• Rachel

    Heather,
    I am so glad that you are doing so well! It must be so healing to be enjoying motherhood like you wanted to the first time around. It’s wonderful that you were able to get in to see that Dr. and have such quick results.
    I had severe PPD with both of my boys and it was much worse the second time around. I also ended up in a hospital and I am so grateful that we live in an age where I could be successfully treated.
    It seems like the healing process for this sort of thing happens slowly and at it’s own pace. Your book has been a part of that on-going healing process for me. It made me laugh and cry and shake my head that someone could put into words the things that I couldn’t describe to anyone. Thank you so much for your honesty, hilarity and serious plea for others to seek the help that they need. I am grateful for your bravery.
    Thank you so much.

  • http://diaryofanewmom.blogspot.com DiaryofaNewMom

    Hi! I’m not a regular reader but I just finished your book & decided to check in on your blog. It’s like picking up where the book left off! I just had my second baby 4 mos. ago & I can relate to so much of what you’re describing. The biggest issue I had was crippling guilt about shoving my firstborn off his pedestal. But aside from one finger-biting incident he’s been great. Now he says he loves “his baby” all the time.

  • Sally

    Not only am I not going to pick on you for taking meds and breastfeeding, I want to know what you’re taking and I’d like you to overnight be a month’s supply! :-) I don’t even have a newborn! But you sound like you found the perfect medicinal cocktail that takes most people somewhere between and year and never to find, and by people, I mean me.

  • http://capitalmom.blogspot.com/ Brie

    I am so glad for you. Thank you for sharing.

  • Ann

    Kudos to you. Seriously, I admire your openness so much, I can’t even put it into words.

    The way you are so honest about sharing your mental wellness issues is such a great service to all of the women and moms, and probably some men too.

    The message is simple, there is help, go get it. No shame, no judgments. We need to bring mental health issues out of the darkness and into the light.

    Congratulations on your beautiful new baby girl.

  • Jinx

    Congratulations Heather! I am so happy that everything is so good this time. Enjoy every minute. I’m happy for all of you!

  • Anonymous

    you just made me cry – and I am not pregnant or postpartum – I am sooooo happy for you. Enjoy your family :-)

  • CC

    I am so crazy thrilled for you, I can’t even stand it.

    I am so happy you’re feeling better.

    I am so happy you recognized the signs, and even more, that you understood those signs.

    I am so happy that you see Marlo for what she is — a precious gift.

    And I am so proud of you, for all of the above.

    (and I totally LOL’d at your prior post about Leta being a GIANT — I felt the same about my 5yo after her sister was born)

  • Anonymous

    I’ve been reading your blog for years and years, and love it, but have never commented until today. I struggle daily with anxiety and panic, and am treated by both meds and therapy and actually function quite well. But my husband and I plan on having children in a few years, and I worry about how my mental health will fare during pregnancy and post-partum.

    You are a comfort and an inspiration, and reading your column helps to assuage my fears about my health and the health of my future children. I wish everyone were as open as you are about their mental health and were as vigilant about treatment.

  • http://www.westhomebirth.com Diane Dawson

    How wonderful!! All women should have access to this kind of incredible support when they have any kind of PPD. Enjoy, enjoy!!!

    And reminding myself to seek help myself this second time around, before I face the abysss again…

  • Erica Hennings

    Awesome! Glad to see that when you “tripped” you acted like it was nothing and just jogged for a few steps like anyone else who trips in public! Medicine is a wonderful thing and you should feel no shame in getting help. Screw what everyone else thinks!

    Glad things are going great. Waiting anxiously to hear about the labor and miracle of it all.

    Much Love from Memphis,
    E

  • Anonymous

    Hi Heather,

    Thank you for your raw honesty. It is so refreshing. I have been researching blogs for months (reading yours on and off for years) in preparation to launch mine. The only thing standing in my way is that I am not a techie like you and Jon. Anyway, it is shocking how many blogs are “corporate” blogs. For example, the woman who currently has a text ad on your blog is under the Nickelodeon umbrella. What I admire most about your blog is it is just you. You are one of the top bloggers in the world, and you did it all by yourself. That is really an accomplishment.

