the smell of my desperation has become a stench

Since she first did a back-hand-spring into my heart

My next piece about Britney Spears is up at Alpha Mom:

“It was once Britney got pregnant, though, that I really had a hard time believing what I was seeing: the many, many times she was photographed barefoot in public or looking like she hadn’t showered since last century. Why would someone as rich as she is, with as much fame and attention, walk out of the house looking like that when she knows a picture of her bra-less nipples are going to show up the next week in magazines across the country? It was less a disapproving reaction than a confused one, and I was fascinated with the anthropological implications of this superstar showing up in photographs screaming: PLEASE JUDGE ME HARSHLY.”

I’m going to open up comments here because I think there could be an interesting discussion about this. And also because I’m crazy.

  • randomkiwi

    2006/06/29 at 7:59 am

    I thought that was a good bit of writing, and to add my two pence: can people not just accept that someone with all that fame and money could have come to the conclusion that there are more interesting and important things to do than look pretty? why does this freak everyone out so much?? i like the fact that she’s just rolling with the casual, and let’s face it, with a husband like that, she’s clearly got more things to worry about than f’ing accessories! Anyway, i think it would be a ‘good thing’ if folk could lighten up on judging someone just because they’ve given up (temporarily?) playing at being a barbie doll – and ‘shock horror’ maybe wear an outfit more than once.

  • Cloudy

    2006/06/29 at 7:59 am

    I appreciate your perspective & you have helped me to have a little compassion for her, but darnit, that gum has got to go!

  • Sera

    2006/06/29 at 7:59 am

    I feel for Britney. I wish they would just leave her alone. She’s a human being. She makes good and bad decisions and has to live with the consequences just like the rest of us. She’s also very young. She will learn from her successes and mistakes. People should stop scrutinizing her.

    On a more superficial note, I think she should just let her hair grow out to her natural color. It’s probably beautiful.

  • pretendingsanity

    2006/06/29 at 7:57 am

    I’ve never been a Britney fan. I’m not sure why. Maybe because she came out when I was a senior in High School, she was my age and everyone was drooling all over her. But recently I’ve defended her more than I care to admit to. I feel sorry for her. Being a mom is hard. Raising a little one while pregnant is hard and doing it all in the face of the media has got to be hard.

    I guess I defend her out of a matter of human decency. We’re all deeply flawed, and we don’t need to point it out to each other EVERY WAKING MINUTE.

  • Jeni

    2006/06/29 at 7:57 am

    What a touchy subject Britney has become. I’m so tired of all the hate that surrounds her. I could care less that she married that loser. I think she just wants to exercise her own choices in her life, which is something I would presume she’s not really ever gotten to do. You almost have to respect that after all the marketing and pushing and molding that they have done with her, she’s willing to let it go and just attempt to live her life in the most normal way possible.

    The really sad part isn’t her choices, it’s the reaction to them. At every turn, she seems to be fighting and defending herself. It has to be difficult to not be accepted for your true self.

    Society is overly critical, harsh, and delusional. Britney’s problems only highlight our problems as a whole.

  • Janell

    2006/06/29 at 7:54 am

    Personally, I’ve never liked Britney better than I do right now. Part of my heart just aches for her because she is seemingly in a bad relationship, etc., but being a new mommy is hard, even for famously wealthy people! I think that it must be really hard to combine that pop princess with new mommy. Plus, if it isn’t hard enough, Sean Preston is just born and now another? I can’t imagine anything tougher.

  • momma 2 angels

    2006/06/29 at 7:55 am

    Heather, great article. She is a mesmerizing and adorable. So she’s a train wreck some days? Most of us have been at some point of our lives, especially during early motherhood. But we are not stalked by parastites with cameras who make major cash the moment we slip with our kids in our arms. I think she’s holding up as good as can be expected and as much as people bag on her, she still has that “thing” that keeps folks interested. I think she is a mainstay in pop culture and just watch, the tide will turn for her in judgement-ville. American’s love a good comeback story.

  • mrsjenna

    2006/06/29 at 7:54 am

    Long time lurker, first time poster. Love your site and read it daily.

