4/4 time
I think the best way to describe what it's been like to bring a second child into the family is to imagine having a jazz band blasting an improvisational set in your left ear while listening to the Mormon Tabernacle Choir singing Christmas carols in your right ear, and there you are, a drummer in a rock band, and you're on stage in front of 30,000 people trying to keep the beat to an acoustic version of "God Save the Queen" by the Sex Pistols.
I'm trying to find the rhythm. I'm getting there, but it's slow going. This is all to say, thank you for being patient with me, I know posting has been light and it will continue to be for the next little while as I navigate a path through all this chaos. I'm still physically healing, and even though I gave birth without any drugs, the recovery has been just as painful and frustrating and ongoing as it was after giving birth with an epidural. I've got a post coming about labor, about how transforming the experience was for me, but it's a long one and I'm still hammering away at all the tiny details. All while attached to my adorable, chubby caterpillar who from day one made it quite clear that she'd rather be no where else on earth than nestled right into my chest. I will tell you this, it has been so much better this time, still a little bumpy and rough here and there with one or two absolute freak outs, but I've been so much more diligent about taking every moment I can to stare at her and adore her every feature. And the weirdest thing has happened, this whole experience has increased my love for Leta by a measure I didn't know was possible. I can say that right now, here this morning as my second child dozes on my breast, that I have never been happier in my entire life.
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Heather talks about Valentine's Day on today's Momversation.
- I know zero about sports, but my entire heart is screaming, "Go Saints! Go Saints!" I am a stereotypical woman. TAKE OUT THE GARBAGE, JON!
- Marlo has a tooth! So says the blood that she drew when she grabbed my hand and tried to gnaw off my thumb!
- Leta won't eat her birthday cake. I guess we should have made it out of chicken nuggets and iced it with refried beans.
1. Meg said:
my firstborn slept on my chest and no where else for the first 2 months of her life. all while i was working on a phd. i wrote papers typing with one hand. it gets easier
2. Bethany said:
first to comment! congrats!
4. Lauren said:
She's a beautiful little girl. Congratulations on the addition to your family!
5. Valerie said:
Amazing...
6. Amanda said:
Awww. That is so sweet. It almost makes me want to have another. Almost. ;)
7. Bea said:
So glad to hear things are going well. Heaven knows where you're finding the time to tell us though - but personally (and selfishly) I'm happy you are!
8. Sara said:
I am so happy for you and your family!
9. Wendy said:
Blessings to you as you experience these first weeks, they are so precious!
10. Emily said:
Beautifully written. And a beautiful baby, indeed.
11. Laura in LA said:
I am equally scared to death & dying to have one.
12. Heather's Garden said:
You're great to post at all. I was just thinking it's not fair that you can't take maternity leave from your job. She's beautiful and I'm so happy that you're happy!
13. Labradoris said:
Take this sweet, sweet time and heal and grow and nurture yourself. We're patient. Or, at least I am. :)
14. erin said:
i cannot wait to read about her journey into the world. so very sweet, mama. glad to hear that all is well! xo
15. Jessica said:
Congratulations once again, Heather. I am so, so happy for all of you. I am SO glad this experience has been easier for you, too; I was hoping Marlo would be an "easy" baby! She is so adorable, even when she's purple!
16. Liz Voss said:
Heather, Marlo is absolutely beautiful. Even as a mother to a dog and two cats only, I look forward so much to reading about your journey with Jon, Leta, Marlo, Chuck, and Coco.
Good luck!
17. karen said:
YAY for you! This is how it's supposed to be!
18. Corinne said:
Oh Heather enjoy it!! Children are truly life's amazing gift! Congratulations!!
19. Cautionary Girl said:
We're waiting patiently! You're doing an amazing job in the meantime.
20. The Single Sister said:
So sweet.
21. bethie said:
I get tears in my eyes every time I see a picture of her. She is truly beautiful.
22. sasha said:
This post makes me happy.
23. Kim in Alaska said:
Your baby is adorable! I am really happy for you and your family.
I can't believe you gave birth without and epidural. You're a saint!
24. giggleblue said:
this is an awesome time and i'm so happy you are cherishing it!
25. Amy said:
She is a beauty! Love the name too!
26. Trish said:
I love this part.
When I first realized these two adorable human beings belonged to my husband and I, I cried tears of joy. I remember my husband looking at me, as my youngest was laying on my chest and my oldest was sitting beside me and he said, "you are just so proud of them right now, aren't you?". I just smiled through the tears. Yes, yes I was and still am.
You nailed it. Your love grows exponentially.
I'm so very happy for you and Jon! Congratulations.
27. leatitia said:
I'm so glad to read you're happy Heather. Your daughters are adorable.
28. Barbara E. said:
You gave us a Chuck & Coco with Marlo in the background. That would have kept me patient for at least another few days. Take it easy.
29. hoskas said:
That huge secret-bonus-level surge of love for the older child? I can totally relate.
30. Jo Anne said:
Wow, I am so sad that I never had this experience. I feel so a part of it and am truely in awe. She is beautiful indeed!
31. Hillary said:
Marlo is beautiful and already so alert. She really does glow.
32. Rebecca said:
Your newest addition is absolutely perfect for your already beautiful family!
Take as much time as you need.
Much love from Texas!
33. kate said:
wow, that last line made the tears well up.
34. Tiffany said:
She's beautiful! And as Leta is already such a wonderful little girl, I'm sure you guys are right on track!
35. Cj Coppola said:
She's beautiful.
36. Dumb Youngins said:
:)
37. deb said:
you have the incredible gift of capturing the most complicated and overwhelming situations into a beautifully written post. thank you!
38. avis said:
Beautiful. Beautiful baby, family, sentiments...
Congratulations.
39. Courtney said:
Marlo is beautiful! Scratch that...you're entire family is beautiful. I am a new reader and simply can't get enough. Thank you for sharing your beautiful life with us.
40. a H.I.T. said:
And that is why we cannot wait to become parents.
41. Carly said:
You are one incredibly lucky lady. Enjoy it!
42. Jody said:
And I am so happy for you!
43. sarah said:
that's wonderful! congratulations! :)
44. Shaunna said:
She is so absolutely beautiful! And it is still so early, you have lots of time to get the routine down. You seem to be just taking the moments as they come, which is really the best any of us can do! I'm so happy for you all!
45. Elizabeth said:
Thanks for spreading the love around. Take a break, heal and be present with every minute. We'll be here when you return.
46. Amy J said:
What a truly beautiful place to be in your life, I am so happy for you.
For one millisecond I almost wanted to have another child, and then I heard the 3 year old screaming and it was gone.
Thank you for sharing your most personal thoughts with all of the rest of us.
47. Shelly said:
She is so adorable!
48. gearhead mama said:
I am so happy to hear things are going better this time. I've been dying to hear about the birth, but yeah, I get the whole "being busy" thing. I'll wait as patiently as I can!
49. Kari said:
Congrats, she is absolutely beautiful! I'm glad to hear things are going so well! I admire you for keeping up a blog in the first weeks post-baby... I did good to get a shower! :) You're amazing!
50. Kate said:
So sweet! It makes everyone who loves you happy to know that you are so happy.
