• http://nay-ners.blogspot.com Jenae

    I would probably get up and punch her in the face myself…

    I someone were to ask me “what would be the most awkward thing that could ever happen to you?” THAT would be #1.

  • http://WWW.NaturalFamilyCo.com Jenny Hatch

    “choosing to birth at home with no professional assistance or expertise can’t be qualified as either.”


    Intelligent? Informed? The dumbest moms I know are those who freakishly submit to whatever the status quo at the hospital is. By your logic, those who CHOOSE to give birth by c-section without medical need prove that they are the most uninformed mothers in America.

    All risks increase with planned sections…death (for both mother and child), infection, morbidity, permanent disability, and post partum emotional disorders. Those of us who are the MOST informed are the mothers giving birth alone at home with only our family to help us. Unhindered orgasmic birth is often the result, as well as a decrease in infections, post partum depression, and iantrogenic complications.

    But I support any womans choice to give birth where she wants. Just don’t call me and my friends in the UC community “unfit parents”. Many parents around the world are living with the long term consequences that follow medical birth nightmares. Two years ago all of the major obstetrical societies around the world published statements about our freebirth movement. I had a few choice words to say to them. Here is the link: http://www.naturalfamilyblog.com/archives/000944.html

    Jenny Hatch
    Birth Activst and Mother of Five

  • http://www.halalamama.com Halala Mama

    I know exactly what you mean! I was glued to TLC and Discovery Health the last part of my pregnancy. I watched the shows that highlighted difficult pregnancies in particular because then I felt like I was ready for ANYTHING (anything the doctor told me to do anyway). A guy friend of mine insisted that “Pregnant women should be banned from television and the Internet for the duration of their pregnancies.”

  • Eden

    The important difference is the quick availability of assistance, though. If you have a doctor or other trained health professional on hand, they can do something immediately to help should something go wrong. They are also far more likely to detect the beginning of a problem before someone who is a non-professional. Waiting until something is obviously wrong, and then having to wait for the arrival of an ambulance and paramedics, could mean the difference between life or death for mother or baby, or compromised health or permanent disability for the child.

    I fail to see the benefit of not having that potentially life-saving help on premises, especially when the consequences could be tragic. No matter what the odds, the risk does not, in any way that I can fathom, seem to be worth taking.

  • http://irenicembers.org Andrea


  • http://WWW.NaturalFamilyCo.com Jenny

    “I fail to see the benefit”

    Then I would challenge you to do some investigation into the reasons that families would choose to take personal responsibility for the births of their children. I can promise you my husband and I did it after years of thoughtful investigation and study. For us what it boiled down to is that we would no more invite a professional on our honeymoon to instruct us in the basics of sex than we would invite a midwife into our home to instruct us how to give birth.

    Because we believe birth is a sexual event that is conducted best in the privacy of our own home, we chose to birth according to our beliefs, privately, sacredly, alone in our bedroom. Our fifth birth was the highlight of our marriage together as a couple, and Paul was so overwhelmed by the energy of our sons birth that he literally jumped for joy when Ben was born.

    Here is a link to the trailer for the orgasmic birth documentary: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=h5bm9-B6Ec4

    What we are suggesting is a complete change in the approach that couples make to birth and how best to welcome children into family life.

    We have let go of the fear and embraced the truth of what birth always should have been, the literal climax of our sexual lives together as a family: http://www.unassistedchildbirth.com/sensual/orgasmic.html

    Happy reading!
    Jenny Hatch

  • SweetWong

    I will be forever trying to get those images out of my head. Yet, I am also addicted to those shows! Which only fuel my paranoia and anxiety. It’s form of self torture. You should check out the show called “I Didn’t Know I Was Pregnant”. You gotta wonder about some of those women…

  • Momo

    This is so hilarious. Two things:

    1) I am in my first trimester and my husband gently but firmly informed me that I am cut off from the “PREGTASTIC” podcast I started listening to, as it was, in his words. “bitchy and rediculous and making you even crazier.” Well…he’s right.

