• Margaret B

    Aww mama, that’s so great. I know exactly how you feel, because that’s how I feel about my husband and my baby’s dad (just a few days younger than Marlo!). I’m so glad you get to have that same feeling. Just makes you a better mother, I think.

  • http://www.wrathofdawn.blogspot.com Dawn

    Aw. That is sweet. I’m glad there are couples who actually feel this way about each other. It does give one room to hope.

  • http://www.mommica.com Mommica

    Welling up. Spilling over.

  • Tommy

    yep,Jon pretty much rocks…if he had a gay brother I’d so wanna marry him

  • Lalala

    I read Jon’s post and it disgusted me. It was dripping w. hubris and privilige. I know lots of people who read personal blogs and have never read your stupid mommyblog. I even know some people who read mommyblogs and have never read your posts when you were crazy. I read your blog bc it think it’s awful. Bully for you – enjoy the revenue from the page view. Jon made Leta seem like heinous bitch. Franly, after reading your blog, I have concluded that she is a heinous bitch. If I had spawn like that, I would make sure I was using BC on the regs. It’s great that you have figured out how to beat the system. What about women who suffer from PPD who have to work? Or have husbands who have to work? What about single moms? I’m glad Jon can provide you w. the terrarium like conditions you need so you don’t go off the deep end, kill yourself and kill your child. Rad. He’s bitching about wearing a dirty tee-shirt to drop off Leta at school. I bet nobody gives a rats ass what he is wearing. What about the mother who suffers from PPD and has to drop off her kid w. a screaming infant in the backseat while her husband goes off to earn an income so he can provide for his family? I bet she ain’t wearing Chanel to her kid’s school. Wah wah, poor you. It’s hard to be empathetic to a family who is so out of touch w. the majority of Americans.

  • http://poemsandnovels.blogspot.com Maggie May

    I also have anxiety/depression, take a medication for it, recently had a miscarriage at 13 weeks and have my best friend and lover as my husband. I often write posts about our marriage because I find the complex, subtle and surprising truths about a marriage and love and children so fascinating and hopeful. Our three children watch us, I know. I know you and I are both setting them up with an internal foundation of what love is, what it looks like. The gentle and loyal support of my husband is one of the most profound things I’ve ever experienced.

  • http://www.shnerfle.com/Shnerfle/Blog/Blog.html Shnerfle

    I can’t tell you how wonderful it is that the two of you are so grateful for each other. From my own darkness, I wonder how much of it is real? Can two adults really be so understanding and supportive of each other? Can a man really try that hard to listen to his wife? To help her heal? Does it work? I look at the two of you, and I hope.

  • Lizard

    I just wanted to say Thank You. I suffer from depression and your blog allowed me to be able to joke about it and not feel ashamed that I need medication. I haven’t had kids yet but you give me hope that I will be able to handle it when the time comes.

  • http://www.motherproof.com/ MotherProof

    What a gift for your daughters, to have two parents, so devoted to each other!

  • Denise

    I had a crappy marriage, and am now divorced. I am so glad there are good marriages out there. Even tho I will never marry again, you guys give me hope that the institution of marriage is not really as awful as I think it is.

  • Tanya

    You and Jon are so brave and generous sharing your both your highs and lows. It inspires me to become more open.

  • Anonymous

    That is so sweet I almost teared… and I’m not a tearing kind of person.

    Thanks Heather, for bringing so much pleasure into my life by sharing yours so sincerely through this blog.

  • Noelle

    Awesome, thanks. I echo a lot of what’s been said already… how it gives me hope, and makes me happy.

    Congrats on finding your match.

  • http://reasonablyso.com Emily

    Thank you so much for that. And now I may never let mine go.

  • http://www.manicmommy.blogspot.com MaNiC MoMMy

    Oh my GOd, this is fucking awesome!

    So true about the love you feel for a spouse after creating a beautiful family with him!

  • JBird

    I think I’ll pass that link to my husband, who’s been putting up with my depression/anxiety since we met in 2001. Most of the time, I have NO idea how I’m treating him in the throes of an episode or how daunting it is for the other person living with it.

    Such an inspiring post, and it certainly restores faith in humanity.


  • http://www.notsoglamoroushousewife.com Not so glamorous housewife

    I hear ya sister.

  • April

    Thank you Heather! You inspire me to keep working on my communication. My husband and I have had difficulties with that since before we got married. Him being in the Army and frequently being gone has not made it any better and very little time to work on it together. I have thought about calling it quits several times because I get so stressed out with everything. Everytime I would tell myself I was no longer in love with him thinking I could fool myself. I love him more than anything and no matter how long he is gone I always want to be here when he comes home. Thank you again and I look forward to reading more in the future.

