“You’ll fake it if you have to”

In the comments of the post I wrote yesterday about the work I’m doing to find my way around this new reality, community member Daisy mentioned that “A Better Son/Daughter” by Rilo Kiley was the soundtrack to her life during a time of difficulty. I immediately went looking for it and then listened to it over and over again at an inappropriate volume. Daisy, I hope you don’t mind if I borrow this song from you right now. Thank you for mentioning it.

I’m feeling music more deeply than I ever have. A lyric can send me soaring for hours or throw me against a wall. The notes crawl inside my body and I can feel them humming and expanding inside my lungs. Makes me feel so alive.

Here’s that Rilo Kiley Song. There are a few lyrics that may not be suitable for work or young and tender ears, but it’s definitely worth a listen. Do you guys have any particular songs that have given you strength when you felt like the simple act of opening your eyes was unimaginable? Please share. (Also, thank you for your comments. I read them all as well as all of your email. Thank you so much.)

But you’ll fight and you’ll make it through

You’ll fake it if you have to

And you’ll show up for work with a smile


You’ll be better

And you’ll be smarter

And more grown up and a better daughter or son

And a real good friend

And you’ll be awake

You’ll be alert

You’ll be positive though it hurts

And you’ll laugh and embrace all your friends

And you’ll be a real good listener

You’ll be honest

You’ll be brave

You’ll be handsome and you’ll be beautiful


You’ll be happy

Your ship may be comin in

You’re weak but not givin in

To the cries and the wails of the valley below

And your ship may be comin in

You’re weak but not givin in

And you’ll fight it you’ll go out fightin all of em

  • nikkihas6

    http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=0uBL13e1hqs

    Mindy McCready “I’m Still Here”

  • Awzam

    Faithless by Social Distortion.

    Pumps me up on bad days, makes me happier on good days.

  • Stratosphear

    Let me just say that I DO have good taste in music. But when I’m down, Chiquitita by ABBA is my theme song. Seriously! Check out the lyrics and indulge in a bit of Swedish pop to make yourself feel better:

    Chiquitita, tell me what’s wrong
    You’re enchained by your own sorrow
    In your eyes there is no hope for tomorrow
    How I hate to see you like this
    There is no way you can deny it
    I can see that you’re oh so sad, so quiet

    Chiquitita, tell me the truth
    I’m a shoulder you can cry on
    Your best friend, I’m the one you must rely on
    You were always sure of yourself
    Now I see you’ve broken a feather
    I hope we can patch it up together

    Chiquitita, you and I know
    How the heartaches come and they go and the scars they’re leaving
    You’ll be dancing once again and the pain will end
    You will have no time for grieving
    Chiquitita, you and I cry
    But the sun is still in the sky and shining above you
    Let me hear you sing once more like you did before
    Sing a new song, Chiquitita
    Try once more like you did before
    Sing a new song, Chiquitita

    So the walls came tumbling down
    And your love’s a blown out candle
    All is gone and it seems too hard to handle
    Chiquitita, tell me the truth
    There is no way you can deny it
    I see that you’re oh so sad, so quiet

    Chiquitita, you and I know
    How the heartaches come and they go and the scars they’re leaving
    You’ll be dancing once again and the pain will end
    You will have no time for grieving
    Chiquitita, you and I cry
    But the sun is still in the sky and shining above you
    Let me hear you sing once more like you did before
    Sing a new song, Chiquitita
    Try once more like you did before
    Sing a new song, Chiquitita
    Try once more like you did before
    Sing a new song, Chiquitita

    Also Todd Rundgren’s “Time Heals” is a winner. Sending you hugs from freezing cold Norway, Heather.

