Femelist 2004

Instead of doing a typical year-end review of things — I had a baby, and then I got really sad and angry, and then I ended up in a psyche ward, and now the baby has teeth, it was a good year — I thought I would open up a post about the women on the Internet who have touched my life.

Most of the year-end reviews I have read include a whole bunch of links to men and their websites and then more men and then more men. It’s not that I don’t think men contribute a whole stinking bunch to this wonderful place, I just think it’s time to REPRESENT, ladies. We are writing, we are designing, we are setting standards. We are uniting, we are building communities, we are giving the world a more friendly, more empathic, more beautiful voice.

Here is just a small list of the women who have helped me survive this year:

Heather Powazek Champ
Gail Armstrong
Claire Robertson
Margaret Mason
Sarah Brown
Mrs. Kennedy
Mimi Smartypants
Sarah Hepola
Melissa S.
No Title Yet
Juliet Martinez
Tracie Masek
My Lovely Beth
French Toast Girl
Old Hag

Please feel free to post a link in the comments to the women you feel have contributed to this whole wonderful Inter-world: Designers, writers, crafters, mothers, sisters, friends, lovers, photographers, editors, painters, illustrators, geeks, nerds, dog and cat owners.

Happy New Year, Ladies. Thank you for sharing your lives with me. It’s good to be alive.

  • Michele

    Wait, two more. One of course, is Dooce. This is the first blog I check everyday. Seriously, http://www.dooce.com is programmed into my fingertips.

    The other is Andreah. Gosh this woman makes me laugh.


  • http://hanging-fire.net Karin

    I agree with Michele about Andrea from superherodesigns.com. Especially because she made the lovely necklaces that my bridesmaids wore at my wedding.

    Also, I just read a review of what sounds like one of the most sensible mothering books ever:

  • http://www.srah.net/weblog srah

    For their humour and/or friendship:

    Anna – http://www.littleredboat.co.uk
    Jamelah – http://www.jamelah.net/blog/
    Kira – http://www.thymewarp.com/

  • http://zebramusselpulp.blogspot.com ZedEmPee

    Heather, do you have a bidet at your residence?

  • http://whenoctoberfalls.ws Autumn

    I vote for dooce.com

    and anythings.org (or her LJ)

  • shelley

    trickypup at trickypup.com

    almost as cool as dooce . . .

  • http://chatty71180.typepad.com Carole
  • Helen


    I have been visiting Becca for a long time and she never fails to put a smile on my face. Even better we have become friends. She’s an incredibly talented, witty writer who has such a positive take on life.

    And you Heather. Since being introduced to your site I have visited daily. You are an amazing person.

  • http://ebirkhol.diaryland.com e
  • http://www.yamila.id.au Yamila

    My mum is a woman who I look up to every day. She was the one who taught me how to use a computer years and years ago, and has a site which unites her camping buddies from University 30 years ago.
    You too have made me laugh Heather.
    Happy New Year and I hope there is more peace, less poverty, health and happiness for everyone in 2005

  • annie

    other than dooce.com?

    my faves are birdie at beauty dish:

    the grumpy girl:

    and, julia:

  • http://www.my-meadow.com annie (ME TOO)

    i have been following rosalie for almost 3 years. she has been a true friend!

  • http://emdot.blogspot.com emdot

    Dooce. Your writing style and ever-changing logo have been motivational (I wish I could think of a cooler word to use here).

    Andrea Scher and Keri Smith for proof that the professionally creative life can be had if you commit and believe.

  • http://justnorthofnowhere.blog-city.com Casey

    I think Zoot deserves a big nod from the net http://www.misszoot.com
    she designs sites for free for anyone who asks …and everything she knows about site design she has taught herself….and that is pretty neat

  • http://www.totallyrosalie.com Rosalie
  • http://www.jujubeejenny.blogspot.com JuJuBee

    Have a wonderful New Year, Heather,Jon and froggy girl!

    I love Suburban Bliss…she cracks my shit up daily…you may have listed her already come to think of it…

  • Michael

    I found your wonderful site indirectly from a great one written by a woman: freakgirl.com She’s always entertaining and often thought provoking. There was actually an intermediary guy’s site sandwiched in between, but I didn’t think you’d mind a guy sandwich. I never do.

  • http://www.itssonotaboutyou.com sporty

    My wonderful friends who I had to leave behind when I moved to California. Kathy, LTeeeeeeeeeeeeeeee, and of course, my cousin, Tricia, who I’m glad, is pulling through after a rough year with depression. I love you all. Oh yeah, and Seeester, who makes the best damn mojitos.

