• ChrisB

    No words! Just hugs of support!

  • bubbytoots

    When I read your post the other day and Jon’s my heart just ached. I know I don’t know you guys but feel like I do. I hope and pray that you can work through this tough time. It seems like you both are very committed to each other and your family. No judging here, do what makes everyone happy. If you both want your marriage to work I am sure that you will be able to find a way. Love you, Jon, Leta and Marlo.

  • Barnmaven

    People are always going to talk, that’s what they do. And its very typical for people to assume that just because you are successful that you have no problems to speak of. Sure, money makes a lot of things easier – but it doesn’t make relationships magically better or illness magically cured or life magically easier to cope with. Anyone who has been through a separation, divorce, or other big loss can completely empathize with where you are at right now. If you’re half as OK as you sound in your post, you are frankly better than I was at that point in my separation. :D

    Everything changes – life, people, things. You are changing too. You will make it through this change, and you will have a lot of support while you go through it. Tune out the negative voices and listen to your own heart and to the people who care most about you. You will find all the answers you need.

  • KatieMama

    So relieved to hear you found the light, I was very worried after your last post. Thank you for taking the time to let us know how you are doing. Sending positive thoughts your way…

  • KKW

    Of course we will hold your hand. After all, if we all held each others hands when we needed it, we would never be able to hold a weapon, or anything else that could hurt the other. Words could be used, sure, but I think if you are holding someone’s hand then hurtful words are a lot harder to throw out there. All the best. Truly.

  • Pandora Has A Box

    I have two hands and a big heart. Much love to you.

  • tokenblogger

    …not letting go until you say so.

  • Pixie

    Stay strong Heather…we’re here for you!

  • DebbieQ

    We would all give you a hand any time you need it. And Max the Wonder Dog says he has a paw already if you should ever require it.

  • suzik

    I applaud your strength to post what you did and I am glad that you have entered the light. I hope you find what you are looking for in life! Good luck with your future, no matter what it holds.

  • erinc

    So now your marital problems are news? WTF???

    !!!!! IDIOTS !!!!!

    Just ignore the bastards and keep on your path, which ever way it shall go. Just remember – there are more of us than there are of them, and we’ve got your back girlie girl:)

    xo, e

  • amylsy

    Chin up and stay in the light.
    Couldn’t comment over the last few days but read every comment and update here and at blurbomat, silently praying for you guys and holding you in thoughts and love.
    “…….I will be waiting tables” line kept popping up from one of your entries, recalling one of your conversations with Jon some time ago. I was envious of the depth of your relationship together and the dependency of you on each other. It conjured an image of two pillars leaning on each other forming a roof of a house.
    I wish for strength for the both of you. Holding you in my heart across the miles in Austria.

  • dictatorcari

    Just want to add my voice to the “support” side. I hope everything works itself out soon, and I hope you feel better, like, yesterday.

    I also want to tell you that I really appreciate how open you’ve been about your struggles in this blog–you’ve been a role model for me for the past few years. I struggle with depression issues, too, and reading your blog has been a huge source of comfort and inspiration to me. So thank you, Heather, for being so brave and honest, even when things are awful. Hopefully you can take comfort in the fact that by sharing it, you’re helping to make life a little easier for someone else.

  • jennyfromtheshwa

    Heather,
    I too forget that you are well known because when I read your blog I feel like you are an close, personal friend. Your illness has mirrored my own and finding your blog one fateful day 5 years ago, saved my life. You did reach out and hold my hand through a very, very difficult time. Now it is my turn.
    I wish you could receive all the love I have been sending your way. It breaks my heart to think that you and Jon are suffering. So take your time to get well and figure things out. The hard part is over. You’ve got this Heather. xx

  • wordsupmixed

    wow. adults going through divorce. wish I had the same. I’d give you both a hug if it was ok with you.

  • Aprilisin

    Consider your hand held….let me know if ya need one of those Baptist Beers to tide ya over…

    And yep, we feel that we know you…when I found out, I gossiped it to my husband like it was someone we knew…I had to tell someone who knew you!