  • brandyk

    I needed a lot of courage to get out of a bad marriage 12 years ago. I had a nice long commute from Gardena to Los Angeles in the evenings, and later, when I finally moved out, a brutally long commute into Hollywood to a sub-let. Fiona Apple got me through that. When The Pawn gave me fight, reflection, sadness. For fight though, Limp:

    When I think of it, my fingers turn to fists
    I never did anything that you said
    But no matter what I said, you beat me with your bitter lies

    But the entire album was catharsis for me. These were the days before iPods and I left the CD on a plane in this middle of all that emotion and turmoil. As soon as I got up the next morning, I went out and bought a new one. I remember thinking I could call LAX or the airline and see if it was turned in, but I also remember thinking I couldn’t live that long with out it.

  • smelton99

    I don’t have a great survival song…but I do want you to know that I am keeping you, Jon and your family in my thoughts as you make your way through these tough times. Love and strength to all of you – you are wonderful, loving people and no matter what happens, I wish you much happiness. Thanks for the strength, support and laughs that you give to so many every day. Hope your generosity is returned to you a million times over…

  • devvers614

    For a class once I had to pick a song that best represented my life. This was the song I picked. I feel like, having bipolar disorder, this speaks so clearly to what my life looks like…the amazing productive ups and the soul-killing downs. I’m not surprised that it stretches across mental illness.

    Feel better, Heather. <3

  • mdesilets

    The power of music is amazing…

    I second the suggestion of Phantogram (When I’m small, Mouthful of Diamonds) and also Florence and the Machine.

    Other recommendations (some for wallowing, some for uplifting):

    Wandering Star by Polica
    http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Q4hYT-mYzI4

    Running with the Wolves by Cloud Cult
    http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=tV2n0e-YQ6s

    Little Mercy by Doomtree
    http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=e_uxsmkZ0pM

    Helena Beat by Foster the People
    http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ABzh6hTYpb8&ob=av2n

    Stay strong!

  • Geeg

    Neko Case, Set Out Running.

  • ltlepaw

    So I was going to write all these down after listening to the Kiley song, and now I think I’m just going to wait until I get home and can plug in my MP3 player!

    I’ve never been through a divorce, but rather shitty parents.

    Anyway, my song is Dixie Chicks (yes, I know, still) Not ready to make nice. The lines “I’ve made my bed and and I sleep like a baby” and “it’s a sad, sad story when a mother will teach her daughter to hate a perfect stranger” get me every time.

  • gcostaki

    I’ll listen to any song about butts.

    Big butts, small butts, butts boucing, shaking butts, booty butts, black buts, white butts, your moms’ butt.

    Whatever, it all does it for me.

    *hugs*
    ANIMAL!

    http://www.AnUrbanStory.com

  • felix

    I third or fourth This Year by The Mountain Goats…

  • k.wren

    This is completely unrelated to anything, but I think someone may have been inspired by your “Daily Chuck” posts.

    http://foodonmydog.tumblr.com/

  • wokeupandsmelledthecoffee

    “Let it Be”

    I’m currently trying to recover from a very recent divorce that came as a shock to myself, my kids and my friends. I have suffered from depression and anxiety and now I’m desperately trying to claw my way out of a dank, dark pit. When I first read about what you’re going through, I started crying for you and couldn’t stop.
    Lets all have a great day today. One day at a time.

  • Capy_bara

    The Cure – Disintegration, duh.

    But also, Joni Mitchell’s Blue. That woman…ugh, I just. I don’t even know. A Case Of You and All I Want are notables, but the whole album is just a punch in the gut. (In the best way).

