• Tina

    Thanks for leaving us with such an inspirational post to ponder.

  • http://quyenhuynh.tumblr.com Quyen

    What a happy video!!! Thanks for sharing your thoughts and video with us.

  • http://www.barnmaven.typepad.com BarnMaven

    Its a wonderful blessing after all you went through (and publicly, too!) the first time around to get to experience this. Motherhood is really fucking hard, and when you get to have the emotional reward along with the hard work, it just feels amazing. I had PPD with my first – on top of a colicky baby and a bumpy marriage – and it was sheer hell. With my son, while I was still dealing with a special needs first child and a bumpy marriage, I got to enjoy it more. I knew what I was doing and the breastfeeding was much easier, I didn’t have as severe a time with PPD the second time around, and my son wasn’t colicky like his sister. I think there’s also a confidence we gain having gone through so many First Times with Baby #1. Its easier to relax and enjoy when we’re not afraid we’re going to snap a finger off while putting their onesie on.

    Glad your family is enjoying the baby so much. When 11 year old Leta is trying to kill Marlo because she won’t leave her and her friends alone, you’ll remember these times as being bathed in golden light…

  • Angela

    I suffered through depression after I had my first child and I thought a million times I will never NEVER have another child, and I mean never. But my daughter is almost two and I find myself wanting a second baby. I have watched many friends who have been so ridiculously happy after they had a baby and I could not understand it. (I couldn’t understand it but was so envious) Until recently newborns scared me because they reminded me of that horrible dark pit I fell into after I gave birth. I appreciate your post more than you will ever know. And maybe someday when my daughter asks why I decided to have another baby I’ll tell her to thank dooce. Thank you for sharing your hope!

  • http://www.barnmaven.typepad.com BarnMaven

    Its a wonderful blessing after all you went through (and publicly, too!) the first time around to get to experience this. Motherhood is really fucking hard, and when you get to have the emotional reward along with the hard work, it just feels amazing. I had PPD with my first – on top of a colicky baby and a bumpy marriage – and it was sheer hell. With my son, while I was still dealing with a special needs first child and a bumpy marriage, I got to enjoy it more. I knew what I was doing and the breastfeeding was much easier, I didn’t have as severe a time with PPD the second time around, and my son wasn’t colicky like his sister. I think there’s also a confidence we gain having gone through so many First Times with Baby #1. Its easier to relax and enjoy when we’re not afraid we’re going to snap a finger off while putting their onesie on.

    Glad your family is enjoying the baby so much. When 11 year old Leta is trying to kill Marlo because she won’t leave her and her friends alone, you’ll remember these times as being bathed in golden light…

  • Jaz

    Perfect! You should try it with a 13 year old and an 11 month old. I can’t even tell you about the fear before and the joy after the decision to have my second! My heart is full! You said it beautifully!

  • Jenny E.

    This is my first time commenting on your site. I’ve always wanted to, but this time I just HAD to! Your girls are PRE-CIOUS! This video brought tears to my eyes! I am a first time mom to a 5 month old baby boy. My husband and I got pregnant unexpectedly on our honeymoon. I was NOT ready for the quick transition into motherhood, and found such relief, humor, and ohmygoodness everything in reading your blog while I was pregnant. I went out THE DAY your book, It Sucked and Then I Cried, was released. They didn’t even have it on the shelf yet, and I politely requested they go back into the stockroom, and bring me out a copy. I read the entire book in a day, and LOVED it. Thank you for writing from your heart, for sharing your life with us, and for truly being an inspiration. Love, Love, LOVE this site!!!

  • Maria

    To Anonymous #418, people who blog or use Twitter ARE narcissistic since they assume people really care about what they say. If you have a blog/Twitter then you are about as narcissistic as Heather is. Since Heather has over 1 million followers and gets over 2,000 comments on some of her post, then clearly people DO CARE about what she has to say. How many followers do you have? Also Andrew Rendo’s family were very concerned about his disappearance and wanted to make sure the police and anyone who saw him knew about his condition so that they would approach him with that in mind. It was for his own safety. I wonder what YOU would do if a mentally ill family member, who had stopped taken his meds, disappears and all they find is his crashed car. I wonder what YOU would do if the police told you that they would have to wait a few days till they can do anything.

