• m

    It is so easy to be misunderstood or misrepresented in this world, even when you have the best intentions. I empathize. Keep writing. Keep creating. Count me in as a newly found fan.

  • http://www.jenandtonic.ca jenB

    no one should be allowed to be that smart and good looking. i only wish i meant chuck.

    p.s. lots of people still need to be told they are pussies and you will always be the winner of the fictional golden poop award to me.

  • http://footinmouthdisease.blogspot.com Naaman

    We love you Dooce!

    Chuck looks angry, by the way…

  • http://www.swirlspice.com Erica

    I think we’re all missing the greater issue here, which is when can we talk about poop again?

  • http://www.upsaid.com/krobb karen

    i think mentioning the firing is a very good thing. i recently interviewed for a job and after i was there, surrounded by hundreds of potential coworkers, i found out they’d been reading my site. i had to answer some uncomfortable questions about a rant i’d made about an anonymous coworker (not about her work, but about something else). it was really the first time i thought about censoring what i wrote. in my case, they liked the personality they learned about on the site and i think it helped me get the job. but, now i work there and obviously post very little about my job/coworkers. long story short: you learn along the way how strong words are and sometimes you fall on your face and next time you do it better. i’ve always been sensitive to the possibility mom and dad would stumble upon the site, but never work. now i know. telling people, “hey, be aware of what kind of trouble you could get into” is never a bad thing.

  • Katy


    what can i possibly say that 105 others haven’t already said (except those few crappy posters- fie on them!)? i check out your site every now and then, but now it will be a staple in my daily surf. i’m so proud of your honesty and loyalty to your values and your readers. bravo!

  • http://hairyken.hostingcentral.be/ Hairyken

    It’s easy to get negative critiscism: there will always be someone who doesn’t like what you’re doing. But looking at all the positive comments here, you must be doing something right…
    Keep up the good work and don’t let any of the mindless hatemail stop you.

  • http://hairyken.hostingcentral.be Hairyken

    Oh… And it _is_ a great picture… You really look good, Chuck… (the girl is nice, too)

  • pinky

    As my Grandmother wrote, on why to write: “If no one cares to read it, what harm? The pen speaks, the paper listens, and I am satisfied.” And as to the whole freedom of speech thing, of course we do have that freedom. But with it comes taking responsibility for the consequences of our actions. Speaking the truth and poking fun can cause damage or trouble, but Dooce has been right there copping to her mistakes and trying to learn from them, with grace and intelligence. And as to dealing with random flamers, I look to the great minds of South Park, and to those uncle-fuckers say:”suck my butt”.

  • http://www.antisocialdiva.com antisocial diva

    there really isn’t anything i can say that others haven’t touched upon. i know all too well what it’s like to have people do things just for spite, like listing my principal’s full name in their journal with some shit talk about me when i was teaching a couple of years back. negative and nasty people are everywhere. when we write about ourselves and express things and are truthful, there are plenty of people who can’t accept that, for whatever reason. even my mother isn’t talking to me right now because she “stumbled” upon my journal and now thinks i’m bulimic, which i’m not. but i think the positive outweights the negative here. so i hope you stick around and say a giant “fuck you” to those who don’t get you. and that picture of you is simply gorgeous.

  • Amy

    Right on Sister!

  • http://farkleberries.blogspot.com Lenka

    After reading this account, all I can say is – there’s a word for people like you.


    Thank you for taking such risks to be true to yourself. It’s more than the majority of us will ever do.

  • http://www.throughyoureyes.com Dyanna

    I admire you, Heather. I’m so glad you share your wisdom, insight, wit, and partf os your life with us. The picture is lovely, and it’s a shame it wasn’t used. Thank you for sharing! :)

  • Erika

    I also would like to have the links to these articles.

    I also don’t have a clue as to why someone would take the time to complain about soemthing no one is making them read. These people really need a hobby/life & or get laid!