    All I Want: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=qBF3hXaS1OQ
    All I really really want our love to do
    Is to bring out the best in me and in you too
    All I really really want our love to do
    Is to bring out the best in me and in you
    I want to talk to you, I want to shampoo you
    I want to renew you again and again
    Applause, applause – life is our cause
    When I think of your kisses
    My mind see-saws
    Do you see – do you see – do you see
    How you hurt me baby
    So I hurt you too
    Then we both get so blue

    I am on a lonely road and I am traveling
    Looking for the key to set me free
    Oh the jealousy, the greed is the unraveling
    It’s the unraveling
    And it undoes all the joy that could be
    I want to have fun, I want to shine like the sun
    I want to be the one that you want to see
    I want to knit you a sweater
    Want to write you a love letter
    I want to make you feel better
    I want to make you feel free
    Hmm, hmm, hmm, hmm,
    Want to make you feel free
    I want to make you feel free

    A Case of You: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=0YuaZcylk_o

    Just before our love got lost you said
    “I am as constant as a northern star”
    And I said “Constantly in the darkness
    Where’s that at?
    If you want me I’ll be in the bar”

    On the back of a cartoon coaster
    In the blue TV screen light
    I drew a map of Canada
    Oh Canada
    With your face sketched on it twice
    Oh you’re in my blood like holy wine
    You taste so bitter and so sweet

    Oh I could drink a case of you darling
    Still I’d be on my feet
    oh I would still be on my feet

    Oh I am a lonely painter
    I live in a box of paints
    I’m frightened by the devil
    And I’m drawn to those ones that ain’t afraid

    I remember that time you told me you said
    “Love is touching souls”
    Surely you touched mine
    ‘Cause part of you pours out of me
    In these lines from time to time
    Oh, you’re in my blood like holy wine
    You taste so bitter and so sweet

    Oh I could drink a case of you darling
    And I would still be on my feet
    I would still be on my feet

    I met a woman
    She had a mouth like yours
    She knew your life
    She knew your devils and your deeds
    And she said
    “Go to him, stay with him if you can
    But be prepared to bleed”

    Oh but you are in my blood
    You’re my holy wine
    You’re so bitter, bitter and so sweet

    Oh, I could drink a case of you darling
    Still I’d be on my feet
    I would still be on my feet

  • shellliejelly

    When going through my separation, eventually divorce, I listened to The Beautiful South’s Hot on the Heels of Heartbreak non-stop.

    These are tough, complicated times (or that’s how my situation was) and I agree about the power of music. For me, music was enlightening, empowering, cathartic, hopeful—and sometimes just what I needed to lift myself out of my reality, or turn my head half a millimeter one way or another to gain new perspective.

    Be good to yourself,

    Michelle

  • connieemeraldeyes

    I went through a divorce in 1986. I heard the song On my own. It is a beautiful song. I just found the link for you and listened to it again. Instantly all the feelings came back to when I was first listening to it 26 years ago. It is like a time capsule in my brain holding everything of what I felt when i was on my own.
    http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=KsH63qJlIMM
    It is On My Own by Michael Mcdonald and Patti Labelle.

  • lala34mc

    Oh man, this is one of my favorite topics. Music has saved my life many times.

    Nathaniel Rateliff got me through an entire year of hell.

    Early Spring Till http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=aD20LYzzoD8
    Are you tired and broken, once so stout?

    Pounds and Pounds http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=VK-9KUzVRn4
    And above all the rest, I just can’t seem to pound my fist in deep enough.

    And the song that saved me over and over and over from the worst days I’ve ever experienced:
    Bon Iver’s (anything) but particularly Re: Stacks http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ePatJIwB-sI
    Everything that happens is from now on.

    I think about you all the time, Heather.

  • CriticalThinker

    Signed up on the Community just to answer this question…
    I don’t know what it says about my life that I have several playlists devoted to heartbreak. But I do. I tend to prefer songs that pour a little salt in the wound, so to speak, but I’ll avoid those and instead mention two of the happier songs that have helped me keep going during the (latest) worst times:
    “Everything’ll Be Alright,” by Joshua Radin
    and
    “Breathe”, by Alexi Murdoch
    Sometimes you might be able to use a little of Cake’s “I Will Survive” as well?

  • erose

    18 Wheeler by Pink is the song I turn to when I feel like life has kicked my arse and I can’t take another step. This song gives me the energy and strength to stand back up and keep going.

