Heater, Mother of Lance

Femelist 2004

Instead of doing a typical year-end review of things — I had a baby, and then I got really sad and angry, and then I ended up in a psyche ward, and now the baby has teeth, it was a good year — I thought I would open up a post about the women on the Internet who have touched my life.

Most of the year-end reviews I have read include a whole bunch of links to men and their websites and then more men and then more men. It’s not that I don’t think men contribute a whole stinking bunch to this wonderful place, I just think it’s time to REPRESENT, ladies. We are writing, we are designing, we are setting standards. We are uniting, we are building communities, we are giving the world a more friendly, more empathic, more beautiful voice.

Here is just a small list of the women who have helped me survive this year:

Heather Powazek Champ
Gail Armstrong
Claire Robertson
Margaret Mason
Sarah Brown
Mrs. Kennedy
Mimi Smartypants
Sarah Hepola
Melissa S.
No Title Yet
Juliet Martinez
Tracie Masek
My Lovely Beth
French Toast Girl
Old Hag

Please feel free to post a link in the comments to the women you feel have contributed to this whole wonderful Inter-world: Designers, writers, crafters, mothers, sisters, friends, lovers, photographers, editors, painters, illustrators, geeks, nerds, dog and cat owners.

Happy New Year, Ladies. Thank you for sharing your lives with me. It’s good to be alive.

  • jm

    2005/01/03 at 7:17 am


  • maricar

    2005/01/03 at 7:30 am

    What the hell is wrong with me? Must be the mastitis.

    I typed a few already and closed the damn window. Anyhow forget that.

    The list of women I read are found on my blog list at

    All fine women I tell ya. They’ve helped me through months of bedrest, baby stuff, PPD stuff and just everything in general.

  • Kris

    2004/12/31 at 7:38 am


    She’s one of my best friends, and while we don’t live in the same city anymore, she continues to be one of my closest friends and an inspiration. Thank you Naava!

  • sarah

    2004/12/31 at 7:39 am

    Claire @ loobylu.com is consistently cute.

  • Michele

    2004/12/31 at 7:41 am


    Don’t know Andrea personally, but what I know from her blog makes me want to hug her.

  • the husband

    2004/12/31 at 7:44 am

    Heather, you are wonderful for posting this. I love you. Women, represent!

  • Helen Jane

    2004/12/31 at 7:44 am

    I’m always a fan of Ariel at electrolicious.com ooh! and styrofoamkitty.com gets me happy too.

    Yay ladies!

  • Pam

    2004/12/31 at 7:45 am


    I love her journal and her blog.

    also, did you know you’re mentioned in a slate article? cool!


  • Heatheranne

    2004/12/31 at 7:47 am

    What a great post! I have tons of links (Yours being at the top of my list for inspiration) but I’m only going to share one. It’s a photoblog by a girl in Hawaii who has the most gorgeous pictures! I really admire her work.


    Have a great New Year Heather, Jon, Leta and of course Chuck!

  • Emechocat

    2004/12/31 at 7:49 am

    Just want to say thanks to you Heather. You make a huge difference in my life. Thanks for sharing these other amazing women with the world. Happiest of New Years to you and the fam.

  • red

    2004/12/31 at 7:51 am

    dooce.com 🙂

    thisfish.com – she is incredibly entertaining and a lovely writer. i stumbled across her blog, and am now almost as dedicated to reading her website as i am to yours!

    happy new year — we are all glad YOU are alive and well.

  • byronicwoman

    2004/12/31 at 7:52 am

    these are my home-girls:


    thanks heather for being so open with your life. it certainly challenges me to live more honestly.

  • Michele

    2004/12/31 at 7:53 am

    Wait, two more. One of course, is Dooce. This is the first blog I check everyday. Seriously, https://www.dooce.com is programmed into my fingertips.

    The other is Andreah. Gosh this woman makes me laugh.


  • srah

    2004/12/31 at 7:56 am

    For their humour and/or friendship:

    Anna – http://www.littleredboat.co.uk
    Jamelah – http://www.jamelah.net/blog/
    Kira – http://www.thymewarp.com/

  • Autumn

    2004/12/31 at 7:56 am

    I vote for dooce.com

    and anythings.org (or her LJ)

  • shelley

    2004/12/31 at 7:58 am

    trickypup at trickypup.com

    almost as cool as dooce . . .