    As per your doctor’s visit and meds, I’m glad people are only posting positive things. You are right that it is your business, and everyone needs to do their own research and trust their own doctors. I applaud you for not even attempting to reach out and help someone whose situation cannot possibly mirror yours.

    Try not to be so hard on yourself. You just had a baby. I have a baby and remember staying awake for almost four days straight (almost all natural birth), crying every night with the baby, having panic attacks, and wishing I could be back in the 36-38.5 week range, right before she was born. The first few weeks were that taxing that I actually wished the baby back into me. It is an illogical thought, but it passed. Now, I want another baby. However, adjusting to a family of four (six w/ dogs) is going to be just that, “an adjustment”. You may find that your body and hormones regulate on their own. It’s amazing that a change in meds worked for you (and great). I can speak from experience that time elapsing worked for me. It sounds like you are being very hard on yourself. If you go a few weeks w/o posting, yours and your baby’s health are most important. It’s not as if your husband can’t post pictures and even do posts for you.

    Take Care! You are doing great and are obviously an inspiration to many.

  • Kathryn

    I am so proud of you. You are a hero!

  • Dani

    Heya, I’m so glad you guys are all doing well! Marlo is such a cutie and I can’t wait to see pictures of her and Leta together! I’m overjoyed that things are getting better for you Heather! How wonderful that you were able to see that doctor as an outpatient, because he clearly knows what he is doing. You guys seem to be doing this adjustment quite well! Kudos to that! :)

    p.s. I’m suber impressed that you guys managed to get eberyone out the door and to the right places in the same day, AND you had a shower AND mascara! Holy shit! you are awesome!

  • Jenny

    I don’t normally comment but I just had to on this one. I found your blog a year ago. I loved it so much that I started at the beginning and read forward.

    I applaud you for doing what needs to be done to keep yourself healthy. Luckily this time you knew what to watch for and were able to jump on it early. Don’t listen to the negative people out there. Only you can decide what is right for you.

    As a dedicated reader, I want to say congratulations and please know that your readers are so happy that everyone is doing well!

  • http://www.hipmommy.wordpress.com hipmommy

    You write all the things I think in my head. I have two children and have survived ppd twice…wish I had of prepped myself before # 2 arrived, but we made it.

    You are a star and inspiration!

  • Anonymous

    I am not a commenter. In fact, I barely read blogs. But I read yours. And I couldn’t help but comment on this particular post. I think you are incredibly brave, empowering, and bold. I am delighted that you are willing to share your story with other women who might possibly experience postpartum at some point in their lives. You have humanized it. YOU GO GIRL. Congratulations on your ability to know what is best for you and your willingness to do it.

  • http://lolarue.com Lola

    Hang in there – I’m so glad you recognized and reacted and are now feeling much better. Congrats lady!

  • http://www.halalamama.com Halala Mama

    It’s good that this time you were able to recognize the signs and were able to get competent help immediately. I was ok after my son was born, but I am still grateful that my doctor talk to me frankly about PPD and made it clear that if I needed help he was there. Good doctors are a great gift.

  • Fabs

    ROCK ON SISTA!!!

  • http://johnson5family.blogspot.com/ Heidi

    Congratulations to you both on the birth of your new baby girl. I very rarely comment on your blog but have been reading it for a couple of years.

    I commend you on your honesty!

    And more than anything else, I think the reason you guys are so much more comfortable this time, is because your comfortable with yourselves.

    I’m glad you got tweeked, so that you can contiune to enjoy these precious moments with your new addition. This time in your life is one of the best and they grow up TOO DAMN FAST!!

    So just ENJOY IT!!

    And ignore the other crazy people :)

  • http://www.lovemaegan.com …love Maegan

    I am officially afraid to have children now …on so many levels ;) Glad you are feeling better.

  • Anonymous

    My newborn is 10 days old today…..named Marley (as in Bob Marley). Many congrats and glad I have company in the world of sleep deprivation.

