• brittneyg

    Never let the truth stand in the way of a good story. Marlo’s got it.

  • megmcg

    My 4 year old was doing the same thing with his brother’s stories. We taught him just to preface those stories with “I imagined that…” and the covers his butt, we give him the attention and interaction he wants and hopefully he avoids being a con artist .

  • Lindzgrl

    I have an adult friend who still does this. Apparently no one ever taught her better!

  • katalia

    One of my best (lifelong) friends appropriates other people’s stories all the time. It’s always a little disorienting when you hear her tell one of your stories to a group of strangers as if it happened to her …

  • Beth Shupp-George

    My daughter (just turned 5) has moved away from it a bit, but she used to do that all the time. Any time she heard a story, she retold it with herself as the protagonist. I figured it was just a normal developmental stage, and figured it was a good thing, like being able to remember and retell a story that she’s been read, not as any sort of lying or untruth.

  • http://www.luvandkiwi.com/ Tish

    LOL…Why is the second child always so gangsta?!

  • Natasha

    Marlo is absolutely my favorite. Even though I’m sure, like my 4yo, she drives you bat sh*t crazy, at least she’s entertaining and adorable. And she tells good stories.

  • morganmichelle_

    love how you mess with her! and that she is so into her lie that she will act it out in some far out way just so she doesn’t have to say she is wrong!

  • Debra

    I’m all for imagination. Totally. But based on some of your stories that project into her future, do we need to be concerned about her ability to testify at her own trial. Bahahahaha

  • Bratfink

    I think those teachers should just leave her alone! Think of the books Marlo will write!

  • TWM

    OMG I would not worry about the pretend/real thing. She will figure that out herself. She’s a delight and probably a lot like you! What a sweet thing!

  • http://smithshack71.blogspot.com/ SmithShack71

    The imagination is a beautiful thing.

  • Ali

    I’ve determined it is second-child-ism. My 4yo bogarts his older brother’ stories ALL THE TIME.

    And it was fun explaining to the teacher that neither our house caught fire nor did I run in and rescue my son (though, I totally would have done so) during said not-real fire. In fact, there was a house fire next door when my son was 3 WEEKS OLD. This little fact does not stop the 4yo from adamantly stating he remembers it as told to the teacher.

    I’m alternatively scared and proud.

  • http://oddlovescompany.com/blog/ Katybeth

    Really? Isn’t early childhood all about imagination and play. Santa? Easter Bunny? Tooth fairy? A chair turned into train. There is such a short window in a child’s life when they can enjoy this kind of play—and then their friends call them out on it and it’s over. So glad we invested in Waldorf Education (not for everyone, I get it) and never had to deal with bring reality into our 4 year olds life.

  • Joni

    Our middle child…a boy….would go on and on about “things”. When we would ask him where he heard said “things”, or experienced said “things”, he would just say “on the radio”. He is soon to be 26, and we still laugh about this. He is an incredible human being. Don’t worry, Marlo will be fine. I heard it on the radio…….

  • Maggie Spitler

    I. LOVE. YOUR. KIDS! Only Marlo could turn jumping jacks into an exorcism. If it makes you feel better, my 5 year old son
    has his “stories”. He swears on the first day of school he rode to
    school on a flying bus. He comes home everyday, telling me stories about
    his “friends”, Gilligan and The Skipper, and what they did at recess.
    Yes, Gilligan, like the TV show. Last year, in pre-school, his best
    friend was little boy named Caden. He would come home every, single, day
    and tell me about how Caden’s DAD got ran over by a bus, or bit by a
    poisonous snake, or fought a bear. All this, despite never even having
    met the man! This year, he is still full of Caden stories. However, the
    real Caden does not go to kindergarten with my son. The “unreal” Caden spends his time beating kids up, smoking, drinking beer, and making fun of teachers.

  • Auntie Em

    Has she been hanging with Rand Paul?