51. Amy said:
Glad to hear things are going so well. :) My daughter, who is my 3rd (and LAST), would only sleep snuggled up on someone's chest. She preferred me, but would sleep for a while if my husband or mother held her on their chests. That lasted for not quite a month, when she decided she was ok sleeping next to me instead. I normally cannot stand being touched while trying to sleep (my husband so loves that about me), but for my daughter I seemed to make an exception. I sleep with few problems when she's next to me.
I really hope things continue to go well for all of you.
52. Edwin Allen said:
That's a really beautiful sentiment. Sublime even. That makes me smile and feel happy. Thank you.
53. robyn said:
She is SO pretty it's unbelievable!
54. Abby Johns said:
This post makes me hopeful for when we decide to have our second. I was so worried that having a second child would make me feel differently towards our daughter, Ava, or maybe I would love Ava more than our second because she was our first. Knowing that having Marlo has increased your love for Leta, yet you still feel that impact that having a child is supposed to give you has calmed those fears for me.
I hope that this time around with be easier, mentally, for you and that you will get to enjoy more of it with a clearer mind.
She is absolutely beautiful, Heather. They both are!
55. Kate said:
You take your time, Mama. You deserve to enjoy your happiness. We will still be here when you get back.
Much love from New York City.
56. Doctor's Girlfriend said:
That was just a simply beautiful post. :)
57. Chriss said:
Take your time and don't worry about it (slow posting). Anyone who would get salty over not getting to read into your family's everyday lives when you have just brought LIFE into this world, doesn't deserve to read your posts anyway.
BTW- Beautiful Pictures!
58. Anne said:
Glad to hear that you guys are making a good adjustment and that is it easier this time around. I can't wait to read more about it but of course, first thing first, is focusing on the family and the adjustments that comes with it. :)
So happy for your family. :)
59. Carol said:
This is the first time I have posted a comment. I just want to say I am so glad that things are going better for you this time around. We had the same experience in our home the first go around.... Not pretty at all and like you I decided to do it again and it did go so much easier the second time around. It helps just a little bit to have a clue as to what you are doing....even if just a little clue. She is a doll and I love her name.
60. Maggie said:
I am really happy for you. I also have daughters about the same distance apart as yours and I remember having so much more love for my first (and thinking she was huge) after number 2 came along but also savoring every moment with my second in a way that I didn't do the first time around. Negotiating 2 is much more difficult than 1, especially when they get a little older and the activity range is so different, and the FIGHTING, good lord, I could do without that.
61. Kellie said:
I absolutely had a feeling this is how it was going to be for you this time around. The difference between my first and second was absolutely mind-blowing and wonderful. Life is pure bliss in these moments. I am so excited for you. Congrats.
62. Sarah said:
I'm so happy to hear how happy you all are. Marlo's gorgeous.
.... and since I abandoned this comment to photograph the hedgehog we just spotted outside, my guess is that I won't be comment #23 any more.
63. Lauren Marie said:
Marlo is absolutely adorable, so I must demand more pictures as soon as you get settled into a routine. :)
Glad to hear that things are much better this time around. Best wishes to you and your family.
64. kim said:
Marlo is a gorgeous baby.
When my second was born I remember how my heart felt like it swelled and then exploded with love --not just for the new baby, but for my oldest as well.
It still ranks as the best feeling of my life.
65. Krissa said:
Congratulations! I never comment, well almost, but just wanted to add one more congrats on top of the heap. She's beautiful!
66. Rachel said:
What a beautiful post!
Marlo is absolutely adorable.
67. julybirthday said:
Oh my goodness, I know EXACTLY what you're talking about! Not only did my first child appear HUGE to me after having #2, but I felt caught between needing to be Active Mama to a rambunctious toddler, and Zen Mama to a dozing, nursing little newborn. It freaked me out. But I also found the balance, eventually. Thank goodness for partners and grandparents!
68. Krys said:
Thank you for sharing so many great moments with us. Your gloworm is adorable. Just so sweet. As long as she's attached to you, right?
69. Emma said:
What a sweet post Heather - congratulations again. I'm sure there are crazy moments but you sound so serene and happy in this post. I'm 34 weeks with our second child and reading this just makes me so much more excited about his or her arrival! Thanks for sharing these intimate moments with us. Many warm wishes to your family xx
70. Tracy said:
Heather, Marlo is gorgeous, and anyone who is mean for your "light posting" can suck it. I am beyond-words happy for you.
71. Stefanie said:
This post makes me so hopeful for my next child and my next delivery. I hope more than anything that it turns out exactly the way you described this moment.
72. Kristina said:
That last picture. Hilarious and heart breaking and so so touching all at the same.
But Russell Brand has a warning for you regarding Night Nurse.
73. Lisa said:
I remember eating with one hand. There is nothing better than heartbeat to heartbeat. My 15 year old daughter still likes to put her head on my chest to hear my heartbeat.
Sometimes the second baby is a better experience. My best experience was with my first. By the time I had my daughter, I had two step kids and my biological son. It was way too much for me. My daughter was born 6/18 and I remember breast feeding her on the beach on the 4th of July. I decided to stop breast feeding that day because I was the only one not having any fun. Turns out she is the smartest and the heathiest of the 4!
Thanks for sharing your journey, Heather....and Jon.
74. sarah said:
so extremely happy for you all! em....no worries on the light posting, i think everyone who reads your blog understands THAT YOU JUST HAD A BABY. i'm just so happy + curious about the whole thing that i find myself checking your blog more often than necessary. + thank you again for sharing so much about your process. i know i'll find comfort in it when i decide to have a baby one day.
75. Mary Lynn said:
So glad things are going well for you, Heather. What beautiful little girls you have.
76. Aly said:
Oh, Heather... that just about melted my heart.. I've never been so touched by a perfect stranger's happiness. Take your time to heal, we'll be right here waiting for the stories you'll want to share about your adorable family. Best wishes to all of you!
77. SarahW said:
A very heartfelt post. So glad things a much smoother this time. She's beautiful!
78. XOXO said:
We love you, girl! You take whatever time you want.
We're here when you are!!
lovelovelove!!
XO
79. nelking said:
Yeah, that second one is a mind blower in a different way than the first.
Your musical reference will continue to work from now on. The mash up will just change every once in a while and get a little harmonious.
80. cath said:
it is true that each new love expands our capacity to love that which we already have ... what a gift it is to watch your family, and your heart, grow and grow - thank you for sharing it all!
81. Lauren said:
She REALLY is gorgeous! Absolutely precious. Congratulations <3
82. Anna said:
you make having babies sound fun Heather! I might just change my mind about having one of those one day ;D
83. Janet said:
Yes, that's exactly it. I had the same experience with baby #2. With the first one, I was so panicky trying to feel like myself again but with the second one there was so much less pressure because I realized that all the things that seemed so drastic the first time through, were temporary and I could relax and enjoy them and be so much more in the moment.
You're doing great and that baby is gorgeous.
84. Violet said:
I'm six months pregnant with my first. I read your posts and I can not wait to meet this little bundle inside of me.
Patiently anticipating your post on the natural birth. I'm planning on going the drug-free route myself.
