• aliceh

    thank-you for making me laugh so suddenly that I spat some of my once-lost beer and pepperoni piza on my monitor. Awesome.

  • kristanhoffman

    LOL: “At thirty-six the brain is wired to look around for that beer you just had in your hand only to realize it’s in your other hand.”

    Great post. This makes me so happy/nostalgic that I’m seriously going to play my piano right. now. And probably sound worse than Leta, but you know, that’s what happens when you lapse for a few years…

  • anya

    Way to go, Leta, and way to go YOU for teaching/learning with her. And I second @kristanhoffman, that line is genious: “At thirty-six the brain is wired to look around for that beer you just had in your hand only to realize it’s in your other hand.” I’m only 32 but can relate.
    If she ever agrees, would you post a video of Leta playing something for us to admire?

  • arishell

    The 49-year-old brain searches and never remembers what it is looking for. I wish it was a beer.

    Thanks for the laugh!

  • Irina

    I hope both of your daughters inherited your sense of humour and writing talent, too!

  • apostate

    My son just turned seven and started piano lessons about a month ago. The ONLY thing he wanted for his birthday was a metronome. He started talking about it three weeks in advance. Metronome this, metronome that. He got violently ill the day before his birthday (we all did) and we had to cancel the party. But at least he got his metronome.
    The musical talent seems to have skipped a generation. My son is learning at a rapid speed. Seven year old apostate, not so much. I was a piano lessons dropout. My mom told me I’d regret it some day but I never did. My great great great grandfather who led the brass band as the Mormon pioneers trekked their way west and who was rumored to play every instrument known to mankind (heh heh) would be very disappointed. On so many levels. (Yay pioneers!/July 24)

  • writtendad

    “I’m way better at driving than she is, SO WE’RE EVEN.” Damn straight!

    We’ve been thinking of putting our son in lessons but we fear the tears because he too has that wonderful trait of wanting to be perfect. It’s not really the tears, though, it’s the agony of pushing him over that first difficult hump that is holding us back.

  • TxSuzyQ

    What, no video of our little genius playing the piano? *Sigh*

    Please correct this situation. =]

  • DC Dana

    Aw! I took piano from age 5 to about when I started driving and dating boys…and it was great! Just wait until she has recitals – then the Perfectionist REALLY freaks out :)

  • Jenni

    You need to read A Tree Grows in Brooklyn. I’m proud of your sense of frugality.

  • Wine Before Five

    Yes, at 36 you wonder where that beer went. By 59, it’s wine before five.

    Piano lessons are awesome… if you have a cool teacher. Mine was an old biddy. But I love music, in spite of her. So There! I mostly play right-handed, but only when alone, so I can just sing to myself. It gets that way when you’re older.

    Thanks for the smiles. What would I do without Dooce?

  • Wombat Central

    Go Leta! She must have a great teacher. One day I’mma write a book about my weird piano teachers. For now, I’ll do what you’re doing. Sign up my kids for lessons and see if I can figure out how to read sheet music again by watching them. ;)

  • JodyB

    I suffered from perfectionism too. It’s the curse of the oldest daughter, because all my oldest-daughter friends have it too. The concept that LEARNING SOMETHING NEW means a period of not doing it right and THAT IS OKAY took me approximately 40 years to understand. I think the major breakthrough was when I realized that other people like me better when I’m not trying to be perfect.

    However, it took me another 15 years before I could allow people to come into my home when it wasn’t spotless . . .

  • Jayceekay

    Oh that is such a great story, Heather. Every time she accomplishes something I feel so stupidly proud, like she’s my own. Because I DO remember the days of worrying soooo much about little Leta when she wouldn’t put her feet down or walk, when she refused to eat or poop…oy the stuff that kid put us through!!

    I hope someday she’ll appreciate that there is a weird world of internet out there who feel like they know her…and love her to bits.

  • LisaAR

    I am walking a very similar walk with my 8yo son. He, too, gets frustrated when “perfection” is harder than it typically is for him. Our teacher’s mantra is “practice makes progress” because perfection is not as possible as we like to think it is. I’ve adopted that mantra for myself, too!

  • LuckIsMyMiddleName

    Once, in a moment of extreme frustration with my lack of tiny soccer skills, I threw a foosball at a boyfriend’s head. Hard.

    And then I married him, which means I have to listen to that story for the rest of my life.

  • doobrah

    If she has the knack for music, let her fly at top speed. The pieces only get harder and more intricate (heh, heh) and more satisfying when mastered. But she will also learn a little Italian, and she’ll have a head start if/when she picks up other instruments. But best of all, she’ll amaze her friends when she knows all the questions in the “Classical Music” category on Jeopardy!… when Alex Trebek Jr. is host.

  • Scrapping in Ontario

    Way to go Leta and Mom! As a piano teacher I would love it if more parents took the interest you are in your child’s lessons. Way to go!!

  • jenwilson

    Woo Leta! Thanks for the morning laugh, Heather. I’m a perfectionist too and will also not do things I cannot do well. Makes sense to me! Can’t wait for my kid to start lessons.

  • OhLiv

    Dude – I want to hear her play.

    Post a video!