Heater, Mother of Lance

4/4 time

I think the best way to describe what it’s been like to bring a second child into the family is to imagine having a jazz band blasting an improvisational set in your left ear while listening to the Mormon Tabernacle Choir singing Christmas carols in your right ear, and there you are, a drummer in a rock band, and you’re on stage in front of 30,000 people trying to keep the beat to an acoustic version of “God Save the Queen” by the Sex Pistols.

I’m trying to find the rhythm. I’m getting there, but it’s slow going. This is all to say, thank you for being patient with me, I know posting has been light and it will continue to be for the next little while as I navigate a path through all this chaos. I’m still physically healing, and even though I gave birth without any drugs, the recovery has been just as painful and frustrating and ongoing as it was after giving birth with an epidural. I’ve got a post coming about labor, about how transforming the experience was for me, but it’s a long one and I’m still hammering away at all the tiny details. All while attached to my adorable, chubby caterpillar who from day one made it quite clear that she’d rather be no where else on earth than nestled right into my chest. I will tell you this, it has been so much better this time, still a little bumpy and rough here and there with one or two absolute freak outs, but I’ve been so much more diligent about taking every moment I can to stare at her and adore her every feature. And the weirdest thing has happened, this whole experience has increased my love for Leta by a measure I didn’t know was possible. I can say that right now, here this morning as my second child dozes on my breast, that I have never been happier in my entire life.

  • Meg

    2009/06/25 at 2:07 pm

    my firstborn slept on my chest and no where else for the first 2 months of her life. all while i was working on a phd. i wrote papers typing with one hand. it gets easier

  • Bethany

    2009/06/25 at 2:07 pm

    first to comment! congrats!

  • Kate

    2009/06/25 at 2:24 pm

    So sweet! It makes everyone who loves you happy to know that you are so happy.

  • Lauren

    2009/06/25 at 2:07 pm

    She’s a beautiful little girl. Congratulations on the addition to your family!

  • Valerie

    2009/06/25 at 2:08 pm


  • Amanda

    2009/06/25 at 2:08 pm

    Awww. That is so sweet. It almost makes me want to have another. Almost. 😉

  • Bea

    2009/06/25 at 2:08 pm

    So glad to hear things are going well. Heaven knows where you’re finding the time to tell us though – but personally (and selfishly) I’m happy you are!

  • Sara

    2009/06/25 at 2:08 pm

    I am so happy for you and your family!

  • Wendy

    2009/06/25 at 2:08 pm

    Blessings to you as you experience these first weeks, they are so precious!

  • Emily

    2009/06/25 at 2:08 pm

    Beautifully written. And a beautiful baby, indeed.

  • Laura in LA

    2009/06/25 at 2:08 pm

    I am equally scared to death & dying to have one.

  • Heather's Garden

    2009/06/25 at 2:09 pm

    You’re great to post at all. I was just thinking it’s not fair that you can’t take maternity leave from your job. She’s beautiful and I’m so happy that you’re happy!

  • Labradoris

    2009/06/25 at 2:09 pm

    Take this sweet, sweet time and heal and grow and nurture yourself. We’re patient. Or, at least I am. 🙂

  • erin

    2009/06/25 at 2:09 pm

    i cannot wait to read about her journey into the world. so very sweet, mama. glad to hear that all is well! xo

  • Jessica

    2009/06/25 at 2:09 pm

    Congratulations once again, Heather. I am so, so happy for all of you. I am SO glad this experience has been easier for you, too; I was hoping Marlo would be an “easy” baby! She is so adorable, even when she’s purple!

  • Liz Voss

    2009/06/25 at 2:10 pm

    Heather, Marlo is absolutely beautiful. Even as a mother to a dog and two cats only, I look forward so much to reading about your journey with Jon, Leta, Marlo, Chuck, and Coco.

    Good luck!

  • karen

    2009/06/25 at 2:10 pm

    YAY for you! This is how it’s supposed to be!

  • Corinne

    2009/06/25 at 2:10 pm

    Oh Heather enjoy it!! Children are truly life’s amazing gift! Congratulations!!

  • Cautionary Girl

    2009/06/25 at 2:11 pm

    We’re waiting patiently! You’re doing an amazing job in the meantime.

  • The Single Sister

    2009/06/25 at 2:11 pm

    So sweet.

  • bethie

    2009/06/25 at 2:11 pm

    I get tears in my eyes every time I see a picture of her. She is truly beautiful.

  • sasha

    2009/06/25 at 2:11 pm

    This post makes me happy.

  • Kim in Alaska

    2009/06/25 at 2:13 pm

    Your baby is adorable! I am really happy for you and your family.

    I can’t believe you gave birth without and epidural. You’re a saint!

  • giggleblue

    2009/06/25 at 2:14 pm

    this is an awesome time and i’m so happy you are cherishing it!