    2) We interviewed a doula who, after some chit-chat, asked me what my fears/concerns about birth might be. Going in, please know that although she was pleasant enough, was 26 and had never given birth. To her question, I replied(thinking, um…DUH) that my fears were pretty typical, that something will go wrong, and that I won’t be able to handle the pain, normal stuff. She then replied that (AND I QUOTE) “many women see childbirth as incredibly sensual and a life-giving experience! If you just look at it that way, and go in with a positive attitude, not all filled with negative fears, you can really change your whole experience!!”

    Hey, do you think we hired her? Or took away her coffee cup and showed her the door? Yes, option B. NEXT! Reality, please! Thank you!

  • http://www.shwanda.com Carol

    When I was pregnant with my first I was on bedrest and never got to go to prenatal birthing classes. I did have some woman come to my house who told me to imagine my cervix was a flower and that I could open it with my breath. What??? Later I watched a video that Fernando Lamas made with his wife that was really into natural childbirth and Lamaze. When the wife went writhing and shrieking into the delivery room I almost fainted. My husband took the VCR away from me after that. Good luck. Youw will be fine.

  • Anonymous

    Wow, Jenny Hatch. I’m sure your kid, twenty years from now, will lo-oo-ve the fact that you viewed his birth as the “literal climax of our sexual lives together as a family.” Because it is, after all, all about you. And your sexual life.

    I’m going to take a shower now.

  • http://stopdazzlingme.wordpress.com SaritaPagita

    You took the words right out of my mouth and said mouth has not closed since I read this post. I am not even pregnant and the thought of a doctor doing that incites some serious anger. All I can say is – they must’ve been male doctors. Don’t get me wrong, I love me some men, but c’mon!

  • faq

    Well, I see that today’s post has yet again brought out the CRAZIES in the commentary!

    But oh damn, that was funny.

    Good luck Dooce – I keep expecting to check in to discover you’re pushing and typing at the same time or something…

  • http://www.justmeandthebirds.blogspot.com Cher

    that is disturbing on many levels. please, don’t watch any more of the horror.

  • Katie

    Out of all the controversial things you’ve written, this is the first I’ve commented on. I only read about 5 of the comments, so I have no idea how the conversation has gone. I’m just annoyed that you called freebirthing a new fad. It might be a new fad to you, but it’s not to the women who have been doing it for years.

  • Becky

    Anyone who has issues with alternative styles of birthing should do themselves a favor and see The Business of Being Born. Key word there: Business.

    We need to take back our births and support a mother’s choice to have her child in the way she most feels comfortable.

    As an advocate for Natural Birthing, I really have a hard time with the Unassisted births,but who am I to judge. I only hope there is an emergency plan in place for the safetly of the unborn.

    Blessings with your birth,


  • http://apartmentbaby.blogspot.com/ Andrea

    So you totally touched a nerve in this post… for me it was my funny nerve cause I was laughing while reading.

    The birthing topic always seems to bring out the best and worst in women. We are quite unfair to each other and it seems that some people tend know the best answer for everyone. This goes both ways.

    I don’t think that this post by Dooce was meant to attack mothers who are freebirthers. There is more than one way to give birth. I have been with hundreds of babies when they are born in the hospital and there are some women who give birth and make it look so easy peasy. Those women could totally give birth by themselves! They would have a fantastic delivery. Smooth and easy. However, there are lots of woman who need some level of help and assistance. Even with that there are so many levels of help.

    I think it is pretty cool that we can pick how we want to birth. Just inform yourself and pick what fits for you.

  • http://dullfab.blogspot.com TED

    Oh your poor husband. Freebirthing sounds like DIY taken to an unhealthy extreme. I blame all those TV shows that make it look like you can easily lay your own hardwood floor. YOU CAN’T. On the plus side, the next time Jon decides to take on a project that you know is beyond his capabilities, you can just tell him that he’s freebirthing. If he persists, threaten to show him the TV show again.

