• Michele

    Thank you. I think you are one of the most awesome people I “know” as I have been following you for years. I just want people to realize that because their children may be in diverse environments, doesn’t mean that they will understand the differences and that they will grow up being tolerant. My kids were in a very diverse school district but it has taken a lot of discussion to disabuse them of the notion that because they were white they were “better” because that was what they were learning on the playground.

  • Michele

    Also, I don’t care if you anyone is atheist, agnostic, christian, muslim, buddhist, catholic, protestant, black, white, jewish, pakistani, indian, chinese, (you get my drift) or whatever. I just care if you are tolerant and respectful of everyone.

  • Kimberly Wydeen

    Heather, as always, this post is poignant and eloquent and – most importantly – made me think.

    I would like to raise a point regarding this post, and please do not take it as a hater or somebody who does not care about others. When I read the excerpts from Kelly’s speech, the first thing that I thought was “wow, I never thought of it that way” and my second thought was “I feel a lot of pressure to talk about race.” I think we all have causes and issues that we feel passionately about. But we can’t all feel passionate about everything: sometimes, for change to happen, dedicated people have to throw themselves into a cause at the expense of other causes.

    Sometimes I feel like every good deed is matched with “well what about this other cause? What did you do about that?” and I think that sort of puts people off volunteering or getting involved. They start to feel like, because they can’t give to everything, then they shouldn’t give to anything. It gets overwhelming. It starts to feel like guilt instead of genuine service.

    Again, I would like to stress that I really enjoy your blog and your writing. And I am not saying this to bring you down or say you shouldn’t go on the trip. Not at all. I am simply pointing out that none of us can be everything to every cause, and that is okay.

  • AwSniggity

    I stand up and applaud your revelations, admissions and honesty. I have been reading you for years and have always enjoyed the entertaining, educational, and sometimes cathartic posts you’ve made. This one is no exception. Thank you so much for this post Dooce. You are on this earth, writing these entries, and participating in these summits and other adventures for a reason. BRAVA!

  • Allyssa Wheaton-Rodriguez

    Great post. I’m white from the South, but I’m also a civil rights attorney. I’m always blathering on about the ills of segregation in America, and I know it totally makes my white friends uncomfortable, but I don’t care. Their thought processes need to be challenged by someone in their inner circle. Good for you for getting involved in an important cause.

  • Tracie

    Feels like Atheists Anonymous but here we go:

    Hi, I’m Tracie and I too am an athiest.

    Happy travels and thanks for a post which has made me stop and think….. AGAIN!

  • fellow toucans

    It actually sounds to me that you have graduated from the stage of needing to explore WHY you have a platform. It’s probably enough (and time) to acknowledge that you have one, and express your gratitude by using it. Taking the trips to Bangladesh, Haiti, meetings with EMC, and this new trip give you content for the platform. I am looking forward to you using the platform to truly bring those issues and stories to us here, as you say you intend to do.

  • http://jamiewrightcr.blogspot.com/ jamietheveryworstmissionary

    Ha! Oh god, I almost forgot we need to contrive a come to Jesus moment for Heather. I think we should evangelize her on the beach at sunset – I’ve seen people do that, so I know it’s a thing. Afterward, we can grab a beer and hire a prostitute… I mean…*ahem*… since we’re gonna be doing that anyway.

    Love this post, Heather!

  • Jennifer Evans

    Trafficking is the most depraved, coercive situation I think could ever affect a person’s soul. I was introduced to this horror almost 2 years ago with the documentary Half the Sky, after which I couldn’t sleep for days. I became an ambassador and actively raised funds for organizations combatting sex trafficking. Unfortunately, of late I’ve felt hoodwinked and punched in the gut by the controversy surrounding Somaly Mam — untruths that have derailed the good her rescue organization may have done. I KNOW there are worthy organizations doing the incredibly hard work (Exodus Road being one of them) and now seek out opportunities to learn more about these agencies, both in the U.S. and abroad. I’ll be following your story and rooting you all on! I am a mixed media artist and teach classes, and have been creating opportunities for people to drop in and make little “truth cards” — art designed on the back of an ordinary playing card that has a simple phrase, or “truth” to encourage someone coming out of such horrifying situations. We will be mailing off about 30 truth cards to artist Melody Ross, who distributes them. My hope is to one day offer art therapy to recovering victims, because I know first-hand how art has a cathartic, healing way through its process. It allows someone to communicate and express, even though there may not be words to speak. Best of luck on your journey!!!