  • rb

    So cute! Leta is very sweet with her sister.

    My kids are only 20 months apart so we dind’t have moments like that. They’re good friends now so that’s a positive, but those first three years or so are a blur.

  • Laura

    “One day you will look back…”

    So true. Soo true. (brought to you by a girl losing her Dad to disease….)

    They are amazing Heather and John. Marlo looks so much like Leta.

    They are amazing.

  • http://www.myhormonesmademe.com MyHormonesMadeMeDoIt

    Wondering if it’s normal that I choked up when I watched that video. Could I possibly want a baby any more than I do right now, right now! Thanks for sharing.

  • danielle

    Dooce! You rock my socks. I read you everyday, and if people have so much time that they feel free to comment on blogs they really dislike, well then I ask you…who’s the real asshead?

  • http://timesurge.blogspot.com Surge

    Droning mommybloggers are cool.

  • http://machedavvero.blogspot.com Wonderland

    The last sentence of this post is the best thing I’ve read about maternity. I’m still going trough the dark period, but I truly understand what you’re saying. I feel it. And I hope this is coming for me too.

  • http://lifespatula.blogspot.com Spatula

    Well, your blog done and made me cry again. I hope you are happy, Causer of Crying! Good crying, though.

    What I am dealing with is the fact that not only my ex-boyfriend of 8 years, but also my mother and stepfather are abusive. It’s taken a long time just to be able to see and name it, let alone start making changes. This first step of recognition and ending denial is very hard to take. When you grow up with abuse, you don’t see it – it’s the air, it’s the norm. Seeing the way you and Jon raise your daughters has been among the things that has helped me to see what parents are *supposed* to do and how they are supposed to approach raising their children.

    I don’t know if I will ever have kids of my own and for a long time, I didn’t think I would want to. That changed in large part thanks to seeing parenthood unfold in BlurboDoocia. It’s going to take a while to be strong enough to take on a second cat, let alone a child, but I hope that day will come. By then, Leta and Marlo will probably be published authors and run the Internet, but still.

    From what you and Jon wrote earlier this year, it seemed that Jon worried about Leta getting shortchanged on the support she needs, because of Marlo’s arrival, and you worried that you were kinda sorta cheating on Leta in a way, but it looks like having a baby sister is really good for Leta! And loving, smart kid that she is, Marlo is lucky to have her for a Big Sister.

    I’m really happy for all of you! Cryer-makers.

  • JSW

    Dang, woman, you made me cry :)

  • Kathy

    Beautifully said Heather! My two are now 13 and 10 and I still love every minute with them. Enjoy every stage, they are all wonderful. The challenge is to stay close and maintain a good relationship with them through each one.

  • http://www.grumblegirl.com/ Grumblegirl

    I’m so thrilled that you’re having such a wonderful life… enjoy it! The moments fly by so freaking quickly, though it often seems like “Groundhog Day” – they grow like bad weeds. THRILLED, I tell you! Wonderful life, babe. You are blessed. xox

  • http://growbitchandsew.blogspot.com/ Vaile

    Make the pregnant lady cry whydoncha! Beautiful, beautiful, beautiful.

  • http://www.grumblegirl.com/ Grumblegirl

    PS – the rude-ass muthers can just go kill themselves if they’re so unhappy… goodness gracious!! Go suck the big hairy one, why don’tcha?

  • Jamie

    This makes me smile.

  • elodia

    Just had to say that I’ve been listening to that song on Youtube all day. Love it! Thank you!

    (Also, your haters fill me with fear, and your daughters fill me with marshmallow-happiness and glee, and I think you’re a legitimately amazing person.)

  • http://www.simplysheonline.com Danielle

    That is one beautiful family! Great post, Heather. I suffered like you with PPD after my first, but with my second, it was… glorious to say the least. Love seeing glimpses into your family. Thanks for sharing with us!

  • Cheryl

    I’m emerging out of longtime lurkerhood. Hello!

    I’m 18, and I love reading your blog. I guess I don’t really belong to your target audience.