  • Helen

    2004/12/31 at 7:59 am


    I have been visiting Becca for a long time and she never fails to put a smile on my face. Even better we have become friends. She’s an incredibly talented, witty writer who has such a positive take on life.

    And you Heather. Since being introduced to your site I have visited daily. You are an amazing person.

  • Yamila

    2004/12/31 at 8:03 am

    My mum is a woman who I look up to every day. She was the one who taught me how to use a computer years and years ago, and has a site which unites her camping buddies from University 30 years ago.
    You too have made me laugh Heather.
    Happy New Year and I hope there is more peace, less poverty, health and happiness for everyone in 2005

  • annie

    2004/12/31 at 8:05 am

    other than dooce.com?

    my faves are birdie at beauty dish:

    the grumpy girl:

    and, julia:

  • annie (ME TOO)

    2004/12/31 at 8:09 am

    i have been following rosalie for almost 3 years. she has been a true friend!

  • emdot

    2004/12/31 at 8:11 am

    Dooce. Your writing style and ever-changing logo have been motivational (I wish I could think of a cooler word to use here).

    Andrea Scher and Keri Smith for proof that the professionally creative life can be had if you commit and believe.

  • Casey

    2004/12/31 at 8:17 am

    I think Zoot deserves a big nod from the net http://www.misszoot.com
    she designs sites for free for anyone who asks …and everything she knows about site design she has taught herself….and that is pretty neat

  • JuJuBee

    2004/12/31 at 8:19 am

    Have a wonderful New Year, Heather,Jon and froggy girl!

    I love Suburban Bliss…she cracks my shit up daily…you may have listed her already come to think of it…

  • Michael

    2004/12/31 at 8:19 am

    I found your wonderful site indirectly from a great one written by a woman: freakgirl.com She’s always entertaining and often thought provoking. There was actually an intermediary guy’s site sandwiched in between, but I didn’t think you’d mind a guy sandwich. I never do.

  • sporty

    2004/12/31 at 8:25 am

    My wonderful friends who I had to leave behind when I moved to California. Kathy, LTeeeeeeeeeeeeeeee, and of course, my cousin, Tricia, who I’m glad, is pulling through after a rough year with depression. I love you all. Oh yeah, and Seeester, who makes the best damn mojitos.

  • Colleen from NJ

    2004/12/31 at 8:25 am

    Not someone with a weblog, or someone even remotely famous, but.. my brother-in-laws’s wife, Joyce D’Angiolillo. I have 9 sisters-in-law (no sisters of my own). Since she’s come into the family, I have learned what it is to have a sister. She is a genuinely good person, and fucking hilarious to boot.

  • Malcolm

    2004/12/31 at 8:25 am


    down to earth, a great photographer and super-8 maven.

  • Jeanette

    2004/12/31 at 8:29 am

    This is a really hard question. Some of the women who have been there for me, through a rough divorce, major surgery, depression, they don’t have blogs.

    But, I get different things from each woman whose blogs I read. Yours makes me laugh. Your perspective on things brightens my day. You have a great sense of humor.

    I love this woman’s style, she’s honest and in your face:

    This woman, while going through tough time right now, is a refreshing breath of fresh air:

    This woman has been really busy and not posting as much as I like, but she is so creative and you have to have your brain on to catch the nuances:

    And, finally, this woman just kills me every day with the stuff she posts. Just a working girl … or “another potty mouthed girl on the Internet”, as she says:

  • becky

    2004/12/31 at 8:29 am

    the women who inspire me or make me laugh or are just damn fine writers (some i am honored to call friends):

    wendy: skittish.org
    joelle: tenth-muse.com
    y: joyunexpected.com
    natalie: fricative.net
    jules: lilywhiteintentions.com
    helen: everydaystranger.mu.nu
    julia: tequilamockingbird.blogspot.com

    heather, you rock. i’m so glad that you are okay and it’s nice to read that you are happy to be alive. i hope 2005 holds many great things for you and yours.

  • Erinn

    2004/12/31 at 8:38 am

    You Rock Heather, Happy New Year to you & your family.

