• AshesVonDust

    You don’t have to be the valedictorian of everything :)

    Take a break, without guilt, without shame. We will be here when you’re ready. And I for one won’t mind it at all if you just show old Chuck pictures when you choose to post. Man, I love that dog! Coco’s ok too, I guess :)

  • AshesVonDust

    (Oh and I actually enjoy the Monetizing The Hate page. It’s funny, especially the woman who says your blog is totally sexy and promiscuous. CLASSIC LULZ!)

  • newgyptian

    I’m just commenting to say – thanks for sharing your time and thoughts and energy with us. That post you posted at the beginning of March (I think?) reminding us that this is the time of year when people prone to depression are a little worse for the wear came at exactly the right time for me. So, thanks and I hope this time off is good for you.

    And in that vein…about Cami. I totally get it. She is absolutely, 100% my favorite pick me up. I wanna know who are these Debbie Downers who don’t get why you keep posting pics of her! She absolutely brightens my day. And I’ll admit that now when I’m shopping for clothes I’ve caught myself thinking, “OMG. Cami would totally wear this!”

  • culotte

    Grief over a death when all parties are still alive is the worst kind, I feel. I won’t waste your time with petty language to let you know that I know the boat you are navigating. That means nothing when you’re in the midst of the shitstorm.

    Grief comes in waves that threaten to overtake us and one took you down at the gym that day. The waves will come less and less frequently, but they will come. And, amidst it, there will be joy. And laughter. And moments of special. But, you have to push through the darkness and struggle when you feel like drowning. Fight that black with everything that is in your soul.

    I found that throwing plates against the wall really really helps.
    Ice cream does, too.
    Sending you all the love I can possibly muster, o beautiful one whom I only know through the interwebs.
    All the love I can muster.

  • Julz

    Good luck, feel better:o)

  • Julz

    Good luck, feel better:o)

  • njuly09

    Breathe. We all deserve some deep breaths and respite. Take it without guilt, and know people still love you.

  • mommica

    Take a break, lady. And don’t feel the least bit guilty about doing it. We’ll all still be here when you get back.

  • judybeen

    Take it, Heather. You deserve it. No one can possibly mind you taking time to re-group and refresh.

  • kate the great

    You are strong, and you are brave, and you are learning all the time. You’ll be ok.

    Most importantly, you are loved.

  • MT2SLC

    Take your time, enjoy your Village. Breath. We will all be right here when you get back. xoxo

  • lemoga

    Take a break. Take a breather. Refresh. You deserve it. We’ll be here when you get back. I promise!

  • acm

    I will admit to intense curiosity about what’s going on behind all the quiet, how things are progressing, where you’re headed. But, even on a site as personal as this one, that’s my business only to the degree that it’s useful/fun/creative for you to share it. Take whatever time you need to get your life functioning, refill your well. We’ll be here, rooting for you.

  • phoneill

    Indeed – take a break. Maybe you could put “Alles Neu” on loop. That song is awesome, whatever the hell it’s about.

  • Wombat Central

    As much as I love a good Chuck picture (and they’re all good), I say just tune out the Internets completely for the week. No pictures, no words. Just you, your girls, and Chuck. And the poopeater. ;)

  • Brooke1214

    Thank you, Heather.

    Thank you for sharing you days, your nights, your good, your bad.

    Take all the time you need. Just know that we will all be here whenever you are ready for us.

    Be well, Heather.

    We all love you.

  • hkrieger

    Heather: I watched your segment from yesterday, and while you were amazing as always, your sparkle was missing. You had a tightness in your chin that for me is my betrayal that i’m holding in a sob. I’m glad to hear that you finally let it out.

    Step out, take a breath, scream, eat ice cream (or a paleo version), sleep…do what you need. We all need to avert our eyes for a while and give you space and peace.

    Keep it to yourself and if you want to share later on, please do. So as ACM says, the intense curiosity is there, but we can all mind our business for a while if that is what you need.

    Hugs from NYC.
    Heather

  • AJS721

    Go be with your girls, the dogs and Cami. Watch bad movies and even worse TV. We’ll all be OK for a few weeks and will absolutely be here when you return. Rest and recharge. The Internets are plenty large for the likes of us ;)

  • Coyote

    Rest is the best!
    Kick back and indulge in everything self nurturing.
    We’ve got your back :-)

  • Daddy Scratches

    FWIW: I collapsed and cried while doing squats the other day, too. Of course, in my case, it was because I’m a big pussy and squats are hard … but still…

    Hang in there.

  • mcbc11787

    I don’t comment often, but with all due respect, I have to second what hkrieger said. I, too, got to watch your segment yesterday (yay for holidays!) and you looked wiped out. Take time for yourself. You not only deserve it, you need it… now, so just do it.

    We’ll be here waiting for you when you’re ready to return.

  • shoebad

    *hug/squeeze*

  • soba

    Sending you and your family lots of love.

