Femelist 2004

Instead of doing a typical year-end review of things — I had a baby, and then I got really sad and angry, and then I ended up in a psyche ward, and now the baby has teeth, it was a good year — I thought I would open up a post about the women on the Internet who have touched my life.

Most of the year-end reviews I have read include a whole bunch of links to men and their websites and then more men and then more men. It’s not that I don’t think men contribute a whole stinking bunch to this wonderful place, I just think it’s time to REPRESENT, ladies. We are writing, we are designing, we are setting standards. We are uniting, we are building communities, we are giving the world a more friendly, more empathic, more beautiful voice.

Here is just a small list of the women who have helped me survive this year:

Heather Powazek Champ
Gail Armstrong
Claire Robertson
Margaret Mason
Sarah Brown
Mrs. Kennedy
Mimi Smartypants
Sarah Hepola
Melissa S.
No Title Yet
Juliet Martinez
Tracie Masek
My Lovely Beth
French Toast Girl
Old Hag

Please feel free to post a link in the comments to the women you feel have contributed to this whole wonderful Inter-world: Designers, writers, crafters, mothers, sisters, friends, lovers, photographers, editors, painters, illustrators, geeks, nerds, dog and cat owners.

Happy New Year, Ladies. Thank you for sharing your lives with me. It’s good to be alive.

  • http://www.agirlandaboy.com leah
  • Danielle

    Sara Donati is my favorite author (historical fiction).
    She also has a blog where she is very open about her writing process.


  • Beardedman

    My girl LoxyFady at:


  • http://www.lunisea.com/school/blather.html AuntieClio

    Birdie at Beauty Dish has already been mentioned, but I gotta give props to My Friend SisterR who is amazing in her own right, and alas, blogless. I also gotta give props to my sister (in-law) who keeps me laughing.

  • http://www.dalecruse.com Dale Cruse

    I don’t know anyone (male or female) who writes as many consistently readable personal observations as our very own Heather Armstrong.

    But no woman has had more of an impact on my life in 2004 than Courtney at: http://midvaleschool.blogspot.com/

  • http://www.theoldhag.com Old Hag

    Wow! A link from the mighty Dooce! I AM SPEECHLESS.

    I would be remiss if I didn’t mention these women:

    http://www.maudnewton.com (of course)
    http://www.lauralippman.com (monthly authorly updates)
    http://www.thehighsign.net (your admirer DanaStevensakaLizPenn’s brilliant film essays)
    http://www.tinglealley.com (Carrie Anne Frye’s equally brill lit and life moments)

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  • http://mooeygooey.blogspot.com/ Holly

    I was introduced to your site a few months ago and I visit daily. You put a smile on my face and sometimes terror in my heart. I mean that in the most desperately of nice ways, honest. I just started my own blog actually.

    Anyhoo, I’d like to give thanks for my friend Lauren http://www.livejournal.com/users/lmjvp/ She’s been my online galpal for about 6 yrs now. Without her, I don’t think I could have made it sometimes.

  • Leon

    Dooce and DJ Blurb;

    Thank you


    For candidly sharing your lives
    For providing others with the affirmation that you can have a sense of humor about everything
    For your wit and perspective
    For the immense effort you make everyday to keep these dog and pony shows rolling

    I honestly had never paid Blogs any attention. Until this year. Any Blog now that I read, I’ve found as a result of you guys.

    Happy New Year Armstrongs. Thanks again.

  • http://www.sweetney.com sweetney

    beth, natch http://www.crazyus.com/

    but i’d also like to give a shout-out to the lesser-known http://homeofdismay.blogspot.com/
    – my friend claire, who is always an interesting and amusing read.

  • http://www.poppymom.com Poppy

    Fluid Pudding – http://www.fluidpudding.com
    Welfare Queen – http://www.welfarequeen.org
    Cranky Mommy’s Rant Site – crankymommy.blogspot.com
    Jodi – http://www.iwilldare.com
    And several others that have already been represented.

    Thanks for sharing this tough year, Heather. My daughter’s two weeks younger than Leta and we went through so much of the same stuff. You helped me get through.

  • http://www.theoldhag.com Old Hag

    Also, I just wanted to say that you were a great help to me this summer when I was also doing the great drug switcheroo. (And by “great”, I actually mean “soul-sucking and debilitating”. ) Without you and Jerod Poore at crazymeds.org, I would have been lost. (He is not a woman, but he can be an honorary one if he likes.) So happy New Year to you and your beautiful family!

