the smell of my desperation has become a stench

Femelist 2004

Instead of doing a typical year-end review of things — I had a baby, and then I got really sad and angry, and then I ended up in a psyche ward, and now the baby has teeth, it was a good year — I thought I would open up a post about the women on the Internet who have touched my life.

Most of the year-end reviews I have read include a whole bunch of links to men and their websites and then more men and then more men. It’s not that I don’t think men contribute a whole stinking bunch to this wonderful place, I just think it’s time to REPRESENT, ladies. We are writing, we are designing, we are setting standards. We are uniting, we are building communities, we are giving the world a more friendly, more empathic, more beautiful voice.

Here is just a small list of the women who have helped me survive this year:

Heather Powazek Champ
Gail Armstrong
Claire Robertson
Margaret Mason
Sarah Brown
Mrs. Kennedy
Mimi Smartypants
Sarah Hepola
Melissa S.
No Title Yet
Juliet Martinez
Tracie Masek
My Lovely Beth
French Toast Girl
Old Hag

Please feel free to post a link in the comments to the women you feel have contributed to this whole wonderful Inter-world: Designers, writers, crafters, mothers, sisters, friends, lovers, photographers, editors, painters, illustrators, geeks, nerds, dog and cat owners.

Happy New Year, Ladies. Thank you for sharing your lives with me. It’s good to be alive.

  • poodaddy

    2005/01/03 at 7:00 am

    My wife makes this world go ’round for me. She gave birth to our first daughter, so I think she should win an award for being so tough during labor.

  • Dee

    2005/01/03 at 7:31 am

    Thanks a lot Dooce! One of my resolutions was to work at work, go figure, and here I am going through the list. Ah hell!

  • Laurel

    2005/01/03 at 8:12 am

    Andrea Seigel at Thank you!

  • Brooke

    2005/01/03 at 8:22 am

    Yeah, I’ll plug my own blog

    But most of all, I’ve loved reading!!

  • Cate

    2005/01/03 at 9:27 am

    I’ve found so many cool blogging chicks – other than you, the list includes jen at and trish at (who invited me into the VIP section of their sorority) and really all the girls as – who knew there were so many cool, yet completely screwed up girls?

  • ess

    2005/01/03 at 11:32 am

    hey there — this is actually a note on your monthly letter, in case you’re not familiar with taggies: . my kid looooves hers.

  • Carrie

    2005/01/03 at 12:06 pm

    Happy New Year, Heather!

    Some brilliantly funny lady bloggers here in Australia are the always controversial Ms Fits at and the lovely Jess at

    Looking forward to more Dooce in 2005.

  • The Mighty Jimbo

    2005/01/03 at 3:33 pm

    dooce, thank YOU for making me think and making me laugh all year.

  • The Mighty Jimbo

    2005/01/03 at 3:40 pm

    i too want to thank melly. melly always sees the best in me. and nobody makes me laugh more frequently.

    melly i love you!

  • Janice

    2005/01/03 at 7:11 pm

    I discovered a woman late in the year, Birdie at Beauty Dish ( and her posts about her life as an Avon Lady and a mother who just met her birth daughter (given up for adoption two decades ago) for the first time have kept me laughing and crying. I want to give a shout out to her.

  • David Kornahrens

    2005/01/03 at 7:58 pm

    Holy shit, the comments are expansive.

  • Joseph Russo

    2005/01/03 at 8:50 pm

    my wife, Jaimee ( means everything and a half to me. She really has no idea how much she means, and I have no idea how I’ll ever be able to show her. All I can do is keep on trying, and hope someday she’ll understand.

  • Shawna

    2005/01/04 at 6:02 am

    I read a few sites almost every day (including dooce) and I think I’ve seen them all above already but here they are again:

    And I’d especially like to give a nod to Zoot of for being awesome (and a great person to commiserate with over a shared issue before I got the nerve up to start posting about it).
    Happy 2005 ladies!

  • styro

    2005/01/04 at 7:04 am

    Amy choppa gets me happy, as do Mrs. Helen Jane and Mrs. Jennifer Andtonicca… You and Mimi Smartypants are like, woah nellie. The baddest ass. Evar. F’realz. xxx happy new year!

  • Katie

    2005/01/04 at 9:08 am

    Heather…while I’m sure my comment will get lost among the other 264, I would just like to say how much your web site brings to my day! When the baby’s crying and teething and crying some more you always provide a chuckle and help bump my day up a notch! Thanks! Another lady who’s helped me this year is my girl Steph…who doesn’t have a blog but is mentioned on mine quite frequently…I love ya girl! I would never have made it this year without you!
    Thanks again, Heather!

  • Zoot

    2005/01/04 at 10:00 am

    Here’s a toast to YOU, my mom (, ellen degeneres, angelina jolie, and my dear friend: Karen Lowry. All who provide me inspiration and/or support. All who hold a little bit of what I’d like to be more of. Happy New Year to you all (and I’m only late posting because of my damn firewall).

  • Nic

    2005/01/04 at 10:14 am

    Bottom of the pile and very late in seeing this post.

    Happy 05 Heather and Family :).

  • marie b.

    2005/01/04 at 10:56 am

    She recently helped me come to some pretty important realizations.

  • Christine

    2005/01/04 at 5:50 pm

    Me. I’ve contributed a heck of a lot as a web designer, cat owner, mom, startup entrepreneur this year!

  • Karin

    2005/01/04 at 10:53 pm

    I agree with Michele about Andrea from Especially because she made the lovely necklaces that my bridesmaids wore at my wedding.

    Also, I just read a review of what sounds like one of the most sensible mothering books ever:,6000,1383522,00.html

  • ZedEmPee

    2005/01/05 at 4:22 am

    Heather, do you have a bidet at your residence?

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Heather B. Armstrong

Hi. I’m Heather B. Armstrong, and this used to be called mommy blogging. But then they started calling it Influencer Marketing: hashtag ad, hashtag sponsored, hashtag you know you want me to slap your product on my kid and exploit her for millions and millions of dollars. That’s how this shit works. Now? Well… sit back, buckle up, and enjoy the ride.

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