Congratulations.
85. Ginger said:
I felt like a mother lion when my second son was born - I all but licked his head. Isn't it amazing the confidence level you have with the second child? The more children you have to love, the more love you have for your children!
This post is pure poetry.
All the best!
86. Amanda said:
Thank you for sharing your personal and familial joy with all of us so candidly; it is beautiful to read. Marlo is just darling and I'm impressed at how much you have had time to post already. Wishing you all the best.
87. grandmaj said:
It really does just keep getting better, in a weird roller coaster kind of way!
88. Shanna said:
So glad that this time is going easier for you. She's a cute little bug! My children are 11 years apart. I was so worried about loving the 2nd one as much as the 1st, and vice versa. Well, let me tell you, when I see them interact with each other I just fall more deeply in love with both of them. It's an amazing ride...congratulations!
89. hi kooky said:
Cute, cute, cute little Marlo. Also, oxytocin ROCKS.
90. red said:
she is GORGEOUS, Heather. absolutely perfect.
91. andrea frazer said:
Marlo is spectacular! And I'm so happy for you. I remember that feeling of bliss well. It's lovely to hear you so upbeat. (Though we'll take you just the way you are on your off days also. No pressure!)
92. Annie said:
can't stand how cute that baby is.
good job - on both amazingly adorable girlies.
93. leesavee said:
I am so very happy for you, Heather. You deserve this.
And I JUST FOUND OUT a few days ago that I'm going to be a mommy, too! I'm adopting two GORGEOUS children from Ethiopia!!!!!
94. Shannon said:
What a lovingly written experience. Congrats to all of you :)
95. Nanci said:
The second picture is adorable. Makes it very hard for me to wait a little while longer to start my own family!
96. MissCaron said:
That's wonderful! I'm so happy to hear that you're adjusting so well ... and that you're so happy and content right now. :-)
97. Ellen said:
Aw... I'm glad it's going well for you guys. The second picture is so cute... she looks so alert.
98. Anonymous said:
Heather - No epidural!! That is incredible. I tried to do that, and gave up three hours before my daughter was born. The pain was so incredible, I was dripping sweat, clammy, red, trembling and frozen, unable to move. I honestly do not know how you did that. Looking forward to reading about it.
As per healing, my hospital said it takes 6 weeks, no matter what type of birth you had. They even suggest not driving for 6 weeks because the uterus is soft, and if you get in an accident, you can bleed to death. Lovely, huh?
How about some guest posts from Blurb? Get some rest :)
99. kristy said:
Having just discovered your page, I now find myself logging on first thing each morning to see what your beautiful family is up to(we live in Sydney, so your posts tend to come when we're asleep!). Thanks for providing some humurous moments in my hectic days (I have 2 daughters aged 2.5 & 4); and congratulations on your gorgeous girls. xx
100. Kara said:
Congratulations! She is an adorable baby girl. Best wishes as you adjust to this change, I hope things continue to go well.
101. Meagan D said:
As always, I am truly amazed at your ability to put into words exactly what you are feeling and make me feel it to.
Congrats on the newest addition!
Remember to take care of yourself, we can wait for your posts.
102. marcia said:
The second one is so much more fun than the first.
Enjoy!
103. Amy said:
That baby has some EPIC cheeks. Could she be storing extra breast milk in there for on-the-go snacking?
104. Melissa said:
so happy for you.
105. jessica said:
beautiful.
106. Julie said:
We are expecting a baby girl right now...our first. I have been reading your blog since it launched...and you have always been an inspiration.
You and your family deserve every happiness. I am thrilled for you all.
107. Angie said:
When my second was born, I really tried to take the time to enjoy him as much as I could. But life still managed to swirl us three years ahead, and I now struggle to remember the feeling of holding a newborn or the feeling of my 5yo daughter being a toddler . Not much you can do to stop time. But the surge of love for the first child: that doesn't go away !
108. Aza said:
Oh my God i wan't to cry...I am so happy for you! You are a really lucky person.
109. Raezin said:
Awwww. This post makes me absolutely LONG for a second child! I don't think I can afford one (both finances and sanity considered) but I am so happy for your family. Marlo sounds like a cuddly little sweetheart.
110. Mom of 1 said:
Congrats!
And thank you so much for this post. As a mom who struggled with PPD I really want a sibling for my child, but am just a bit freaked out at the prospect. I in no way suffered as badly as you did after giving birth to Leta, so if you can swing it, you give me hope that I can too!
111. Jamie said:
We're all thinking about you, hang in there!! I'm not going to lie, I miss your posts, but you have the best excuse possible to be away as much as you want. Plus this is like a little preview of my life in 2 months.
112. Indigo said:
Your post gave me goosebumps.
113. cjh said:
So glad to hear you're doing better this time and that you're happy. How could you not be with that terribly cute new addition. We'll wait patiently.
114. K said:
I'm so happy for you, and Marlo is utterly, stunningly lovely. Such a beautiful, beautiful newborn!
115. Anonymous said:
So very precious. You keep making me cry with all these baby posts. She is absolutely beautiful, and I cannot wait to have one of my own!
116. highlyirritable said:
Isn't funny how bringing home another child increases your capacity for love? I was so worried that I would somehow have to fraction off a portion of what I had for my first, but instead, I found suprisingly, that love for your children is infinite and expands upon the arrival of each one.
Enjoy your two girls!
Jeni
117. Katie in Denver said:
Heather, I got tears in my eyes reading what you wrote about how you've never been happier. I am a long-time reader and the journey you've been on to get to this point makes it even more significant. (oh, and Marlo Iris is SUCH a kick-ass name). I couldn't be happier for you and your family.
118. Cara said:
She is beautiful, Heather. I am so happy for you and your family. I cannot wait until I become a mother and experience what you have written about.
Enjoy and embrace it!
119. Carrie said:
Just beautiful.
120. Anonymous said:
SO BEAUTIFUL! imagine the world if everyone felt the love as much as you are! thank you for lifting us all up with your lovely, real, and honest perspective on life!
121. Sara said:
I don't know what it is about second babies, but they all seem to be such happier, more chill than the first. At least that has been our experience. Not that he spends any less time attached to the boob than his sister did--even when he isn't hungry he wants to be right on the boob, the nekkid boob no clothing allowed. But he's just happier than she was. THANK GOD.
Maybe it has something to do with knowing what to expect (somewhat), being able to prepare yourself mentally for what will be expected of you the first several weeks.
Whatever it is, I'm so glad it's working for you. You sound very happy.
122. Amy in SLC said:
I just had my 2nd baby in April. The adjustment was sooo much harder than I thought it would be. I felt so out of sync. The physical recovery was harder and took longer and I constantly felt guilty about not having as much time for my 3 year old even though he was adjusting just fine to his new sister. The three of us had a good cry together on the floor in his bedroom one night when I couldn't handle the sleep deprivation anymore. It does get better although I still can't imagine being able to get out of my house with both of them before 9:30 a.m.!
123. Christine Chrisman said:
That is the best description of having two kids I've ever seen.
I'm so happy for you, and so look forward to reading about your beautiful family! It brightens my day!