  • Amy

    2009/06/25 at 2:14 pm

    She is a beauty! Love the name too!

  • Trish

    2009/06/25 at 2:14 pm

    I love this part.

    When I first realized these two adorable human beings belonged to my husband and I, I cried tears of joy. I remember my husband looking at me, as my youngest was laying on my chest and my oldest was sitting beside me and he said, “you are just so proud of them right now, aren’t you?”. I just smiled through the tears. Yes, yes I was and still am.

    You nailed it. Your love grows exponentially.

    I’m so very happy for you and Jon! Congratulations.

  • leatitia

    2009/06/25 at 2:14 pm

    I’m so glad to read you’re happy Heather. Your daughters are adorable.

  • Barbara E.

    2009/06/25 at 2:14 pm

    You gave us a Chuck & Coco with Marlo in the background. That would have kept me patient for at least another few days. Take it easy.

  • hoskas

    2009/06/25 at 2:15 pm

    That huge secret-bonus-level surge of love for the older child? I can totally relate.

  • Jo Anne

    2009/06/25 at 2:15 pm

    Wow, I am so sad that I never had this experience. I feel so a part of it and am truely in awe. She is beautiful indeed!

  • Hillary

    2009/06/25 at 2:15 pm

    Marlo is beautiful and already so alert. She really does glow.

  • Rebecca

    2009/06/25 at 2:15 pm

    Your newest addition is absolutely perfect for your already beautiful family!

    Take as much time as you need.

    Much love from Texas!

  • kate

    2009/06/25 at 2:16 pm

    wow, that last line made the tears well up.

  • Tiffany

    2009/06/25 at 2:16 pm

    She’s beautiful! And as Leta is already such a wonderful little girl, I’m sure you guys are right on track!

  • Cj Coppola

    2009/06/25 at 2:17 pm

    She’s beautiful.

  • Dumb Youngins

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  • deb

    2009/06/25 at 2:18 pm

    you have the incredible gift of capturing the most complicated and overwhelming situations into a beautifully written post. thank you!

  • avis

    2009/06/25 at 2:19 pm

    Beautiful. Beautiful baby, family, sentiments…

  • Courtney

    2009/06/25 at 2:19 pm

    Marlo is beautiful! Scratch that…you’re entire family is beautiful. I am a new reader and simply can’t get enough. Thank you for sharing your beautiful life with us.

  • a H.I.T.

    2009/06/25 at 2:19 pm

    And that is why we cannot wait to become parents.

  • Carly

    2009/06/25 at 2:19 pm

    You are one incredibly lucky lady. Enjoy it!

  • Jody

    2009/06/25 at 2:20 pm

    And I am so happy for you!

  • sarah

    2009/06/25 at 2:21 pm

    that’s wonderful! congratulations! 🙂

  • Shaunna

    2009/06/25 at 2:22 pm

    She is so absolutely beautiful! And it is still so early, you have lots of time to get the routine down. You seem to be just taking the moments as they come, which is really the best any of us can do! I’m so happy for you all!

  • Elizabeth

    2009/06/25 at 2:22 pm

    Thanks for spreading the love around. Take a break, heal and be present with every minute. We’ll be here when you return.

  • Amy J

    2009/06/25 at 2:23 pm

    What a truly beautiful place to be in your life, I am so happy for you.

    For one millisecond I almost wanted to have another child, and then I heard the 3 year old screaming and it was gone.

    Thank you for sharing your most personal thoughts with all of the rest of us.

  • Shelly

    2009/06/25 at 2:23 pm

    She is so adorable!

  • gearhead mama

    2009/06/25 at 2:23 pm

    I am so happy to hear things are going better this time. I’ve been dying to hear about the birth, but yeah, I get the whole “being busy” thing. I’ll wait as patiently as I can!

  • Kari

    2009/06/25 at 2:23 pm

    Congrats, she is absolutely beautiful! I’m glad to hear things are going so well! I admire you for keeping up a blog in the first weeks post-baby… I did good to get a shower! 🙂 You’re amazing!

  • Amy

    2009/06/25 at 2:25 pm

    Glad to hear things are going so well. 🙂 My daughter, who is my 3rd (and LAST), would only sleep snuggled up on someone’s chest. She preferred me, but would sleep for a while if my husband or mother held her on their chests. That lasted for not quite a month, when she decided she was ok sleeping next to me instead. I normally cannot stand being touched while trying to sleep (my husband so loves that about me), but for my daughter I seemed to make an exception. I sleep with few problems when she’s next to me.

    I really hope things continue to go well for all of you.

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Heather B. Armstrong

Hi. I’m Heather B. Armstrong, and this used to be called mommy blogging. But then they started calling it Influencer Marketing: hashtag ad, hashtag sponsored, hashtag you know you want me to slap your product on my kid and exploit her for millions and millions of dollars. That’s how this shit works. Now? Well… sit back, buckle up, and enjoy the ride.

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