    Love the post on AlphaMom.

    As a mom of 2 under 2, at times I feel as though I have completely lost it. Sometimes I can’t even remember what I did a minute ago…did I change that diaper? Not so sure, so let me do it again. What makes me sane? Seeing that celebrities have brain farts, too. We are all human, we make mistakes, and we try to learn from them. I almost wish some light would be shed on other celebrity moms and their so-called bad-parenting. I think a lot of moms would feel better about having their own brain farts here and there…

  • h2obaby73

    2006/06/29 at 7:53 am

    Heather, first thing that struck me was your comment on how harsh moms can be. I loved this. I laughed because you are right on the mark

    “Now she has to answer to the harshest and meanest critics in the world: other mothers.”

    My son and Leta are the same age. Ever since becoming a mom my self confidence was shot to hell, I questioned myself constantly and I can’t stand what I call the mommy competition. I don’t play the game of my son can do this and this, etc. The mommy competition frustrates me completely. Women in general are catty and harsh but when they become moms beware.

    P.S. This week I transformed from “Momma” to “Mommie”, I love it.

  • Me

    2006/06/29 at 7:54 am

    Heck, I know I’m not the only one obsessively refreshing this blog..but…

    2 more things (like I haven’t said enough, but hey, its a slow day at work):

    1) I hope Brit is ushering in the “brunette is hot, fake blonde is not” era- I love the new color

    2) I know K-Fed isn’t ‘all that’, but c’mon, is it really that bad? What have they done that Tomkat hasn’t? Or 90% of the other celebrities? Or most of us? Fallen in love with the wrong person? At the wrong time? Heavens to betsy…Granted he isn’t perfect either, but stop knockin it. You’re not married to him, you don’t know what kind of person he is, you’re only judging what you read/see on tv/mags.

    and 3) anybody want to bet that the next Brit-bashing photo involves Sean P. not buckled in to a Wally World shopping cart?

  • Kari

    2006/06/29 at 7:53 am

    Oh, Britney.

    I once loved her the way you loved her, Heather. I scoured the music video channels looking for “Overprotected” or “Don’t let me be the last to know.”

    I’m not a mom and I don’t mean to be a motherjudger, but what surprises me is how many people think she’s going to one day drop K-Fed and the weight and have a total image recovery.

    I see her aging like Elizabeth Taylor, so that years from now, we’ll have a hard time believing that this bizarre celebrity who cannot competently present a Golden Globe was once the Most Beautiful Woman in the World.

  • AlieMalie

    2006/06/29 at 7:47 am

    I cannot fathom how lonely it must be to live the life of Britney Spears. Wanting privacy for her family and child, yet continuing to put herself out in all forms of media pleading for said privacy.

  • Maniacal

    2006/06/29 at 7:47 am

    I wrote something about this on my site not to long ago. I hate being a link whore but:

    In short it said: Her son and my daughter are about the same age, and if I had paprazzi following me around all the time, I’d be on CNN everyday. And most of you would be too!

    Not a huge Brit fan, but people should cut her a break and the news should follow things that are important like the war!

  • Scarlet

    2006/06/29 at 7:47 am

    I’m still pro-Britney. I think she was trying to look natural for the interview, like she would any other day. Of course it isn’t going to look as good when she is all made up and spent hours in the hair and makeup chair. She’s pregnant, she wants to be comfortable.

    (The dark hair is good though. Good call, Britney!)

  • Fitzgiggles

    2006/06/29 at 7:44 am

    It just goes to show, no matter how many drivers and nannies you can afford – motherhood can make you loopy.

  • Jacko

    2006/06/29 at 7:44 am

    Oh, and I kinda like the dark hair on her…and now I will leave Brittney alone.

  • Vida

    2006/06/29 at 7:41 am

    I’m not a mother, but I remember my parents’ methods pretty well. I all but idolize them now, and they did some really stupid things when I was a kid. I got left outside the library for hours in the middle of South Dakota November. I bashed my head on every piece of furniture and every remotely sharp corner in our house. I ate a cricket, once. I almost drowned when my family was busy playing in the deep end of our friends’ pool and my mom was lying out on the deck. My brother noticed at the last minute and pushed me up out of the water.

