Great post on so many fronts. Thank you!

Thank you so much for always being so honest. It's quite refreshing. I've been on Prozac, Lexapro, Celexa, just to name a few and I think that because anxiety drives a lot of my depression the Lexapro works best. I think also, that it doesn't affect my sex drive as much as some others although it certainly doesn't help. I compare it to taking birth control... it doesn't completely squash the desire but it doesn't help it. If that makes any sense at all. Anyway, great post. I hope that the new regimen works for you!

Wait, so you're saying that when I'm off the Zoloft I should feel like a 14 yr old boy?! I feel so jipped; it's never been that way for me.

So being off the Zoloft during pregnancy was a bad thing then? I'm currently debating getting off to get pregnant even though they say it's "safe". My doctor said it's up to me, but I don't know what to do!!

I had libido on Welbutrin, but I also had anxiety attacks. Back to Effexor & Viagra. Especially frustrating when your hangups already include delayed ejaculation. Don't be fooled, women may like a man who can go all night, but they're not always crazy about one who HAS to go all night.

Thank you so much for sharing. Sometimes I wonder if I am the only woman in the world who does not want to have sex. The trade off is difficult, but I'm fairly certain my family would prefer me healthy and alive.

"Now that I've written that down I suddenly feel incredibly sad. Because so many of us who suffer from depression have to live like this. Like robots. The alternative is living in hell. So we choose robot."

Oh sister... you said a mouthful. My sex drive is NEGATIVE it's so non-existent. I'd give about anything to feel that "OMGMUSTHAVESEXNOW!NOW!NOW!" feeling again! So now my hubby is all excited because I'm trying a new therapy (biofeedback) which MIGHT allow me to get off my meds. We'll see... in the meantime, it's enough to depress ya.

are you sure it's not merely having children, having given birth, that depletes libido? because i am not clinically depressed and i've got very, very, very little sex drive. that seems so not me; pre-bambino i was all 'bring it.'

crap. i hope the search engines don't find me out here!

jon, again! i need another user name ...

I'm on Lexapro and I have to say, after trying several antidepressants, it has not reduced my sex drive much at all. Also it has kicked my depression in the ass. Amen.

Very little is more frustrating than not having a sex drive or not being able to achieve orgasm. Girls get blue balls too.

That is so weird. I am sure I totally wrote this post yet I have no memory of doing so. Hmmm.:)

I'm currently at a loss for words right now, as you have just verbalized (again) what I'm thinking & can't express to my husband.

I'm on Zoloft, Adderall, and Xanax (almost daily),and see a therapist & a shrink. I'm all kinds of messed up, although my shrink does his best to convince me otherwise.

There was a day this summer when E was napping and hubs & I were working outside in the garden. He had his shirt off, and he looked good. Suffice it to say, I beckoned him into the house for some relations, & it was hot. That was the last time I had the "I have to have him now" feeling, for more reasons than just the meds, but that's a whole other story.

The lack of sex is a major struggle in our marriage, so it's amazing to read your post & the comments & not feel like I'm the only one who lives with the trade-off. And that perhaps I need to learn to be more, ahem, generous.

wow. your commenter crowd is overwhelmingly people being treated for depression. It's cool that they feel like they have such great representation in you.

I'm grateful for two things about now:
1. that you talk about things that people don't like to discuss
2. that I'm not having to deal with your issues. I'm sorry that you have to deal with it, though.

Here's to hoping Cymbalta works for you!!

zoloft made me think i was starting menopause at age 29! scary! cymbalta has been lovely for the past 3 years, however i'm wondering if that's the reason we haven't had sex in 6 months...hmmm...either that or the pregnancy...

as always, thanks for sharing :) makes the rest of us out here in internet-land feel not so lonely!

@la_bacque, I think it's more that people with this issue, feel more inclined to comment. I don't have this issue (tho I have plenty others...), so I won't necessarily leave a comment on this post. Know what I mean?

It's like "100% of people who filled out a complaint form at Walmart were unhappy with Walmart." But if you *were* happy, then you wouldn't fill out a Complaint form...I'm sure some statistical person could say it better than I can.

Since I *am* leaving a comment - @dooce, thank you for sharing your story so openly and honestly.

I'm the opposite. I want the sex drive, so I deal with the other consequences.

But the other consequences include being depressed, which suppresses my sex drive.

I might need to re-evaluate.