiful life for yourself and your family, and that you’ve achieved the kind of greatness that makes petty people target you with their misery and hate. You’re the best kind of success story. Cheers to you! And congrats on the bump! I definitely see it.

    And I thank you for educating me about antidepressants and pregnancy. I’ve been living under the belief that I can’t ever become pregnant because that would mean no more Effexor for mommy, and life without it was like a living death. I’d no more take it away from me or anyone else who suffers from depression than I’d take insulin away from a diabetic.

    Keep rocking on with your bad self. Your honesty and creativity inspire people like me to be authentic, to be unapologetically themselves. No bullshit.

  • Melissa

    I know 2 people that stayed on prozac, and for good reason. They had the crazy too. They had wonderful pregnancies, and no PPD.

    Unfortunately one of them went off after she stopped breastfeeding and I have been getting the crazy calls about how her kids are her life, she hates her husband, she is starting to feel uncomfortable etc. All in the middle of the night. SHE needs to get back on.

    I DO agree with the valium because its a benzo, but good luck on the withdrawals. I am on benzos myself, and I CERTAINLY feel the withdrawals when I am even a little late taking them. Not pregnant<<< = But I cant take the anti-d’s either because they have the opposite effect for some reason. I go from the crazy to suicidal (SERIOUSLY).

    No worries on the baby though!

  • http://www.fleuris.ca Fleuris

    You’re making the right decision. I know many women who stayed on meds and had beautiful, healthy babies.

  • http://spacemom.net spacemom

    You’re skinny. I think we already knew that. Your pregnant body will be what it will. Congrats!

    Anyway, stay on your meds. It is so worth it. I went off for my second child and let me tell you IT WAS FUCKING HELL! I was put back on them at 13 weeks because I was unaware I was happily playing with knives. There is a condition known as ante-partum depression that 20% of pregnant women go through.

  • http://retardedinlove.com Michelle

    You are lucky to have a figure that allows you to see the progress at my baby bump. With the shape I’m in, I wouldn’t visibly know I was pregnant until about eight months into it.

  • Jim

    I think it is probably most important that your kids have a functioning mom. We all have to deal with different problems from our parents. Your kids have to deal with your illness and the fact that you have to take meds. No one gets a perfect start. We all have to deal with something.

    The worst thing would be for Leta and the new one to have a suicidal mom for a year. Not to mention the stress on your marriage and how that would affect the kids. Not to mention the real possibility that going off the meds might mean that there would be no mom available at all.

    Whatever risk might be presented by the drugs is far outweighed by the risks that would be presented by an absence of the drugs. They don’t get to choose their mother. You are the one they get, and they need to keep you. Part of that entails drugs in the bloodstream. Better that than no bloodstream at all.

  • http://fromdogstobaby.blogspot.com/ Kelly

    I am 15 weeks pregnant with my first child and taking Zoloft for anxiety. My doc said it was cool and I am so much better than I used to be that I don’t even want to try going off of it. Good for you for putting the word out. Most of my friends know I’m on it but I kind of want to write it on my blog now. BTW, I put a picture of my dog up with a pregnancy test on his snout to announce I was pregnant too!

  • Valerie

    You look beautiful and content. Congratulations on your pregnancy!

  • http://www.vzit.net news

    Thanks for sharing! You look great! Best of luck to you and your family!

  • Screw the haters

    I have to admit that I cried for a while when I found out you were pregnant again. I want a second very very baly and it’s looking more and more like that’s not in the cards for us. It seems like all the women at my office are knocked up and now you! Despite being more than a little jealous, I couldn’t be happier for you. I’m glad that another couple has a very wanted and loved baby coming into their lives.

    Happy parents raise happy children. Whatever you need to do get yourself there in a healthy way- you need not explain to anyone.

  • http://scargosun.blogspot.com/ Scargosun

    Yea! You guys look so great! I am very interested to hear how everything goes with the Prozac b/c if we have kids, I will probably need to be on it as well. The reason we don’t have kids is because it is something I am nervous about and also I have a 35 year old husband with the brain of a 12 year old. ;)

  • Susan

    Not that it’s my business at all, but it never occurred to me that you wouldn’t stay on your meds throughout this pregnancy. You look great, best wishes to you, Jon and Leta.

  • http://michellesmadness.blogspot.com/ Michelle

    Aw, what a cute bump! I was fully in maternity clothes by 10 weeks with my second pregnancy. And we were so relieved to see only one little bean on the ultrasound!

    I took my antidepressant all throughout my pregnancy and everything was fine. You have to do what you have to do to keep yourself happy and sane, and if anyone tells you that you’re wrong for taking the meds that your doctor said to keep taking, I would like to invite them to experience depression and see what they would do in that situation (I like comment 129). Cheers!

  • http://not-quite.org Jana

    Right on! As I was reading that last paragraph (don’t laugh) I actually teared up a little. I’m not currently pregnant but I will eventually need to make the decision whether to stay on meds when I am. You are a wonderful inspiration.

    Congratulations again!

  • Anonymous

    I am so proud of you. Not only do you think of your children but you consider yourself so you can be there for your children, Jon, CoCo and most importantly Chuck. I hope you have the most beautiful and healthy baby in the entire state of Utah. You deserve it.

