• http://brilliantsulk.blogspot.com/ A

    Gosh I forget how tiny babies are, she’s incredibly sweet.

    My kids are 15 months and 3 and I’m STILL trying to find my rhythm.

    I just eat a lot of doughnuts.

  • http://vocabularyvixen.wordpress.com Rachel

    What a little darling!!! Congratulations again, and thank you SO MUCH For sharing your life with us!

    I read “It Sucked…” last Saturday and then “Things I Learned from my Father” this Wednesday. Your writing is honest, poignant, and relateable. You are a real human being that pulls out all the stops in your honest and direct prose. I have been admiring you through the past few months of this pregnancy, and I must say: WELL DONE!

    I would also like to say that were it not for you, I’d probably be in an all-out panic right now with trying to conceive. I’ve gone back and forth on it (WHAT THE F*CK am I THINKING by doing this?!), but you’re showing me that it’s all going to be worth it. As shitless scary as it can be, I’ve got a feeling that it’ll all be worth it.

    Your honest and direct writing style has given comfort to a lot of us out here in the big, dark, anonymous world. Especially those of us who suffer from mental illness and its pitfalls. Thank you so, so much for writing. I appreciate it. We all appreciate it (except for ONE douchebag commenter so far, which I think we can gang up on for a collective ass-kicking OUT THE DOOR in your honor).

    And MY GOODNESS WOMAN! YOU JUST PUSHED A LARGE THING OUT OF YOUR VAGINA TWO WEEKS AGO! It’s okay, we’ll still be here. We appreciate what time you have put into writing, we’re not a pack of angry, rabid wolves waiting for our next Dooce morsel!! (okay, maybe we are, but we’re a PATIENT pack of rabid wolves waiting for our next Dooce fix).

    You and your whole family are fabulous and utterly amazing. THANK YOU for sharing with us. And my thanks to you, personally, for giving me the confidence to find my own voice in the world that might have otherwise been lost amid the chaos. It means a lot.

  • http://www.missivesfromsuburbia.blogspot.com Missives From Suburbia

    The experience between one and two has been radically different, and some of that is because I suffered severe PPD the first time and not the second, but some of that is also just about my confidence as a parent and the knowledge that the tough phases pass so quickly that I know I can survive them. It makes it easier to appreciate the little beauties of daily life, because I know they, too, go by in a blur.

    The way I think about is that I delivered my first child and became a mother. But my second child delivered me, and I became a woman once again.

  • Pete

    Only you would apologize for being a mother. You rock, and that’s all there is to it. Keep up the “light” blogging and we’ll all get along just fine.

  • Melissa

    Just wanted to say thanks! Currently pregnant with my 2nd and having some concerns regarding balance/postpartum depression/anxiety/am I crazy for wanting to do this again? You give me hope!

  • Brea

    @ 227 – I don’t know if you are the same person who is repeatedly commenting about meds, but if you’re looking for advice – here’s mine:

    This is not a medical website, and no one should ask for such serious medical advice regarding depression, breastfeeding and medications via comments on a blog.

    The urgency of both comments that I’ve read are disturbing; to place Heather in a position of therapist to the tune of ‘help me – I’m desperate’, when she has enough responsibility of her own is incredibly selfish. Call your doctor.

  • http://www.froginthepond.wordpress.com froginthepond

    You’ve absolutely got it about having the second. I adored my daughter (no. 2) and when we came home with her I couldn’t believe how much more I loved my 3yo son. Now 10 and 7, I realise that you just keep loving them even more.

  • http://laurenfromtexas.com Lauren From Texas

    Heather, we forgive you. :) She is so beautiful. Your blog and words are accomplishing what nothing else has been able to do – make me want a baby! So the fewer posts, the better. Ha! Love & best wishes to the Armstrong clan.

  • Susie

    I’m happily expecting my first baby (4 months to go!) and while I have been following your site diligently over the last few years, the last few months have been so exciting to read as we share this pregnancy experience. I absolutely cannot wait to hear your labor story. Your story with Leta was so well written and I am also hoping to have an unmedicated, natural delivery so the more stories I hear, the better!

    Wishing you the best during this happy time, take as much time as you need to start posting again!

  • Cheri

    Awwww, what a blissful feeling. I had that feeling just hours after my 2nd child arrived…after everyone had finally left the hospital and it was just her and I. I felt blessed and guilty at the same time knowing that many people never have that feeling in their lives. Savor the moments….

  • Jenn

    I’ll be having my second boy in 3 months and I am so grateful to have your experience to scare the bejeesus out of me/put me at ease. You are so candid; I love it. Your family is lovely.

