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Eleven years

Today is the eleventh birthday of this website.

Some of you have been reading since the beginning, since I was single and living alone in Los Angeles working as a web designer, back when I thought that children might not ever be a part of my life. Remember when you could drop someone off at the airport and walk them to their gate? Or meet them eagerly as they walked off of the plane? So does my website.

Some of you started reading after I got married, some when I got pregnant for the first time. Some of you found this website after I gave birth to my little frog baby. And then there was the postpartum depression, the hospital, the years of my child teaching me what it means to be human. That child is now old enough to be baptized in the Mormon Church. But even if you've only been reading for a month you can probably guess that baptism, particularly into the Mormon Church, is on a list of things she gets to choose to do when she's old enough to make decisions that big. You know, like skydiving. Or a forehead tattoo. Or, oh God, thinking it's a good idea to move to Nevada.

From living in my mother's basement to the first house, the second house, to the current residence. So much change. More change than you'd find in between your couch cushions and in the junk drawer combined. More change than the shape of Joan Rivers' face.

More than anything else this website has chronicled all that change. The unbridled spirit of 25-year-old Heather Hamilton still powers the heart of 36-year-old Heather Armstrong, but damn am I ever glad to be eleven years older, wiser, and well, different. Yes, different. I feel so much more settled into my skin and confident in the way I move my body through my life. I've got way more wrinkles, a ton of gray hair, and it takes a lot longer to recover from a late night out, but who cares about any of that when I now possess an increased ability to identify and shrug off the things that don't matter.

A lot of that is age, but most of it is the responsibility of having children and supporting two employees. They are why I am so different.

Two kids and four adults now count on these pages to feed them. I won't lie, that's a lot of pressure. Sometimes that pressure doesn't faze me, and then sometimes the stress of it puts me to bed very early without dinner because it's killed my appetite. But I always come back to one thing, the one fundamental thing that keeps me from walking away: I love doing this.

I love telling stories.

This is the story of how I've changed, how I continue to change. Sure, some of you don't like where I was, or where I am, or where you assume I'll be a year from now. And that's fine. But I can promise you this: every word has come from the deepest part of me, and it always will.

I think of you as the group I'd invite over for dinner on a Friday night, and what I write here are the stories I'd tell you when you asked about my week. It's always been that way. And no matter where you jumped in and started following along, no matter if you left and came back because something made you furious, I'm going to ask you to stay and have another drink. There's so much more to share with each other.

Thank you for coming over.

02.27.2012 Daily 144 comments

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  • Cateyez said:

    Cheers!
    I've been reading your blog for years. You've given me lots of laugh-out-loud moments at work. :)

    www.ThriftyVintageKitten.com

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    02.27.12 - 02:48 PM / 1
  • Becky Cochrane said:

    Thanks for inviting us. Happy blog-iversary.

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    02.27.12 - 02:48 PM / 2
  • deannamil said:

    *sigh* I remember you from Los Angeles, pre all of it. Wow Eleven Years! You just just keep on writing and I will keep on reading! Happy Anniversary!

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    02.27.12 - 02:49 PM / 3
  • Lo The Phoenix said:

    Thank you! Congratulations on eleven years, and wishes for many more.

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    02.27.12 - 02:53 PM / 4
  • Katie said:

    Congratulations Heather! You have so much to be proud of.

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    02.27.12 - 02:53 PM / 5
  • melnyc said:

    This makes me feel old. Thanks for the laughs, and the tears. Please, keep writing. Wishing you a happy and peaceful year.

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    02.27.12 - 02:54 PM / 6
  • abbergail said:

    Hurray, congratulations on the anniversary, Heather! I'd say I joined in reading about 7 years ago, and I've enjoyed every minute. Thanks for sharing with us, keep being awesome.

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    02.27.12 - 02:54 PM / 7
  • NecessaryIndulg said:

    Thank you for the laughs & the tears. Happy 11th Heather!

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    02.27.12 - 02:55 PM / 8
  • gingergerbera said:

    Thank you for your hard work, dedication and sacrifice for the past 11 years. I've been with you from the beginning and I'll stay until you kick us all out of your house.

    Also, to you and your beautiful family - best wishes for all of you through this new chapter of your lives.

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    02.27.12 - 02:55 PM / 9
  • Babee_bubu said:

    you really are just unique...

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    02.27.12 - 02:57 PM / 10
  • Katie D said:

    You are wonderful and amazing and deserve all the success in the world. Congratulations and thank you for sharing your life with us all. :)

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    02.27.12 - 02:57 PM / 11
  • The Dalai Mama said:

    You're such a fabulous host. Thanks for having us all over--even though we never help clean up.

    Happy Anniversary.

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    02.27.12 - 02:59 PM / 12
  • Pandora Has A Box said:

    Congratulations on eleven years!

    I love you. In a non-creepy way.

    Also, if I come over for a drink, I really like Tanqueray and tonic with a lime wedge. FYI.

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    02.27.12 - 02:59 PM / 13
  • hybridshadow said:

    I didn't start reading 11 years ago, but when I found this blog last spring, I did read all 11 years! (because I have no life... and it was addicting.) I read from most recent to the oldest, which meant no surprises for me!

