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Day of Destruction

  • happy birthday, leta! too bad your picture was in the ny times in front of a crappity article. may the next time you grace those pages be in front of a less desultory feature.

  • Caroline

    Yum yum, naked cake.

  • Sara for lack of a better name

    Happy (almost) one year, Leta! Dooce, I love the giant pan that the cake is setting on – you’re clearly one step ahead in trying to mitigate the wreckage.

  • Happy Birthday Leta! That marks a little over one year that I’ve been reading this site. How time flies!

  • Susie

    There probably are parent-bloggers who are self-absorbed. But for most, I suspect blogging is no more evidence of self-absorption than say, taking a nice, long bath; or going to therapy. As Heather has said more than once, this is good for her. What’s healthy for mama is healthy for baby. There’s no self-absorption in that; everybody wins.

  • Happy first birthday to Leta, the amazing mother who did who birthed her, and (by association) the over-exposure of Janet Jackson’s boob. Truly wonderful picture of Leta in the Times this morning, even if the premise of the article was annoying (and it was…oh yes it was…).

  • abc

    are those fake silk flowers in the background? awesome. The leta is one and we are glad.

  • mg2

    Leta it’s your birthday
    Happy Birthday, Leta!
    Leta it’s your birthday
    Happy Birthday, Leta!

    (any fans of the Simpsons or Michael Jackson know what that’s about)

  • Wow, I can’t believe she’s gonna be ONE already!
    And that means MY son is gonna be one before I know it.
    *dies*

    Happy early Birthday, lovely Leta!
    And I am waiting for Jesus to knock on my door.

  • Stefani

    Best wishes for your birthday, Leta! Hope you had a wonderful party.

  • Happy Birthday, sweet girl!

  • Big Gay Sam

    Happy Birthday Munchkin! (sorry for the belated birthday wish).

    Speaking of the second coming. When I was working on the Navajo Reservation a couple of years ago I was behind this car with a bumper sticker that read:

    “Jesus is coming.. look busy!!”

    I laughed so hard I had to pull over.

    I’m sick like that.

  • HAPPY BIRTHDAY TO YOOOOUUU
    HAPPY BIRTHDAY TO YOOOUUUU
    HAPPY BIRTHDAY DEAR LEEEEEEETTTAAAA
    HAPPY BIRTHDAY TO YOU

    (And many more. On Channel Four. And Frankenstein. On Channel Nine. And Scooby Doo. On Channel Two…)

    Oh, I want a piece of that cake…can I have one, huh?

    Leta, you are so cute. And one! That’s so old!

  • GMM

    I agree with April, I cannot believe she’s already a year old! Happy B-day, Leta!

  • Leilia

    Have watched her grow and followed her progress for the first year of her life. Thankyou for sharing such a wonderful thing with us. Happy Birthday Leta.
    Congratulations Jon and Heather! What a beautiful little girl.

  • Annette

    Happy Birthday to Leta and Happy First Year Survival to Heather! Looks like she’s ready to be washed down, after a dip into the cake : ) What a cutie!

  • You say it’s Leta’s birthday
    DA DA DA DA DAHHHHHH
    It’s my birthday on the 23rd, too
    DA DA DA DA DAHHHHHHH
    You say it’s Leta’s birthday
    DA DA DA DA DAHHHHHHHH
    You’re going to have a good time…..

    HAPPY BIRTHDAY LETA!!!!

  • Oooohhh…. watch out – next thing you know the Internet Police will be on your case for having an open flame near your little one! Ha Ha! Seriously, thank you for so generously sharing your lives and Happy Birthday to Leta and her parents- that first year goes so fast, doesn’t it?

  • happy birthday little girl. congratulations for making it through the day parents.

  • You’re braver than we are! There are certain children we have banned from coming over to our house because they inevitably wreck our furniture – and their parents are oblivious and unapologetic, which is doubly annoying.

  • happy birthday Leta!

    enjoy your day sweet baby girl!

  • mg2

    precious baby, she’s growing up so quickly. Thanks for sharing this entire first year with us… I can’t wait for the day that we’ll see her prom picture up here on the daily photo! Happy Birthday, Leta. You’re a special girl!

  • happy happy birthday!

    is there an after picture to this….?