    I could go on forever. After all this, though, I can still say I have and did have awesome parents. Britney nearly drops her baby on his head? So what? How many mothers haven’t done something like that? Baby in the car with no car seat? Yes, that’s stupid, and almost every parent should know better. But how many mothers have done something equally stupid that endangered their children’s lives? It might not have been a car seat, but surely in some other department…

    She might have nannies to help her out and all sorts of people worrying about her all the time, but she’s still a freaking human being. It doesn’t matter how many other imperfect human beings are fluttering around her all the time. She’ll still make mistakes. I don’t know a mother who hasn’t.

  • tusky

    2006/06/29 at 7:39 am

    I’m sorry, I don’t think Brittany is a bad mom, but her wardrobe shows a total lack of common sense…if she wants the press to give her privacy, she should stop walking around naked.

  • Tara Whitney

    2006/06/29 at 7:41 am

    i totally totally TOTALLY agree with everything you said. so much that my throat clenched at the very end. i feel so deeply for her in her young naive motherhood. i remember it being just like that. crazy, messy, wrinkly, and a lot of just doing my best.

  • alidancer

    2006/06/29 at 7:37 am

    I just feel bad for her – I am SO glad all my awkwardness was not put on public display (or, at least not nationally) when I was younger. Hell, even the awkwardness I have now…

    But to be totally honest, I would have used all that money to dress appropriately, hire the help I needed to stay sane and poised, and kicked that white trash husband to the curb before he had a chance to bleed my baby’s college fund dry. I really hope she pulls it together – all the negative feedback must be so painful. For all her mistakes, she does have an innocent quality that makes you root for her….

  • jellyfish

    2006/06/29 at 7:37 am

    Great post. It brought back vividly the first time I saw the video for ‘Baby One More Time.’ I was sixteen, and felt seized by a sudden and uncontrollable urge to roll my school uniform skirt up several inches, pigtail my hair and round-off my way down the school corridors. I contented myself with rewinding the tape (tape! my God) many times so that my girlfriends and I could try to replicate that incredible ‘growl’ she makes at the back of her throat at the beginning of the song. Hott.

    Being a child performer is a weird way to grow up, and it’s especially hard to mature from adolescnece to adulthood in the public eye. So much exposure, so young, is not healthy, and without someone keeping very tight reigns… people can easily go awry. I instinctively look to the parents and wonder why they chose that kind of life for their children and whose interests they had at heart – although I realise that in expressing such opinions about Britney’s mother I’m probably being just as self-righteous and judgemental as anyone who critises Britney’s own parenting.

    My gut predicts a huge comeback, but not for a few years to see it.

  • Bake Town

    2006/06/29 at 7:36 am

    I see people like that walking around here every day. Brit should move to Bakersfield.

  • HDC

    2006/06/29 at 7:36 am

    I agree with you fundamentally. We as mothers and imperfect humans all make mistakes and should be allowed to do so witout criticism. However, anyone who fails to put their baby in a safety seat while driving has zero latitude. That’s easily a fatal mistake.

    Granted, the publicity she got for thst one has done tons for publicizing chil car safety, so I suppose some good has come of it.

  • J I L L

    2006/06/29 at 7:36 am

    Amen, sister. It’s refreshing to see someone fumble through life as we all do at one point or another… If Britney could gain anything positive thru the harsh public judgement, I hope it would be for her to realize that she has lifted a weight off many women who feel inadequate as wives, mothers, role models. That even with billions, the publicists, sylists, and nannies…even then, we are all human. I hope someone has told her this…If we were BFF’s (as I’ve always thought we should be), I would tell her so…and maybe to throw on some shoes when using a public shitter.

  • Jacko

    2006/06/29 at 7:35 am

    I really think we should all take a moment to sit back and reflect upon the Comment Policy (d) Please leave Britney Spears alone.

    That is all.

  • Ashley

    2006/06/29 at 7:35 am

    Heather. I caught a negative commenter from your blog. He called me a boring dumbass. He commented as anonymous.