    My mom had PPD too, but she lost that fight, so I never really knew her. Your resilience and your optimism and your general irreverent gloriousness is somehow contagious. And therapeutic. A kind of resolution to all the could-have-beens.

    Thank you <3

  • Aimee

    Beautiful, Heather. The song is Wilco’s “One Wing.”

  • http://allthingsmamma.com Kasey@All Things Mamma

    Beautiful. Well, said. Love the video of your babies too. Makes me remember those first days of my children being small and discovering one another.

  • Laura in SLC

    Thanks for that-I needed it today. My three year old just watched it and covered his new baby sister with kisses :)

  • Heather L

    And now I’m crying.

  • Vanessa

    Goodness. I’ve said this before, but you (almost) make me wanna have babies tomorrow!

  • Kadie in Texas

    First of all I would like to say thank you dooce for continuing to write your blog although so much hate continues to follow you. I find it truly amazing that one comment after another these people will not leave you alone. Sure, maybe I can understand that they dont agree with you or the way you handle your life… comment about it once then and never come back! I dont get leaving one hateful thing after another.. .is it just for kicks or just because you are really that mean of a person and what dooce does is really that impactful on your own life? If your trying to prove your not jealous of dooce, I think your doing a subpar job! As for your followers, I dont want to speak for us all, but I personally read your blog because its entertaining, witty, and interesting… I dont believe that makes me a part of some sick cult or derranged group of mindless followers. We are all human here people, the beauty about that is that we dont all have to have the same ideals and beliefs or get the same feelings reading another persons blog for that matter. So back off a little, its not THAT critical for your life and happiness that you pick on or send hateful messages to those you dislike. Sometimes reading some of this bs makes me feel like I should be sitting next to Leta in her kindergarten class, I mean geez… grow up!And as for dooce and her personal struggles with motherhood and life, sure she made it public for everyone to see, and that takes some true guts, especially knowing that others out there would criticize her… but who are you to point fingers? Have you not had your own personal struggles? Just because you haven’t made yourself vulnerable on the WWW doesn’t mean you don’t have your own bit of crazy somewhere. The fact of the matter is dooce has touched people that can relate to her struggles and thats far more than I can say about those who only choose to hate on her. Sure maybe she can sound whiny and a little spoiled, but I haven’t met a single woman yet that hasn’t sounded like that at one point or another. She vocalizes it so that makes her worse than those who do the same thing but dont say it over the WWW? Lame! See the thing is, if you dont like something you eat- you dont eat it again, if you dont like your next door neighbor you dont talk to them… the same applies here if you dont like dooces blog leave it and never come back. Its really that simple, there shouldnt be any reason to keep coming back unless you truly are jealous and have nothing better to do with your time. Oh yea, and as far as dooce getting money off of this blog…. CONGRATS!!!! Anyone who could pull that off and support your family with the income is a true worker in my opinion. The great thing about the US is that we have opportunities like that, and I personally dont view her job any less worthy than anyone elses. I wish there werent sooooooo many haters it just really gets redundant and sad.

    Keep it up dooce, and dont let it get ya down!

  • http://twitter.com/patybortolotto Paty Bortolotto

    You just made me cry.

    I’m an only child, so I never had the chance to interact in such a loving way with another kid when I was a kid myself.

    But now I know I have the chance to feel that love through my own babys, one day.

    Congratulations for The Now. You really deserve it.

    :)

  • Kristi

    Thanks, Dooce. 4 months ago, I had my first child. My experiences with pregnancy and our new addition have, so far, been very similar to your experiences. The dust is just starting to settle (with the help of medication, therapy, and a good support system. I SO needed to read this entry and I thank you for the encouragement.

  • Elizabeth

    Now that is just plain adorable.

  • Jennifer

    Heather, my heart swelled reading this post. I know what you’ve been through, and to have this joy now is a gift. I’m finally through the PPD I had with my 2nd baby. So I know how you feel now, too. It’s like, “What did I do to deserve these beautiful human beings?” My cup runneth over. My love for them is immeasurable. The feeling when I look into their eyes is nothing short of magical. And the hugs and kisses? I could live on them – no food, no air…

    I’m so thankful for you!
    Jen

  • http://www.ramblingbrooke.com Brooke

    So sweet. And, it seems that Marlo loves her big sister as well. They are both absolutely adorable. So adorable, in fact, that it almost makes me want one, like, now, and that is truly scary!

