the smell of my desperation has become a stench

In the scheme of things

Jon: “Leta, it’s an orange, not a poisonous snake. Just open your mouth and taste it.”


Jon: “Have you ever tried one?”


Jon: “It won’t hurt you to at least try a small bite.”


Me: “Okay, this is ridiculous. Leta, in the span of your lifetime tasting this orange is not even going to register as a blip in terms of pain. One day you’re probably going to give birth to a kid. Then you’ll know pain.”

Jon: “Why do you always go there?”

Me: “What do you mean?”

Jon: “To childbirth. You could go to ‘falling off of your bike’ or ‘an appointment with the orthodontist’ but you bypass all of that and go straight to the destruction of your vagina.”

Me: “Because it trumps everything.”

Jon: “But it doesn’t.”

Me: “Yes it does.”

Jon: “What if some dude gets eaten by a shark?”

Me: “The woman still wins because the dude who got eaten by a shark didn’t live to remember the pain.”

Jon: “What if that dude just has his leg torn off by the shark? What then?”

Me: “WOMAN STILL WINS. He won’t ever have to endure that now-gone leg growing up to be a teenager who routinely screams, ‘I HATE YOU!’ while he’s still sacrificing to save for that leg’s college fund.”

Leta: “Does this mean I can go watch TV now?”

Jon and me: “NO! Taste the damn orange!”

Heather B. Armstrong

Hi. I’m Heather B. Armstrong, and this used to be called mommy blogging. But then they started calling it Influencer Marketing: hashtag ad, hashtag sponsored, hashtag you know you want me to slap your product on my kid and exploit her for millions and millions of dollars. That’s how this shit works. Now? Well… sit back, buckle up, and enjoy the ride.

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