124. Yolanda said:
I totally welled up on this one. I realize this is your job, but if you didn't work from home you'd have six weeks maternity leave, so light posting--even no posting--should totally be expected. Dig out some greatest hits and let things settle for a while. Feeling every contraction and pushing a baby out without having your body numbed it so unbelievably empowering. No matter what struggles come with this child, or balancing life with two, you will always know that you are capable of *that*. As mother who has had many dark days sense the birth of daughter--and who knows all to well what it is like to have a lot of postpartum healing--sometimes all I could cling to is the memory of how amazing my birth felt and how I had never felt more strong the moments after I'd pushed her into the world.
125. rb said:
Most moms take a maternity leave. I'm sure everyone will forgive you if you slow down a bit.
OH MY GOD is she cute!
126. Eve Grey said:
I can realte to your every word. I had twin boys when my daughter was just over two. The guilt i felt after their birth brought me to my knees. It also increased my love for her tenfold which i never thought possible.
Congratulations. ♥
127. SaritaPagita said:
You are doing it totally right! It's all about the loving and cuddling and enjoying as much as you can while it's hectic as f*ck and crazy as batsh*t. You are doing great. Keep up the good work!
128. Eve said:
urgh, relate.
129. AmyElle said:
Oh Heather, I am so incredibly happy it is going smoother for you guys this time. Incredibly happy. You have restored my dream that it doesn't have to be so rough. While I will never get to experience it again, it's awesome that this time is going better. Newborns are hard enough, without the depression.
Just keep posting a pic for us, and we will quietly wait as you guys settle into being 4 humans and 2 dogs.
130. Tamra said:
From one natural-birth mama to another, I have felt that pain. The healing takes time regardless of how well the birth goes, and the hormonal aftermath is a bumpy ride that everyone struggles through. I don't think anyone is going to blame you for slacking off on your blog... unless, of course, they've never popped a baby out of their own vagina before.
Congratulations on the birth of your beautiful daughter, and I am looking forward to hearing your birth story!
131. nic said:
I am so happy for you I have tears in my eyes... crazy, I blame it on my 9 month old third kid. Your family is beautiful, and I love Marlo's name!!
congrats!
132. TED said:
Just keep the baby pictures coming. She is so freaking cute.
133. Amanda said:
My ovaries hurt.
134. supertiff said:
in that last picture, i totally see what you meant when you said she looked like a glow worm.
i had one of those toy glow worms when i was little--you know, the ones whose faces would light up--and i thought it was the best thing ever.
so, clearly, it's a good comparison as marlo looks pretty freaking awesome.
congratulations and good luck!
135. Natalie said:
I'm gonna need that baby to get ugly super fast because every time I check your blog and see a new picture of her, my "NEED A BABY NOW!" sensor goes off.
Lo is precious. And to risk sounding like a total fruitcake, she looks like she smells really good. I love "new baby" smell.
136. Jenn said:
So sweet! :)
137. Jennifer said:
What a sweet post. I'm so happy for you.
138. Anne P said:
In the UK it's a *criminal* offence to contact a mother about work issues during the first fortnight after giving birth. Take all the time you need. Yes, we're longing to hear all about it and to see your beautiful glow-worm, but we're not going anywhere, we'll wait.
139. Ariel said:
You are all beautiful:) Thank you for sharing!
140. Julie Jackson said:
SO happy to hear it - also happy to see you haven't stopped posting about the dogs. Seems like so many people forget about the dogs once they have kids, but I'm so glad you still make time for updating us about both!
141. Keep On S'myelin! said:
The rhythym will come, but hopefully not too quickly as that just means they're growing up way too fast...isn't that always the way.
Beautiful pictures....enjoy!
142. Dianne said:
I'm amazed at what you've posted since giving birth. You are not supposed to work that hard! Enjoy your maternity leave, and enjoy both of your beautiful children...God bless you all.
143. Sarah @ BecomingSarah.com said:
I'm glad to hear that you're doing well and that you're happy. That's such a blessing =)
144. Candy said:
As it should be....
145. Amie said:
Having more than one kid is all about the triage. You need to be able to immediately assess every situation and decide who needs you and who can scream a little longer.
good luck! she is lovely.
-mom of three
146. Terri said:
OMG...she looks like a "baby" already. (As opposed to a newborn) It goes by so quickly. Thanks for doing your best to throw a post at us here and there. I'm sure it's difficult but I know many, like myself, run here every morning waiting, hoping for an update. It's my addiction. Well, my healthiest addiction.
I think you're doing great! I'm sure it's a little easier that Jon is home full time. I had to laugh when you said you put clothes on yesterday. It had been three days since I put on "street" clothes (I work from home) and I felt so quilty (it's been 30 years since I had a baby) that I ran into the bedroom, threw on some clothes and took "our" baby (my sons girlfriend's two yr old) to the park!
Take care Heather and really, thanks so much for the updates.
147. Shelley Noble said:
She's gorgeous, you're awesome. We are all out here pulling for you all. The whole pack.
148. Sundance Kid said:
That is so nice to hear. I am so happy for you and your family. :)
149. Erika said:
From someone you don't know and will probably never met, I am truly happy for you guys and your happiness. You have defintitely given me the baby itch!
150. Bella-Sweet said:
How do you keep from just eating her face off? She's so freaking adorable.
151. Jo said:
You and your husband definitely make beautiful babies. And can I just say that after finding your blog last month I'm having a hard time being productive at work.
152. Toni said:
That is so awesome. Enjoy your baby moon. I'm almost jealous. Almost! ;-)
153. Tiff said:
Sounds like you are doing great, to me!
Both of your girls are absolutely gorgeous! You are one lucky Momma!
154. Ben of BenOBrien.net said:
Your baby is beautiful (and I imagine your camera is quite the gem too!) nice blog, look forward to reading more!
155. Anne said:
Amazing adventures of love, life, and little ones. Marlo is the bomb. Leta is so cool. You are so lucky to have two girls! Congrats again - you deserve all the happiness in the world.
156. Kate said:
Oh YAY YAY!!! I'm so glad to hear that. She is gorgeous.
157. Amanda said:
I am so happy to hear that you are so happy. Also, Marlo is PRECIOUS, as is Leta.
158. Maggie said:
If you think this is outstanding, wait until you are a grandparent. I am blessed to still be quite young and have a beautiful grandson. This time around, finances are better, I don't have to work as hard and I am able to take more time to notice him, watch him, observe and absorb!
159. Alana said:
Rarely have I seen a newborn baby so beautiful so young. Congratulations. :D
160. Kelly said:
I feel ya Heather! I gave birth just a few days before you to my first. I did it naturally without drugs and my son decided to come breech. By the time we discovered his "breechness" it was too late for any kind of drugs or c-section. By the time I got to the hospital I was at a 9 already! I am healing but not as fast as I would like to. Things take time I suppose and I need to learn to be patient. Unfortunately my little one is pretty little and has trouble latching on so I don't know about this breast snuggling...yet...hopefully it will happen soon! Hang in there and I can't wait to hear your birth story!
161. Pam said:
Congratulations! Marlo is beautiful. Take all the time you need -- your readers will surely understand and will be here when you get back.
162. lisa c. said:
she is sooo cute!