  • xiolagrl

    i can’t imagine that i can say anything others haven’t, but thought i’d throw my $.02 in.

    i really enjoy reading your blog and hope that the small minded people in this world don’t get the best of you.

    clearly there are so many of us that enjoy what you do :)

  • http://www.slolane.org Angela

    I had similar problems with my site about two years ago. A co-worker saw an entry I had made about the fact I hated how just about everyone in the office was a racist, and said co-worker wrote me a nastygram stating her intention of boycotting my wedding as a result, which she did. And that was fine. You know, I think in a way I wasn’t as careful as I could have been because I was leaving the office soon, and I sort of *did* want them to know that I thought all their shitty ethnic jokes weren’t really funny. I suppose I could have said this to their faces, but I knew in my heart they wouldn’t “get it,” and posting a diatribe on my site allowed me to talk about it without censoring myself. If I had lost my job over it, I would have said good riddance! Who needs people like that around?

  • EC

    Well done.

    You know, it cracks me up when people accuse others of trying to boost traffic to their journal sites. Especially in this case, I mean, you pay for it, you write it, we just get to enjoy it. What is the catch? Are you selling something and are just so good at it that I don’t know I’m buying it? If you are, I want more.

    Excellent picture: a woman, her laptop and her dog.

    Take care…and thank you.

  • http://incensed.net Kate

    You look beautiful Dooce. Chuck doesn’t look so shabby either. :)

  • http://www.godtar.com Charles R. Kaiser

    There’s no way to say this without sounding like some kid of cyber stalker sicko. . .

    You are a beautiful woman.

  • Gary

    take away the great writing, the great layout and an attractive writer… oh, okay take away the interesting thoughts and perspectives and then what’s still here?

  • http://the.nonproductive.net/ Nonproductive

    Ya know, I’ve been reading Dooce since before you got fired over it and have always found it entertaining. However, it’s entries like this one that make me smile the most. Very insightful stuff…
    As for the picture – Jon’s a lucky guy. I mean, who wouldn’t wanted to be greeted by an adorable little guy like Chuck when he got home? :)

  • http://convivial.blogspot.com Heather #2

    Cheeken: I’m not able to speak for anyone else, but Dooce has gone outside of her site to engage me and have conversations with me, sharing things that aren’t shared here, and to begin to form a relationship outside the comments. I’m sure it’s true for other readers.

    Bushra: A new tagline, perhaps?

    Lenka: EXACTLY.

    Dooce: I’m not kissing your ass. You are a beautiful person. I am so glad to have found this site and I believe wholeheartedly that you were sent to this Earth to shine like you do. Stay true.

    Jon: You rule! Continue to take EXCELLENT care of her. You are her rock and you two are so blessed. (OK, you three.)

  • anon

    When I first started reading your post, I thought you were going to say they ran your photo without your permission, which is what the NYT did to my friend when they reviewed her memoir about her family, written under a pseudonym. Her relatives live in New Jersey, so quickly everyone knew what she’d done when they saw her picture alongside the review. Writing the truth is hard, but it MUST be done. If it’s not too late, I’d encourage you to seek a settlement from your company. The company-wide email is evidence that you were greatly valued until you told the truth. I bet there’s a lawyer out there who’d take the case on a contingency basis. Thanks for your return to writing.

  • Kevin in Seattle

    Just dropped by to repeat what I’ve said before – you’re a writer and a half. You’re very funny. You’ve got soul. You’re the illegitimate offspring of Dorothy Parker and Joe Bob Briggs, and those personnel who can’t take a joke can go elsewhere.

    Also, I’m entranced by the term “asshats,” which has already become part of my vocabulary.

    Ahmed don’t surf / KS.

  • Taylor

    H8r has a speech impediment. H8r has a speech impediment. FATSO FATSO H8R IS A FATSO

  • Your Correctional Officer

    Wow, that was such a productive comment.