  • Sara Jean

    And another! I can’t believe I forgot this one …

    “Burning Pile” by Mother Mother. http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=EMxglMfOavQ

    Seriously. Play it loud. Sing/Scream along. It helps.

    All my style, all my grace
    All I try to save my face
    All my guts, try to spill
    All my holes, try to fill
    All my money’s been a long time spent
    On my drugs, on my rent
    On my saving philosophy
    It goes, one in the bank and the rest for me

    It goes,

    All my troubles on a burning pile
    All lit up and I start to smile
    If I catch fire than I’ll change my aim
    Throw my troubles at the pearly gates

    My mamma, lonely maid
    Got her buns in the oven then she never got laid
    My papa, renaissance man
    Sailed away and he never came back again

    All my troubles on a burning pile
    All lit up and I start to smile
    If I catch fire than I’ll change my aim
    Throw my troubles at the pearly gates

    Ah, ah, ah, ah, ah, ah, ah
    All my woebegones begone
    I said, all you troubles
    You don’t mean a thing

    All my troubles on a burning pile
    All lit up and I start to smile if
    I catch fire than I’ll change my aim
    Throw my troubles at the world again

    It goes,

    All my troubles on a burning pile
    All lit up and I start to smile
    If I catch fire than I’ll take my turn
    To burn and burn and burn

  • Binreddy

    “Stuck in a Moment” by U2 is my go to music track when my life is in the dumps. It makes me realize that no matter crappy life seems at the moment, IT will get better. We just have to remember to put one foot in front of the other and keep truckin’ forward – no matter what, even when it seems impossible.

  • poisoniveyma

    After I ended a particularly bad relationship, I found the song “Almost Lover” by A Fine Frenzy. It was just a girl, singing about how she loved this guy that didn’t love her the same way. It was the voice of my feelings and it helped me let go. This relationship was actually the first one that I entered into after my marriage….I was so unsure of myself and in retrospect, I kind of threw myself at this guy, perhaps wishing to reprise my role as a “wife”. I didn’t know how to be anything but this lovey wifey person, I should have taken more time to be alone and happy rather than rush into something where I was with someone but unhappy.

    Heather, I do wish you so much luck. I made a run for my happiness years ago and even though it was the hardest decision I ever made, it was, in the end the best one for me. Most people didn’t understand my reasons for ending my marriage until just recently…now they tell me how I am finally the person I was meant to be. I hope that no matter what the outcome is for you, that you become the person you were meant to be.

  • adi82

    Are you still reading, Heather? :)
    I may be a little bit weird (haha, ok definitely am!) but when I’m going through tough times, I tend to listen to depressing music while I wallow in my sadness. I can’t move on to the upbeat/inspiring stuff until I’m through the worst of it. If you’re looking for inspiring, probably best to ignore this comment. Except for one suggestion! I do have one.

    I know you are a U2 fan but this song isn’t too well known. “Love Rescue Me”. I really love the last bit:

    “I’ve conquered my past
    The future is here at last
    I stand at the entrance
    To a new world I can see
    The ruins to the right of me
    Will soon have lost sight of me
    Love rescue me.”

    Last year when I was at the very beginning of my first pregnancy, I felt like SHIT! I listened to “Head Full of Doubt” by the Avett Brothers on repeat.

    Iron and Wine is always good for some depressing songs too when I need it.

    And lastly, a really, super depressing song that I absolutely love is by Bob Schneider and is called “Losing You.”

    Again, I’m not sure what kind of music you need to hear right now, but those usually do the trick for me. Well, they don’t actually FIX anything, but they make me feel a little bit better.

    Thinking of you….You are so incredibly strong that I KNOW you will not only make it through this, but grow and learn from it too.

  • Egwestfall

    Given To Fly. Pearl Jam.
    Let Ed Ved pick you up.
    Play it effing loud.

