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Femelist 2004

Instead of doing a typical year-end review of things — I had a baby, and then I got really sad and angry, and then I ended up in a psyche ward, and now the baby has teeth, it was a good year — I thought I would open up a post about the women on the Internet who have touched my life.

Most of the year-end reviews I have read include a whole bunch of links to men and their websites and then more men and then more men. It’s not that I don’t think men contribute a whole stinking bunch to this wonderful place, I just think it’s time to REPRESENT, ladies. We are writing, we are designing, we are setting standards. We are uniting, we are building communities, we are giving the world a more friendly, more empathic, more beautiful voice.

Here is just a small list of the women who have helped me survive this year:

Heather Powazek Champ
Gail Armstrong
Claire Robertson
Margaret Mason
Sarah Brown
Mrs. Kennedy
Mimi Smartypants
Rebecky
Jenandtonic
Melly
Sarah Hepola
Finslippy
Melissa S.
No Title Yet
Julie
Juliet Martinez
Tracie Masek
My Lovely Beth
getupgrrl
French Toast Girl
Deb
Leahpeah
Shauny
Dotmoms
Old Hag
Kelly
Brooke

Please feel free to post a link in the comments to the women you feel have contributed to this whole wonderful Inter-world: Designers, writers, crafters, mothers, sisters, friends, lovers, photographers, editors, painters, illustrators, geeks, nerds, dog and cat owners.

Happy New Year, Ladies. Thank you for sharing your lives with me. It’s good to be alive.

  • i heart joolie at http://starsandgarters.blogs.com. that girl always starts me t’thinkin’.

  • Leslie

    Samantha – http://www.foxinthesnow.com

    She is a very dear friend of mine. And I would go nuts if I could not chat with her daily.

  • That’s a great post. I’m excited to check out all the blogs listed here.

    I visit these two regularly
    http://ailey.typepad.com
    http://pictures.nevergirl.com/

    Plus I love QueSeraSera & Fussy.

  • Sars at Tomato Nation – http://www.tomatonation.com – never fails to make me laugh, and also gives me an outlet for my crazy-cat-lady-ness: when she writes stories about her two cats I always think, in between snorfling madly: “thank god I’m not the only one.”

    Pamie at http://www.pamie.com/ makes me laugh too; she’s getting married today and deserves all the happiness in the world. Michael Moore once told her she was a good person, and he was right.

    Gina at http://www.scribbling.net/ is smart and tough and funny and sweet and if she didn’t already have a girlfriend I’d consider being her internet stalker. In the nicest way possible.

    My very good friend Eve needs to update her blog more often. With more cute dog pictures! http://www.zenflea.com/ .

    And, Heather, your blog’s been an amazing read all year long. I know I speak for many when I say that we (selfishly, unabashedly!) hope you never stop… there’d be less funny on the internet, and also fewer terrifying yet highly educational stories of new motherhood… and that would be a bad thing.

  • Flea at
    http://buggydoo.blogspot.com
    is a daily must-check for me. Why? Writing like this, of course, from http://tinyurl.com/4uuvz

    “I heard on the radio this morning that the whole Festivus thing is starting to take off. Really? Are there really people wrestling around an aluminum pole in the living room? Why do these people not live on my block? I’m surrounded by all those ridiculous inflatable snowmen that lie there lifeless and deflated in the daylight, turning our neighborhood into one big episode of Law and Order: North Pole.”

  • D.

    I nominate Rivka, at Respectful of Otters:
    http://respectfulofotters.blogspot.com/

  • Serena
  • Amy

    Well, besides the ones that have already been mentioned, I’d have to say that these blogs make my day!:

    http://www.penelopeillustration.com/journal.html

    http://unkemptwomen.blogspot.com/

    http://katspaws.blogs.com/

    http://www.karenwinters.com/journalpages/

    Thanks for putting into words what I’ve been subconsciously feeling about this community of women for the past few years!

    RAWK!!! Keep it up, my friends!!

  • The baby crew:

    Lauren: chuckpierce.com/lauren
    Y: joyunexpected.com
    SJ: shenuts.com
    Jen: thehackworths.com
    Rachael: lilbabyg.typepad.com

    All these women rock, I love em all.