    My stupid little blog that no one reads, and I have a negative commenter.

    And I caught it from you.

    I think I might cry now. How do you do this? I might have an emotional breakdown for being called a waste of bandwidth. I have no idea who you’ve kept this site open with all the criticism of your parenting skills.

    I commend you on your bravery, and any other parent who blogs and gets shit for it.

    This is irrelevant, I know, feel free to delete it. I was just kind of shocked! A comment! Me! On my blog! From a mean person!

  • kalisah

    2006/06/29 at 7:26 am

    I enjoyed your take on it. I don’t necessarily think she’s a bad mom, but I still think she ought to hire someone who will tell her to put some clothes on aready and spit out the gum dammit before she goes on the Today show.

  • andrea0418

    2006/06/29 at 7:25 am

    Man. I don’t have any children, but I sit on pins and needles when the topic of motherhood comes up on people’s websites.

    The way mothers rip eachother apart and judge eachother simply amazes me.

  • m-m-m-mishy

    2006/06/29 at 7:22 am

    I am not a mother, but I am about Britney’s age. First, I am not a fan of her music. It’s just not my style. However, I don’t think that chastising a woman over every single thing she does is fair. Especially when ever single thing she does ends up in tabloid magazines around the world. I’ve made mistakes and I will continue to do so, as I’m sure Britney will. I couldn’t imagine how it would feel to have everyone critize me about how my husband is a loser and I should dump him while I am pregnant with his kid, or about how I’m a terrible mother because photographers detail my every waking hour but only publish the times when I look my worst.

    Do I think that she should have driven with her kid on her lap? No, because ever time I see that picture I can only think about what would have happened if there was an accident and the airbag went off. However, I can tell you that my parents weren’t perfect. My mother dislocated my elbow twice trying to get me into too small clothes and my dad turned his back for a second and my brother wandered off into a store in the mall (he was found and my father’s heart attack was averted).

    No one is perfect.

    Good piece, Heather!

  • Marlespo

    2006/06/29 at 7:20 am

    I agree with you one hundred percent. I accidentally locked my 10 month old son into the car in the middle of the summer and had to have the police come break into my car. A *total* accident, a *total* nightmare, and oh my God, can you imagine if the press cared about me? I’d be labeled a Terrible Freak Mom. I’d have Mommy Blogs ripping me a new asshole every 14 minutes.

    Mothers are the biggest haters, it is so true. Every mom has a story of “that bitch who judged me but ohmygod she doesn’t understaaaand”. So perhaps it is those attacks that make us attack back. I don’t know.

    It is why I avoid online motherind communities. It is why I don’t read parenting magazines. It is why I didn’t attend prenatal classes. It is why I don’t read parenting books. Maybe I’m missing out on some community by doing that, but I feel like my own community – friends, family, neighbors, blogs I trust – is good enough. Why go elsewhere just to be told that I’m wrong and that I suck?

    I love Britney now, because I see myself in her. The messy wad of hair, the not quite picture perfect marriage (though I must admit I think kfed is a bad idea), the reality of motherhood.

    Motherhood is NOT what Denise Richards makes it out to be. It is NOT what Heido Klum makes it out to be.

    It is you. It is me. It is Britney.

  • Jen

    2006/06/29 at 7:21 am

    That’s a pretty sweet article, Heather. I am glad you brought up the point that someone else’s mistakes, humanity and reality can be encouraging to other people, and I plan on viewing Britney in a different light from now on. 🙂

  • Nils Ling

    2006/06/29 at 7:19 am

    Heather said: “I think some of you have missed my point ENTIRELY about just how judgmental mothers are of other mothers.”

    I think she should have said: “I think some of you have proved my point ENTIRELY about just how judgmental mothers are of other mothers.”

  • kirgrowl

    2006/06/29 at 7:17 am

    i totally agree with everything you’ve said, heather. people are being way to harsh. where were the cruel words from mothers around the world when we were looking at video of kate moss doing lines of cocaine at 2 in the morning? where was her daughter? who was watching her. we are a land of hypocrites. at least she is spending time with her child and not leaving him alone with some nanny all day.