  • Anonymous

    Just wanted to tell you that I love your writing and I never comment but today I had to. Screw the people that get all up in arms about a woman getting medication for postpartum depression and breastfeeding, like you I had a horrible depression after my baby was born, thanks to a hack making sure I had the worst possible delivery, complications and physical damage to my body on top of the normal hormonal, psychological fluctuations, etc.

    I just have to say that people that get all worked up don’t know what it is to be like that, to worry about your baby and still be functional.
    A baby is far better being breastfed by a safely medicated mother than a depressed mom. We get help for them, so they are safe and happy and they have moms that are able to enjoy those first precious moments.

    I obviously wish you didn’t felt bad a second time around as I wish I won’t on a second birth, but it is reassuring to read about your experience, to make me feel optimistic about getting pregnant again, not on the promise of a picture-perfect, depression-free after birth, but the reality of it being manageable and preventable with the help of a professional and good ol’ meds.

    My daughter is a happy, healthy well-adjusted kid, despite me being on antidepressants while pregnant and then breastfeeding her, and I am glad I got help so she could have the mother she needed and deserved, someone who was able to BE there. It scares me to think of those first weeks, but I have hope that a second time would be manageable because I know better, and I won’t be intimidated by the whole fairy tale images of delivery and early motherhood as well as the stigma put on those who are unfortunate enough to get a bad case of postpartum depression.

    Okay, I’m done standing on my soapbox.

    Thank you again for writing and congratulations on the baby, the family and taking care of you.

    Paula

  • Meara

    Alleluia!

    …for you, for your family, for mental health, for life & love & laughter (and babies yelling!).

  • Lee

    OK, I’m glad someone else has experience with the yelling baby syndrome. My niece, now six, used to very plainly say the word “goddammit” every time I gave her a bottle…I went as far as to catch one of them with the camera on my phone for proof…My Hub saw the little darling’s pic and said this, “She is the most non-Winston Churchill-looking baby he has ever seen. She’s so cute.” Quite a compliment from that goddamn grump…
    have fun

  • Stacy Wittmann

    I’m so happy to hear that you are doing okay. Thanks for writing.

  • http://www.justmeandthebirds.blogspot.com cher

    that is wonderful. I think I may have sighed…for you

  • Amanda

    Yay! I’m so happy for you!

  • http://www.babypushchairsreviewed.co.uk Baby Pushchairs

    Boy you tell an interesting story- Thanks for sharing the news about how your baby’s doing!

  • http://www.ilovetongs.com Heather

    Amen girl. You need to take care of yourself in order take care of your baby. You are inspiring.

  • http://theskyisfallingin.wordpress.com Cloudy

    yay.

  • Gamma

    Ok, like anybody keeps reading after 688+ comments but…..here’s my two cents worth anyway :)

    Why is it that if someone is taking meds because of diabetes or anything else BUT depression, everybody seems to be fine and understand that. But you mention depression and all of a sudden the real “crazies” come out and think you can just control it and how DARE you take medication for it while pregnant and then subsequently breastfeeding. Wow, wish life was that easy. I mean do you think anybody would want to be “ill” if they could just “will” it away.

    My “babies” are in their 30′s now and PPD was not even mentioned when mine were infants. I ended up on the psych ward after trying to commit suicide. Believe me, when I tell you I had no idea what was going on. It creeps up on you, you don’t realize it and you don’t know what to do. Thankfully I have an amazing husband and family that helped me through it. Had I been able to avoid what I put myself and my family through by taking medication, I would have done it in a heartbeat!

    So for all of you that were(are) lucky enough to escape the throes of depression…..be thankful, not critical of others who aren’t as lucky.

    Thank you Armstrong family for enduring the “crazies/haters” in order to let others know they’re not alone, there is help, and there are lots of others who totally understand……..

  • http://www.mybottlesup.com nic @mybottlesup

    so glad to hear that you are taking care of you.

    fantastic! enjoy!