  • Ed

    Is that a Dorito cake?

    Because it totally should be.

  • Bec

    From one birthday girl to another HAPPY BIRTHDAY MISS LETA and congrats Heather and Jon for growing her up 🙂

  • Jenni

    I’ve always had a certain attitude toward birthdays which only became stronger after I had my daughter. I think birthdays should be about the one who did the birthing! I make sure to give my Mom flowers on by birthday… she did the hard part. I hope that your handsome bearded hubby recognizes YOU on Thursday too. (This attitude of mine only seems to reinforce the NYT self-absorbed comment… oh well).

    Happy Birthday Leta!
    Happy Birthing Day Heather!

  • I didn’t know Leta had a binkie addiction.

  • julied

    Fantastic picture in the NYT–it’s always nice to see someone you recognize (“hey! that baby looks very familiar…”) in the paper, especially huge and in color and incredibly cute. Way to be a cultural pioneer, dooce!

  • I thought I was smart waiting till the VERY END of the party to eat cake. But you were smart to feed Leta her cake with no shirt on. Damn. I’ll have to remember that for next time. 🙂

  • Ok, 90 people said the same thing as I just did. Maybe I should read the comments before I actually comment.

  • Happy Birthday, Frog Princess!

  • Michelle Brady

    Heather,

    As you celebrate Leta’s birthday, today and this week, let it be not just a celebration of her first year of life, but also of yourself. Look at how far you’ve come, how much you’ve learned, all the strength you found.

    You discovered how hard it is to be someone’s mother- her constant companion, her source of entertainment, her solace. You discovered and shared with us something that a lot of women still hide- what it’s like to be a mother with a mental illness. It takes all the strain that comes with motherhood and compounds it. I know, because I’m living through it, too.

    Your honesty amazes me, and I am so thankful for it, because it helps me (and, I’m sure, a lot of other mothers with small children who read you) be more honest in my own life. Thank you for making me laugh, and cry, and think “Yes! Somebody else GETS IT!”

    Happy Leta’s First Birthday to you, too. Congratulations on a job well done. May you share many more wonderful and frustrating years with your family, and with us.

  • Were you so worried Leta would spill on herself that you had her go topless before she ate any chocolate cake?

  • birthday suit

  • Faye

    Happy Birthday Leta…you are loved by more people than you could possibly ever know.

  • Amy

    Liz, that is horrifying that your writing teacher would ho-hum about ‘the abortion story’! I had an instructor like that once, in a LIFE WRITING CLASS, who said, “Now Ladies, please, we’ve heard enough birth stories in here to last a lifetime. Write about something ELSE.”

    It’s unbelievable. You bring children into the world and try to raise them to become decent grown-ups, and then some of them ‘dis the process. If we don’t take an interest in the process, how on earth do we do it right?

    Keep writing, mamas. We all need it desperately.

  • If we’ve learned anything in the past year, it has to be that the media is fucked. There is very little, if any, true “objective” media left. Watching the news or reading the NY Times is like reading “US” magazine. (which i do) You have to take it with a grain of salt, and a sense of humor.

  • Katie

    Wow, it’s already been a year? I remember the day she was born (or maybe a few days after considering what you were going through day of) and thinking “Oh yaaa… she’s an aquarius.”

    Anyway, Happy Birthday Leta!

  • hey eddo — thanks for plug! sorry, no new content for you yet. but soon, i promise.

    dooce, i hope you’ll address the weirdly dismissive tone of the NYT piece in a future post. i think it’s a big question actually … why is women’s experience (particularly parenting) so consistently dismissed, as if , gee, we all know what that is already, no one could possibly have anything new to say about it? i’m thinking about a writing workshop i once took (a useless one) in which the male teacher basically made fun of the fact that every semester he got at least one example of what he called “the abortion story.” as if that subject matter wasn’t rich enough to have more than one story written about it in the history of the world. i feel the same way about parenting — it’s a totally fascinating and life-changing experience that’s been happening in secret, without documentation, since time began, and now that people (particularly women) are starting to finally write about it, we’re all supposed to react with a big yawn, like, haven’t we heard enough from you mothers now?