    Thank you for inviting us into your life. I hope that it has been as rewarding for you as it has been for us. I know you have had your ups and downs with followers (or one-time viewers) but I am glad you haven't given up on blogging. You are amazing, Heather, and I am honored to be considered a "friday night dinner" crowd. You're welcome to come to my house for friday night dinner, too, but I don't see any reason why you'd want to come to Indiana. :)

    We love you, Heather!

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    02.27.12 - 02:59 PM / 14
  • HooliaAnn said:

    Yay! Eleven years!!!!!!!!!!! That's a lot of exclamation points but I think you deserve it. Happy Dooceiversary!

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    02.27.12 - 03:00 PM / 15
  • ScooterMarie said:

    I've read all your posts, all 11 years' worth, and I'm so glad you're still writing! Here's to 11 more, and beyond that...

    P.S. What time are drinks on Friday? I'll be there!

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    02.27.12 - 03:01 PM / 16
  • Laurie13 said:

    Thanks for having me and bringing so much joy, laughter and heartfelt honesty into my life.

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    02.27.12 - 03:03 PM / 17
  • AndreaMarie said:

    I'm not a Mom and I haven't been married, but I love your style of writing and the way you can tell a story. That's what kept me coming back. You're funny and real. I'm in it for the long haul. Thank you Heather. =)

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    02.27.12 - 03:03 PM / 18
  • poopinginpeace said:

    Congrats on 11 years! I have been here for at least 8 of those years and feel like I've been to dinner at your house on a Friday night, had to much wine and stayed in the lovely guest room, sponsored by Ikea on more than one occasion. Keep doing what you do. You even inspired me to start my own blog. http://poopinginpeace.blogspot.com/ Something I LOVE and have been doing for almost three years myself. So after we hang out at your place on Friday night, feel free to come over and listen to my stories on Saturday afternoon with a beer and a hot dog. Because I've been reading this blog for 8 years and know how much you love a good hot dog. Keep up the great work and thanks for sharing!

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    02.27.12 - 03:05 PM / 19
  • Jess518 said:

    Happy Blog Birthday! I started reading around the time Marlo was born. I don't recall what brought me here, but I'm so glad I found you! Thank you for always being open and honest with your readers.

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    02.27.12 - 03:06 PM / 20
  • Angeerah said:

    No, thank you. You have sort of saved me several times with your writing. And pass the bread and butter, you paleo nut you!

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    02.27.12 - 03:10 PM / 21
  • nikkiana said:

    It's funny. I can't remember when I started reading your blog. Probably sometime after you got fired and it became a thing to say that someone got "dooced" and I figured I ought to go investigate where the hell that term came from before I started using it.

    Hard to believe that was ten years ago yesterday.

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    02.27.12 - 03:11 PM / 22
  • Miss Wistari said:

    Pour me a 'double' and let's watch the sunrise ...on another 11years.

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    02.27.12 - 03:12 PM / 23
  • waitimaprincess said:

    And just like that I'm drunk and needing to stay overnight in the Ikea room.

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    02.27.12 - 03:15 PM / 24
  • Jeca51601 said:

    I think I started reading this blog after Leta was born... I came here from CNN website, they were talking about you being fired, mental institution, wickedly fun writing and I thought, "Well, let’s check it out...”
    Years later, yours is the only blog I follow. If you ask me why, I have no idea. Plenty of funny people out there.

    But I think it may have something to do with the fact that you always say exactly what I think, but couldn't find the words.

    When Marlo was born, a little bit after my second daughter (they can be twins, if not in looks then in personality...), you said something (paraphrasing now...) " Leta thought me what it means to be a parent, and Marlo thought me what it means to be a mother". Never, ever has anybody said something that so reflected my feelings so truly. Ever. And I always quote that whenever somebody asks me why I read your blog.

    So, here's to you, Heather B. Amstrong (nee Hamilton). May you be happy and healthy, always have your family and friends close by, and a warm home to come back to.

    Cheers!
    Jelena

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    02.27.12 - 03:16 PM / 25
  • cgreene said:

    Congratulations Heather!

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    02.27.12 - 03:17 PM / 26
  • erwinm said:

    Wow congrats on 11 years! I started reading your blog about 5 years ago. I love it so much. I just randomly clicked through some old archives that I've never read and happened to find some puppy pictures of Chuck from September of 2002. Adorable. Please don't stop writing!

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    02.27.12 - 03:18 PM / 27
  • minidiver125 said:

    Cheers, Heather, and here's to many, many more anniversaries together. You are still one of the best reads on the Internet!

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    02.27.12 - 03:18 PM / 28
  • kmpinkel said:

    Thanks for having me. I stumbled upon you when I was looking for a wedding photographer and yours and Jon's image came up-obviously pre-chrome, I mean how does that happen? Been with you ever since. Feels kind of like I was a hitch hiker you picked up on a honeymoon road trip. I'll be glad to finally sleep in your guestroom. Marlo is a bitch to sleep with!

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    02.27.12 - 03:19 PM / 29
  • Caren Lynn Cross said:

    Aw! So glad you're still here telling us stories. Don't ever stop. Congratulations on 11 years.

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    02.27.12 - 03:19 PM / 30
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