163. Lisa Rae @ smacksy said:
It's a gorgeous time when a little something that weighs less than 10 pounds can actually have more weight than the whole world.
She is a beauty.
164. Elaina said:
This is such a beautiful post. Really. Marlo is so adorable. You're a lucky woman to have two beautiful little ones!
165. Julie said:
I'm so glad that it is going more easily this time. Having been through the tough stuff once helps you the second time I think. Congratulations! Little Marlo is perfectly adorable, and it sounds like you are already being the perfect mom for her. I'm praying for extra rich sleep, contentment, and peace for you.
166. Jennifer said:
This post put a smile on my face. Not just because baby Marlo is achingly beautiful, but because you're in a good place. Just love that. And take your time with the posts...I still check every day! :)
167. grimsaburger said:
So glad to hear you're doing well! I had my first baby a couple weeks ahead of Marlo, and I would feel totally and completely alone in this world if you hadn't experienced a couple absolute freakouts so far. At this point, I simply cannot imagine doing the newborn thing a second time. Can't wait to read your labor story, but take your time and take care of yourself!
168. Kimberly said:
So happy you're happy! It is such a special time, savor it.
169. Nat W. said:
She's a CUTIE. Also, no drugs? God bless you, woman.
170. Molly said:
That is the most awesome thing to hear!
171. Sunda said:
I just want to say -- thanks. I'm expecting #2 in a couple of months here, and it's really nerve wracking, and I've been trepidatious about how it might go, and your post really helped. Thanks! :)
And, of course, congratulations!
172. CreatureofHabit said:
Chubby caterpillar! Lol! She totally is - and an adorable one at that!
173. Katie.P said:
I am so happy for you.
It is something that has never happened for me, and I regret not having had children. I file my regret under 'if I could go back, what would I change?'
Instead I now take delight in others' delight. God bless you and your family.
174. Anne said:
Coming out of long time lurkdom to say your new daughter is just adorable! I am 32 wks pregnant and the cute new baby pics are definitely making me wish time would go just a bit faster. Congrats!
175. Chum said:
What a beautiful baby. The eyebrows already!
176. Katie Collins said:
Finally! I'm up to date and can comment on a current story!
Marlo is a gorgeous baby. You're going to be fine. A few ups and downs are to be expected. But it sounds like you're doing great. I hope Leta is enjoying her new baby sister. Take your time, spend some time with your family. We'll be here when you're ready!
177. Janette said:
You have a beautiful family and I am so glad to hear how happy you are!
178. Lara said:
It's so true; people are afraid to bring a second (or third, etc.) child into their lives but it's true that your heart WILL expand exponentially, and the love you had before will seem shallow and pale in comparison.
Congratulations, Heather, Jon and Leta... your lives just became blessed in ways you never knew possible.
179. Julia said:
Congratulations on your beautiful little girl. It has been wonderful to hear about your journey -- I myself am due in a week and have enjoyed following you along the way.
180. Deedee said:
Marlo is a beautiful female version of Jon, don't you think? I mean really. I can totally see her daddy in her adorable eyes and mouth in the bottom pic. Gorgeous!
181. Amanda Swindell said:
I'm glad I'm not Marlo's parent because I would have nibbled her adorable little ears off already! You deserve the happiness Heather.
182. Katka said:
My heart just melted... And the second picture of Marlo must be one of your best pics ever...Good luck with everything
183. Mommica said:
Please. I had a new baby once and I can't believe you've found time to post AT ALL. Don't apologize. Just know that we're all hanging on every word and really all you have to do to satisfy us for the next month or so is post pictures of your little snuggle buggle.
184. Laura said:
Long time reader, first time commenter. I just wanted to say that I could not be happier for you and your family. This post made me cry. I am so glad that you are happy and that your family is doing well. I wish you all the best.
185. AmberStar said:
Keep waltzing with and around your adorable family. Life is very good for you right now and that is wonderful.
186. Kathy from NJ said:
You are cetainly entitled to some maternity leave, we'll all just have to suffer some Dooce-withdrawal.
Marlo is one of the most beautiful babies I've ever seen, she is perfect. Congratulations to all of you.
187. Julie said:
You know that love you are feeling towards your children? You just wait until you have grandchildren. It's mind blowing. I loved (and still do) my kids but I didn't know I could love my grandson even more.
188. Susan O said:
Great, uplifting, unexpected post. Marlo is unusually beautiful for such a little girl and I love her name, Marlo Iris. Thank you for the wonderful photo of Chuck, Coco & Marlo. I'm so happy that you are so happy.
189. Bec said:
Just wanted to say thank YOU for sharing! Can't wait to see Miss Marlo as she grows.
190. aussiechic said:
Oh there is nothing like those moments.......just the best.......still to this day I love to snuggle with my little vegemite who is 8 mnths old.....he snuggles under my arm when we lie on the bed together.....just the best......
191. Erin said:
Awww... dying over here. I am 11 wks pregnant and ready to burst into tears over all of your recent posts.
192. stephanie said:
Glad to hear all is well...Marlo is adorable..Recovery takes awhile; long time reader will keep checking in...take all the time you need...enjoy every minutes as they pass way too quickly...
193. Tiggerlane said:
There's something in this child's eyes...she is absolutely adorable. Wish I knew how to express it...but WOW.
And yeah - I gave birth naturally with no drugs...I think that's why my kid is an only child.
Hang in there...been worrying about you all! (Mostly Chuck - glad to hear he isn't skulking too terribly much.)
194. kara said:
I am so, so, so happy for you. What a great moment of life to be in.
195. Jill Put Up A Blog said:
I am so happy for you:) She truly is adorable, I would have a hard time not staring at her constantly too. Enjoy!!
196. kate said:
There is something quite transformative that occurs when giving birth naturally (without drugs). I've had a hard time describing it (out of body experience for sure) so I look forward to your post about giving birth to Marlo. I am so very happy for you and the fam. You are in a PERFECT spot...so centered and focused. Enjoy, no worries, us readers will be here when you are. Take care. xxoo.
197. Shalini said:
She is outrageously gorgeous! Congrats! :)
198. RuthWells said:
Fan-freaking-tastic. Well done!
199. maggie may said:
hey there, dooce. i'm a writer and mother of three and
recently unfortunately started blogging about the loss of
our baby at 13 weeks along, two weeks ago. it's beautiful
to come here and read your posts. i know the future will hold this for me again, and it cheers me up to read about
your family. your babe is beautiful.
200. Chelsea said:
She is absolutely beautiful. I love her eyes!
201. Lori said:
She is absolutely gorgeous! So glad things are going well for everyone.
202. Lauren said:
Gorgeous photos. Glad to hear you are doing well. Hugs and kisses to Leta too.
203. Anonymous said:
Dear dooce,
I was a loyal follower of your blog for over 3.5 years, but I have to say your content is really getting stale. I am now going to dailypuppy.com for dog photos, and have found a replacement. Even though your style of writing is still interesting to read, your subjects have barely evolved over the time I have been reading you and there is really nothing exciting left on your blog. Disappointed,
Sasha
204. Becca said:
IGNORE THE HATER ABOVE!!!!