  • krislee98

    What a perfect song. One of my nearest and dearest friends would play this at volume 11 when she needed the boost. As her roommate, it was a good indicator of how she was feeling.

    For me, it’s “Heavenly Day” by Patti Griffin. During my divorce, against all inertia and pull of the couch, I’d lace up my shoes and head out for a good walk. I’d listen to this song and realized that I would see the new flower that was blooming, or the one perfect cloud in the sky. I’m not a polyanna by any stretch of the imagination but the positive nature of the song made me aware that there were beautiful things in the world and for about 4 seconds, I could appreciate them.

  • christinenicole1

    Good Feeling by Flo Rida
    Shake it Out, Florence and the Machine
    Uncharted, Sara Barielles (and if you google you can find a link to her December concert in SF at the Bill Graham Civic Center Auditorium for a kick-ass song she’ll never release called That Guy’s an Asshole http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=0bwdWl2azMk)

  • Pastrana199

    Not a deep song, but it was helpful to me:

    “i’m Still Standing” by Elton John

  • Ex Files Chick

    One song that I listened to over and over again when I went through my divorce was Kenny Loggins “The Real Thing”. It’s a song to his child explaining the reason for divorce. Partial lyrics:

    You’re so afraid your life is over,
    And nothing I can say can change your mind.
    How can anybody be so selfish, and treat you all so cruel?
    Go on and scream at me and cry.
    I’ll always hold you in my soul,
    And I’m never going to leave you all alone,
    But your Daddy doesn’t live here anymore.

    I did it for you, and the boys
    Because love should teach you joy,
    Not the imitation that your Mama and Daddy tried to show you.
    I did it for you, and for me
    And because I still believe there’s only one thing,
    You can never give up, never compromise on,
    And that’s the real thing you need in love.

    I truly hope things work out for you and your family. Hang in there!

  • ktbkat

    I’ve been reading your blog for years, and never posted, but as a first-year law student with a badly broken heart, and battling depression, I’ve found such understanding in your writing. I lean heavily on music as well, to either wrap me in sadness or to lift my spirit when I don’t have the strength.
    Florence and the Machines ‘Shake it off’ has been my theme song since November, along with ‘You are not alone’ by Mavis Staples, and I’ve recently added ‘Devil Town’ by Tony Lucca and ‘Rewind’ by Stereophonics. ‘Hurts like Heaven’ by Coldplay is good too, and FloRida’s “I’ve got a feeling.’
    Sometimes the only thing we have to hold on to is simple survival, so hold on to that.
    xK

  • LLRLRR

    (First time commenter, long time reader)

    Not every separation ends up with a reconciliation but in my case, this song ended up being my road map.*

    Now That It’s Done, Won’t You Come Back
    Mike Mangione

    http://soundcloud.com/llrlrr/08-now-that-its-done-wont-you-come-back

    Lay me down easy, love,
    lay me down
    Lay with me tonight
    before you leave town

    Because I’ve made decisions, love,
    I’ve been plagued from the start
    Regrets bleed when my memories go
    from my head to my heart

    But now that it’s done won’t you come back?
    Now that it’s done won’t you come back?
    Now that it’s done won’t you come back?
    And I will surrender to your heart again

    I left home early, love,
    with each step the wind
    And I’ve been burned more at my front door
    yeah I am ready to come in

    And I wanted freedom
    so I broke their laws
    But freedom don’t come from rejecting them,
    it’s from not being tempted at all

    Now that it’s done won’t you come back?
    Now that it’s done won’t you come back?
    Now that it’s done won’t you come back?
    And I will surrender to your heart again

    If you kiss me, love,
    please do so slow
    It’s been said you can save the wicked, depraved
    and I wanna know

    I know it ain’t easy
    to pardon what I have done
    But addiction don’t run from the sight of a gun
    and I need someone

    Now that it’s done won’t you come back?
    Now that it’s done won’t you come back?
    Now that it’s done won’t you come back?
    And I will surrender to your heart again
    I will surrender to your heart again
    I will surrender to your heart again

    ***

    * So much so that I ended up becoming a member of this band and and try not to weep whenever we have the occasion to play it.