  • Weezy

    Yay for you, Heather. I stayed on Prozac throughout my pregnancy and after, and (scandal alert) I even breastfed! And my son is a perfectly healthy, dinosaur-obessesed five and a half year old boy. I wish you all the best with this pregnancy, and can’t wait to hear more in the coming weeks and months.

  • Anonymous

    I really really hate to add a slightly different note to the barrage of positivity, but it is very weird to a European reader such as myself to read about all these drugs. Prozac, Wellbutrin, Zoloft – antidepressants are very rarely prescribed to anybody in a national health service before you get sectioned and not necessarily if you do. I had a nervous breakdown five years ago during which I was perpetually suicidal and was never once offered drugs and I am glad that I was forced to rehabilitate without developing a substance dependence. Oh, and since we’re not ‘customers’ who pay our doctor’s wages you can’t just shop around until you find a doc who will. I just think it’s worth bearing in mind that this is not the way that the whole world is – most people out there are not medically treated in this way and it might be a little dangerous to presume it’s totally normal and high-fiveable. Blah, by all means ignore me – it’s honestly just a bit odd.

  • http://www.holdonloosely.net Sara

    My own mom was depressed and hospitalized for it when she was pregnant with me (hospitalized when I was an infant). Babies really pick up on that in their development, and there is a direct link with emotional babies growing up from depressed moms. I’m SUPER empathetic and emotional compared to my three siblings and I think it is all because of that experience.

    Kudos to you for sticking to your guns. You’ll have a happy anti-depressant baby. :)

  • Victoria Crupe

    First off you are a true inspiration to me!! You ROCK and I love how you tell it like it is and don’t give the dickwads a chance to make you feel bad!! Keep it up, Motherhood suits you and I am a reader of your blog for life!! Best Wishes for the new little one growing in that beautiful bump, yourself and your family!

    To the Dickwads-

  • http://bushbabe.blogspot.com Bush Babe

    There’s a bump there? Honey I have a bigger bump than that without any assistance from a little internal being!!!

    Wondering if you have ever read the book “Up the Duff” … hilarious “How To” guide for pregancy, written by an Aussie comedian (and mother) Kaz Cooke. It’s a riot. And quite helpful. Not sure if it addresses Prozac, but it covers most stuff. And has outrageous illustrations too!

    Am thinking your current stage is where she refers to the baby as “resembling a crustacean made of snot”. It’s a bit irreverent. But I thought you might like that!

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  • tlh

    YOU ROCK, that’s it, YOU ARE A ROCKSTAR!!! don’t let anyone get u down about taking med.’s. taking prozac keeps u heathly and a healthy mom makes a healthy baby. sounds so corny but i wish i had a cool friend just like u. xoxo

  • Ca-Ray-Zee

    I am the crazy. I live the crazy. So I take the crazy cocktail, straight up, on the rocks with no salt (which includes a hefty dose of Prozac), because if I don’t take said cocktail, I throw things, speak in tongues and wake up at 2 a.m. to tell my husband that I have to drive steak knives through my wrists and crucify myself like Jesus. <—-True story.

    And guess what? I am a good, no GREAT, mom. I have three healthy, ridiculously intelligent children who I’m convinced belong to someone else, as I am clearly not (mentally) healthy nor ridiculously intelligent myself. Beautiful, healthy, smart little spawns of Prozac.

    Trust your gut and trust your doc.

    And fuck off, naysayers! [Can I say 'fuck' on dooce.com?]

    And GO DOOCE!

  • http://redhotmamma.blogspot.com Heather Angele

    Right on, Heather! I’m so perturbed by how society treats pregnant women, as if everything they do or don’t do deserves to be judged. Please. I know my mom smoked and drank through all three of her pregnancies and then continued to smoke around us all throughout childhood we all turned out just fine – no major health problems. We’re totally normal (well, that’s subjective, I guess), intelligent, self-sufficient human beings. But it worries me the way women are treated when they’re pregnant, especially when pregnant women’s behavior becomes criminalized. Right now it’s just for stuff like drug abuse, but seriously, I feel it could be used as a tool to further control and subjugate women if we don’t stand up to it. And no, I’m not some paranoid freak. It’s about reproductive rights, which includes when and how to reproduce. A good organization to look at – which can express these arguments far more eloquently than I – is the National Advocates for Pregnant Women. http://www.advocatesforpregnantwomen.org/ They’re awesome!

  • Siobhan

    I could have sworn that said 15 weeks yesterday. Did I not have my glasses on? Was I having a dyslexic moment? Oh well.

    Hello little Armstrong Blob! (He/She is obviously an Armstrong child, waving at the camera already!)

  • Anonymous

    Heather, I’ve worried about having a baby because I fear going off of the Cymbalta that controls my IBS. I’m so happy to hear that it may be okay … and congrats to you for taking care of yourself.

  • Erika

    Congratulations! You’re going to be a fantastic mother (again!). Thank you, as always, for sharing your life with us. Kudos to you for not only doing what is best for you, your family, and your little bump, but for proudly telling us about it too.

  • Sarah

    Heather, I am not that woman yet. But very soon I might be. Thanks for the encouragement to all of us, hopefully-soon first-time moms.