Oh Heather, she is beautiful and I love that Coco licks her...My dogs used to watch my son sleep when he was newborn and get excited when he moved.
205. Alicia said:
As a long-time reader, I must tell you that I am so happy for you. Your book, It Sucked and then I Cried, has saved me the last few months with my first baby (now 5 months). Your post gives me hope that I might be able to do it all over again - several years from now! Thanks for sharing so beautifully.
206. HDC said:
This makes me happy.
Another happy family. In the grand scale of things, not that big. But every little thing makes the world that much better. I wish you all continued goodness!
207. Anonymous said:
Congratulations to your newest member! Your children are so beautiful....what a lovely post!
208. Michelle said:
Congratulations. Love how your write that the experience has increased your love for Leta. On the way to the hospital to deliver my second child, we dropped our then 5-year-old daughter at a friends' house for safekeeping. I sobbed and sobbed. My girlfriend was perplexed--how could I be so unhappy on the eve of giving birth? But it wasn't about the new baby--it was the sudden realization that I loved my daughter SO MUCH, I couldn't imagine loving anyone else like that, having that profound connection and attachment with another human being. But of course, my heart grew two sizes bigger once my son arrived.
209. Erica Hennings said:
That is so awesome! Glad the experience has been wonderful.
You gave birth without any drugs? Where is your cape? Looking forward to reading the post. Marlo is so cute, don't stop posting pictures.
Hope Leta is loving having a sister.
Much love from Memphis,
Erica
210. Autumn Knapp said:
Life with two little ones is definitely SO different than only one! Give yourself tons of time to get used to things, because it *will* take lots of time. I think it was 6 weeks before I found a routine that I could live with, and 6 months that I finally hit upon a routine that I loved.
Your little girl is so adorable. :)
211. Mari said:
Aww, glad you are enjoying it!
212. Regina said:
I love your site, Heather.
Marlo is beautiful. congratulations! My daughter was the same way, only content if I held her constantly. It was tough, especially since I have a 9 and a 6 year old (both boys)to keep up with, but now that she's just turned one, I already miss it. Enjoy every second.
213. Stephanie said:
Beautiful, Heather! It brought tears to my eyes.
214. ~beautyandjoy~ said:
That made me cry and so,so happy for you.
215. Sheila said:
Wonderful!
My children are much older now but every day I'm so happy and proud to be their mother.
216. superkittn said:
Oh, cripe, you've gone and made me cry again.
217. Carrie said:
This is so sweet. Congratulations, she's beautiful.
218. SK said:
this was such a beautiful post! i'm happy for your happiness :)
219. Molly said:
So happy for you Heather!
220. Britte said:
She's so cute! I just can't over how adorable she is! And her eyes, oh I love them. And since I can't comment in the Daily Chuck section I will instead make my comment on it in here: AWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWW the way Coco and Chuck are spoon is the way my dog tries to spoon my boyfriend and I while in bed. Except he cant figure out that in order to spoon two people at once, it's best to be in the middle. So he'll go on my side, lay there for a few minutes, get up, go on Ryan's side and over and over and over until we have to kick him off the bed.
221. Brittany said:
Congrats, what a beautiful family and new addition! I look forward to the day I fully understand your emotions. My husband and I are trying to get pregnant, after a miscarriage 2 months ago. Thank you for your website and your honesty, it has helped me heal more than you will ever know.
222. Danielle said:
She is a beautiful baby. Much love
223. Rayna said:
I am so happy for you - children are amazing! She is so beautiful! Who cares how light posting has been, enjoy every moment with your precious little bundle and your precious not-so-little anymore big sister to the little bundle.
224. Dylan said:
Glad you're doing well. (: I love the second picture of Marlo... and the first one, too. I doubt that she could look bad in a picture.
225. Anonymous said:
I am so proud of you, and am writing to say that you'll get through the post-partum pain soon.
I gave birth without drugs to my first child 3 months ago, and it took a full month before I felt comfortable down there, and another month (and LOTS of kegels) before I felt normal again. I felt the same way as you -- very frustrated to have the post-partum pain after getting through what I thought should be the worst of it (the delivery itself), but still elated over the birth. Now the pain is gone and the elation remains.
Big hugs, lots of warm baths, and best wishes!
226. Amanda said:
You just keep making me tear up this week! :-)
227. M E D I C A T I O N said:
What medication are you taking for depression? How has it worked? Please write about your experience? Are you still on it while breastfeeding.
I need your help!!1
228. Dogmom said:
God, is that baby girl precious or what?!
229. amy said:
I know exactly how you feel...so happy for you all, you brought tears to my eyes. Even when their big, you feel the same way. It's crazy wonderful, this motherhood thing!
230. Wacky Mommy said:
Hello, new little person. Yer cute. Pretty alert too, eh?
Heather, I am surprised you are posting at all... no, wait. I'm not that surprised at all. Take a break, girl. We'll still be here. And... I felt the same way when our second was born -- the love for my first and for my husband just expanded and went kerpow. It's pretty cool and a little weird. Technicolor love.
Just finished the dad book you edited -- v. good. Funny, intense and poignant all at once.
231. Sara said:
So happy for you and your fam, Dooce. :D Many good wishes.
232. A said:
Gosh I forget how tiny babies are, she's incredibly sweet.
My kids are 15 months and 3 and I'm STILL trying to find my rhythm.
I just eat a lot of doughnuts.
233. Missives From Suburbia said:
The experience between one and two has been radically different, and some of that is because I suffered severe PPD the first time and not the second, but some of that is also just about my confidence as a parent and the knowledge that the tough phases pass so quickly that I know I can survive them. It makes it easier to appreciate the little beauties of daily life, because I know they, too, go by in a blur.
The way I think about is that I delivered my first child and became a mother. But my second child delivered me, and I became a woman once again.
234. Melissa said:
Just wanted to say thanks! Currently pregnant with my 2nd and having some concerns regarding balance/postpartum depression/anxiety/am I crazy for wanting to do this again? You give me hope!
235. froginthepond said:
You've absolutely got it about having the second. I adored my daughter (no. 2) and when we came home with her I couldn't believe how much more I loved my 3yo son. Now 10 and 7, I realise that you just keep loving them even more.
236. Susie said:
I'm happily expecting my first baby (4 months to go!) and while I have been following your site diligently over the last few years, the last few months have been so exciting to read as we share this pregnancy experience. I absolutely cannot wait to hear your labor story. Your story with Leta was so well written and I am also hoping to have an unmedicated, natural delivery so the more stories I hear, the better!
Wishing you the best during this happy time, take as much time as you need to start posting again!
237. Jenn said:
I'll be having my second boy in 3 months and I am so grateful to have your experience to scare the bejeesus out of me/put me at ease. You are so candid; I love it. Your family is lovely.
238. Sandy said:
I don't know how you do it. I struggled to get back to blogging after my FIRST (and I don't have dogs!). I will say that writing up my birth story was transformative for me, but mine was a devastating failure (that ended in a beautiful baby). I am anxious to read about a horse of s different color.
239. famousamy said:
So glad to hear that things are going better this time! She's so cute!