  • http://treehuggersintheconcretejungle.blogspot.com/ Kristin

    Everyone who plans on an unassisted birth is not a freak–I had an unassisted birth a year ago in my NYC apartment. There was no drama, the birth was quick and quiet and my other 2 kids never woke up. Some of us just don’t labor comfortably in a hospital setting. Birth outcomes for homebirths are actually better than hospital births in the U.S. But of course, just like there are disaster stories for hospital births, they also exist for homebirths. I feel safer giving birth at home–sometimes interventions routinely done in hospitals make you feel worse and make you more likely to have birth complications. That said, there are many ways to birth, and you feeling comfortable and safe and confident in those who will be present at your birth is all that really matters–I wish you the best for an empowered birth and a healthy baby.

  • Anonymous

    The OB/GYN that was on call the night my son was born did the puppet thing. I was less concerned with the puppetry and annoying voice than I was with the fact that THERE WAS STILL HALF A BABY IN THERE and oh my hell get him out! Hope you don’t have to deal with this, or any other unpleasant birthing surprises as Not Maria makes her debut.

  • Eden

    My older sister had a brain hemorrhage, and without immediate medical assistance, she would have died or had to spend her life disabled by severe brain damage.

    Because she was rushed into surgery, she is now a perfectly healthy adult, and incurred no damage whatever. It was a terrifying situation for my parents, and the outcome was better than they could have even hoped for.

    I was born with airway complications, and had to have immediate assistance from the attending doctors, and needed to be kept in an incubator to assist my breathing. Otherwise, again, I could have suffered brain damage. Instead, I too am a perfectly healthy and happy adult.

    If my mother had chosen to give birth without the assistance of any kind of medical professional, my sister would probably be dead, and I would not be enjoying the life I’m living today.

    If complications like these never happened, then yes, Jenny Hatch, that type of childbirth does sound beautiful and ideal. Personally, I just count myself very lucky to be alive and to have my sister to share my life with me. And I know my parents feel the same way.

  • http://captainhambone.typepad.com Emily

    I just had my second kid in December and I am STILL watching A Baby Story. I can’t stop. Every day at 1 I’m compulsively switching it on.

    My favorite episode is the one where the doctor is holding the baby up over the c-section drape to show it to the mom, and there is GOO and BLOOD and GORE dripping right off that baby and onto the mom’s FACE. What makes it extra cruel is that it is a C-SECTION and her ARMS ARE TIED DOWN and how is she supposed to wipe PLACENTAL GOO OUT OF HER EYES? BLAH.

    I am sorry, I know that despite loving that little newborn baby with all my heart and soul, I would NOT ENJOY HAVING MY OWN LIQUID UTERINE CONTENTS SPLASHING ON MY FACE.

    (My second runner-up is the one where the dad tries to prevent the mom from getting an epidural. HOO BOY is that one dude I would like to punch in the gonads.)

  • Eden

    (*my sister had a brain hemorrhage at birth, that is to say.)

  • http://blog.yasmary.com Yaz

    I went and googled Freebirthing. And saw a youtube video. I’m in shock. Also, ouch. Also. OMG THATS FREAKING SCARY!

  • Judging

    I believe in being open minded and accepting – but not so open minded that my brain falls out.

    I am not a fan of the hospital-birthing-business by any stretch of the imagination and completely support home births with midwives or doulas or someone non-emotionally involved present.

    God bless those who were able to have unassisted home births, not wake their children in the next room and orgasm at the same time. However, I feel quite safe in judging as irresponsible their choice to not have an objective third party – preferably with some medical training – present at the time for those “just in case scenarios”. Putting your own life at risk is one thing, but its really not just about you at that point in time.