  • Carin Sweerman

    Matters not to me what your religious affiliation is; not my business, although I guessed a long while ago that you were an atheist. What I’ve observed is that you are a compassionate, logical, tolerant, loving person who also happens to be a terrific mother, caretaker of two lovable mutts, with scores of interesting friends. What I’ve also observed is how you utilize your platform for the greater good – today’s post really tops all others. I admire your courage in swallowing your fear of the R word and that you went there, with both feet first. I love seeing your thought processes and how you arrive at your opinions and how you want to get the message out (on whatever topic is at hand).
    I started coming here for funny. I kept coming, even when you turned into a “mommyblogger” cuz you were still funny. I still come for the funny and the updates on one of my favorite families, but I’ve always appreciated your non-funny thought-provoking posts, as well.
    I hope next week’s trip is everything you hope it to be and that you accomplish what you’re trying to do; not everyone would give up their lives even for a week to try to do some good half-way around the world. That, my friend, makes for a beautiful human being.

  • FellowAtheist

    I just realized that one of the reasons I love your posts so much is that they are free of religion and dogma. Thanks for that.

  • Kelly

    Heather, your post has given me so many feels, so many thoughts. So proud of all you do and how you always want to do more. I know you have to fight through the depression and anxiety and I am so proud of you. As much as I am LOVING this post, my very first thought upon seeing that mural was that’s Laurel True! I know her work. I took a class at The Institute of Mosaic Art and the place had her work on all the walls. Once I got it out of my system and read your entire post I was just blown away. Thank you for being so awesome!

  • Beth Rich

    Rock ON!

  • Mel

    Actually westerners (aka “white men”) are not the biggest perpetrators of the problem, and never have been. The main perpetrators, in each one of the countries where it is a problem, are the people of that country.

  • Bored with Bloggers

    Although I understand the two of you are “just joshin’”, the mockery is a bit befuddling.

  • Mel

    Nah, not everyone. And the only people who are interested in making a big deal of atheism are atheists.

  • londonpenny

    How strange that people find Heather’s atheism fascinating or worth reading about. No offense to Heather, but just about all my friends and family are atheist. It’s really not a big deal and is in fact quite common.

  • londonpenny

    …though I must admit if her post spoke about the ridiculousness of religion, I’d probably read the shit outta that!

  • londonpenny

    I don’t understand this trip; I’m sorry. I know you don’t mean for it to come across as such, but I cringe at the thought of bloggers touring brothels. It’s trafficking tourism. If you are going on this trip, you have an obligation as a human being to WRITE about this trip. Haiti, we got pretty photos and an Instagram tutorial, which was incredibly insensitive and superficial. Please, if you are an atheist I assume you have common sense. Please write about this trip if you insist on going.

  • Bored With Bloggers

    It would be nice if these self-indulgent bloggers were able to take these trips or promote whatever the hell pays them from a selfless point of view. I do think the blogging world has turned gross, and I’m pretty much done with all of them. If she did a trip to Haiti and only did an Instagram tutorial she should be ashamed. Talk about making bucks off the backs of the poor. Because that’s what she is (they are) doing.

  • Bippy

    I do not know you except for this blog, but I am so proud of you and so moved by your involvement.
    Time for ME to follow your lead.

  • Sandee

    The tears are streaming down my face – not just with sadness as I consider our world’s atrocities but with gratitude for your courage, your raw honesty and your brilliant capacity to articulate your perspective when you turn your light on a topic. Thank you. Travel safely.