And though you definitely don't need my permission, you go ahead and take all the time you need to heal and rest before worrying about this blog. We'll all be here waiting. :-)
240. Lynne said:
So happy to hear that you're happy, even if there have been moments that suck. There always are, but the beauty of the second time around is that you know they'll pass. The balance will come more quickly than when you brought Leta home, even though the equilibrium has shifted in a whole new way. Enjoy every last second of your new wee one's 'wee-ness'...it's so very fleeting.
241. Melissa said:
Shit, your adorable little girl is giving me a dose of baby fever. ;o)
242. April said:
Man, she is beautiful.
I have a three and a half year old and a second baby due in September and find myself hanging on your every word. Last post (made me sob): heartbreak. Okay, check. This post: choas, double the love. Check and check.
Thank you for your honesty. Can't wait to read what's coming... Wishing you and your family the very best right now and always-
243. dani said:
Beautifully put.
It almost makes me want to have another one straight away. Almost...
244. Pam said:
Your post made me tear up. The relationship between my two children is the most amazing thing I have every witnessed. My son is three and my daughter is 8 months! They love each other so much...I can't wait to read your labor post and your future posts about Leta and Marlo!
245. putters said:
Man that is one beautiful baby. Congratulations. Gorgeous.
246. adelaide web design said:
You are so lucky to have a beautiful healthy baby. And thank you for these photos. They are fantastic in their color and warmth.
247. susannah said:
congratulations. it is amazing, huh!?!?! I am so happy for you and your family.
248. Anonymous said:
Beautiful kid. Miss the Leta/Chuck/Coco stories... mostly Leta. How is she doing being a big sister?
249. aussiechic said:
As I stroked my sons warm forehead this evening, trying to sooth him to sleep while giving him the last of some milk in his bottle, watching his eyes finally flutter closed after a fitful 60 minutes of basically a tantrum as he did not want to go to sleep (he is 8 months old and bedtime is a bit of an issue)......I marveled at how much I love this little man, how noone when you are pregnant tells you how much this little person will make your heart burst with love, how they can break your heart with the smallest of gestures, how they can turn an awful day into a spectacular one just by giving you one of those genuine "I love you" smiles, how if they hurt themselves it makes your heart constrict and you fill with panic...you break out in a cold sweat and want to vomit all while smiling at them and reassuring them and telling them it is going to be OK........Noone mentions how you become a lioness ready to protect your young at any cost....noone tells you that it is a love that you cannot explain.....
I pondered why noone told me this.......I wish they would have.....
250. Helen said:
Love your post, Heather. I get vibes from it that you are much more settled in and feeling better. Marlo is too precious for words! I must comment here regarding your Daily Chuck that is not open for comments----it is stunning, for lack of a better word, to see Jon cradling Marlo's head with one hand and the other arm he has her all snuggled up into his side. The power of touch can not be taken lightly. The human soul craves that and the world would be a better place if we all practiced that every chance we get. Leta and Marlo are blessed to have you and Jon as parents!
p.s. low wattage heat from a light bulb quickens healing time and feels amazingly soothing on traumatized nether regions! Or at least that is what hospitals did 20 years ago! Ask your nurse/doctor.
251. Jamie said:
I'm glad for you!
252. Bella said:
it's these pictures that make me seriously want to stop taking the pill and go for it. you make pretty babies. keep it up.
253. Julie said:
Soak up every minute of this sweetness! Soon she will be four, jumping into the deep end with her floaties, telling you she "don't need your help!"
254. Hannah said:
Do you have a sling? My Hotsling has been a lifesaver with my second baby!
Marlo is beautiful! I can't wait to hear about your labor story. There is something very powerful and life altering after going through natural childbirth.
255. DBN said:
I always say that having a second child was like going from minor league baseball to the major leagues. Same game, but a totally different level of play.
256. Emma said:
Amazing how the heart can continue to swell and fit everyone in, isn't it?
Congratulations, she is wonderful.
257. Marjorie said:
I got some criticism for letting my babies sleep on my chest, in my arms, next to me--and for co-sleeping. So odd, since it seemed to be decidedly what the baby wanted. And I loved it--nearly all the time.
She's adorable. Congrats.
258. Leah Killian said:
I always counted it the happy extra miracle that you get to fall in love with this tiny bundle of new- AND your spouse and other children and parents and family all in their new roles- it is so hard to have a baby- but you get so many incredible moments mixed in there with the sleep deprivation :-)
I recently had a new one as well, actually just posted today on my own blog about missing all that brand new baby bliss.
I am happy that you are happy :-)
259. Julie said:
I'm so happy for you and your family! Having a baby is challenging in so many ways. I'm glad you don't gloss over the highs and lows. Thanks for sharing.
260. Kristi said:
It's crazy, but your posts express how I felt when I brought my son home. It made me love my daughter even more and I missed her and felt guilty about spending time with the baby. I enjoyed everything much more with my son.
He's 9 months now and I'm still happier than I've ever been. I hope the same for you too.
261. Sofia said:
I found your blog a few weeks ago when you were still three. It's been really interesting to read what you share.
And I'm melting inside after reading this last post:)
Gee, I want kids!:D
262. winecat said:
I'm so happy for you. She is beautiful and I'm glad it's going better for you this time. I would imagine that Leta's early days were in the back of your mind before Marlo arrived.
It's wonderful that you're taking the time to keep all your adoring fans up to date - where do you find the time?
263. sima said:
I have never left a comment before on your site and this is my first time. I was compelled by the statement "I have never been happier....." My kids are 11 and 4yrs old and I still get choked up. I have been following your blog for 2 years and I really enjoy it. Marlo is beautiful and so is Leta. Just wait until Leta starts behaving like a big sister. You are going to weep out of just pure joy. Congratulation on your beautiful family.
264. Kelly said:
You just had her, don't expect rhythm for a few weeks. After four babies, I can tell you that the 6-8 week mark is when the rhythm kicks in. For now, put your drum sticks down and just go with the music.
265. Kathleen said:
Thank you for posting, I've definitely been thinking of you and hoping things are going ok. She is so beautiful! Good luck with the figuring it all out, I only have one so far and can't quite imagine doing the newborn phase with two!
266. Meredith said:
Oh that little sucked in lower lip gets me every single time. I am glad things are going so well for you. My second time around was much easier as well. I am overjoyed for you and your family!
267. Halala Mama said:
The first few weeks are such a blur to me now, and he's only 8 months old. Enjoy every single second.
268. Christy Wood said:
No drugs!!?? I'm looking forward to the birth story (no pressure!)....pace yourself and don't overdo it. You're the bomb, Mama. Marlo is the most perfect glow worm ever.
269. Jen said:
For Pete's sake, take your time and rest up! We, the internet, will still be here when you're ready to get back on your feet again.
I'm excited to read your birth story - Like you, I went epidural-free with my second child, and it was a truly transformational experience for me, as well.
Don't worry, you'll find your rhythm soon enough. I think it took a solid year before I felt like I was kind of getting the hang of two.
270. jmh said:
OMG - totally makes me want to have another - and my youngest is only 10months - love it, love it!!!!