  • http://agirltalkssports.blogspot.com Amy

    I am so very happy for you. Happy that you took the step and went to the doctor. Happy he could help you and happy that you’re adjusting. I’ve been thinking of you and your brood and hoping everything was fine. I’m so glad it is.

  • http://www.wheresmydamnanswer.com kristy – where’s my damn answer

    So glad to hear that you are aware of the feelings you are having this time before you land in the hospital :-D .

    I think that is awesome. I also totally agree with you … what’s right for you is right for you and everyone else should take time to figure out what is right for THEM before slamming you … or something like that.

    … maybe SCREW the naysayers would make more sense there?

  • Andie Grace

    Now THAT’S what I’m talking about! Add another voice to the chorus: so happy for you, and so inspired by you.

  • Kristin

    I know I’m almost the 1000th person to comment but this post made me smile; I am so so so so happy for you and your family :) Glad to know you are feeling better. Your story inspires SO MANY WOMEN!!!

  • Sara Houston

    Tears, woman! You give me tears like only that movie P.S. I Love You can give me. Mazel tov to you, Jon, Leta, Chuck, Coco and, certainly not least, Marlo. I am so happy for you and this new, great experience.

  • http://www.ericallisonemilypaigemax.blogspot.com Allison

    Thank you for your candor – it’s what I love best about you.

    We need a video of the yelling!!

  • TheresaBu

    Man, that’s some big yelling. And some fantastic doc. I’m so glad you found him those years ago. And I’m so glad you and the family are doing well.

  • Stephanie

    I’m very interested to understand how you could have avoided what happened, “he said that if I had been gearing up and treating the possibility of this in my third trimester I might have been able to avoid it.”

  • http://erinkcreations.blogspot.com Erin K

    I’m glad things are going well. I’m SO glad you went right to the Dr when you were having a problem.

    You are always funny.

    Love you.

  • Mel

    GOOD FOR YOU!! So glad you found the same doc and he got it right away and you are able to relish being with your kiddos. Thanks for being so open about it all.

  • Kristi, RN

    Heather,

    Thanks so much for your honest account of Pregnancy and Post Partum emotional issues. I often have my patients read your blogs to let them know that they are not alone. We all get a great kick out of the the Daily Chuck, we marveled at the Dimple, and now I have another teachable moment with my clients and patients to let them know that even “Supermom” as they often call you has ups and downs, and can overcome the demons that PPD often entails. Thanks again for your honesty.

    Kristi, RN

    PS. It is no ones business what medication your on to treat your illness…even if your daughter had issues from the medication (and I’ve NEVER heard of such an issue in 10 years of medicine) she’s still far better off than those children forced to endure the fall out from a mother who in the grips of PPD injures their child. THANKS!

  • Kimberly

    I’ve been reading you for years and years, but have never commented before. I just wanted to say that I’m so, so happy for you and for your family. I’m so glad you feel empowered to take care of yourself and I’m looking forward to seeing how this new chapter unfolds.

    Congratulations!

  • http://thelittleprof.blogspot.com Andreerah

    I want to hug you right now, is that weird? In a totally platonic way, of course. I read your book shortly after giving birth and have read your blog for ages, partially because I can relate so much to your anxiety/panic/depression issues. Fortunately, I avoid postpartum depression or any other issues. Anyway, big hugs to your family and my little guy has a big dimple like that too!

  • Anonymous

    I think you are one fearless and loving mama. Thank you for all of your honesty, heartfelt words and experiences. Enjoy your wonderful journey with those little girls. You deserve it!

  • Anonymous

    the only advice i would give you heather….stop at two kids….mother of seven…former mormon….and love all my kids but life not your own…the one up side to it all…they train very well in a group to actually clean up their mess…great having teenage boys that can cook…vacuum…and actually clean out the fridge…that is what is wonderful about motherhood…all the payback later on….good luck anyway….don’t you just love these dots……………………………..?

  • Morgan

    I’m so glad you were able to recognize what was happening – that’s HUGE. And I’m ALSO glad you got the help you needed.

    And your joy in Marlo and Leta almost – ALMOST – makes me want to have children myself. Except for that whole stitches-in-lady-parts thing.