• http://mutter.pixelkitty.net mutter

    Isnt it odd how people think they can attack someone they dont know?

    I feel for you Heather, I was reading your site for a long time and was entertained yet at the same time saddened and shocked when the horrible things happened.

    I also believe that when we post to a public forum there are risks involved. Before your job loss, I feel that we were all a little naive about those risks.

    Thank you, Heather for alerting us all to the risk and rewards inherent in personal online journals.

    And fuck those people who send you hate mail, when they dont even know you!

  • Taylor

    It’s not fair that you should have to justify your actions because some people can’t stand those that don’t walk on egg-shells for them, but props to you dooce. If you wrote a book, I’d buy two copies…HARDCOVER. Shake whatcho mormon momma gave ya…

  • Taylor

    p.s. You are very pretty, if writing and web design doesn’t work out, you could always model! You have very carved, softly platonic features. YAR YAR!

  • http://www.kevynnmalone.blogspot.com Kevynn Malone

    Chuck’s famous.

  • hobson

    u are beautiful and smart. good luck!

  • Valkyrie9

    Yar yar? Yar yar. I’m going to have to try that one on for size before I use it…

    Heather, try to ignore the hate mail. I enjoy what you have to say and am grateful for the glimpse into your world. I check this site almost daily and look forward to it. How many hate mailers out there have people who are genuinely happy knowing that *they* are out there? You’re great.

  • Allan

    You simply MUST use that picture for the back cover of your first (next?) book!

    Keep on keepin’ on.

  • Christine McNeal

    I am confused, what would hate mailers hate about your story? Why would they read blogs then flame you for having people read yours? People are stupid…. a lot!

  • http://www.cuene.com Ignatious J Reilly

    I read this once in a book about a hot dog vendor: “When a true genius appears in the world you may know him by this sign: that all the dunces are in confederacy against him.”

  • http://www.ericweaver.com Weave

    As someone who started blogging in 1995 and has had a former boss livid with me over his complete misperception of my intent in an innocent posting, I can relate in many ways to what you’ve been through. It’s great that you’re not letting it totally kick your ass. Be responsible to others, but also, be yourself, express yourself honestly. Your courage despite what’s happened is admirable.

  • http://zandria.blogspot.com Zandria

    I think comments are always welcome, as long as they are constructive and maybe give a different point of view that the writer hadn’t thought of initially. The great thing about people in this world is that we all see things differently than the next person, either because of our upbringing, or education, or any number of things. But when people decide to take a comment to the next level and use it as a personal attack against the writer, tha’ts where people should be adult enough to be able to draw the line (it’s a PERSONAL blog, not something published on a national news website where you’re basically putting yourself out there for anyone to attack you).

  • Sean

    I had a similar offline experience where my GM and Sales manager blackmailed me into divulging details of an “off the clock” party, which he believed some of the co-workers were at. This experience got me mad but he’s gone now.

  • Weave

    Oh, and by the way, as personal as it was, don’t let comments like those from PseudoJimmyPage bother you… chances are it was one of those absolutely idiotic beeshes that flamed you. So many people act like small children, living fearful lives, hiding behind anonymous rocks, throwing verbal stones. Stupid hyenas!

  • bdk&e

    Mean People Suck! – I do think people are entitled to their opinions without them what would we be able to talk about? But I do not think people need to be mean. You know what I mean? I see here today that you also have a lot of positive support. It’s nice to see that there are nice people in this world. — We love you.

  • http://www.rightmoon.com melly mel

    I don’t get people. I read that article in yesterday’s paper. Then reading about the “hate mail” (get a hobby, people! Isn’t there some women’s rights clinic you should be picketing?) I read the article again. Um, where’s the uproar? You’ve gone through hell in more ways than one, you’ve learned your personal boundaries and you’ve become an incredibly kick-ass writer. Thanks for all, doocelet.

  • trouble*kitty

    I think your site rocks!
    You are a wonderfully gifted writer…never let someone with a small mind tell you otherwise!

