• Sassafras Mama

    I am so sorry to read about the separation. Holding you and your family in the light, confident that y’all will find a way to peace. I’m just one voice, but I’m pulling for you.

  • PassingUnderstanding

    “Let this sad intertim like the ocean be
    which parts the shores where two contracted new
    come daily to the banks, that when they see
    return of love, more blest may be the view.
    Or call it winter, which being full of care,
    makes summer’s welcome thrice more wished, more rare.” (Sonnet 56)

  • lisdom

    Finding the right words to say in this situation seems impossible. Your online family supports you guys as you go through this.

  • LaLaLindy

    Sending you love and strength. Please know that your words have helped me through many a difficult time and as a loyal reader, I’ll continue coming back no matter what. Take the time and space you need to honor your own feelings, we’ll be here for you and your family.

  • wakeandbake

    I’m so sorry to hear this. You guys are in my thoughts.

  • debbiebusbee

    I created an account just so that I could tell you how sorry I am. I have appreciated your writing so much, you have brought joy to my days so many times. I just wish there was something I could say to bring some joy to your day !

  • Stevana

    Oh honey. Much love to you.

  • cmckinnon1

    This post really touched me Heather because it is so painful and I am so worried about you. This is the first comment I have ever made. I have wanted to make many many comments for years but never have bothered to complete my log-in process!

    Anyways I will be thinking of you and worrying about you and wishing you strength and clarity through this hard process. Your girls will be fine through this because you are strong enough to do this correctly. You know that though, so it’s not my place to tell you.

    I am sending good energy your way for a happy and healthy recovery process that includes your husband…if that is what is best for you of course.

  • ninesandquines

    “The only way out of my unhappiness was to take myself out of it.” – YES…I have been there. Not in the “I want to end it all” way but to remove myself from a situation where I just wasn’t happy. I know how you feel. I know that this does not make it any easier but know that you have many people thinking about you…sorry you and Jon (and the kids) are going through this…

  • Carol Ann

    Created an account just to comment.

    Have read Dooce from Day One. Now this … shocked, to say the least. Heather, whatever it is that went wrong, I hope you guys can sort it out. The deep love you have for each other has been so apparent, so obvious… I feel for both of you and wish you well.

  • CJ

    So often your words have comforted me, encouraged me, and made my life better. My heart is in my throat for you, and I wish I had better words to comfort you and encourage you that these, but I do hope that the comments of everyone will help in some way.

    I will be praying for you and your family. You take all the time you need — the web will wait for you.

  • beannie

    I’m so, so sorry to hear this. I am thinking of you and your family. Please think of your girls but also make sure to take care of YOU too. We love you!

  • theurbancowgirl

    I arrived at work this morning with a text from my husband saying he wanted to separate. It hurts, so much.

    So much love to you and your girls, Heather.

  • notcrazyunwell

    i am so, so sorry and i hope you can work things out!