    This may be a stretch to believe, but there are those of us pro-choice liberal feminists who still have limits to our tolerance. We have come a long way from mothers having to give birth in the fields and go back to working right away. I just pray that all those who choose an unassisted birth have safe, completely uneventful, and easy experience.

  • Val

    Holy crap, that show sounds horrifying. I must find it and watch it!

    BTW, the comments are cracking me up. Your readers are HILARIOUS. Especially Betsy! LOL

    Can’t wait to virtually meet NotMaria!

    (My Captcha words are Cadwalader Dreyfuss… that sounds like an awfully good name….)

  • Mary

    What Jenny Hatch fails to mention, of course, is the babies who die during “freebirth.” Or as they like to call it in most of the world, “dire lack of women’s health care.”

    One only need check out some of the websites and discussion boards to see how competetive this gets. Homebirth gets topped by freebirth which gets topped by orgasmic birth. Then there is Lotus birth and did you eat the placenta and, oh by the way, I had absolutely no prenatal care. And on and on and on in the earth mother olympics. Conducted on the internet, natch.

    I’m pro-homebirth, pro-breastfeeding until whenever and so on. But every community has those members who want to be known as “the most” and in the natural birth community it’s no different.

    I competely understand the anger with the mainstream medical community, but I am under no obligation to pretend I think it’s smart to try and empower oneself via solo childbirth.

  • http://stopdazzlingme.wordpress.com SaritaPagita

    You took the words right out of my mouth and said mouth has not closed since I read this post. I am not even pregnant and the thought of a doctor doing that incites some serious anger. All I can say is – they must’ve been male doctors. Don’t get me wrong, I love me some men, but c’mon!

  • http://WWW.NaturalFamilyBLOG.com Jenny Hatch

    “This may be a stretch to believe, but there are those of us pro-choice liberal feminists who still have limits to our tolerance.”

    My question for you is, why do you care? We are the ones who have to live with the long term consequences of our choices, just like other women have to live with the outcomes from daily life choices.

    Heather has chosen to be a shill for Big Pharma by loudly proclaiming her addiction to Prozac and her use of this dangerous drug during pregnancy….do I care? Sure, I feel bad for her unborn daughter, and any potential heart problems she may have, but does that mean I am going to go on a campaign to convince or tell her I won’t tolerate her lifestyle? No.

    We all make choices every day that positively or negatively impact the health of our children. I am comfortable with the choices I have made for and in behalf of my little ones. I am so convinced that my lifestyle is beneficial to family life that I have dedicated a huge portion of my time to sharing the good news with others on the web.

    Perhaps one of the most trafficked portions of my blog has been the “Do it yourself homebirth debate” catagory. Without debate, and all of us living under the assumption that the medical or midwifery route is best, we limit the possibilities for supreme ecstatic joy when welcoming our children into our lives.

    I think that is really sad.

    Here is the link to that catagory:



  • http://www.becomingsarah.com Sarah @ BecomingSarah.com

    I’m the pregnant one and I’d be cancelling cable if I saw any of that stuff. I remember watching a birth on television a few months ago and I’m still walking around twitching and shuddering just thinking about it. Ugh. Sometimes I think that a serious lack of foresight goes into this whole “let’s have a baby” thing. I probably would not have been so enthusiastic with the ovulation sticks had I known what my poor vagina was in for.