  • Donna

    You rock!

  • http://www.evegirl.net eve

    I’m really really glad you posted this. I was one of those people who was all ‘that girl’ (read: narcissistic wannabe-celeb cheap quarter-operated attention ho) mostly because I had thought you must’ve been one of those newcome peoples who didn’t really understand the function of a public medium and its consequences (I grew up in Silicon Valley and have worked in the field for over ten years – this makes me typically rather cynical, and not very forgiving, even though I should be, since I keep my journal online, too). But I’ve been reading since then, and you make me laugh. You make me think about my own life and how not-sucky it is, even (maybe esp when it seems that it is) and I’ve really glad to hear you talk about the experience of what had happned, because sometimes I like being proven wrong.

  • Pete

    you’re writing is excellent.

    but is the website really worth it?

    losing your job, alienating your family, all in the name of freedom of speech, or courage to speak your mind?

    writing mean-spirited things on your website doesn’t make you brave, it just makes you mean-spirited. no matter how well thought-out and aesthetically pleasing it is.

  • http://undermine.net/tracy/ tracy

    Some people express themselves differently than others; some of us doing by being snarky. It’s quite cathartic. If you don’t approve… well, this isn’t the blog for you now, is it?

    Dooce, I admire your snarkiness, and your honesty. That was a truly heart-felt entry. Don’t let the hate-mail get you down.

  • http://www.degree360.com/web/weblog.shtml Garrett

    I hope you keep writing here for a long time, for the purely selfish reason that I enjoy reading your clever slant on things. It sounds like you have your head on straight, so keep it cool. (And I’m with Allan, that photo would be perfect for the back cover of a book.)

  • Billy

    I read an article in the Times about Blogging. I’m not so stupid, but I don’t understand the concept.

    What’s the deal with blogging?


  • Hank

    Damn. Helluva post. All the best.

  • http://www.catchingon.net/ Jason

    Just another ass-wipe chiming in to say screw ‘em.

  • Nona Myous

    David Sedaris has made scathing remarks about his family in books, speaking tours and on NPR. Critics love him. Given this, please explain why people are trashing our Dooce?

  • Pete

    explain your logic there.

    i blurt out scathing remarks about my family so critics will love me?

    critics are total asshats.

    jeapordizing your relationship with your family, your career, and your own personal privacy just so a bunch of “asswipes” will say “you’re cool, right on!” that’s what it’s all about?

    sorry, i’m not buying that one.

    again, the writing and design here are great. i just think it could be pointed in a direction that doesn’t cause so much grief. it doesn’t seem worth it to me, that’s what i’m talkin’ bout.

  • http://www.dream-chasing.com Sara

    I found this amazing blog through the NYTimes article as well. As an 18-year old in the heart of the south that is Florida, I am so entertained and awed by your writing, it’s incredible. The last hour I have spent reading your rants and raves on life have left me in a rain-fall of tearfull laughter. There will always be someone who hates what you’re doing, no matter what it is. All that matters is that it makes you happy, or at least keeps you entertained. I am as well a blogger and love the attention of a blog, then again I love most attention – at 18, most of us teens do. But that’s not WHY I write, it just so happens to be a perk of writing in a blog :) I’ve written too much here already – I just wanted to tell you that I love what you write and am completely addicted. Keep on rawkin’ DooceGrrl!

  • http://translucent.nu Katie

    What’s the point of people sending you, or anyone, hate mail? So bizarre.

    Awesome photo by the way. Props to Mr. Smart.

  • andie

    Pete… get a fucking grip.

  • http://www.geocities.com/malisa_evans Malisa

    Fabulous picture!

  • Russell

    Great photo of great artist and her Chuck.

  • http://www.eleventwentyseven.com christine

    I’m now an even bigger fan than I was before. Thanks for sharing your thoughts with us. :)

  • Mel

    It’s time for a publicist Dooce. Oh yes it is.

  • dvl

    “If you don’t have anything nice to say, come sit by me.” (quoting Alice Roosevelt Longworth)