    I like Tuesday Girl, she makes me laugh every day.

  • Kristine

    2004/12/31 at 8:39 am

    The women that comment on your comment page are outstanding.

    I have a folder called the ‘dooce’ folder and it has all the people that comment that have blogs that I read.
    And the men, they open up and let it out too. I’m inspired by both sexes.
    I’m happy that you keep your comments open no matter what topic comes up. This is my healing place. I would be lost without dooce.com

    You inspire men and women…and little dogs and teething babies…buffalo wings..photographers…hairdressers…

  • alizinha

    2004/12/31 at 8:41 am

    here’s my NYC girls:


  • Katie

    2004/12/31 at 8:42 am

    http://antigirl.com – great designer

  • woah

    2004/12/31 at 8:42 am

    how is sarahhatter.com not on your list?

  • Dana

    2004/12/31 at 8:43 am

    My all-time favourite (and not just because I love her and she’s wonderful and beautiful and a fabulous Mom..) is Michelle @ http://smallredsneakers.com

  • AyEnDeeAreEeAyAitch

    2004/12/31 at 8:45 am

    I would like to say Thanks to Shelba for the props! I would also like to mention these few ladies who always keep goin…Maricar, Deanna and Michele for always being there, for giving me such good advice as well as the will to keep on, keepin on. You are the wind beneath my wings.

    As always my heart belongs to you dooce. You soooo own me

  • John Sloas

    2004/12/31 at 8:48 am

    Guilty here. My blog reading is way too male.

    Female blogs I do read.


    To make up for my maleness, I do stay at home with the babies as a stay-at-home dad. Happy new year!

  • Angie M

    2004/12/31 at 8:52 am

    When I look in my ‘Favorites’ under my own heading of ‘Favorite Favorites’ I see a list of blogs, about 85% of them by women. Each one of them is so honest and open and a bit nuts – I think it’s that (as well as the fabulous writing talent) that makes them stand out from an ever increasing crowd. Women bloggers have so much soul!

    I have a little blog of my own, but I haven’t had the nerve to strip myself bare – emotionally speaking I mean… (although I guess that might notch up a few visits). Maybe that’s something to aim for in 2005 – it’s gotta be cheaper than therapy!

    So, thank you Dooce – you’re an inspiration! As are…


    And so many more!

  • Marilyn

    2004/12/31 at 8:59 am

    There are so many, but I’ll list just a few who, luckily for me, are pals:

    Tonya at http://www.adventurejournalist.com/notebook – for her daily, awe-inspiring nudge to her readers to think and be in ways that might make us squirm…or laugh with delight. An awesome writer and a fabulous photographer. A one-woman inspiration machine.

    Kat at http://datinggod.typepad.com – a Renaissance woman who can heal your spirit one second and crack your shit up the next. Great writer, wicked wit, wealth of knowledge, soulsister, beloved friend.

    BP at http://bluepoppy.omworks.com – for her literary inspiration…this woman can write…and make you laugh your ass off while reading it. She has a fabulous life and we could all hate her for it…if we didn’t love her so much.

  • coolbeans

    2004/12/31 at 8:59 am

    Two women who keep me laughing and inspired:


  • Michele

    2004/12/31 at 9:01 am

    Heather, I love dooce of course, but I also love


    Linda writes the way I wish I could, and says (mostly) what I want to say.

  • Jentle

    2004/12/31 at 9:02 am

    My best monster –

    My best Canadian –

    My best giver-of-quotes-I-have-to-write-down, and general wisdom –

    And, of course, you and getupgrrl.

  • Tamara

    2004/12/31 at 9:02 am

    I’m a huge fan of http://www.pamie.com
    Happy New Year Dooce, Mr. Dooce and Doocelet!

  • MrsDof

    2004/12/31 at 9:04 am

    She is not my Momma, but I wanna adopt her as one anyway.

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Heather B. Armstrong

Hi. I’m Heather B. Armstrong, and this used to be called mommy blogging. But then they started calling it Influencer Marketing: hashtag ad, hashtag sponsored, hashtag you know you want me to slap your product on my kid and exploit her for millions and millions of dollars. That’s how this shit works. Now? Well… sit back, buckle up, and enjoy the ride.

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