    I agree with the others, your next book needs to be about marriage.

  • http://deescribbler.typepad.com/my_weblog Dee

    This is why I love to read your blog, Heather. You say what the rest of us are afraid to say. God bless you!

  • Anonymous

    HAHA @ 130/Lalala. How sad of a person does one have to be to regularly read a blog that pisses them off so much? I only read the blogs of people I enjoy, but then, I guess I’m not a bitter person who gets off on anger and vitriol. And can we not play the Suffering Olympics? Everyone’s pain is valid. To summarize: Go outside! Enjoy your life! Click the little ‘x’ in the corner!

  • Angie

    Heather, Jon sounds so sweet. Every marriage has it’s moments and irritations (lol), but you are so blessed. Congratulations on your newest edition. Leta was already four or so when I started following your blog, and I’m excited to get to be involved from the very beginning for Marlo’s “Armstrong Adventure”.

    PS: Does Jon have a brother? If so, please send him to Texas…

  • Danielle

    Loooooong time reader and I am so happy for you both – I mean, all of you!!! And, oh! Those early days with the sex all day and only coming up for air long enough to eat and maybe shower… I miss them, I truly do. But like you and Jon, my husband and I are at a point in our lives where the love we have for each other now eclipses the early days on so many levels!

  • http://laurelrants.blogspot.com/ Laurel

    Heather, I want your life! It’s hard to get around the envy I feel when I read your blog sometimes, but you went through enough shit to deserve this happiness. You are one strong shit-ass-ho-motherfucker, and inspire me to be the same.

  • Anonymous

    I don’t think I suffer from depression, but I suspect my partner does. He only sought professional help at one point when I was ready to leave, but he never explored or considered medication as an option. I’m also not convinced he found the best professionals (neither is he), but you do what you can with the insurance you’ve got.

    As far as I’m concerned, you (and Jon) are an inspiration to all of us who struggle in relationships – with or without mental health demons. Sometimes shit hits the fan and it is so so hard to get through it. Your commitment to each other is astounding. It makes me want to be better for my partner and to bring out the best in him.

    As far as wackjob 130 is concerned: neither Jon nor Heather have claimed to have a monopoly on heartache or tragedy. All they can do (or any of us can do, really) is speak to our experiences, our obstacles and little (and monumental) victories. They’re just sharing one perspective/way of life and are doing their best to manage it with humor and maybe even some grace. You should try to do the same.

  • Elisabeth

    Beautiful post! I feel exactly the same way about my husband…We have 2 beautiful, crazy, full of life little girls and have been together for almost 11 years…I never knew if could be so good and that I could be more in love with him then before…

  • http://jazzellis.livejournal.com/ Kat

    So lovely.

    I’m so glad you’re doing well. I just did my first over-the-phone intake to get into therapy, and while I’m really afraid, I’m also really encouraged by you and your blog. Thank you for being a voice for this. Thank you for being a voice for us.

  • http://www.diapermonologues.com/ mrs.notouching

    Behind every #26 there is Jon.

  • http://whowhatwhenwhereandsometimeswhy.blogspot.com Jennifer

    You should write him love letters more often. And no…he didn’t pay me to say that.

  • http://www.paramomal.com Jennifer

    This is so sweet. And now I feel like I need to go and thank my husband for all his care and listening while I’ve been battling demons of my own.

  • http://highlyirritable.wordpress.com highlyirritable

    This kind of post is a good reminder to women that there are, indeed, warm and loving men in the world.

    It is so true that the best thing a man can do for his children is to “love their mother.”

    It’s a great feeling, isn’t it?

  • http://www.freezemeyoudevil.blogspot.com Katie

    Admissions of love are so uplifting, especially in a country where every other marriage fails. I too am with someone so respectful and supportive and caring and CALLS WHEN HE SAYS HE WILL. Roll your eyes, but it’s nice to be able to admit it. And even nicer to know people like him(and Jon) exist in the world.

    Thank you.

  • http://epic.kolyafloit.com Tobias

    I don’t think I’ve ever commented before, but this is exactly the sort of thing I needed to read after the last 24 hours. Thank you.

  • NIcki

    While it was a raw and loving post, and while it may have moved you more than other things he’s written, it’s not the best thing he’s ever done. Not by a long shot.

  • http://www.itstheecotone.com Jayseaka

    Great. I’m 11 weeks pregnant and now I’m crying like a baby. No really, that was a great post. You put feelings into words so well.

