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    I was moved. About the love and cares of a family.

  • http://bilateralhaze.wordpress.com Lara

    Awesome. I am grateful for your honesty in your life experiences Heather (and Jon). Keep on keepin’ on.

  • Rebecca in Switzerland (actually in ChiTown at the moment)

    This IS really beautiful, like they all said… and however it is you’re coping with everything these days is making you ESPECIALLY funny. The globes post, 26… LOL I don’t know if it’s hormones, happiness or the right dosage, but keep it up… it’s GREAT stuff you’re writing. THANKS!

  • chelsea

    i cried a few happy tears at this. and my throat got all tight. i love love!

  • stephanie

    What a wonderful, insightful husband you have…
    you are a very lucky lady…

  • http://www.durvy.com Devon

    Of everything you’ve written, I think this is what I can relate to most. Thank you for sharing, and congrats on the Forbes mention! Go 26!!!!

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  • Cate Bell

    I believe what you and Jon have is a truly rare thing.

    We should all be so lucky.

  • http://www.silentgoddess.etsy.com Laney

    Heather, I, too, thought Jon’s post yesterday was his best ever.
    I had read half of yours yesterday then got pulled away and later on read Jon’s and then finished yours. Needless to say, I had tears of laughter (twenty-six, bitches!!!!) and tears of admiration and love. What a wonderful tribute to you, you and him, and you, him, Leta and Marlo.
    I know you have heard it a millions times if you have heard it once, I am so thankful to have you all be a part of my day. Thank you.

  • http://tinyapple.wordpress.com katie

    i remember reading that post of his about living with a girl who has depression…i need to make my husband read it this time.

    you two really have something special going…congrats :)

  • http://themoxiereport.blogspot.com Tracy

    Interesting how the male mind works.

    Nice to hear what a husband really thinks about pregnancy…the good, the bad and the ugly.

  • Candy

    Jon, I think I love you too.

  • http://www.ramblingbrooke.com Brooke

    My now fiance dealt with pretty severe anxiety about 4 months after we started dating. I was a freshman in college. Now, 6 years later, he’s mostly fine, but there are still times that are a little iffy. When I see certain patterns, even if they are somewhat normal given the situation, my heart starts racing. I’m so glad things are going well for you guys too ;)

  • Renee

    I hope its not rare and I don’t believe it is. That’s one of the reasons I enjoy reading this blog, and Jon’s, because I see so many qualities of my own marriage, and the marriage of my parents. It’s important to show the world how an intelligent, modern, honest couple that is truly in love acts. No one should settle for anything less than that.

  • Elaine Benes

    I am so so very envious of your relationship together. You are not only lucky to have it, but you work at it.

  • Kateastrophe

    You and Jon are an inspiration. You have overcome so much adversity in your relationship and yet somehow managed to keep both your senses of self and humor!

    Thank you, Heather and Jon, for giving me a strong example of marriage that I hope to duplicate with my fiance!

  • Jen

    Heather-from the first moment I started reading you, I’ve remarked on the relationship you and Jon have. I think it’s brilliant, loving, comforting, challenging (in the sense that you each challenge each other to be better people), trusting, compassionate, passionate…all of the things any good relationship should be.

    There are so few examples of healthy relationships in our society today, and so few opportunities to look at couples and say ‘you know, they’ve really figured this whole relationship thing out’. Your relationship is one of those precious few and I am constantly inspired by your love. A lot of our friends look at my husband and I and say that we are the best couple they know–but you and Jon truly are our inspiration. I have never been able to articulate my feelings towards my own husband as clearly as you just have. Very well said.

  • Claire

    Thanks for writing that. Thanks for sharing Jon’ commments.
    My husband and I are going through some challenges in our relationship. It’s rough going sometimes, but we keep at it. Your post reminded me to keep the big picture in mind.
    there are seasons to marriages, aren’t there?

  • Armonia

    W O W !
    that’s a great husband to wife love you moment; This is a beautiful way to scream out to the world how much he loves you.
    very blessed and i’m very happy for you.

  • Jessie

    It may just be because I’m about to start my period, but this made me feel choked up. Or maybe you articulate your feelings to where I can understand. Love is great. One of the best parts of being alive. Good for you.

  • Trish

    True love is so beautiful, it hurts.

    Thank you for sharing tidbits of your life with us. You are both amazing people.