    The internet has come a long way baby, right? I love that I have 10 year friendships with ladies I met on a “our-kids-are-due-the same-time board.” We are living in Jetsons times people. Now, I wait, and try to figure out where to invest the dollars, for the cars that drive themselves…yes sir.

    Hang in…we all care so much.

  • hillcram

    Heather – I’ve been reading your blog since Leta was 2 years old…so weird to think about now. Anyway, I live in a place that, to get anywhere else on an airplane, you have to fly through a hub. Often that hub is SLC. And every single time, I think, “hey Heather, cheers from the sky.”
    There aren’t any words really – but wanted to reach out and let you know people think of you all the time – even if we don’t write.
    Hang in there -

  • susanruffin

    Dude, how would I ever know about u-Ziq or Bon Iver if it weren’t for you? And what about how to cook edamame? I’d be lost without you and a couple of other blog inspirations. I’m not kidding. Valuable stuff in this backwoods hick’s life. Bless you and stay strong.

  • TheSkyIsOverrated

    Hands to hold in Washington too! I’ll be thinking of you, Jon, and the girls as you make your way through the maze. Stay strong Heather.

  • mcbc11787

    I’m a frequent reader, though not a frequent commenter. I want to say something, but I don’t know what to say.

    I’m sorry that you’re going through this. I’m proud of you and Jon for putting the girls first. I’m sending strength that you all get through this. I hope that time apart will make you all realize just how much you do have together.

    Meantime, there are hands reaching out for you here in MA as well. Please be sure to continue to let us know you’re okay, even if its nothing more than “I’m okay.”

  • melamb

    Been reading for a while now, and your post about your separation brought me to tears. You have the gift of making us all feel that we know you – which means when something bad is going on, you’ve got hundreds of people sending good vibes your way. Pretty amazing. Wishing you continued strength. The maturity with which you handle this difficult stage of your relationship is admirable.

  • Mel D

    I cannot even begin what it must feel like to have such personal information displayed and talked about… May you continue to claw your way out and see there is hope.

  • Colgate

    Holding your hand from Jacksonville, FL. Sending you much love and hugs as you all figure out the next step.

  • afrazier

    I can’t believe that your marital troubles are a topic for news, local or otherwise. I know you’re a public figure, but have they no decency? You shared that information with us, your readers and fans, who love and care about you and your family, because you were reaching out for our hands. Not for local news, not for recognition, no. You reached out because you needed support, as anyone would, during this difficult time in your life and the life of your family. But you said it sister: all of that doesn’t really matter. I say to you, all of that REALLY. Doesn’t. Matter. What matters is you, your family, and us. What matters are the hands you’ve physically held, the hands that have held and embraced you, the hands that exist only in the void but yearn for you to feel their love. We’re all around you, and we’re not going away. Much love and much, much peace, Heather.

  • Anu

    Just stay strong and keep doing what you are doing. Can’t tell you how much I’ve thought about you and Jon in the last 2 days. I am soo rooting for you guys to make it through this with everything intact. Will continue to keep sending positive thoughts and lots of love your way.

  • hkrieger

    Heather: I am one of those people who instantly go in to denial when I hear something unpleasant. I have been thinking about you and your family all week, checking in for an update from you and just wanting everything to be “right” for you.

    You sound good, you sound solid. Just keep on keepin on and we’ll be here with you all the way.

    (Hugs)…from another Heather

  • hildag

    You are in my prayers. This is obviously a difficult time and I just want to say that the way you and Jon are handling this is admirable.

  • lucidlotus

    Holding it as long as you need.

  • kellytadlock

    God. I am going through this exact situation with my daughter’s father. Figuring out how to be friends and to parent and remain a family and figure it out and do what’s best and and and…

    Right here with you, Heather. Wishing you and your family love and more love.

  • thesoutherngirl

    Continued good thoughts. When you said something about holding your hand, The Beatles tune popped into my head.