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  • http://journals.aol.com/mom2kk11/WhatintheHelenofTroyisthat/ Chantal

    Some of my favourite chicks on the ‘net:

    Cecily – http://zia.blogs.com/wastedbirthcontrol/

    Sarah – http://sadandbeautiful.typepad.com/sad_and_beautiful_world/

    Margaret Cho – http://margaretcho.net/blog/

    …and of course, let’s not forget that chicks can sometimes piss you off, but are good for a chuckle:

    Prada Princess – http://pradaprincess.blogspot.com/

    Happy New Year!

  • http://www.thisfish.com Heather

    I’m glad you have Sarah Brown on that list. Without her and her rice krispy treats and our fishnet stocking excursions, I’d be a whole lot less of woman.

  • elena

    No, thank YOU for sharing a piece of yourself with us! You bring laughter to my bad days. You share your pain, and help me realize I’m not alone. You, yourself, are an inspiration to all women. So, yes, THANK YOU! And Happy New Year to you and your beauteous brood. :)

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  • http://midvaleschool.blogspot.com courtney

    Aw shucks, Dale…:)

    Heather, I as well want to thank you for your honesty and candid writing. No site I read regularly has the power to make me laugh out loud, cry, or get spun up about something as consistently as yours.

    Happy New Year to you, and Jon, and the Frog Princess (who, as I told you, most likely does not have autism), and Chuck (who makes me want to have a dog). Best wishes to you and those you love.

  • http://www.sherocious_mum.blogspot.com Shelagh McIntyre

    I have to add Julie’s site: http://www.perpetualkarma.com She’s very insightful, creative, sensitive, and makes me want to be a better person.


    Happy New Year to all!

  • http://www.sherocious_mum.blogspot.com Shelagh McIntyre

    oh my goodness, Shy Me beat me to it!!!

  • Sarah B

    Kicking creative ass and giving back: Cinnamon Cooper of http://www.poise.cc

    She’s closed up shop on the blog but has a book deal–read her archives. Kept me going all year: http://belledejour-uk.blogspot.com/

  • http://www.pismire.org pismire

    For some reason I am really drawn to sites by women bloggers. Here are a few that I visit every single day:


    These are three very strong women, and I enjoy their wit, creativity, and intelligence. And I bet you will too!

    Now I’ll be visiting many more women bloggers with all the great suggestions here. And thanks for the ride Dooce! Happy 2005.

  • http://www.sellke.com Adam

    My wife, Mary. http://www.circuslunch.com.

    She finds you inspiring. I find her amazing.

    Peace out in ’05,


  • http://www.foxinthesnow.com sam

    Leslie rocks my world. I am amazed every day by all the new and wonderful neurotic issues we can bond over:

  • http://jendomain.blogspot.com Jennifer

    Most of my favorites have been covered here. But not all. My blogroll is filled about 95% full of smart, witty, beautiful, strong, vulnerable, rock-your-face-off WOMEN. And I love them all, every single one.

    But you certainly set the precedent here at dooce.com.

    Happy New Year’s, Heather.

  • http://www.supamb.com/supafine Supa MB


    As she puts it: “Trish, 37, morning radio jock, punk rock mom, shutterbug and
    all around awesome babe.”

  • http://zia.blogs.com/wastedbirthcontrol/ Cecily

    Wow, Chantel, thanks!

    Everyone has already listed a lot of women i admire, but I have to add Moxie at http://www.moxie.blogs.com. Great writer and great chick!

  • Jamie

    Heather, YOU have made a difference for me this year. I’ve never posted to you and don’t keep a blog here. But I keep you bookmarked and really enjoy lurking on a daily basis. So thanks for being here for the other ladies on the Internet. You are an absolute joy to read.

  • joanie

    my friend brandi introduced me to your blog because she knew you and i shared a mutual respect for all things potty.

    her websites, generally dealing in non-potty, are awesome. her photosite, in particular, shows some of her most amazing shots. and her journal is well written and funny…

  • joanie

    and here are brandi’s links. brantastic.livejournal.com, http://www.brandiediss.com

  • http://aboutalice.diaryland.com Alice

    http://www.soapboxgirls.com first introduced me to the art of blogging. Heather Corinna at http://www.femmerotic.com/journal.html is a lovely person.