  • http://clobberblogger.blogspot.com/ Colleen from NJ

    Not someone with a weblog, or someone even remotely famous, but.. my brother-in-laws’s wife, Joyce D’Angiolillo. I have 9 sisters-in-law (no sisters of my own). Since she’s come into the family, I have learned what it is to have a sister. She is a genuinely good person, and fucking hilarious to boot.

  • Malcolm


    down to earth, a great photographer and super-8 maven.

  • http://www.nicehat.com/blog Jeanette

    This is a really hard question. Some of the women who have been there for me, through a rough divorce, major surgery, depression, they don’t have blogs.

    But, I get different things from each woman whose blogs I read. Yours makes me laugh. Your perspective on things brightens my day. You have a great sense of humor.

    I love this woman’s style, she’s honest and in your face:

    This woman, while going through tough time right now, is a refreshing breath of fresh air:

    This woman has been really busy and not posting as much as I like, but she is so creative and you have to have your brain on to catch the nuances:

    And, finally, this woman just kills me every day with the stuff she posts. Just a working girl … or “another potty mouthed girl on the Internet”, as she says:

  • http://misspriss.org becky

    the women who inspire me or make me laugh or are just damn fine writers (some i am honored to call friends):

    wendy: skittish.org
    joelle: tenth-muse.com
    y: joyunexpected.com
    natalie: fricative.net
    jules: lilywhiteintentions.com
    helen: everydaystranger.mu.nu
    julia: tequilamockingbird.blogspot.com

    heather, you rock. i’m so glad that you are okay and it’s nice to read that you are happy to be alive. i hope 2005 holds many great things for you and yours.

  • http://allanthinks.typepad.com Allan
  • Erinn

    You Rock Heather, Happy New Year to you & your family.

    I like Tuesday Girl, she makes me laugh every day.

  • http://randomandodd.blogspot.com Kristine

    The women that comment on your comment page are outstanding.

    I have a folder called the ‘dooce’ folder and it has all the people that comment that have blogs that I read.
    And the men, they open up and let it out too. I’m inspired by both sexes.
    I’m happy that you keep your comments open no matter what topic comes up. This is my healing place. I would be lost without dooce.com

    You inspire men and women…and little dogs and teething babies…buffalo wings..photographers…hairdressers…

  • http://www.thebrazilianmuse.blogspot.com alizinha

    here’s my NYC girls:


  • Katie

    http://antigirl.com – great designer

  • woah

    how is sarahhatter.com not on your list?

  • http://darkviolet.com Dana

    My all-time favourite (and not just because I love her and she’s wonderful and beautiful and a fabulous Mom..) is Michelle @ http://smallredsneakers.com

  • http://ayendeeareeeayaitch.blogs.com/ayendeeareeeayaitch AyEnDeeAreEeAyAitch

    I would like to say Thanks to Shelba for the props! I would also like to mention these few ladies who always keep goin…Maricar, Deanna and Michele for always being there, for giving me such good advice as well as the will to keep on, keepin on. You are the wind beneath my wings.

    As always my heart belongs to you dooce. You soooo own me

  • http://ayendeeareeeayaitch.blogs.com/ayendeeareeeayaitch AyEnDeeAreEeAyAitch
  • http://johnsloas.typepad.com/crooked_line/ John Sloas

    Guilty here. My blog reading is way too male.

    Female blogs I do read.


    To make up for my maleness, I do stay at home with the babies as a stay-at-home dad. Happy new year!

  • http://www.lemonlight.org Angie M

    When I look in my ‘Favorites’ under my own heading of ‘Favorite Favorites’ I see a list of blogs, about 85% of them by women. Each one of them is so honest and open and a bit nuts – I think it’s that (as well as the fabulous writing talent) that makes them stand out from an ever increasing crowd. Women bloggers have so much soul!

    I have a little blog of my own, but I haven’t had the nerve to strip myself bare – emotionally speaking I mean… (although I guess that might notch up a few visits). Maybe that’s something to aim for in 2005 – it’s gotta be cheaper than therapy!

    So, thank you Dooce – you’re an inspiration! As are…


    And so many more!

  • http://islandfever.blogspot.com Marilyn

    There are so many, but I’ll list just a few who, luckily for me, are pals:

    Tonya at http://www.adventurejournalist.com/notebook – for her daily, awe-inspiring nudge to her readers to think and be in ways that might make us squirm…or laugh with delight. An awesome writer and a fabulous photographer. A one-woman inspiration machine.