  • Jenners

    2006/06/29 at 7:15 am

    Oh after I hit the post button I thought of an incident that would have been fodder for the paparazzi that you all might enjoy.

    My sister and I had our babies 2 months apart–her first and my second. When my daughter 3 and a half months old, my husband and I went to his work Christmas party up in Pine Valley Mountain (we’re in St. George for all you who are southern Utah savvy). A highway patrol officer came in the restaurant well into the party and warned us that a storm was beginning and all those that didn’t have snow tires or chains, etc, had better take off now and GO SLOW. We had a little Geo Prism and hell yeah we went slow. It took us forever to get to my mom’s house to get our children. Meanwhile my breasts were like overripe watermelons with the need to nurse.

    Upon arriving at my mom’s I raced into her house knowing I would be getting a phone call from child welfare services the next day for starving my baby. My mom took one look at me holding my balloon-like mammaries up and said, “Thank goodness your sister came by.” Yes my sister nursed my child. While we may not be “country,’ but by damn we’re family and the paparazzi would have torn us asunder. Well I’m thinking of a finger for them; just one.

  • Charissa

    2006/06/29 at 7:14 am

    I’ve never been a huge fan of Britney’s,musically, but I really feel sorry for her now. I’m her age, and a mom of two, but when I have a bad day and don’t look my best or trip while holding the baby, the only person that knows is my husband. Also, my two are two and a half years apart. I can’t imagine going through pregnancy when your first baby is only two months old!!!

    And to have tabloid readers watching would just kill me. I ventured the two blocks to the grocery store yesterday with the baby in a carrier and my 2 year old in the stroller, but not buckled in. On the wipes aisle, he slid out under the snack tray and started to run away from me. I did the only thing there was to do and held the baby’s head with one hand and ran and hefted Wyatt onto my hip with the other and put him back in the stroller, with him screaming and splaying out his feet so I couldn’t fit him in. People were giving me looks and I just wanted to say “If you’re not going to catch him for me then mind your own goddamn business”.

    Poor thing, I just hope she and her kids make it through all this in one piece.

  • Creatrix

    2006/06/29 at 7:13 am

    Speaking of “airbrushed”, that Bazaar cover photo is so heavily Photoshopped that Britney is unrecognizable. She looks like her own much younger sister. A little honesty on her part would have been appreciated.

  • stephanie

    2006/06/29 at 7:14 am

    i just wanted to say –

    i was never a britney spears fan. and she’s an airhead. and i wish superstars would stop throwing around the phrase “paparazzi” like it’s an excuse to piss and moan when they chose this life. and she looks like crap and i hated that i legitimately could not tell if she was wearing pants or not in her interview with matt lauer.

    but i let out a big sigh of relief when i read that you didn’t think she was a bad mother.

    when i was a baby my mother left the stove on and the entire kitchen caught fire. my mom was on the floor with me and thus didn’t notice the entire house filling with smoke. thankfully we got out okay.

    later in my baby life she wasn’t paying attention and i flew down two flights of stairs in one of those walkers and banged my face on the concrete landing.

    but my mom is awesome, i wouldn’t ask for any other mom. you live and learn. everyone makes mistakes, and mothers aren’t any exception. because of this i was seriously shocked & appalled to see that child services had to investigate britney spears?! wtf. compared to my baby life, tripping on some cobblestones or having your kid in your lap while in a parking lot ain’t shit.

  • monkeyaker

    2006/06/29 at 7:10 am

    It seems that almost anyone who has sucess at a young age is eventually grown tired of by the public. We get irritated by their perfect life and long for them to show some signs of vulnerability or fallibility. Sick, but true. The entertainment media plays us like a violin and we ask for more. Everyone makes mistakes, and everyone has bad hair days (or years). Ugg up, Brit, we still love you!

  • anniem

    2006/06/29 at 7:12 am

    Part of me wants that “poor girl” to tidy up a bit. She is a public figure out there all the time for the world to judge. But, the other part of me finds it completely refreshing that she is so famous and yet so unpolished. It is very obvious that she doesn’t have a coach whispering “right” answers in her ear, and that is something way outside the norm these days. Congrats for not being a typical pop-queen robot Brit!
    Great writing once again Dooce. Anna Nicole next? HA.