  • T

    Cute baby. Great photos. I love your honesty about the freakouts. Babies are fabulous, but hard. :)

  • Meg

    my firstborn slept on my chest and no where else for the first 2 months of her life. all while i was working on a phd. i wrote papers typing with one hand. it gets easier

  • http://www.sandyraymond.com Sandy

    I don’t know how you do it. I struggled to get back to blogging after my FIRST (and I don’t have dogs!). I will say that writing up my birth story was transformative for me, but mine was a devastating failure (that ended in a beautiful baby). I am anxious to read about a horse of s different color.

  • Soph

    So happy to wake up this morning to your post. All love from Melbourne, me and Milo (also a Klingon). xx

  • famousamy

    So glad to hear that things are going better this time! She’s so cute!

    And though you definitely don’t need my permission, you go ahead and take all the time you need to heal and rest before worrying about this blog. We’ll all be here waiting. :-)

  • Zina

    I came back again because I forgot to look at the photo posts. And we have that same nighttime arrangement where my husband does the burping and changing and brings me the baby to feed. I’m glad he doesn’t read your blog so he won’t figure out that I’ve got the better end of the deal.

    Also, I meant to tell you that even though I have five kids I learned something new this time, from one of those free magazines: that thing newborns do where they conform their body to yours is called “molding.” (I knew they did that but didn’t know there was a term for it.) And that’s one of those things to get as much of as you can, because in my babies, at least, it doesn’t last long at all.

    She’s so beautiful and adorable. I do hear you about the freakouts; I always have at least a couple of them, but wow there’s nothing like a newborn.

  • Lynne

    So happy to hear that you’re happy, even if there have been moments that suck. There always are, but the beauty of the second time around is that you know they’ll pass. The balance will come more quickly than when you brought Leta home, even though the equilibrium has shifted in a whole new way. Enjoy every last second of your new wee one’s ‘wee-ness’…it’s so very fleeting.

  • http://www.ashimmyinmyspirit.com/ Cynthia

    I’m glad this is the happiest time of your life. Your pictures are wonderful. I love all the cuddling. Thanks for sharing…your posts always bring a little chuckle to my life and today they’re adding a little joy to the world.

  • http://www.whooosthatgirl.com Melissa

    Shit, your adorable little girl is giving me a dose of baby fever. ;o)

  • Lisa

    She is beautiful. And I LOVE the picture of the dogs, Jon & Marlo just chillin’ together. That is a family.

  • http://aprilswork.blogspot.com/ April

    Man, she is beautiful.
    I have a three and a half year old and a second baby due in September and find myself hanging on your every word. Last post (made me sob): heartbreak. Okay, check. This post: choas, double the love. Check and check.
    Thank you for your honesty. Can’t wait to read what’s coming… Wishing you and your family the very best right now and always-

  • Kelly

    omg I am in love (swwooon). she is perfect. so glad you are awash in love and beauty all around you.

  • dani

    Beautifully put.

    It almost makes me want to have another one straight away. Almost…

  • http://www.skinnykids.net skinnykids

    If you ever do that again (apologize for taking time to recover from childbirth and enjoy your family) I will banish your blog from my computer. ENJOY YOUR FAMILY. You were not put on this earth to entertain us. We will patiently wait for your return.

  • http://www.pamelajeanstarkey.blogspot.com Pam

    Your post made me tear up. The relationship between my two children is the most amazing thing I have every witnessed. My son is three and my daughter is 8 months! They love each other so much…I can’t wait to read your labor post and your future posts about Leta and Marlo!

  • Sarah

    Aw, Heather, congratulations! I haven’t said so yet because I know you get thousands of comments, but I’m so, so happy for you and your family. Take all the time you need and post as frequently or infrequently as you want. Your readers aren’t going anywhere. Enjoy your new baby! She’s stunning!

  • http://buygolfclubs.com.au/choosing-the-right-putter/ putters

    Man that is one beautiful baby. Congratulations. Gorgeous.

  • Anjelique

    She’s beautiful. I am so happy for you & your family.

  • http://taplinwebdesign.com.au adelaide web design

    You are so lucky to have a beautiful healthy baby. And thank you for these photos. They are fantastic in their color and warmth.

  • http://braeggerblog.blogspot.com/ EmilyUT

    I have two children who are five years apart and completely get where you’re coming from. Congratulations on your beautiful little addition!

    I wanted to mention (even though I’ve never been “that person” who gives unneeded advice, and you’ve probably heard of it anyway) that what helped with my postpartum blues the second time around was getting plenty of omega-3 fatty acids. I ate lots of salmon, ground flax seed in my oatmeal, and supplemented with “super omega complex” as well. I’m sure you’re way on top of it this time around (and you definately had a much more severe reaction the first time around than I did), but maybe it could help just a little bit (on top of your medication and anything else your doctor prescribes, of course). At the very least, even if it doesn’t help your mood at all, it’s still good for you & baby through your milk.