  • There’s already been some overlap, of course, but here’s the ones I’ve not seen mentioned yet…

    Christine Castro: http://today.maganda.org/
    Lisa Schmeiser:
    http://schmeiser.typepad.com/
    Audra Williams:
    http://www.livejournal.com/users/ponycow/
    Wendy McClure:
    http://www.poundy.com/

    There are some people on my LJ friends list who I have grown to admire and love in a way… They don’t write the most moving or world-relevant things but they are lovely people who are growing up and getting there.

    And of course, I love Heather.

  • Danielle

    Sara Donati is my favorite author (historical fiction).
    She also has a blog where she is very open about her writing process.

    http://saralaughs.com/blog/

  • Beardedman

    My girl LoxyFady at:

    http://www.loxyfady.com

  • Birdie at Beauty Dish has already been mentioned, but I gotta give props to My Friend SisterR who is amazing in her own right, and alas, blogless. I also gotta give props to my sister (in-law) who keeps me laughing.

  • I don’t know anyone (male or female) who writes as many consistently readable personal observations as our very own Heather Armstrong.

    But no woman has had more of an impact on my life in 2004 than Courtney at: http://midvaleschool.blogspot.com/

  • Wow! A link from the mighty Dooce! I AM SPEECHLESS.

    I would be remiss if I didn’t mention these women:

    http://www.maudnewton.com (of course)
    http://www.lauralippman.com (monthly authorly updates)
    http://www.thehighsign.net (your admirer DanaStevensakaLizPenn’s brilliant film essays)
    http://www.tinglealley.com (Carrie Anne Frye’s equally brill lit and life moments)

  • nacler
  • I was introduced to your site a few months ago and I visit daily. You put a smile on my face and sometimes terror in my heart. I mean that in the most desperately of nice ways, honest. I just started my own blog actually.

    Anyhoo, I’d like to give thanks for my friend Lauren http://www.livejournal.com/users/lmjvp/ She’s been my online galpal for about 6 yrs now. Without her, I don’t think I could have made it sometimes.

  • Leon

    Dooce and DJ Blurb;

    Thank you

    Sincerely

    For candidly sharing your lives
    For providing others with the affirmation that you can have a sense of humor about everything
    For your wit and perspective
    For the immense effort you make everyday to keep these dog and pony shows rolling

    I honestly had never paid Blogs any attention. Until this year. Any Blog now that I read, I’ve found as a result of you guys.

    Happy New Year Armstrongs. Thanks again.

  • beth, natch http://www.crazyus.com/

    but i’d also like to give a shout-out to the lesser-known http://homeofdismay.blogspot.com/
    — my friend claire, who is always an interesting and amusing read.

  • Fluid Pudding – http://www.fluidpudding.com
    Welfare Queen – http://www.welfarequeen.org
    Cranky Mommy’s Rant Site – crankymommy.blogspot.com
    Jodi – http://www.iwilldare.com
    And several others that have already been represented.

    Thanks for sharing this tough year, Heather. My daughter’s two weeks younger than Leta and we went through so much of the same stuff. You helped me get through.

  • Also, I just wanted to say that you were a great help to me this summer when I was also doing the great drug switcheroo. (And by “great”, I actually mean “soul-sucking and debilitating”. ) Without you and Jerod Poore at crazymeds.org, I would have been lost. (He is not a woman, but he can be an honorary one if he likes.) So happy New Year to you and your beautiful family!

  • Sue
  • Some of my favourite chicks on the ‘net:

    Cecily – http://zia.blogs.com/wastedbirthcontrol/

    Sarah – http://sadandbeautiful.typepad.com/sad_and_beautiful_world/

    Margaret Cho – http://margaretcho.net/blog/

    …and of course, let’s not forget that chicks can sometimes piss you off, but are good for a chuckle:

    Prada Princess – http://pradaprincess.blogspot.com/

    Happy New Year!

  • I’m glad you have Sarah Brown on that list. Without her and her rice krispy treats and our fishnet stocking excursions, I’d be a whole lot less of woman.

  • elena

    No, thank YOU for sharing a piece of yourself with us! You bring laughter to my bad days. You share your pain, and help me realize I’m not alone. You, yourself, are an inspiration to all women. So, yes, THANK YOU! And Happy New Year to you and your beauteous brood. 🙂

  • shy me
  • Aw shucks, Dale…:)

    Heather, I as well want to thank you for your honesty and candid writing. No site I read regularly has the power to make me laugh out loud, cry, or get spun up about something as consistently as yours.