  • starlounging

    everyone needs a little vacation, whether it is a stay-cation, a trip, or a mental break. even self-employed people! and especially parents! please take care of yourself.

  • Angeerah

    Take all the time you need. Your well-being is the most important thing for you and your family.

    Hopefully SLC is getting warmer and the sun is out a lot. Get out. Walk, bike, mosey, skipt, whatever. Something about being outside close to those gorgeous mountains was always so revitalizing when I lived there, especially when I had nervous breakdown 2.0.

    Or just watch TV and veg. That could work too!

  • Rosie R

    I think you’re doing the right thing. Hang in there, Heather. It will get better. Take care of yourself.

    I’m trying to think up another comforting cliche but I think the well has run dry. I do mean them sincerely, though.

  • Essembee

    Oh, finally! I had been hoping you’d take a step back from posting here just to breathe; you put too much pressure on yourself.

    We’ll all be here when you come back.

  • mpt

    I find myself thinking about you often – I hope that doesn’t sound creepy. I too live in SLC, own a small business, am a working mother of girls almost the same ages as yours, and I shit you not, used the words “my tank is empty” to my husband of 14 years on Sunday night. I get it. You have nothing left to give. You feel like a crumpled shirt on the floor; lifeless, empty, lost.

    I feel I am failing my children, my company, myself. Daily. I’m ashamed. I’m exhausted. I’m confused. I’m scared. Yes, I may smile while looking at a tulip in my yard or my children coloring at the dining room table, but that feeling is fleeting. It’s not deep enough to “heal” this feeling of depletion.

    Where I seem to draw the most strength in times like these is from looking back at my life. Realizing that I’m not a total fuck up. I’ve accomplished a few things. I’ve always landed on my feet. I have a safety net of family and friends around me. I will be okay, I always have been.

    I also know that I have to go through this to get to the other side. I always do. I have to wallow. Muddle. Weep. Feel sorry for myself. Then, when I’m done, when I can’t stand the idea of crying anymore, I slowly begin to move forward once again. Knowing that the cycle will repeat itself, maybe in a month maybe a decade. I never know.

    Heather, please know we will be here – stop worrying that your livelihood will evaporate if you take some time off. It won’t. What if it actually grows stronger? What if this process you are going through gets you to something better, more rewarding, more fulfilling?

    Now that my keyboard is covered in salty tears, I will continue to think of you often. To root for you. To take comfort in knowing there is someone else in this city of ours struggling.

    Thank you for sharing. Thank you for being honest. Thank you for everything you have done in our community and countless others.

    mpt

  • tinahignite

    Take all the time you need, honey. You will figure out what works best for you, and it might take an hour and it might take 10 years. But you will do it. And when you’re ready, guess who will be here to read your words? WE WILL!! Hugs and love.

  • dianemaggipintovoiceover

    don’t forget to eat good food!
    maybe sign up for a community-supported agriculture CSA share!
    (backyard urban garden BUG Farm is super dupe!)

    spring is sprung,
    the grass is rizz.
    i wonder where
    my mojo is?

    take it easy …………….

  • Issa

    I get this so much. I’ve been there. In fact I’m almost to that point again, albeit for different reasons in this moment. (Tax season and a herniated disc in my back.)

    Take some time for you. I hope in a few weeks things start to look up.

    Randomly? The pictures make me smile too. Especially Coco, because I have the older, bigger, still kinda insane version of her.

  • Lauren3

    I don’t have any sage advice, having never gone through anything like this and being unmarried, childless, and 5′ 4″.

    But I do have George Takei:
    http://www.reactiongifs.com/wp-content/uploads/2012/03/tumblr_m0osrrhqMk1qzcv7no6_250.gif

    You’ll feel like George Takei again someday.

    Until then, remember that your people are here for you. Much love.

  • Daisee

    I’m gonna tell you what I sincerely know and what I have told my own lovely daughters when going through their own kind of hell.

    You WILL get through this, and its important to take care of YOU.
    And, breathe and know you are loved.

  • smashleee

    New music makes me happy too. Please check out my favorite band: We Are Augustines. They’ve been through quite a lot and have come out the other side kicking, you’ll relate. Their record is called Rise Ye Sunken Ships and while the themes are about a lot of heartache it really is uplifting. I hope it makes you as happy as it makes me. http://www.weareaugustines.com/

    Keep on keeping on. Love to you!

  • Mom Gone Mad

    Take a break and rest up Heather. We’ll all be here when you get back. For the record I’m always amused at the pics of Cami. Wish I could have the balls to dress like that, but I don’t. I actually have a vintage coat she would probably love that I got at a consignment store years ago. I’ll send a pic once I find a free moment away from 4 kids. Ha! It could be a while! If she likes it – she can have it. I’ve never had the cojones to put it on. No sense in letting it waste away in my closet.
    Keep your chin up Heather. It does (eventually) get better. I promise.
    Hugs,
    Val

  • Rike

    “Alles neu” by Peter Fox is about how he wants to change his life, make a change, stop with his bad habits and start new, so he wants alles neu (everything new).