  • Zoot

    2006/06/29 at 7:12 am

    Ever since Kevin “happened” – I’ve done much more cursing of her family and friends than of her. Why doesnt someone intervene? I have felt very sorry for her for awhile because, I married someone in a pseudo-desperate moment where you hope that it will just make things better, but deep down you kind figure it won’t. I worry about her and something think, “If I could just have a few lunch dates with her, I think I could be SUCH a help!”


  • MichelleM

    2006/06/29 at 7:12 am

    Just the other day I saw a mom backing out of her driveway with her baby on her lap and I was mortified. I did not, however, leap out of my car and start snapping pictures to sell to every gossip rag in the free world. Nor did I roll my window down and scream at her for being a bad mommy (no biscuit!).

    I think that most moms are just trying to do their best. And I KNOW that we don’t all agree on what best is. Being a newish mom is hard enough without being judged. And being judged is hard enough without having your every moment played out in a public forum.

    I have to say that lately I’ve been seriously thinking about how I treat and how I talk about other moms. I’m trying to take the “do unto others” approach.

    (How many of y’all pictured me doing “air quotes” as you read this?)

  • Mrs. Ricardo

    2006/06/29 at 7:13 am

    Well written Dooce (as always). Yes, motherhood has become supremely competative. It used to be that women helped each other, now, for the most part they just want to tear others down (to hide their own short-comings) and then kick them a few times just to make sure.

    I don’t really have an opinion on BS’s talent. I think it is wonderful that she does have a passion to have a family (and all that entails). If I had tried to do the same at her age I would have made mistakes too. She’s young, she’s figuring things out and unfortunately for her (and us) it’s all done in front of the media’s ever-watchful eyes.

    I’ve seen the video of her crying after she slipped with the baby and I wondered then (as I do now), why didn’t someone just give her a hug and make her feel human rather than just stare at her like a freak.

    She’ll figure it out – just like we all have. EVERYONE makes mistakes.

  • DivineDiva

    2006/06/29 at 9:13 am

    By nature we are judgemental, when we become mothers we upped the ante. We look down on those around us . People who show the slightest amount of flaws. When did we get blessed with the gift of perfection? Who died and made us boss?

    I am a mother of six children, I have been stigmatized as someone who is either must be an illiterate hobo, who can’t read the birth control instructions, or as some uber- religious zealot intent on taking over the earth with my seedlings. (really I am)(( taking over the world)) People just can’t seem to grasp the fact that I love my children.(love making them too!)
    The fact I am trying to point out is that Britney is human. She burps, has sex, farts and poops like the rest of us. We are so mesmerized by the air brushed, p.r. controlled person that we don’t really see the girl that exists on a deeper level. We don’t want to see her flaws or be human , because to be human just isn’t enough. Her making mistakes puts light on the fact that WE ALL MAKE MISTAKES. We squirm with at the thought of our insecurities being shown.
    Have we as women ever had our bra strap showing?,had roots, or God forbid chewed gum while chatting? Yes there is such a thing as manners , tact ect. But should we strive so hard to be perfect when we are constantly getting slapped with the not good enough card? Pop culture has become our Bible. Why? Why do we all have to conform to the norm that YOU MUST BE PERFECT AT ALL TIMES? Ask your self have you ever made some poor choices? Ever done something people tsk-tsd?
    Yes, she’s in the public eye but does that give us the right criticize to her whole life. Give us the right to play God? Judge her every move? Are we so dissatisfied with our lives that we must grasp on to hers? Life is too short to bitch about what she doing.

  • Annejelynn

    2006/06/29 at 9:08 am

    …”also because I’m crazy.”

    That got the BEST laugh outta me.