  • Annejelynn

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  • Annejelynn

    despite the NYT article’s sick, distorted twist on blogging mommies… LETA’s lil’ sweet cheeked face is there for all to see!?! and after ya see a lil’ cutie pie like that? ya forget any of the negative gibberish in that article (at least I do)!

    Yea! Heather and Lil’ Leta!

  • Happy Birthday Leta! Everyone knows that froggie charms increase exponentially with each cake!

  • I guess my last post was too long, I should have just stuck with Happy Birthday LETA because the computer ate the other one!

    Hey Liz! You are awesome, now I have to go to your site and enjoy some of your writing….

  • I hope this gets posted right after liz penn from thehighsign.net- I love her website and she is a brilliant writer…

    I see the piano in the background there in this photo of Leta and I want Jon to play The Devil in the Wishing Well by Five for Fighting-

    Happy Birthday Leta – from Eddo! I can’t believe it has been a year already!

    Five For Fighting

    I met Jane at the center of the earth
    It was dark there was dirt all around
    But I gather you can figure that

    Jane says I’m your body in the night
    And I’ll lead you where you might find yourself
    Better if you follow me

    So go right you’ll be left at a big hotel
    You’ll meet the devil at the bottom of a wishing well
    You know you better give him something
    Give him something good
    Like everybody else he’s misunderstood

    Jane says it’s a long way out…
    I’m gonna make it out
    Cause I’m about her

    Jane says, you’re as Holy as a ghost,
    But who loves you the most, if you offer
    I might let you carry me

    Jane there’s nobody here but yourself
    In the end it’s the wealth of your spirit
    Now hurry up get on with it

    I went left I got right at some big hotel
    There was a devil at the bottom of the wishing well
    He said you better give me something
    Give me something good
    Like everybody else I’m misunderstood

    Jane says it’s a long way out
    I’m gonna make it out
    Cause I’m about
    Jane says it’s a long way out
    I’m gonna make it out

    I took a guess and cut a portion out of my heart
    He said that’s nowhere close enough but it’s a damn good start
    I wrote the secret that I buried on the wishing well wall
    He said I’ve seen one… it follows that I’ve seen them all
    We spoke of human destination in a perfect world
    Derived the nature of the universe (found it unfulfilled)
    As I took him in my arms he screamed I’m not insane
    I’m just looking for someone to understand my pain…

    It’s a long way out…
    I’m gonna make it out

  • when he was interviewing me, it didn’t seem like the article was going to go the way it did. how in the hell are people who write about their kids more self-involved than people who write about co-workers or other people who surround them every day?

    i’m used to this, giving an interview and the end result is WAY different than I thought it was going to be.

  • Reading the above comments, I see that many people agree with me — right on. And by the way: a happy first to Leta!

  • bb

    So is this some sort of a joke or something, that there’s no more appropriate dress for the 1st birthday than the birthday suit? lol

  • Sweet Lord Jesus. I just opened the Sunday Styles section and had the weird experience of seeing the most familiar baby face in my life, a kid I see more than my own nephew — LETA!!!– staring out from the paper.

    Dooce, that’s wonderful that you got the exposure, and Leta (and your hands!) look lovely, but I _completely_ disagree with the article’s basic premise, that blogging parents are some kind of attention-seeking, hand-wringing narcissists who are making too big a deal out of the experience of parenting, and that they should just shut up and raise their children. Sure, some blogging parents may fit that mold (just as a certain percentage of non-blogging parents do), but the fact is that no one is reading those people’s blogs, because narcissists are BORING. If 40,000 people do log (daily? weekly?) onto this site, it’s because they’re interested in reading consistently terrific writing by a thoughtful, interesting person with something to say. This website (and Fussy, and Finslippy, and many others — I don’t read all the ones mentioned in the NYT) is successful because it has something to offer that people find funny and meaningful and useful in their lives, not because we love watching strangers gaze at their navels. Is it just me who found the NYT piece kind of misogynistic, and dismissive of both parenting and writing? Sorry for the rant, but really, it bugged me.

  • PS The picture in the newspaper was adorable! Happy Birthday Leta!

  • cee

    Ahha, you guys had the good foresight to remove clothing before the ritual eating of the first cake!! hahah! Good memories! What a year!
    Happy Birthday, little Leta
    =)