  • http://myimaginaryblog.wordpress.com Zina

    I could not be more with you on this one; in fact at the beginning of the post I was already jumping up and down here waving my arm (entirely un-puppet-like, because I’m a grown person who’s not halfway stuck inside my mother,) saying “Oh, pick me!” because although I haven’t had cable for about 7 years, I still have to regularly gripe (as in, at least once per pregnancy, and I have five kids) about a particular episode of A Baby Story. This one was about a first-time mom who was obviously Mormon (easy for me to pick out because I’m Mormon too;) the clues were the extended-family photo on her wall of a vast number of smiling and matchingly-clad persons, and the moment when she earnestly intoned to the camera, “I just hope I’ll be able to teach my son everything I need to teach him in life.” So anyway, she went to the hospital to give birth and after about 4 hours of labor, her doctor diagnosed “failure to progress” and performed a c-section. And the poor dear didn’t even know she’d had a sub-par experience and a possibly unnecessary c-section. Don’t get me wrong, I LOVE a good medical intervention when it’s called for (my most recent labor was an early induction with an epidural, both of which things were possibly lifesaving to me and my baby,) but I was really, really bothered that some lazy doctor arbitrarily assigned such a short maximum-allowable time frame on a first-time labor, and nobody involved had the knowledge or experience or personality to even challenge him about it.

    (Looks around. Realizes is one voice shouting amidst the deafening roar of 311-or-so commenters, and has been fully swept up in own rant. Slinks away, but first makes attempt at slightly more interactive-type comment):

    I think Jon is right and you’d do better to turn off the TV for the next few weeks. Also, I wish you a wonderful labor/delivery. Also, I’d say I hate you for sharing that absolutely horrible Freebirthing scenario, but I understand how things like that must be talked about as part of PTSD recovery.

  • Rebecca

    I was a doula and the things I saw doctors do gave me nightmares for years. I had to quit being a doula after about 3 years because when the doctor would walk in the room I would have a panic attack and think I was about to die, literally.

    One time I had a trooper of a fist time momma… she had labored through 12 hours of induced labor, drug free, and just so happened to be 10cm at about 5:30 pm. HER BODY SCREWED HER! The Dr. comes walking in (wishing he was at home or on the golf course, I’m sure), no lie, didn’t even check the mom, just said to his nurse, “Go get the forceps let’s scare that kid out of there!” I am sooooo not lying! The mom flips out and says, “No! Let me try to push!” This first time mom pushes like a mad woman and the baby is coming down nice… she was on her second push, the head was crowning… For a first time mom that is fabulous! Next thing you know, for absolutely no reason and no warning at all the Dr. who was in such a rush, cuts the woman from the front straight into her ass! I mean to tell you she looked like a filet of fish, laid open. The baby fell out. The Dr. caught him. The baby couldn’t breathe because all the fluid that is in a baby’s lungs from being in the womb are naturally pushed out during a normal birth…. the pressure from the tight birth canal acts almost like the Heimlich maneuver, to get all that stuff out so they can come out breathing… Well not this baby. He instead got to stay in ICU for 2 days while they had to put tubes down into him to get the fluid out. By the way, it was NOT muconium… just fluid from the bag of waters he was in, in his momma’s womb.

    That was the last hospital birth I attended. I could tell you nightmare story after nightmare story. In the 3 years I was a doula I only saw a couple births that were uneventful and pleasant. Every doctor wanted to intervene and intercept and mess with what the body was naturally designed to do and every woman was completely powerless to stop her Doctor. Those who tried to make informed decisions concerning their body and their baby were treated like they were stupid, or like they were a bad mom for wanting to “kill their baby”. Heather, this is why women feel forced to birth their babies at home with out medical assistance; because to invite modern medicine into your birth experience is to invite a total lack of control into your birth. Once you step into a hospital you are no longer in control of your body or your birth, no matter what your doctor tells you when you are sitting in his office in your first trimester… when it comes to Birth Day, it is a totally different story all together. Your birth plan doesn’t mean a single thing, most of the time.

  • Charlene

    Heather…you crack me up. I am dying w/ laughter, tears coming out of my eyes at this post. I just gave birth a month ago (in a hospital) and am glad that my doctor didn’t wave my baby’s arm at me. I’m on a mission to find that at home birth show to watch.

  • Leigh Anne

    I hate the freebirthing show. It makes homebirths look bad. Homebirths are very safe as long as there is a trained midwife or other professional there. Shows like that irritate the crap out of me.