    It might be creepy, we probably will never meet each other personaly, I am thousands of miles away from Salt Lake City, when you eat your breakfast I am about to make dinner, but you are often in my thoughts. Through this website you give allow me to have a look, a glimpse in your life. I am feeling like I am looking through a keyhole. I don’t see much, but what I see makes me like you very much and feel with you.
    Heather I wish you the best and I send you lots of hugs.

  • fableq

    Take a break! By all means! Love and hugs and best of wishes. I’m five months into the ripping apart of my family and I’m still not really functioning and still crying every single day. I don’t tell you this to make you feel bad for me or to scare you into thinking it will be like this for you but because if you had 2 days where you didn’t cry you seem to be moving in the right direction. The direction I’m so desperately trying to find. Let’s all just keep our head above water shall we?

  • Lola Begonia

    Dear Heather – take all the time you need, you are such an inspiration and role model and part of that means admitting when you need a break. I’ll miss the posts, I am going through an awful breakup as well right now and check the blog everyday for a bright spot. I also want to hear that the crying will eventually stop, that the adrenaline rushes followed by crashes will stop. I am keeping faith that they will and in the meantime trying desperately to put one foot in front of the other. Saw you on the Today show, as a consolation, you look GREAT and you really had a wonderful interview. Thank you so much for this blog, I have been reading for YEARS and wish you the best during this awful, shitty time. Hugs your way.

  • jbruntlett

    Your readers will be here (long after) your break. We all want you well, healthy. So take all the time you need. Sending healing, joyful thoughts your way.

  • nicolewhitehall

    I have only been reading for about a year, but I appreciate your honesty & humor with every post you write. You deserve a break to get back to the place where you are comfortable. I, as well as everyone else you inspire and make laugh will still be here when you return. Enjoy your relaxation. :)

  • ladygray

    Rest. Rest. Rest.

    Take solace. Breathe. Snuggle the girls. Do what makes you happy.

    Don’t worry about us! We are here. We love you. We will greet you with virtual hugs when you return.

    Love to you.

  • tooshay

    You rule. Moms rule. Working moms rule.

    I heart honesty and am touched by yours. You described how I have felt at times during the last year. My son was born and my dad died within three weeks of each other. I had a full time job and another kid to take care of. Holy shit. It is a lot to hold oneself up through trying times. You are doing great. I honor your courage, strength and the fact that you recognize that you need to recharge. Know that only that which is for the highest good of all is coming forward now and everything that has transpired is for your growth and upliftment.

  • Cateyez

    We are all rooting for you. Take a break, eat some Doritos and yell at Tyrant.

    http://www.ThriftyVintageKitten.com

  • cinrose22

    Hey Dooce, it seems we are all going through a rough patch huh? But you are awesome because you have your priorities straight. You need to take care of you so that you can take care of others, especially your sweet family. We will be here for each other while you take care of you. Rest, read, relax, nap, play, soak, eat, repeat.
    See you in a few.
    Blessings and love!

    Cindy

  • saucy bitch

    ::hugs::

    We understand, sista. (And some of us really, really love the Cami photos, too! She makes me smile.)

    Take all the time you need! And YAY! I love archives! :D

  • Libra

    So many hugs to you Heather. We’ll all be here when you get back.

    I personally love the Cami photos. She’s fashionable and daring in a way that I never have, or will be.

  • monkeysmom1

    I always refer to you as “the Dooce Girl,” when I’m talking about your website to other people. As if you are my friend, and I’m filling them in on what you are up to. For eg. “The Dooce Girl was just in NYC,” or “The Dooce Girl has a new book out I’d like to read.” Before I read this post I watched your Today Show segment online, and felt that the ‘Dooce Girl’ looked tired. Not to say this as a criticism, but as an observation of concern. Hey, it takes one to know one. I am glad to hear you are taking a little break. Everyone needs that in their life. Go do something for yourself and do what you need to do. We understand! :)

  • Eleven

    Ever since I saw this movie (The Help) I have quietly been whispering this quote into my little baby girl’s ear each night as I rock her to sleep. Now, climb up into my extremely ample lap and let me whisper it to you.

    You is kind.
    You is smart.
    You is important.

  • KathyB

    Proudly watched you the Today show. Glad you made it home alive. Rest up. And you know those tears wash toxins from your body. Maybe from your psyche too.

  • Pandora Has A Box

    It’s okay to take a break. In fact, it’s encouraged. Nurture and care for yourself first; that’s not selfish. It’s sensible.

    If I felt that it would be remotely relaxing or cathartic, I’d remind you that some of us will be in Las Vegas this weekend. But the mother hen in me thinks that what you really need is tranquility and lots of good naps. You know, the ones where the window is open and it’s raining and you can hear the birds chirping a little and all is right with the world in that moment.

    Peace and love.