271. kat said:
Marlo is just a little slice of heaven. Isn't it amazing how your heart can swell? I had no idea how much love I had in me to give until I had multiple children. You can't describe it - you just have to do it. What a gift you have given Leta - a little sister is forever.
It took me a solid 6 weeks after each kid (I have 3) to get my groove on. And then after that, it gets much easier. Give yourself a break - anyone who is a mom understands what you are going through.
272. Alexis said:
She's just so pretty, Heather! Her face has so much awareness and personality already. Just lovely!
273. Jodi said:
Good for you! Marlo is as lovely as Leta, and it's good to know you're enjoying it all. I went from family of three to family of 6 overnight, so it's hard for me to relate to your situation right now. I think there's a tincture of envy there. And I'm definitely envious of your skill with a camera. You need to start a new blog where you give instructions to the rest of us who bought a really expensive camera hoping it would make up for our lack of skill.
274. Anonymous said:
Really? Are you trying to make us all cry? You're doing a fantastic job! And fantastic job as a mother as well. And thank you for sharing all you do. We'll each be awaiting ever little bit you throw at us, but we'll be patient!
275. Spatula said:
You just drum on with your bad self, lady. No need to apologize for not posting as much - you just HAD A BABY. A gorgeous, sweet, real live baby. It's pretty darn amazing.
276. Mylene said:
Heather, So happy for you, Jon and Leta! I love hearing how you are doing as it brings me back to when mine were new. I distincly remember that feeling of just staring, trying to memorize the moments. Marlo is gorgeous, congratulations!
277. kcn said:
It will truly get easier (I have two). I am so happy for you, that breast-feeding this one is easier and going smoothly. I hope you will be pleasantly surprised when this one starts sleeping through the night sooner than number two. Experience works wonders!
When my number two was born, his babyhood went by so fast! My first one's babyhood seemed to go incredibly slowly, dragging, you might say. Thank goodness I took lots of pictures of number two, because I have very few memories of him in his infancy.
278. AndyLeigh said:
I had the same reaction when my second child was born. For some reason, it seemed to calm me or something, and I felt closer to my first child because of it.
But my favorite births were not my own children, but the two times I got to go into the delivery room and help one of my DIL's. She and I are like two peas in a pod, and she wanted me there as much as she wanted my son there. Both times I knew what she needed without her asking, I could read her body language, knew when she'd dilated to the pushing stage even as the nurses told me it couldn't be. I was right and they were wrong. I just knew. And when they were born, mine was the first face those little girls saw, I was the first to hold them.
I have eight grandchildren in all, and each one is a treasure in their own way. But the last two and I share something intimate. It was a true gift to me from their mother.
279. Darleen said:
Adorable!!
I felt the same way the second birth which was twins. However I must say that my eldest daughter did not have the same loving feelings :) She was only 28 months. I still miss the days alone I had with her before her twin sisters. Lots of pictures help, and we developed a different relationship, once she could accept her sisters.
...darleen
280. Cary said:
congrats... she is beautiful! two is a wonderful, completely wild experience!
281. Morgy said:
I am so very happy for you and your family! I think that it was a Family Circus comic that held this piece of wisdom: you don't divide your love among your children, but rather it multiplies.
282. Joseph said:
Very beautiful! What a joy to have.
283. Val said:
Heather, she is one of the most beautiful babies I've seen in a long while...absolutely breathtaking. Good Job!
284. Renee said:
As my husband and I are trying for our second munchkin, we are a very unprepared with how to handle balancing more than one child! Our daughter has been the first grandchild on both sides of our families, and we hope that they will love all grandchildren that follow equally and that Moanna is not too disgruntle about sharing the spotlight!
285. Lisa said:
So happy for you. Truly. She is beautiful. Don't worry about us - we can do without posts for awhile. Enjoy those sweet girls.
286. Amy M said:
Its been almost 4 months with #2 around, #1 is 5 like Leta. I am just getting my groove back. It took sometime. When you are healed you still feel much better and be able to accomplish more and more. Give yourself time and enjoy it.
287. Suzanne said:
Love this post ... thanks for letting us into these beautiful moments.
288. Paul said:
Glad you're doing so well, and thanks for letting in on your world. :)
289. Kelli said:
I cannot get over how absolutely PERFECT she is. She is a gorgeous, gorgeous baby. I have three boys and will have one more baby (hopefully) in a few years - REALLY crossing my fingers for a baby girl that perfectly beautiful.
290. Terri said:
Marlo is so incredibly alert and her expressions are heartbreakingly beautiful. Reading your post about never being happier in your entire life made me tear up--so happy for you, Jon, and Leta.
291. Angie said:
She is beautiful. My baby is now 5 months and him being my 7th (YES, I KNOW) I can say that the "crazy" still happens, but I have found that it didn't last with the others like it did with my first.
Congrats to your family! Can't wait to hear your stories as she grows.
292. Laura said:
For me, child two was wonderful. I am a little ummmm, highstrung like you (said with love) but somehow knowing I raised one made me less crazy with the second. Enjoy every baby sniffing minute - I miss it. Not enough to have another but I do miss it.
293. muttlery & catlery said:
I am so glad to hear you feel so happy. Enjoy!!!
294. Kirsten said:
Thanks for the update! She's beautiful and your stories are beautiful!
Am I the only one who can't wait til she and Leta are old enough to interact?! I am sure that will be a combination of funny, poignant and occasionally, groddy. :)
But I am also not wanting to miss the posts, these posts! in bewtween. :)
295. Belly Girl said:
Wow, it's clear you are smitten. Your family is beautiful and this second child is clearly not only intensifying your love but also bringing your writing (even more) to life.
296. Christian said:
Glad you are so happy. You will find your rhythm. Don't worry about the light postings - we know you have a real life outside of us! Enjoy your family, and I am so thrilled for you.
297. Monique Hester said:
WOW - I am so very happy for you and she is every bit as beautiful as Leta.
and as far as 'her wanting to be nestled right into your chest' - I have a 5 yr old that we joke that I gave birth to her but the umbilical cord wasn't EVER cut. Seriously, this child (which is the youngest of 3) doesn't let me get out of her sight for more than about 2.5 seconds before she comes looking for mommy! Taking a shit in private - thing of the past - lol
298. foundinidaho said:
Heather, as the mother of two who were seven years apart, I'm amazed you're posting AT ALL. (But, then again, I worked from home during maternity leave so I get it). It is amazing how much your love grows exponentially for the first born, isn't it?
Though, from my experience, my 17 year old (first born) still doesn't get that. He's going to have to have two kids to find out.
299. Shannon said:
So, so happy for you. People had better be OK with light posting, sheesh! Though I do understand the desire for more pics of your adorable little glow worm. But we can certainly wait for you to get your rhythm :-) I'm overjoyed for you.
300. Melissa said:
When I was a little girl, I questioned how much my mom loved me when she brought my little sister home from the hospital and I will never forget what she told me about having more than one daughter: As a parent has more children, their love multiplies - it never divides. And your last two sentances illustrates that point perfectly. Congratulations and all the best.
301. Lisa Gallien said:
Marlo is absolutely beautiful. I am truly happy for you. This August we will drive our youngest off to college in Boulder. I blinked. Savor each moment. Thanks for sharing your gorgeous photos.