    And don’t get me started on how doctors treat newborns or their mothers…garrrr….

    easy labor vibes to you….

  • http://dinnerwithjulie.com Julie

    I was in the hospital post-surgery (pre-baby) and the TV was STUCK ON, ON THAT CHANNEL for two days before the guy in charge of the TVs made it in to turn it off. Nonstop Baby Story-Wedding Story-for 48 hours on heavy painkillers.

  • Sara

    I haven’t seen it yet, but don’t let Jon set the controls before you check out “I didn’t know I was pregnant.” I can only assume that these are reenactments (for obvious reasons), but I can’t wait to see it and I have only 7 weeks left before pregnancy hormones no longer justify my obsession.

    Good luck with the birth!

  • Savanah

    …my loins keep clenching…

  • Kelly

    Have you seen the Ricki Lake documentary on home birth? (It’s not her documentary, but they do show her home birth.) It is horrifying. Especially in places where they make the mother’s experience of the birth a priority and think that people obsess too much about “the health of the baby.” I couldn’t turn away, but ugh. These women act like it was a great experience and romanticize the pain, but maybe they need to watch their own footage again.

  • http://taplinwebdesign.com.au web designer

    Wow. Great visuals Dooce. Now I never want to have kids and I don’t think I like doctors anymore.


  • http://www.yetanotherheather.blogspot.com/ Heather

    Oh my god this was hilarious. I keep checking your blog- I feel like we’re on Armstrong Birthwatch 2009, and it needs some really awesome CNN graphics and theme music to go with it (think “Miracle on the Hudson” or “Decision 2008″). As for me, well, I haven’t had kids so I can’t speak to whether or not I’d do home birth or go to the hospital (probably hospital because I’m a worrier and I can just see myself having a freakout panic attack in the middle of giving birth). But that show sounds downright scary and A Baby Story always makes me cry so I don’t let myself watch it. :)

  • http://myimaginaryblog.wordpress.com Zin

    I jumped into my rant without even glancing at the other comments, and now that I’ve glanced, duh, OF COURSE it’s a big pro-or-con Freebirthing debate by now. And of course I can’t resist jumping in:

    I wish I had bookmarked a site I stumbled across a while ago that was a blog kept by a healthcare professional (ob/gyn, I think) that was dedicated to opposing homebirths, and who made, in my opinion, a very compelling case. She’d been following a particular homebirthing forum and counting the births and deaths reported on that forum, and the percentage of homebirth neonatal fatalities was MUCH larger amongst the homebirthers. She told a story in which a pregnant woman had written, on the homebirthing forum, “I’m overdue [I think she was 9 days overdue at that point] and my doctor’s really pressuring me to be induced.” The women on the forum all told her not to let her doctor bully her and that the baby would come when it was naturally ready to do so. And a few days later she came back and reported that her baby had died.

    Sorry, I know, that was worse than watching cable, and now Jon will have to ban me, too.

    I did just make an effort to track down the site I was remembering, and I think other commenters might have already referenced it:


    Ah, wait — she’s now moved to a different blog:


    (I’m pretty sure this is the one I had read part of.)

  • Joy

    Three months ago, I birthed my baby at a birthing center with a midwife (in a tub no less), and yes, it was the hardest thing I’ve ever done, but also the most rewarding/amazing experience I’ve ever known. However, I would NEVER do free birth for “D” all the above reasons.

    All the best with your birth, I’m sure you will kick ass. I was 10 days late and by the end of it began to question whether or not I was actually pregnant, maybe it was a tumor, but it wasn’t. ;)

  • Briton

    I am sickened to learn that there is a new fad where women give birth without any skilled attendant present at all. I don’t care if women choose to give birth at home – I totally get that and I understand it and I support it. BUT, I only support it if there is someone there who knows what the F* they’re doing. There ARE risks during labor and delivery. Plain and simple, the end. And you don’t always know what the risks are until it happens. And yes there are risks to having your baby in a hospital, but the risks are not fatal like they are with not using a skilled attendant. There are risks to the mother and there are risks to the baby. Hundreds of thousands of women and infants die around the world because they didn’t have a skilled birth attendant with them who knew to use a sterilized knife to cut the cord, or who didn’t know the signs of hemorrhaging or respiratory distress. I work in developing countries advocating for the use of skilled birth attendants which is proven to save lives. It makes me sick that educated women who have access to excellent medical care and skilled midwives would choose to put themselves and their child at risk like this.