  • susannah

    congratulations. it is amazing, huh!?!?! I am so happy for you and your family.

  • http://www.kidkate.com Kate

    Yay Dooce! Congrats.

    BTW, that is one adorably expressive baby you’ve got there!

  • Anonymous

    Beautiful kid. Miss the Leta/Chuck/Coco stories… mostly Leta. How is she doing being a big sister?

  • http://www.lifedelicious.net MamaCass

    Well that just made my heart melt.

  • http://www.aussiechic.com aussiechic

    As I stroked my sons warm forehead this evening, trying to sooth him to sleep while giving him the last of some milk in his bottle, watching his eyes finally flutter closed after a fitful 60 minutes of basically a tantrum as he did not want to go to sleep (he is 8 months old and bedtime is a bit of an issue)……I marveled at how much I love this little man, how noone when you are pregnant tells you how much this little person will make your heart burst with love, how they can break your heart with the smallest of gestures, how they can turn an awful day into a spectacular one just by giving you one of those genuine “I love you” smiles, how if they hurt themselves it makes your heart constrict and you fill with panic…you break out in a cold sweat and want to vomit all while smiling at them and reassuring them and telling them it is going to be OK……..Noone mentions how you become a lioness ready to protect your young at any cost….noone tells you that it is a love that you cannot explain…..

    I pondered why noone told me this…….I wish they would have…..

  • http://caratcache.com Vicki

    Not sure how you do it all. Love your tweets.

  • Helen

    Love your post, Heather. I get vibes from it that you are much more settled in and feeling better. Marlo is too precious for words! I must comment here regarding your Daily Chuck that is not open for comments—-it is stunning, for lack of a better word, to see Jon cradling Marlo’s head with one hand and the other arm he has her all snuggled up into his side. The power of touch can not be taken lightly. The human soul craves that and the world would be a better place if we all practiced that every chance we get. Leta and Marlo are blessed to have you and Jon as parents!

    p.s. low wattage heat from a light bulb quickens healing time and feels amazingly soothing on traumatized nether regions! Or at least that is what hospitals did 20 years ago! Ask your nurse/doctor.

  • http://titankt.livejournal.com TitanKT

    BTW, I did mean to say that Armstrong nose seems to be an EXTREMELY dominant gene.

  • Jamie

    I’m glad for you!

  • Jane

    Good for you! Congratulations to your family, enjoy every second. I am so happy for you.

  • http://www.laurabell7.wordpress.com Bella

    it’s these pictures that make me seriously want to stop taking the pill and go for it. you make pretty babies. keep it up.

  • mmaji

    Congats on the adorable little catapillar!
    Have a sling-pro help you learn to use a sling. If all they want is you, then it’s really pleasant to be able to use your hands. My two only wanted to sleep on me 24/7. It’s sweet but exausting.

  • http://compoundconfessions.blogspot.com/ Julie

    Soak up every minute of this sweetness! Soon she will be four, jumping into the deep end with her floaties, telling you she “don’t need your help!”

  • C’tina

    Increased your love for Leta imeasurably. I remember my oldest, who was 4 1/2 telling others, “That’s my baby” about his little brother. OMG, and he picked out slippers, I’ll never forget the smile on his little lit up face. Lil’ sis is lucky to have Leta!

  • Hannah

    Do you have a sling? My Hotsling has been a lifesaver with my second baby!

    Marlo is beautiful! I can’t wait to hear about your labor story. There is something very powerful and life altering after going through natural childbirth.

  • Ali

    As I slog away on my thesis, your website provides me with moments of happiness, beauty and laughter. Thank-you!

  • DBN

    I always say that having a second child was like going from minor league baseball to the major leagues. Same game, but a totally different level of play.

  • michele

    Hey Heather – congrats! We had our 2nd nearly 3 months ago and it’s so wonderful. Our first was a fighter (screamer) like Leta and I’ve come to the conclusion that it was probably due to us being 1st time spaz parents. Our 2nd dude is so mellow and I’ve been able to savor the moments so much more. It’s nice.

    After having the 2nd, we experienced the same thing w/our first…the sense of how instantly our ‘baby’ had become like 10 years older (he’s 2.5) and how much more love we have for him as well. We’re reliving his baby-ness with our 2nd.

    He *adores* his little brother but definitely went through his needy, teary phase. And then a serious acting out phase. Took about a month but we seem to have our normal (mostly) big guy back. It’s fun to watch him interact with his little brother already. And there are long days where I say “Dammit…they BETTER be best friends in about 2 years” but mostly it’s enjoying the joy of kids. Be well on the transition.

  • http://feliciafairy.etsy,com Emma

    Amazing how the heart can continue to swell and fit everyone in, isn’t it?
    Congratulations, she is wonderful.