    Happy New Year!

  • http://www.aspenchick.blogspot.com Sunny

    Heather…thank you for sharing your life with us!! May your 2005 be filled with wonderful experiences, joy, love and fun!

  • Tricia

    GetupGrrl. Without a doubt. Oh, and you of course!

  • http://www.amandarin.net amandarin

    In addition to dooce.com and many of the other female bloggers mentioned here, I also read http://WWW.SOLBEAM.COM religiously. Sol quit her job at CollegeClub.com in favor of traveling the world. Her writing is beautiful and her adventures are truly inspiring.

  • Bea

    I love Moxie. She has a terrific three-year-old on, and she lets us all know that not all Christians are right-wing, fire-and-brimstone loonies.


  • Bea

    Um, that’s “son,” not “on.”

  • http://byrneout.livejournal.com byrneout

    More love for Mo at mopie.com, who introduced me to your site. Thanks, Mo!

    I also can’t get over my old friend sweetcoalminer (http://www.livejournal.com/users/sweetcoalminer/), whose recent posts about her uterine struggle are astonishing in their searing honesty.

    (“Searing honesty.” I’m going to start writing book reviews.)

  • http://staysix.org Ali

    I’m going to have to share a few fantastic female bloggers as well:

    http://a.thousandwords.nu – the lovely donaville

    http://notmyself.com – maura

    http://intensify.org – rachel

  • Wilma

    Willa at http://www.willa.com and Sara at http://www.goingjesus.com. Hooray to them, AND to THE DOOCE!

  • http://www.thehighsign.net lizpenn

    dooce, that’s funny — i was just conversing with the estimable cinetrix (whose film site i recommend: http://pullquote.typepad.com) — about why it is that, when it comes to personal websites, ladies are leading the way. my theory is that women make better bloggers because 1) we’re more inclined than men to open up and share our lives with strangers; 2) we’re more interested in our own and other peoples’ everydayness than guys are; and 3) as mothers or potential mothers, we’re used to the concept of working really hard for free — basically, we can’t say no, which is an important quality in a blogger.

    also: i just name-checked you and mimi, the founding mothers of the personal blog, in my contribution to the year-end culture survey on slate: http://www.slate.com/id/2111569/

    happy 2005 to the blurbodoocery, and keep on writing. — liz, or sometimes dana

  • http://chookooloonks.typepad.com Karen

    Way to a go, Dooce. I notice you never seem to post on other sites — very generous of you to give a shout-out to your favourites here. Wonderful gesture.

    Happy New Year to you and your family.

  • http://thecolorpurple.blogspot.com Megan

    You inspire me, Ms. Heather. Keep on rolling. And check out these ladies as well:


    Happy New Year!

  • drawdawn


    a way with words, super sense of humor, an awesome mommy and a great friend.

    My year has been better because of her!

    All the best in the New Year Heather & family.

  • sam

    My best friend, Jenni, has a website about her husband, Jeff, who is in Iraq with the Marine Reserves. It started out as a way for her to communicate with his family about how he was doing, but it has turned into an incredible blog about how she’s handling all of it. She’s so funny and insightful – you owe it to yourself to read at least a little bit, especially if someone you know is serving in the war. You are awesome Jenni!


  • http://gretchenb.tripod.com/mrbaby/ Gretchen C.

    Oh, without a question Miss Doxie. She’s like Dave Barry with tits, except funnier, and with cussing.


  • Meghan

    Most of my current favourites have already been mentioned, but there are a few that I love who seem to have stopped writing this past year.

    http://belledejour-uk.blogspot.com/ (as somebody already mentioned) has a book deal,

    http://www.jenfu.net/ should, if she doesn’t already,

    http://www.bornsquishy.com/ has a terrific attitude and I’m sure is a wonderful mother, if only she would share the details,

    and http://www.skinnykat.com who was one of my all-time favorites but seems to have just dropped off the face of the planet.

  • http://thelisalog.blogs.com/the_lisa_log/ Lisa

    The first blog I ever read that indeed inspired me to blog is http://www.misfitting.com.

    I love Dooce as well and have been inspired by some of her writings.

    Happy New Year Fellow Bloggers!

  • http://fubsy.net/blog just another heather
  • http://robertjosiah.com/photo Robert

    Me sister, Rachelle.


    Oh and, Men rock.

  • Doughnut

    Sweet Pea is a great site….