  • https://flirtingwiththeaword.blogspot.com coleen

    i totally have seen that freebirthing show. that lady with the “can you pull my placenta out”? yeah she lives in my state. about 100 miles away. as if people don’t think that colorado is crazy enough with our weird laws about not smoking outside.

    what i love about that particular episode? how she resists everything UNTIL…her placenta isn’t coming out. goes to the hospital like, hum drum, gotta get this thing out. come on kids! everyone in the car. she makes colorado seem so effing white trash. the other one i love about that episode? the lady who gives birth almost silently. like WTF? are you a human being or a crazy alien creature?

  • Mary

    Jenny, Do you have any idea how ridiculous you sound with your alligator tears for Dooce’s unborn child when you champion your own children being born into conditions that mimic the highest infant mortality rates in the world?

    As I said, I’m a big supporter of homebirth, midwifery and so on. Your language keeps giving you away, “we have to live with the consequences…” No, it’s not “we” because the baby that could have been saved by the most basic of care does not live. And if it’s you who dies, it’s the children you leave behind who have to live with it.

    I don’t admire people who take risks with their kids to prove how radical/enlightened/open minded they are. Not in this case, not in anycase.

  • http://captainhambone.typepad.com Emily

    Oh, and I have to add, a friend of mine had a homebirth with a trained midwife and everything was perfectly fine, she did great, blah blah blah no judgment here, that’s the way she wanted it… BUT they had to store the placenta in the freezer so it wouldn’t stink (I don’t remember the rules about disposing them, but I’m pretty sure it’s considered biohazardous waste) and ANYWAY, the point is that the midwife put the placenta in a baggie and then took the time to fashion the umbilical cord into a HEART before freezing it.

  • Judging

    I care because when people take extreme personal risks they put the burden of the potential outcomes of those choices on society at large. The choice is yours, but to demand that others support your choice including the possible negative outcomes is very selfish. To not mitigate the potential risks is like a motorcyclist driving without a helmet- a fine choice as long as the road is clear and nothing unexpected happens, but if things don’t go right the rider isn’t the one picking up the peices. I’m not saying one shouldn’t be free to choose there own way, only that to not take precautionary measures, even small ones like having a doula or midwife present, is selfish and foolhardy. In most cultures, even before the medical establishment became an entity unto itself, there was a woman in the community who assisted with births. It’s about being more then just a family- it’s about being part of a society.

  • http://onepingonly.blogspot.com/ Maura

    You have just described in your inimitable way why I do not watch ANY of that shit on TV. Why watch stuff that just makes you angry?

    Wishing you, Jon and Leta all the best as the birth day approaches. I, for one, feel a little “Ooh!” whenever I see a tweet from Jon lately, thinking it could be “the one.” :-)

  • Stephanie

    I can’t get enough of those shows either! My husband feels the same as Jon.

    That freebirthing show is just crazy! I really can’t understand why a woman would put herself in that much danger, let alone her baby!!??!! CRAZY!

  • http://kristanhoffman.com/ Kristan

    LOL to Kristen aka Comment #10!!!!

  • http://theboldsoul.com The Bold Soul

    “because otherwise I would one day show up at her house with a crowbar and then spend the rest of my life appealing an assault conviction.”

    No court would convict you. In fact, I’d rather hope they’d convict the doctors and nurses because that has GOT to be some form of medical malpractice with that sort of cutesy behavior.