• Kirsten

    Hahahahaha…try having your 2nd one at 40 in Utah. And being (visibly) pregnant at the grocery store with your 5-year-old in tow and having the nice grandfatherly man ask said 5-year-old if she’s being a big help to grandmommy. And the 5-year-old looks at me with big eyes to see what to say. I smiled sweetly and said “why yes, she sure is!”

  • Breanne

    I felt pressure to be married and have kids in my early 20s, but it was my (mostly) own internal pressure (let’s not discuss how I’m about to turn 30 and still haven’t even gotten married). I find great relief when someone tells me they got married later or had kids later and everything was just fine.

  • http://thewh0lestory.com Vanessa

    Dear God. I just turned 30 and I’m still pondering the whole “children as a possibility” game….I just don’t know if I’m old enough. Maybe 40? Yeah, maybe 40.

  • T

    Thank god I live in Chicago! 39 and truly trying for the first time ever.

  • Raquel

    I had my first at 34 and then waited another 5 years before the next one. So yeah, I’m an ancient mom–well into my 50s and the youngest is just starting high school. I can’t imagine having done it differently.

  • Kelli

    I didn’t get married until I was 38 and had our beautiful, healthy little girl at 41 1/2 (I throw in the half to make it even more dramatic). We had our 10 year anniversary this year and our little girl just turned 7. Don’t rush anything…things happen when/if they’re suppose to happen.

  • Teal

    My mom didn’t start having kids until she was 30. She had me (the youngest) at 36, and her doctor told her she was in her child-bearing prime. But then again, it was the 80′s.

  • susanfishy

    Keep in mind, the grandfatherly man could have been 36. ;)

  • jo

    Growing up in Utah, I can attest that not all people are like that, but they do exist. However, it is a fact that having children at the age of modern society has its’ challenges. Just because the rich and famous can have children via surrogacy and other means, doesn’t change the fact that there is indeed a biological clock. 22 is not pushing the envelope generally, but each person has unique physiological circumstances. :)

  • Heather

    So thankful for all of the comments here. I feel like SC might be similar to Utah. We just moved here. I have had to say the following more than once: “yes, I’m 34, married, no children, and no I am not infertile”.

  • Susan

    Here in DC, everyone waits so long that it’s strange to see a woman in her 20s who is pregnant. “That poor girl,” we think. “I wonder what her parents said.” And then we remember — oh right! It’s perfectly normal for most of the world!

  • Summermom

    I had my fifth and last one on my 40th birthday, almost at the same minute I was born too. So it’s easy to remember how old she is. It’s easy for my husband to take care of birthdays. 2 different cakes too. I wonder how rare it is to give birth on your 40th.

  • Maggie

    Being from Wisconsin, I can confirm that we do, in fact, have conversations about corn. And I’m from Milwaukee. What do I know about corn growing? One thing…Knee high by the 4th. That’s the only farming rule I know, but I hear people say it every summer. And thank you for all your lovely comments about our state. I was “up north” (near where you were) for the first time this summer. It really is quite an experience!

  • familyfishbowl

    SO TRUE. Several years ago, when we’d first moved here from San Diego, I was in line somewhere and someone asked the girl in front of me what year she was born. My quick math told me that she was 18 years old. Her left ring finger was sporting one of the biggest diamond engagement rings I’d ever seen. I think I actually picked my jaw off the floor and put it back where it belonged.

  • Q

    Oh yes, I can relate. When I was 24, I moved cross country for a nice new career type job. The company had flown me out for an interview. Then put me up in an apartment for a month while I looked for a place. Gave me a signing bonus. Pride. I started attending the singles ward, which had a lot of nannies around 18-19. One girl said to me, “if I’m not married by the time I’m 20, I’m going to kill myself.” I looked at her and said, “I’m 24.” The look of pity on her face made me uncomfortable. What? So that’s all we are? No good if we’re not married? We’re just a vessel for breeding babies as soon as possible?

    No. Just no.