  • Louisy

    I grew up with a habit of telling stories that weren’t true. It felt very different that predetermined lies, it was kind of a spontaneous thing. I would never cheat on a test, for example, or lie about going to a party to my parents, or something, but if everyone else around me had been to Europe, I would immediately join into their stories to fit in. And then it would very, very quickly snoball, because I didn’t want to embarrass myself, so the lies got out of control. But I would accidentally lie, because I was nervous or confused or just got lost in my story, or feeling insecure. I still occasionally catch myself doing it. What’s helped me the most was this. A therapist taught me to just stop as soon as a realize what I’m saying is false. I’ll just say, “Wait, that’s not true” or laugh it off and say I’m confused. And then I start over again. It’s really helped me so much. I wish I had learned this when I was a child. It would have decreased a LOT of anxiety, this fear of being found out.

    Of course, 4 is super young for that much anxiety, and I’m sure she’s just having fun. Go Marlo!

  • terrisinclair

    Forget what the teacher says…go with your gut (unless you plan to have more children to entertain you) She will age so fast…this will all be gone…don’t speed it up – the teachers just want you to make their job easier. Screw them. They’re getting paid.

    I say enjoy every crazy moment!

  • Beth Rich

    I can assure you that if her preschool friends don’t call bullshit, her friends in first grade will. I speak of experience. When she gets about Leta’s age, you can start calling her BS by asking her where she got that information. Hang on, the stories don’t go away, they just get more credible.

  • Michelle

    Your stories about your daughter crack me up. What a character!

  • HeatherNC

    I had a college professor that once said, “you can steel something from your neighbor, just be sure and cite it”. I think that applies here.

  • Christine Herbert Carter

    Dooce is set as my home page- and honestly cannot imagine a better way to start my day…. Thank you for the daily giggle….

  • bopper

    At that age I had to ask my younger one “Is that true, or what you want to be true?”

  • Joanne-eeee

    I learned this from watching the Rosie show back in ’98. I used it on my son too. She told her son Parker that he grew a “MOMMY DOT” on his forehead when he tells a fib. Only your Mom can see it. It is so fun to call them out and watch them flat palm their forehead when telling a story.

  • Joanne-eee

    sorry…i hit the wrong “reply button”

  • Cathy

    I went through a lying phase, probably in middle school. It doesn’t really happen anymore though because I’ve figured out I have the worst poker face in history. That said… if someone catches me off guard about something, sometimes the first thing out of my mouth is a really stupid lie.

    “Will your husband be coming to dinner, too?” (when I thought it was a girls night and didn’t invite him)
    “No… his flight doesn’t get in until after dinner.” (husband is IN TOWN. I am an idiot)

  • Karen

    I always get bothered when people call their 4 year old a liar, although when you do it I am sure (hopeful?) that it’s for the entertainment value above all else. Because no 4 year old is a liar. They are terrific magical thinkers and don’t even understand what a lie would be. Marlo is awesome. I hope you continue to enjoy her stories with her. I’m not sure I agree with the preschool teacher’s idea of getting her to “admit when it’s made up.”

  • Heather Armstrong

    Rest assured that when I call her that I’m joking. Her stories and imagination could not be more marvelous.

  • Rrrandall

    Just teach her to plead the fifth early.

  • http://ferryfolk.com Danalan

    You didn’t get this on video? Shame on you. Bad mommy-blogger! Bad!

  • cattail722

    Those skills could come in really handy one day, for sure ; )

  • Jennifer Cafferty-Davis

    Marlo needs her own TV show ;)

  • joanlvh

    love Marlo posts!

  • Mandi R

    I LOVE Marlo stories! I laugh like crazy every time I read them. I wish we had the Marlo Entertainment Channel here! :)

  • www.unicodebd.com

    The imagination is a beautiful thing

  • Beth

    My younger child does that too. Repeats, almost word for word, a story her older brother has JUST told us. Kids are so weird.

  • disqus_jJjwvI1SHq

    I am a second child and a great story teller. The stories are always true at their core. My husband calls me an “over/under exaggerator”. After a story he will look at me skeptically and ask, “is this over/under exaggerator?” I just nod and smile.

  • Phoe

    I never get tired of Marlo’s stories!

  • Kgodbold

    I have a 2 yr old and a 5 yr old girl and I can see the same thing beginning here.

  • Jessica Bates

    Maybe she’ll write fiction. I write fiction, and I believe any story I hear is “mine.” Then I can use it for whatever I want. :) Rock on, Marlo! What a funny kid.