  • Msyvone

    2006/06/29 at 9:10 am

    Brittney has annoyed me from the very beginning. It erupted Mt. Vesuvious style the day I decided to spend my lunch hour shopping for a bathing suit. That is torture on its own. AH, but to add insult to injury, I happened to meander to the mall the SAME DAY, SAME HOUR as a Brittney “in store” appearance. “Hit me Baby One More Time” played consecutively for over an hour as I wriggled into ill fitting suit after another. 13 year old girls ran screaming all over the department, which was right next to Juniors. I never saw her. I heard she didn’t show up for at least an hour and a half.

    Brittney was on my shit list from that day forth.

    I saw a clip of the NBC interview. All I could think of was how my Grandmother would have had a coniption fit. Grandmother hated gum.

    “She looks like a cow chewing her cud!”

    And you know, she really did.

  • anneelizmary

    2006/06/29 at 9:00 am

    Generally, you have made excellent, insightful, and generous comments about Britney as girl, woman, and phenom. It is nothing less than cultural anthropology, this territory; thanks for covering it.

    Two other factors occur to me. First, as a product and then as a mother, I cannot believe how her own mother dropped her like a rock to promote her sister. Of course Britney may have banned her, but there have always been lots of friends and folks from home willing to share her fame; some of those friends and their mothers should be sticking around now to help her–if not into a polished older product, then to a more assured and graceful mother. This part of the culture has abandoned her, and she is too close to the subject and too conflicted to realize it (if she did, she would be enraged and we would hear about it).

    The other component is the uncomfortable fact that as a woman seemingly more mature in marketing than in living her personal life sufficiently discreetly to hide the belly flops, she herself is conflicted–she cannot afford NOT to care about her grungy clothes and shoelessness–the trailer trash comments have been around longer than Kevin and motherhood. It is a misjudgment about how far “reality” moments can grow a career which is based on careful staging. She obviously does care, since by fits and starts she makes attempts at growing her image. What rankles both consumer and consumed is that her sense of entitlement is bigger than our forgiveness of her. Her petulance at our lapsed willingness to see her as she once presented herself is a function of her training us to expect the one, and her attempt to substitute, the other.

  • Lauren

    2006/06/29 at 8:59 am

    Jesus christ, don’t get me started on the poor girl – I’d never stop.

  • Jill Murray

    2006/06/29 at 8:59 am

    Yeah, man.

    I’ve dropped my share of babies in my time. It happens. Them critters is wrigggly.

    I’m with you. I was confused at first, but I’m starting to get it.

    Everything perfect all the time is BORING. Up with reality.

  • saplej

    2006/06/29 at 8:59 am

    Even if she did her own hair and makeup doesn’t kevin care enough about her and her image(his cash cow)to tell her babe not that outfit.. that is assuming he is living in the house. It just goes to prove she is surrounded by yes men..
    yes britney walk barefoot in public bathrooms
    yes britney that looks fine without a bra
    yes britney it is fine to wear a bra with a backless halter
    yes britney kevin is a great guy and cute
    yes britney you should pose naked on the cover of vanity fair when you are in that stage of your pregnancy that just kinda makes you look fat and not really pregnant..

    On the barefoot subject… I am barefoot as much as possible in my life but not in gas station bathrooms

  • saplej

    2006/06/29 at 8:59 am

    Even if she did her own hair and makeup doesn’t kevin care enough about her and her image(his cash cow)to tell her babe not that outfit.. that is assuming he is living in the house. It just goes to prove she is surrounded by yes men..
    yes britney walk barefoot in public bathrooms
    yes britney that looks fine without a bra
    yes britney it is fine to wear a bra with a backless halter
    yes britney kevin is a great guy and cute
    yes britney you should pose naked on the cover of vanity fair when you are in that stage of your pregnancy that just kinda makes you look fat and not really pregnant..

    On the barefoot subject… I am barefoot as much as possible in my life but not in gas station bathrooms

Heather B. Armstrong

Hi. I’m Heather B. Armstrong, and this used to be called mommy blogging. But then they started calling it Influencer Marketing: hashtag ad, hashtag sponsored, hashtag you know you want me to slap your product on my kid and exploit her for millions and millions of dollars. That’s how this shit works. Now? Well… sit back, buckle up, and enjoy the ride.

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