• Gemmyner

    Lovely picture of you and the girls :)

  • Elspeth

    “My gay son said there would be donuts” might just be the best sign ever.

  • http://artbydiahn.blogspot.com Diahn Ott

    My gay son said there’d be donuts. I love that man.

  • Heather Armstrong

    When I first saw that sign I didn’t see the “my” and thought, who is Gayson? Am I supposed to know who Gayson is?

  • Andrea Shipman

    I just started BAWLING at the photos and I wasn’t even there. Also, “My gay son said there’d be donuts.” – HA! Well played Mormon Dad with a sense of humor. WELL-PLAYED.

  • Andrea Shipman

    Agree! And that shot of Marlo holding on to the back of Leta’s shirt was too sweet.

  • CheeseburgerinLaradise

    I had tears by the time I saw the boy scouts. No more gay scouts banned from scouting!

  • KimFunk

    Heather, this is another one of those posts that I’m so happy to have read. I did not attend Pride last weekend. Didn’t have the time. But the pictures of those people in the parade made my heart happy.

  • Dee

    We have a huge gay pride parade here in Atlanta but although I endorse it wholeheartedly, there are some things maybe not appropriate for kids… Having said that, I am proud to be an Episcopalian, since we have a gay bishop! We have always been the church of inclusiveness, which is why I love my church. Several of our churches have FLOATS in the gay pride parade!

  • Gem Wilder

    Yes, I teared up too. Thank you for the beautiful photos. I especially like the pic of Marlo holding the back of Leta’s t-shirt. That illustrates little sisterhood perfectly.

    And, yet again, wonderful words.

  • Heather Armstrong

    Thank you. It was a wonderful experience.

  • Dena

    I too bawled, out of joy, when I saw the photos of how supportive members of the community were being. You see, my son and his boyfriend just recently moved to Utah and while they haven’t encountered (or so they’re telling me…) any outright prejudice, I worry. I worry and worry and worry…. and these photos made me feel a little bit better :) Thank you

  • Heather Armstrong

    My assistant John doesn’t have a Disqus account, but he has said many times that he feels so much more accepted and safe here than he ever did when living in West Hollywood. He’d recommend living here to anyone.

  • Leona Laurie

    “living the true spirit of the religion” – this is something I am always so happy to see in anyone who identifies as any kind of Christian. And it’s something I don’t see as often as one might expect. Thanks for sharing this example of it, Heather. You made me tear up, too.

  • BarefootCajun

    I wish I could say that this is the type of Mormon family that my husband comes from, but it isn’t. His parents have two gay grandchildren that they love at arm’s length. The oldest of the two even tries to defend her own father as he speaks of the sins gays are committing. I can’t wrap my head around it. I, on the other hand, have a gay brother and my Catholic family loves him no matter what. The Baptists in the family love to proclaim “love the sinner but hate the sin” and it breaks my heart. My husband and I are atheists. We both left the religions of our youth because of their bigotry. My husband did go through the painful process of having his name removed from the roles of the Mormon church and he is happy that he did so. I know that folks like those at the parade are making huge strides but there will have to be momentous changes in all the churches before we see true results.

  • klu

    This post made me tear up a little when I saw the boy scouts. Also the picture of Marlo on your lap made my ovaries tear up.

  • BarefootCajun

    Adding that I also cried when I read this post and saw the wonderful photos. I am so happy that Leta and Marlo’s generation will look at marriage equality in such a different light. I am also to see that there are good, generous people out there that understand that everyone should be able to love whom they love.

  • issascrazyworld

    This was just awesome.

    I ADORE the photo of you and the girls.

  • KWSterling

    It isn’t just Mormons. There are plenty of Christians – and some of them are over 60 (gasp!) – who want gays to have equal rights. We need to stop demonizing Christians and Mormons and just give them time to catch up. That’s all that’s needed.

  • issascrazyworld

    Randomly as a person who doesn’t know you, but has read your blog for close to ten years….I wanted to say that in the last few weeks of posts you seem really happy. Like truly happy. And I hope you are. I know how hard divorce is and there does come that day where you come out of the other side and realize you’re okay. I hope you’re there or getting there.