  • Dawn H

    I have been reading your blog for some time now and have always found your insight thoughtful and hilarious. You are the type of person every one wants as their friend. But Heather, this post was so refreshing. Blessings on you and your family!

  • http://www.jordanrosenfeld.wordpress.com Jordan Rosenfeld

    How slow am I that I only just realized Jon has his own blog??

    Very elucidating from his point of view!

    Now…back to Labor Story, Part 2???

  • http://memyselfandmommy.com/ Renee

    What a wonderful man! It’s so nice to see things from the male perspective from time-to-time! I think it helps us stay grounded when things start to spiral.

  • http://www.hoppytoddle.blogspot.com hoppytoddle

    The week after I had come home from the hospital after having MiniMe was one of my favorite of our whole almost 9 years together. I can’t wait to have this baby & have another week like that.

    Congratulations on this. Even better than being declared #26, I would believe. Sheesh. Talk about reasons to NOT be depressed!

  • Mel

    Thanks for reminding me that there is hope out there for that kind of love. So incredibly sweet. Thank you for sharing something so heartfelt.

  • http://www.whoa-mumma.blogspot.com Alex

    I just read his whole post and it’s refreshing to see that some men DO get it. I’m like you…my moods are normally only a reflection of what is going on in my head and have little to do with is actually going on. I internalize everything.

    I’m not one of those wives who sit there asking “What are u thinking? What are you feeling? Blah blah blah”. I live with the assumption that the man I’ve chosen to spend my life with kinda gets me, and I kinda get him.

    It’s great that there are good guys out there, who are willing to put up with us simply because they love us.

    Ps. Bring on Labour Part 2, I’m due to give birth shortly and need squeamish details.

  • http://houseofmb.blogspot.com/ Mel

    I read Jon’s post via the link, then I read your post, then I cried a bit. As a mother of 2 girls with an amazing husband I adore, I get it.


  • http://fusionofme.blogspot.com/ Aisha

    I got lucky with my Jon, in that he is a lot like yours. He has learned to listen, which has been a godsend so many times over. He’s learned to ask questions, to let me internalize while still pushing me to externalize occasionally. He’s learned to not get impatient when I spend twenty minutes recounting my rage or frustration or anxiety at something, which he used to suck at.

    It’s wonderful that you have such a wonderful man there for you.

  • stella

    Wonderful post and I agree with you that Jon’s post is one of his best. I teared up reading it and it made me thankful for the ‘Jon’ in my life. We are trying to have a baby after two miscarriages and after the way he held me up after the latest one, I know that he is going to be such a wonderful dad. I don’t know how we got so lucky!

    I am really anxious to hear about Part Two of your birthing story….I know that you are kinda busy but wanted you to know that your blog is one thing that I look forward to when I log onto my computer and I thank you for doing what you do.

  • mscyndi

    You guy’s are blessed to have each other in your lives. I am glad that Jon is so understanding about your depression. Depresseion is a hard thing to live with as I have it myself.

  • jenny McHugh

    That made me teary. You two must be the sweetest couple I have ever read about online…when you aren’t talking about poop. Maybe even then.

  • http://itskelly.com Kelly

    Heather, I’ve been reading your blog for a while but never commented because you get a million comments and I never thought what I had to say would even matter. But I’m sitting here now, reading your post, and crying my eyes out. Four months ago I lost my baby at 18 weeks. I’m devasted, still today. I never stopped to think about how my husband was dealing with all this. All I know is that I’m devasted, and he is taking care of me. Taking such good care of me. I feel so lucky. How/why he picked me, I have no idea. We are both lucky, even in all this crap, I know I’m lucky.

  • Suzy

    This has nothing to do with todays post, but more about the ones you have written over the past week or two. I will preface this by saying that the mere mention of vagina’s and poop do not bother me at all, however, it seems like you are trying really hard to be as graphic and disgusting as you possibly can. I know such things bother your father and you get a kick out of that, but I think you’re trying too hard at this point.

    Over the past week, your posts have left me hoping that your father would haul off and slug you in the face for that.

    Occasionally such posts are funny, but lately? Not so much.

  • Anonymous

    As a sympathetic mother of two loud sleeping infant grunters…wondering if anyone has recommended/you have tried giving probiotics directly to Marlo? My acupuncturist gave me some specifically for my son and it seemed to work wonders!

  • http://ferngoddess.blogspot.com/ Ferngoddess

    Heather I read Jon’s blog yesterday and wanted to tell you what an incredibly lucky woman you are but it looks you know just how blessed you are

  • the niffer

    Love is so great. Thank you for sharing and making me weepy.