    Kat at http://datinggod.typepad.com – a Renaissance woman who can heal your spirit one second and crack your shit up the next. Great writer, wicked wit, wealth of knowledge, soulsister, beloved friend.

    BP at http://bluepoppy.omworks.com – for her literary inspiration…this woman can write…and make you laugh your ass off while reading it. She has a fabulous life and we could all hate her for it…if we didn’t love her so much.

  • http://coolbeansmama.blogspot.com coolbeans

    Two women who keep me laughing and inspired:


  • http://www.watergirlsworld.typepad.com Michele

    Heather, I love dooce of course, but I also love


    Linda writes the way I wish I could, and says (mostly) what I want to say.

  • http://homepage.mac.com/jentoal/jblog Jentle

    My best monster –

    My best Canadian –

    My best giver-of-quotes-I-have-to-write-down, and general wisdom -

    And, of course, you and getupgrrl.

  • http://tkblaich.blogspot.com Tamara

    I’m a huge fan of http://www.pamie.com
    Happy New Year Dooce, Mr. Dooce and Doocelet!

  • MrsDof

    She is not my Momma, but I wanna adopt her as one anyway.

  • http://www.luckyhazel.com/wish wixlet

    i heart joolie at http://starsandgarters.blogs.com. that girl always starts me t’thinkin’.

  • Leslie

    Samantha – http://www.foxinthesnow.com

    She is a very dear friend of mine. And I would go nuts if I could not chat with her daily.

  • http://stridentharpy.blogspot.com Kari

    That’s a great post. I’m excited to check out all the blogs listed here.

    I visit these two regularly

    Plus I love QueSeraSera & Fussy.

  • http://www.sapphireblue.com/ Michelle

    Sars at Tomato Nation – http://www.tomatonation.com – never fails to make me laugh, and also gives me an outlet for my crazy-cat-lady-ness: when she writes stories about her two cats I always think, in between snorfling madly: “thank god I’m not the only one.”

    Pamie at http://www.pamie.com/ makes me laugh too; she’s getting married today and deserves all the happiness in the world. Michael Moore once told her she was a good person, and he was right.

    Gina at http://www.scribbling.net/ is smart and tough and funny and sweet and if she didn’t already have a girlfriend I’d consider being her internet stalker. In the nicest way possible.

    My very good friend Eve needs to update her blog more often. With more cute dog pictures! http://www.zenflea.com/ .

    And, Heather, your blog’s been an amazing read all year long. I know I speak for many when I say that we (selfishly, unabashedly!) hope you never stop… there’d be less funny on the internet, and also fewer terrifying yet highly educational stories of new motherhood… and that would be a bad thing.

  • http://heavydutypower.blogspot.com Thel

    Flea at
    is a daily must-check for me. Why? Writing like this, of course, from http://tinyurl.com/4uuvz

    “I heard on the radio this morning that the whole Festivus thing is starting to take off. Really? Are there really people wrestling around an aluminum pole in the living room? Why do these people not live on my block? I’m surrounded by all those ridiculous inflatable snowmen that lie there lifeless and deflated in the daylight, turning our neighborhood into one big episode of Law and Order: North Pole.”

  • D.

    I nominate Rivka, at Respectful of Otters:

  • Serena
  • http://lasadh.blogspot.com Sherri
  • http://www.9moonsago.com Amy

    Well, besides the ones that have already been mentioned, I’d have to say that these blogs make my day!:





    Thanks for putting into words what I’ve been subconsciously feeling about this community of women for the past few years!

    RAWK!!! Keep it up, my friends!!

  • http://nonpromqueen.net Stacey

    The baby crew:

    Lauren: chuckpierce.com/lauren
    Y: joyunexpected.com
    SJ: shenuts.com
    Jen: thehackworths.com
    Rachael: lilbabyg.typepad.com

    All these women rock, I love em all.

  • http://www.livejournal.com/~tofadeaway Anna

    There’s already been some overlap, of course, but here’s the ones I’ve not seen mentioned yet…

    Christine Castro: http://today.maganda.org/
    Lisa Schmeiser:
    Audra Williams:
    Wendy McClure:

    There are some people on my LJ friends list who I have grown to admire and love in a way… They don’t write the most moving or world-relevant things but they are lovely people who are growing up and getting there.

    And of course, I love Heather.