  • KWSterling

    P.S. I am a Methodist and you would not believe the number of people in my congregation – in Virginia, the SOUTH! – who want gays to be able to marry. The hysteria over Christians and gay marriage is overblown. More of us want them than don’t.

  • D J H

    This is a beautiful post, and I too love the ‘Donuts’ sign, but um, do Leta’s mile-long legs and arms remind you of anyone? hee…hee…hee…

  • http://www.thriftstoremama.com/ Thrift Store Mama

    I am not even kidding for you – the way you write about your mother and some of your family has totally made me look at Mormons in a more positive light. In particular, the way you write about your mother’s love for you is a wonderful example of Mormonism. I’ve read a lot of the Mormon bloggers on the Internet and they creep me out with their perfect photos, beautiful crafts, and endless tutorials on sewing projects. Everything is just TOOO perfect. But these photos of Mormon families at the pride parade is so uplifting and encouraging !

  • AuntHo

    Real Mormons (these ones) are so inspiring. I left the church years ago but am always so touched by the many, MANY amazing souls working for change from within.

    My cousin recently came out to his very popular, model Mormon family in St George UT. My mom sounded tired and sad when she told me, and I was all prepared to get righteously supportive of him … then she said “AuntHo, I’m just so tired of judging people for choices that have nothing to do with me.” The moment I heard my mother–Temple-going Mormon, Bishop’s wife, various other church titles–say that, I had to cry, say “You’re a good person, Mom”, save my Equality! rant for another day, and love her as she believes Jesus loves me. Religious or not, we can all use the reminders.

  • jara

    I was one of those mormons marching. I did last year too, I made it a point to go hug people this year, (didnt have the kids with me this time). I hugged everyone I saw crying, and told them we loved them. Most importantly, I told the young people there, that its ok, and that we loved them. That was my spiritual high. I hated the show though, some things cant be unseen. I have been told I dont deserve to be a member of the church for doing this. If Im going to hell, its for far worse than telling gods children I love them.

  • Necole Kell

    I loved the donut sign. Donuts truly can bring people together!

  • jara

    The donuts sign was actually from a counter protest against the Westburough baptist church. The sign went out everywhere “I was promised donuts”. Along with “Build prisons on the moon”.

  • sarah

    love. thanks for the reminder that goodness can be found amongst all sorts of people.

  • http://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=1676448083 Mj Crites

    Yeah. the donut sign was great.

  • Georgia Siltman

    Love this! You give me hope. Organised religions can make me uncomfortable. I taught my first day as a relief teacher in a catholic school yesterday and was appalled when I saw the contents of the days planner – included were three prayer sessions and a half hour of religious education. But my fears were allayed when I heard the children’s prayers – all variations on hope’s for loved one’s health and well being, and found that the R.E. was a simple beautiful moral story. I feverently wish people with faith could focus on the messages of love and acceptance common to all religions, and learn in turn to love and accept each other

  • rebecca

    ,,,this post made me happy! LOVE is LOVE plain and simple or…simply, simple. thanks heather i always enjoy your musings,,,

  • http://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=1676448083 Mj Crites

    Great post, Heather.

    I didn’t know any gay people until I was in my mid teens because I grew up in a community where kids were allowed, forced almost, to just be kids. Kids weren’t, for example, forced to self identify at 12 as straight or gay to join or stay in The Scouts.

  • Georgia Siltman

    Also, I find it ironic that of the two blogs I read written by people linked with the Mormon faith – yours: a ‘naughty’ ex-Mormon blog, and Nienie dialogues: a “oh-so-perfect” practicing Mormon blog – yours highlights to me many of the beautiful and moving stories of Mormons, whilst Nie’s often makes me sad and frustrated with her very conservative views and traditions

  • naima801

    I have to second this! I have read & enjoying your blog for over 5 years now. I find myself talking about you to others like we’re friends, and the other day I mentioned that it seems like you’ve got your groove back. Go Heather!

  • http://www.triloquist.net Ron

    Beautifully expressed post, Heather.