    (And if anyone thinks this is a spammy comment I apologize, it’s most definitely not. I’m just a guy who sees a couple in pain and wants to offer even the tiniest bit of comfort. I did not write this song, but I am lucky enough to get to live within it when I play it with Mike and that reaffirms the strength of its message to me. So I wanted to share)

  • karala

    How did I forget?!
    Wille Mason, We can be Strong (Rosanne Cash on backing vocals): http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=qLzZgOL5iJ4

    Like the Gabe Dixon song I mentioned, these are cry it out. work it out songs that you can listen to when the kids are around.

    I put these on my daughter’s ipod to let her know I love her and that she has strength she doesn’t even know about….

    some lyrics:
    Said baby I’ll be good someday
    Gonna try again tomorrow
    Try again tomorrow

    I couldn’t take that sterile place
    In those rooms I lost my face
    And in the end they couldn’t sell me grace
    And they can’t sell me tomorrow
    Can’t sell me tomorrow
    We can be strong;

    And also this (LOVE!!!- extra dance-y for little girls and mamas in kitchens): http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Z14nWU481go&feature=related

    be well

  • jennylaho

    One song has sort of seen me through many stages of my adult life, including three years ago when I was getting divorced myself. “Good Mother,” by Jan Arden, is a real gem. It says everything I want to say about my desires for peace in my life, with my family and with myself. Give it a listen.

  • MicheLe M.

    I hate country music. HATE. IT. but the Rascal Flats song “Everyday” (with awesome video) has changed my life. Hope it helps you.

  • wondercheese

    This song got me through a year and a half downward spiral after a huge breakup.

    http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=jJp3kVelU3c

    They say an end can be a start
    Feels like I’ve been buried yet I’m still alive
    It’s like a bad day that never ends
    I feel the chaos around me
    A thing I don’t try to deny
    I’d better learn to accept that
    There are things in my life that I can’t control
    They say love ain’t nothing but a sore
    I don’t even know what love is
    Too many tears have had to fall
    Don’t you know I’m so tired of it all
    I have known terror dizzy spells
    Finding out the secrets words won’t tell
    Whatever it is it can’t be named
    There’s a part of my world that’ s fading away
    You know I don’t want to be clever
    To be brilliant or superior
    True like ice, true like fire
    Now I know that a breeze can blow me away
    Now I know there’s much more dignity
    In defeat than in the brightest victory
    I’m losing my balance on the tight rope
    Tell me please, tell me please, tell me please…
    If I ever feel better

  • Greygirl

    Okay – this is as corny as it gets, but I swear there were some times during my divorce that the only thing that got me through was singing the theme to The Mary Tyler Moore Show.
    You’re gonna make it after all….

  • smwrig5175

    I was having a hard time describing how it felt when I was depressed to family and close friend until I found this song. I think it describes the feelings pretty much spot on. I don’t let my mom hear it though because it makes her cry and I have to assure that I don’t feel like that EVERY morning.

  • elisals

    I recently went through a heartbreaking time with my brother who is struggling with bipolar disorder, a wife who left him during his latest manic episode and my move across country which was physically taking me away from being able to support him. I listened to O.A.R.’s “On My Way” for days on repeat while I cried. Like you, I wished that I had plants in the bathroom at least I would have felt that all of the dampness was going to good use.

    Hope y’all will find some peace soon.

  • elmo

    Andy Stochansky’s “Everest.” Calming voice, hopeful piano. Less is more with this one.

  • jlolb

    Florence and the Machine’s Shake it Out.

    Keep your chin up, Heather. You’ve got this.