    Happy New Year to you, and Jon, and the Frog Princess (who, as I told you, most likely does not have autism), and Chuck (who makes me want to have a dog). Best wishes to you and those you love.
    Courtney

  • I have to add Julie’s site: http://www.perpetualkarma.com She’s very insightful, creative, sensitive, and makes me want to be a better person.

    Enjoy.

    Happy New Year to all!

  • oh my goodness, Shy Me beat me to it!!!

  • Sarah B

    Kicking creative ass and giving back: Cinnamon Cooper of http://www.poise.cc

    She’s closed up shop on the blog but has a book deal–read her archives. Kept me going all year: http://belledejour-uk.blogspot.com/

  • For some reason I am really drawn to sites by women bloggers. Here are a few that I visit every single day:

    http://www.petithiboux.com
    http://www.injust-spring.com
    http://www.me-go.net/rtw/blog/index.html

    These are three very strong women, and I enjoy their wit, creativity, and intelligence. And I bet you will too!

    Now I’ll be visiting many more women bloggers with all the great suggestions here. And thanks for the ride Dooce! Happy 2005.

  • My wife, Mary. http://www.circuslunch.com.

    She finds you inspiring. I find her amazing.

    Peace out in ’05,

    _A

  • sam

    Leslie rocks my world. I am amazed every day by all the new and wonderful neurotic issues we can bond over:
    http://www.goodbyefeet.com/

  • Most of my favorites have been covered here. But not all. My blogroll is filled about 95% full of smart, witty, beautiful, strong, vulnerable, rock-your-face-off WOMEN. And I love them all, every single one.

    But you certainly set the precedent here at dooce.com.

    Happy New Year’s, Heather.

  • http://busted-stuff.com/

    As she puts it: “Trish, 37, morning radio jock, punk rock mom, shutterbug and
    all around awesome babe.”

  • Wow, Chantel, thanks!

    Everyone has already listed a lot of women i admire, but I have to add Moxie at http://www.moxie.blogs.com. Great writer and great chick!

  • Jamie

    Heather, YOU have made a difference for me this year. I’ve never posted to you and don’t keep a blog here. But I keep you bookmarked and really enjoy lurking on a daily basis. So thanks for being here for the other ladies on the Internet. You are an absolute joy to read.

  • joanie

    my friend brandi introduced me to your blog because she knew you and i shared a mutual respect for all things potty.

    her websites, generally dealing in non-potty, are awesome. her photosite, in particular, shows some of her most amazing shots. and her journal is well written and funny…

  • joanie

    and here are brandi’s links. brantastic.livejournal.com, http://www.brandiediss.com

  • http://www.soapboxgirls.com first introduced me to the art of blogging. Heather Corinna at http://www.femmerotic.com/journal.html is a lovely person.

    Happy New Year!

  • Heather…thank you for sharing your life with us!! May your 2005 be filled with wonderful experiences, joy, love and fun!

  • Tricia

    GetupGrrl. Without a doubt. Oh, and you of course!

  • In addition to dooce.com and many of the other female bloggers mentioned here, I also read http://WWW.SOLBEAM.COM religiously. Sol quit her job at CollegeClub.com in favor of traveling the world. Her writing is beautiful and her adventures are truly inspiring.

  • Bea

    I love Moxie. She has a terrific three-year-old on, and she lets us all know that not all Christians are right-wing, fire-and-brimstone loonies.

    http://moxie.blogs.com/moxie

  • Bea

    Um, that’s “son,” not “on.”

  • More love for Mo at mopie.com, who introduced me to your site. Thanks, Mo!

    I also can’t get over my old friend sweetcoalminer (http://www.livejournal.com/users/sweetcoalminer/), whose recent posts about her uterine struggle are astonishing in their searing honesty.

    (“Searing honesty.” I’m going to start writing book reviews.)

  • Ali

    I’m going to have to share a few fantastic female bloggers as well:

    http://a.thousandwords.nu – the lovely donaville

    http://notmyself.com – maura

    http://intensify.org – rachel

  • Wilma

    Willa at http://www.willa.com and Sara at http://www.goingjesus.com. Hooray to them, AND to THE DOOCE!