  • Anonymous

    First song on shuffle this morning was “All You Need is Love” and, crabby NYer on way to work that I was, I almost skipped it. Then I listened. It’s sappy, it’s simple, it’s cliche. It’s also true and joyous and eternal.

    Love you both and all the joy you bring to the world.

    Thank you.

  • Emily

    This is really sweet but, I am dying for the other half of the birth story!! I check everyday, I am about to have my second and I desperatly want to know how it was different and what happened. Thanks for sharing you life!

  • Allegra

    I’ve never commented before, but this is really beautiful and made me tear up at work. My partner of 5 years is moving cross-country in a few weeks, and we’re going to try long-distance, ergh. I don’t think I ever realized how much I love him until I had to think about all the little things he does everyday and how they won’t be in my life anymore. You are a lucky woman, and Jon is a great man.

  • Gini

    Thank you so much for sharing. I just began counceling for depression. I think I have had all my life, but I’m not really sure. That is something that I’m trying to figure out right now. And just having a baby six months ago and nursing doesnt help with my hormones still a little crazy. I am also married, but my husband has a really difficult time dealing with my depression and anxiety. I think what your husband wrote is so sweet and his devotion to you says so much. Right now I am paying someone to listen to me so that I can feel like a normal person again. And its frustrating. I rather talk to my husband. I’m glad to hear that you both have worked together to make things work for both of you. I liked what someone else commented…”its a great testament to what marriage really is and should be.” I believe that too.

  • http://www.backseatgourmet.blogspot.com Cheryl

    I felt exactly the same way about my husband after our second was born too. And a month later I was ready to murder him. And a month after that I was desperately in love again. Fucking hormones.

  • http://not-the-norm.blogspot.com Keyona

    It’s nice to find that someone that can hold on with you.

  • http://cowjumpmoon.blogspot.com Shalini

    You are so lucky to have each other! And communicating that love to each other as well… the girls are so lucky to have 2 wonderfully in love parents!

  • http://greatdayinmaine.blogspot.com Leesavee

    Give that boy a great big smooch from everyone on the Internets!

    As they say here in Maine, “He’s a keepah!”

  • http://www.xanga.com/Bratfink Bratfink

    Wow. Awesome post, Dooce.

    I cried.

  • http://www.luvandkiwi.blogspot.com tish

    you two are great. i think deep down single gals are scared out of their minds that they’ll never meet someone who can hang for the real times. you two have proven it’s possible.

    that just gave me another’s day worth of hope. good job!

  • Barbara

    You don’t know me, but I love you two SO MUCH. Posts like this bring me to tears, and when I think about it, I guess it’s because you two give me hope.

  • Red

    your love is beautiful. thank you for sharing with us.

  • Aly

    You guys are the reason I’m not giving up on love.. You both ROCK and are an inspiration to all of us who read your stories. Keep on rocking, Armstrongs!

    P.S. Love the new hairdo, Heather!! More pics please..:)

  • http://adventurekait.com kaitlynsage

    Jesus fucking christ woman. Every time I get the husband/baby desire under control you write something like this and the invisible hands start to wring my heart and the “I need husbandbaby RIGHT NOW” juice starts to pour out and I have to go read bitchy articles on the frisky for the next three hours.


    But really, thank you. You and John are inspiring.

  • Katka

    Heather, that was so beautiful…

  • http://gastricbypass-kcbelles.blogspot.com/ kcbelles

    Wonderful post, Heather. Made my teeth ache from the sweetness of it (and I mean that in a good way). It’s so good to see such love between two people and to see it lasting. And I thank both you and Jon for sharing that part of your lives with us, your Internet audience. I find it amazing how captivated I am by your lives – I’m not a soap opera watcher, but I feel like you all are my own little personal soap that I just have to check in with daily to see how it’s all going.

  • http://www.luckytohavethesekids.blogspot.com/ Roach

    I totally relate! I love that I can. Jacob and I have four kids, been married almost 14 years in September and have been together since highschool. Sometimes I look over at him when I hear a Prince song(bringing back those memories of the early 90′s), and think wow babe, look at us we made it through hell and back and are still so in love. Not alot of people can say that, we are so lucky!!

  • http://www.survivethemayhem.com SAHM: Surviving Assorted Home Mayhem

    * Awwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwww! *
    Seriously, gotta show the love to the hubsters. Very sweet.