    And as gay man, it was wonderful to read about Utah and the Morman faith being so open and accepting because I could actually feel the loving and open embrace in within your photos. And yes, perhaps it’s not how they all feel, but it’s start. And from that start, it will begin to alter other views. Like a ripple effect.

    ” But at least they are recognizing the fact that this is not an annoying little problem that people can just pray themselves out of, and that homosexuals deserve the love and respect that is due “any of God’s children.”

    Exactly.

    And have to say, the more you share about Utah the more I get a sense that it’s got a wonderful energy.

    Thank you for sharing this, Heather. And yup…it made me very teary-eyed.

    Love the photo of you and your girls!

  • jara

    Ron, as a devout mormon, it was my beliefs that drove me to be there, I was overwhelmed by the experience, and say it was one of the most spiritual moments of my life. Its pretty Gandhi esque to put yourself out like that in the face of something so unpopular with the masses. But marching in that parade , feeling the love of everyone there, feeling that yes this is gods love Im trying to show everyone, is something I wish I could have all the time. Yes it was a high, im still riding on it, it took me months to come down from last years parade. Ripple effect, yes, they cant dismiss us as just a handful of rebel mormons, we were a WARD out there, 400+. Didnt see any donuts though.

  • Nick

    Great post, but I think it’s important to make the distinction that these wonderful church members are not “The Church;” they are not the LDS church’s leadership and doctrine-interpreters.
    They are an awesome (and hopefully growing) minority—but one that is not particularly in line with the church’s *official* teachings.

    I’m a gay former Mormon in SLC, and while these marching members should be lauded… the church itself, as a whole, still should not be. The mother of a (gay) friend is still an active, “card-carrying” Mormon; she decided to volunteer at the Utah Pride Center working with GLBT youth and when her bishop found out, she lost her temple recommend.

    All that said, there is still much change needed, but it will need to be done from within. And these folks are the brave ones who can do it.

  • http://kristanhoffman.com/ Kristan

    YEP. That was the one. *melts*

  • Ari

    If you have access to any resources about Pride-related events (a city paper, a friend who works on the events, anything), you might take a gander: I know that in my area, the main parade isn’t really kid-friendly, but there are a handful of satellite events that are explicitly welcoming to families, and they’re usually listed in the free city paper, just not as well publicized as the parade.

    And yay for Episcopalians!

  • nyll18

    I thought I was the only one with a Dooce-NieNie cross over! I 100% agree with you. I am fascinated by Stephanie’s resillance after her accident (the main reason I read her blog), but her conservatism is hard to take.

  • Tamara Tipton

    “Will there be candy?” That is just about the best thing ever. Your child has a good grip on what is truly important. Who cares who some stranger wants to marry?? How exactly does that impact my world? But candy…now candy is important! I love this. I love that we are (even if it is slowly) moving toward acceptance and tolerance. I love that people like you are raising children like her. It gives me hope for the future.

  • http://www.seriouslysassymama.com/ Necole Kell

    I love that. Those Westboro people are complete nut jobs!

  • Sandra

    You are the valedictorian of moms, Heather.

  • Kelli Anderson

    Loved this. I have never had my name removed from the church because of my mom. anyway, I never would’ve known about this movement in the church had you not posted it. thank you.

  • J

    Until they turn 18, at least.

  • WhyDoIHaveToPickAName

    (Not sure how this Disqus thing works–may be a duplicate comment)
    What is on your finger? Engagement ring???? Hello, those Jonathan Adler and MoMA registries are fo’ real?!

  • Tanya Edwards

    I grew up outside of SLC in the 80s. I am both thrilled and gobsmacked by this. Sending love and light.

  • KristenfromMA

    Omg, you are a beautiful person. Heather said to remember people like her mom & siblings. I will, but I’ll remember you, too. :)

  • http://www.pennyforyourshoes.com/ Daisy

    You’re amazing. Your kids are amazing. You’re doing a bang-up job, don’t let anyone tell you otherwise.

  • Lindsay

    Beautiful post heather. Thanks.