  • verbalicon

    Michael Shelton, “Feelin’ Blue” (#7 on this CD: http://www.cdbaby.com/cd/michaelshelton, and here’s his website: http://www.michaelshelton.com/fr_news.cfm) That was my hymn when the relationship with the man I loved more than my life exploded in my face. Little known CA songwriter, but oh so good, and SFW.

    Sending you lots of love!

  • jlolb

    Also, Breathe Again by Sara Bareilles

  • sea0tter12

    I have a friend who swore by Mountain Goats’ “Tallahassee” album. http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Tallahassee_%28album%29

  • MrsBN

    When in the depths years ago over some delightful man who was unfaithful, I listened to fake plastic trees by Radiohead – a lot. The lyrics fit in places and the melancholy melody just relaxed me and allowed me to feel sad when I needed to and gave me a good singalong when I felt like it. I love it. And it’s become a song I just relax into …

  • KarenB

    Michael Buble “Feeling Good”
    Joss Stone “Free Me”
    Eric Church “Those I’ve Loved”
    Ruthie Foster “Phenomenal Woman”

    Sugarland “Stand Back Up”

    Go ahead and take your best shot,
    Let ‘er rip, give it all you’ve got,
    I’m laid out on the floor, but I’ve been here before,
    I may stumble, yeah I might fall,
    I’m only human but aren’t we all?
    I might lose my way, but hear me when i say,

    I will stand back up,
    You’ll know just the moment when I’ve had enough,
    Sometimes I’m afraid, and I dont feel that tough,
    But I’ll stand back up,

    I’ve been beaten up and bruised,
    I’ve been kicked right off my shoes,
    Been down on my knees more times than you’d believe,
    When the darkness tries to get me,
    There’s a light that just won’t let me,
    It might take my pride, and my tears may fill my eyes,
    But I’ll stand back up,

    I’ve weathered all these stroms,
    But I just turn them into wind, so I can fly,
    What don’t kill you makes you stronger,
    When I take my last breath,
    That’s when I’ll just give up,

    So, go ahead and take your best shot,
    Let ‘er rip, give it all you’ve got,
    You might win this round but you can’t keep me down,

    ‘Cause I’ll stand back up,
    And you’ll know just the moment when I’ve had enough,
    Sometimes I’m afraid and I don’t feel that tough,
    But I’ll stand back up,

    You’ll know just the moment when I’ve had enough,
    Sometimes I’m afraid and I dont feel that tough,
    But I’ll stand back up.

    http://www.whenlifebites.blogspot.com

  • mommica

    I was actually just the other day thinking “I should tell Heather about ‘A Beautiful Mess’ by Jason Mraz.

    “We tore our dresses and we stained our shirts. But it’s nice today.”

  • stormypinkness

    ‘I Will Light You On Fire’ – Golden Shoulders

    This song should be listened to at high volume. Its beauty will coax your tears out and punch you in the gut. In the cathartic way. There have been times I just need to play this over and over.

    “And I will build a wall to watch it tilting
    Knock it over, start rebuilding
    Just to keep from wasting time”

    Much love to you.

  • sarathelaundress

    I listened to this song over and over and over after my husband died.

    http://youtu.be/USFr5VeLQ2o

    Breathe by Midge Ure
    (he was the lead singer of Ultravox, if you know your 80′s bands).

  • beautifulchanges

    I’m also separating from my husband and I pretty much have the entire album “Sigh No More” from Mumford & Sons memorized, specifically track #1.

    Gotye’s “Somebody that I used to know” is pretty damn good too.

  • ehbfoot

    Exile in Guyville
    Liz Phair
    “Strange Loop”

    Much love to you

  • kittyhotpants

    another song by the wonderful jenny lewis of rilo kiley is Born Secular.

    “it’s the law of the land that sometimes the dam just breaks…”

    sometimes you need to be reminded that That’s Just How It Is.

    but this too, shall pass.

    i hope you enjoy the song. and that it can provide you with as much strength as it has me.