    I’m so glad that this time is so much better for you! Depression and anxiety are such terrible things.

  • http://blog.sailorscorpio.com Meredith

    It’s amazing how families can seem “complete.” We’ll be there soon enough, although this little guy needs to remember two things: 1) he’s not finished “cooking” yet; and 2) he needs to flip head down and stare at my spine for an easier exit (Momma doesn’t quite like the idea of having to recoup from surgery with three kids all needing love and attention).

  • ballerinatoes

    You’ve gone and made me want to have a baby…and don’t even want to have a baby! So very sweet. Happiness. Priceless.

  • Anonymous

    They look so much alike! Yes, they will argue because that’s what we all do, but the love you see as Leta touches her will be underneath it all.

  • Rachel

    I just gotta say that your hate page is COMEDY!!!! Who the fuck are these people and what is wrong with them? It’s insanity. I feel bad for them, imagine how unhappy they have to be to project it onto others. I hope you don’t internalize any of it.

  • Erin

    I admit that I’m feeling particularly emotional today, but nonetheless, that little video made me cry.

    I’m so happy for you, and I know the exquisite joy of being so blissfully happy and feeling so amazingly blessed with more love than you ever imagined possible.

    I can’t wait to share that feeling with my children someday.

    Thanks for sharing this lovely little glimpse with us.

  • http://www.juliadphotography.com Julia

    Just a lurker coming out of the woodwork…that video was gorgeous, absolutely beautiful. I’m so happy for all four of you!

  • Anonymous

    Dooce.

    not cool…33 seconds in and i’m crying.

    love!

  • http://herveryownlittleblog.blogspot.com Mallory

    #1- SUPER cute video. They’ll cherish this one for sure. And I love the background song. What is that??

    #2- I just checked out your hate page and WOW. I mean I was trying to think of something clever or whitty to say about it but I can’t! WOW, with a disgusted look on my face is all I can really come up with.

    My favorite part is how all those people that so obviously despise you feel the need to -not only READ every new post you make- but comment on them as well. Doesn’t get more ironic than that, does it?!

    AND I DONT MEAN TO YELL BUT I JUST WANTED TO EMPHASIZE THAT I DONT HAVE AD BLOCK ON MY COMPUTER KRISTA FRENCH. Hooker. Gotta love a woman who calls a new mother fat. Classy.

  • Anonymous

    Dooce

    not cool….33 seconds in and i’m crying

    love!

  • Ashley

    I recently read “sucked… then cried” and it was so great – *VERY* similar to my own experience – only I probably should have been committed… but somehow the Rx I was put on happened to work in my favor unlike having to adjust and fine-tune :0/
    Anyway, I’ve been thrilled to see your second time around has been so great!
    We’re expecting #3 in 2 more months. I worry, but I just hope the same Rx combo works as well as it ever did.
    You’re so great, so fun to follow and I’m really glad for you!

  • Andi

    Bitch made me cry…

    Thanks for sharing your life in all it’s glory. Good times and bad – your insight is thoughtful and unique and I am such a big fan of you all. Many blessings!

  • Tammy

    Just wanna say I enjoy your site. Just went to the new page to see the hate mail and gee-some people need to get a life. If it is so bad-QUIT FREAKING READING IT!!! GEEZE!

  • kri

    This brought me to tears. I love that you put Wilco’s One Wing with it … amazing song choice. As a mother that suffered with PPD after my son was born I am grateful to be able to see that things can be a bit different the second time around. Thank you for giving us the gift of your words. <3

  • Anonymous

    I’m now pregnant for the second time after a five year lapse. After experiencing PTSD from the first experience, I’ve been more than a little worried about doing it again. Your post made me hope for a different future instead of dreading what I thought was the inevitable. Happy to see your family so happy.

  • Maura

    Beautiful Heather.