  • Kelly_09

    Keep hanging on and focus on Leta’s upcoming birthday. BTW:the hands will be there as long as you need them to be

  • Talon

    I wish nothing but the best for you and your family, and I hope that everything works out. I really couldn’t understand the leap people made as to whether you were capable of parenting your girls.

    I truly do hope you and Jon can work through this and come together, stronger, better and together. But that is coming from my own limited perspective.

    Please be well, and consider this hand holding onto yours and Jons, tightly.

    I’ve been a long time reader and I expect I’ll continue to read as long as you continue to write.

    Holding on tightly for you and your family,

    Talon

  • Bannod

    On the news? That’s just… bizarre. I’m holding your hand too, for as long as you need it.

  • indianafuji

    Thank you for continuing to update this community even when it is difficult. I have been reading your blog for years now…mostly because you are such an entertaining writer and you are not afraid to address depression with honesty and transparency.

    I have to admit, I was so sad when I read of the changes in your marriage. My heart really fell into my stomach, though, when I read your husband’s brief entry about the trial separation on his blog. I know I am reading with my own mental-illness-tinged glasses, but I read his entry to say that your depression is the biggest factor in the demise of your relationship.

    I often wonder how much my own anxiety and depression hurts my relationship with the person I love the most (my husband). Most days I feel that I hide my most honest self because no one could love someone made so ugly by sadness and worry. Then I am aware that my husband is not really interacting with me but with the façade I employ to make myself less ugly. Reading your blog has emboldened me to be more honest (when I see someone as high-profile as you writes about your struggles and how your husband supported you during those times). I have to admit that I idealized your marriage because it seemed to be thriving even with this element of depression fully out and at play. Now I wonder if my worst fears have been confirmed…relationships won’t survive unless depression is stamped down and kept hidden…

    Of course, you do not have the responsibility to have a perfect life or be a model of someone thriving with depression. Of course, I’m not asking you to keep your marriage together at all costs in order to prove that it can be done (have depression and stay married, that is). But please keep writing about the tough stuff. My hope at this point is that I will continue to learn through examining my own struggles in the light of this community (which only exists because you talk about the tough stuff).

  • jenpilot

    You’re all in my thoughts. Wishing you strength and peace during this difficult time. Hang in there!

  • LM

    Heather,
    I’ve been reading your blog since my daughter was born, 7 years ago but have never commented (I’m a shy one). Your blog has helped me through what is often a very isolating and challenging job, motherhood, and helped me see the humor in many situations. I’m sad to hear what you’re going through and want you to know that there are so many people behind you (most like me who don’t really know you) and pulling for you. You’ll get through this, you sound strong. Sending you positive thoughts.

  • jessiCat

    See these hands? Keep holdin’em as long as you want.

  • bangedout32

    Hold on to everyone’s hand(s) as long as you need too. It’s okay. It’s okay to need someone to hold you up. You’ve held me up with laughter many, many times and you didn’t even know it…and I never thanked you. So, thank you and thank you for being honest and generous to share your life. As my dad says, “you’re a good egg” much love & peace.

  • Rike

    I am really glad to hear that Heather.
    Keep you in my thoughts!

  • Elizallen

    Heather,
    Even those of us who are simply readers of your site and quoters of your hilarious and gut-wrenching posts are holding you in our hearts. And the people who aren’t, who are using this opportunity to spread words of hurt…well, they can just suck it. How’s that for an eloquent response?

    Take care of yourself, give yourself the time and attention you need and keep hope alive.

    Wishing you only good things,
    Elizabeth

  • nluvwthmybstfrnd

    You’ve got this. But, if you ever feel like you don’t…well, that’s what we are here for.

  • tiny apple

    you are giving me the strength to seek counseling in my own marriage. which sucks. you seem to both be adults at this time and for that i highly respect both of you. it’s wonderful that you still have a life together but are taking some time apart. i think a lot of us could benefit from a breather like that in our marriages but it takes balls to come out and say it to your partner. i don’t know if i have those balls. but right now i want to scream i feel so sufficated in my marriage. so we’ll see. in the meantime, i hope you and jon heal and are able to do whatever you feel is best for you and your family. **hugs**