    Sometimes I just don’t fucking get people. (referring to ‘h8r’)

  • http://www.eddoandco.com eddeaux

    Man, I can’t imagine what you must be feeling- I had a guy named joe post on my website- he read that I posted Moron and Mormom to be similar and then he scolded me- I apologize to the Mormons that may have been offended, (I just didn’t expect Mormons to be frequenting your site). Dooce, I love you, and your little dog too! Thanks for sharing and opening up to us and for being real- (sorry if that sounds too sappy)

  • http://www.eddoandco.com eddeaux

    Oh, I forgot to mention that he saw what I posted on this site- and then followed my link to my site- silly me.

  • Nona Myous

    Let’s get back to the David Sedaris thing. All you people who have an issue with Dooce had better get on Sedaris’s case right away. He says things about his family in print! Like in Esquire and best selling books and things like that.

  • http://www.asterias.net/vague/ Sara

    Heather, your writing rocks my world and is truly inspiring. Everytime I visit here, its such an orgasmic experience. Well, I have to go study for finals. I love ya, dahling. Oh yeah, my best regards to Chuckles.

  • bun

    $10 says the average hate mail received was from working class 40 year old caucasian women. it always seems to be.

    i’ve been reading dooce for a year, it’s the bee’s knees.

    everyone’s life has drama, everyone makes mistakes… if you waste your life living on your opinions about other’s drama you’re shaping up to have a pretty poor collection of stories for your grand children.

  • Bruce

    Now, I mean this in the kindest possible way…Some people and their dogs really do look alike.
    You may have become THAT GIRL for a while but good writing is good writing whether it done on paper or on a blog. No poop.

  • big fan

    dooce rules!

  • http://www.injust-spring.com Alex

    Chuck looks so dapper and grown-up.

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  • chewles

    thank you for all you do!!!
    p.s. chuck is the pope!!!

  • http://home.bendcable.com/macmonkey/dailybanana/dailybanana.html Chris

    Ohhh, that’s so stock art worthy… :)

  • http://anordinaryboy.com alex kidd

    i would sue. nice photo, btw. nothing is sexy as a woman and her laptop.

  • http://www.swirlspice.com Erica

    That woman! That dog! That chair! That NY Times article has obviously been all over the place (and I’ve seen it 2 or 3 days in a row in my daily NYT email) and this is all so crazy just to read. I can’t imagine what it would be like to be in the middle of all of it.

  • the media

    havent hit this site in awhile. seems like a lot has happened since the last time. anyway, about negative emails and comments, aren’t they more interesting? emails/comments that kiss your ass can get boring/annoying after a while, don’t u think?

  • http://www.hammerland.net Xanthan

    Has anyone else been receiving hate email or nasty posts to their blogs from people who think Dooce fans are a bunch of ass-wipes? It appears it’s another nasty side-effect of the national press attention, but an almost amusing one.

  • Kat

    you are awesome.

  • jordan

    well at least you took a stand for what you believe in too many people hide away what they think or feel. tomorrow isn’t promised to anyone so enjoy it while it lasts

  • http://youlookthesame.blogspot.com ylts

    (Long time fan, first time caller, um, commenting.) I hate to bring out the Velveeta, but that’s a great post. Way to stick up for yourself.

  • http://www.brianp.org/ brian

    rawk ahn girl! fight the good fight, because those who don’t, wish they did.

  • bit2byte

    with experience comes wisdom. look how wise you have become. the photo is beautiful. it would make a great framed father’s day gift.

  • Sheila

    to hell with the “high-minded” types and the negative emails…..please keep writing. clever writing like this is hard to find.

  • http://www.losvicios.com Joe

    Love the layout, you have an awesome mind.


  • http://aprilgem.com/log April

    I hope you’re getting plenty of nice mail to balance out the hate mail. If not, let us all know, and I’m sure it could be remedied. You’re one of my favorite web writers, and I’ve been reading your site since before you got fired. May this blog only bring you happiness from now on. Rock on, Dooce!

  • christa

    You’re great, Dooce.