  • Anonymous

    Great post. Jon’s post about men liking to be fixers reminded me of the new song by Pearl Jam called “The Fixer.” It was just released this week. Have you heard it? Based on the lyrics, I think it should be yours and Jon’s new favorite song. It’s very sweet. Here are the lyrics:
    When something’s dark let me shed a little light on it
    When something’s cold let me put a little fire on it
    If something’s old I wanna put a bit of shine on it
    When something’s gone I wanna fight to get it back again
    Yeah Yeah Yeah Yeah
    Fight to get it back again
    Yeah Yeah Yeah Yeah

    When something’s broke I wanna put a bit of fixin on it
    When something’s bored I wanna put a little excited on it
    If something’s low I wanna put a little high on it
    When something’s lost I wanna fight to get it back again
    Yeah Yeah Yeah Yeah
    Fight to get it back again
    Yeah Yeah Yeah Yeah

    When signals cross I wanna put a little straight on it
    If there’s no love I want to try to love again
    I’ll say your prayers I’ll take your side
    I’ll burn as a way to make light
    I’ll dig your grave
    We’ll dance and sing
    What’s saved could be
    One last lifetime

    Yeah Yeah Yeah Yeah
    Fight to get it back again
    Yeah Yeah Yeah Yeah

  • http://keeponsmyelin.blogspot.com/ Keep On S’myelin!

    I read Jon’s post yesterday and enjoyed the read. It was nice to see the other side of things….another perspective.

    It sounds like the two of you have great energy together!

  • http://www.number17cherrytreelane.wordpress.com No.17 Cherry Tree Lane

    I really feel like this was a tribute of sorts. Your love is deep and you can tell this by reading both of your blogs.
    Thanks for sharing.


  • http://szilvias.blogspot.com Szilvia

    Oh Heather!

    I’ve been reading your blog (and have laughed out loud for real a whole bunch of times) for quite some time now, but this post got my tears rolling -so I had to comment!

    Thank you both for sharing so much of yourselves and the journey of life you’re on. It’s amazing to watch as you develop and learn and even in the saddest moments, you always keep that glimpse of the hilarious woman that I think most of your followers love.

    I’ve not only laughed and cried but I’ve also learned from the both of you. I wish you a future filled with exactly what you already have, love, family, laughter, reality and the drive to better yourselves as human beings.

    Oh, and I LOVE your daily Chuck (and yes even Coco)!


  • http://ifevolutionworks.com Nancy@ifevolutionworks.com

    You’re very lucky to have such great love in your life. Love….is everything.

  • Becca

    That is so awesome. =)

    I tend to think I don’t want to get married b/c it seems so stifling and I know so many people in not-very-good marriages. Reading that post makes me want to rethink that.

    So glad you’re doing ok this time around, and yay for Jon. =)

  • http://beckycochrane.livejournal.com Becky

    His blog yesterday, yours today: They are why I said you two helped inspire my second novel. Thank you.

  • Bailey


    I am so happy for you and Jon both. I’ve always admired the way you two handle your marriage and family and having kids and all the problems that come with those things, and I was also very jealous for a long time because when I first started reading your blog I was divorced. I’ve dealt with depression for most of my life, and my ex-husband was one of those “just get over it” types who never listened. Since we divorced I found out that a lot of my depression was caused by Grave’s disease, which was making my thyroid overactive. When the medicine kicked in for that it was like a miracle, I felt better than I had in literally decades.

    But I still deal with depression some, especially lately, and I think a lot of is because my youngest just moved out – empty nest and all that, and I think this depression is a lot like PPD. Why does having children and then letting them go do such horrible things to us? Fortunately I got another miracle a couple of years ago – a man who listens and understands depression and who I love as much as you and Jon love each other. I thought my mom and dad were the last people on earth to have a good marriage, but now I finally have that, and I see that you and Jon do too, and it restores a little of my faith in humanity.

    Thank you for sharing your lives with us, you have no idea how immensely helpful it is in so many ways.

  • Christie

    You are much more articulate than you give yourself credit for.

    Thank you for sharing. All of it.

  • Tara

    Amen! I have similar ups and downs and my relationship with my husband parallels yours. I don’t know what I did to deserve him…

  • http://lucends.blogspot.com lucinda

    you both gave me chills and reduced me to tears. i am so glad that you both are doing well this time around. i understand how the love you have for jon can be unbearable. after my husband and i lost our 3 week old son in december, i can remember thinking to myself how much i loved my husband, that i loved him so much that is hurt. i cant imagine him not being the center of my world.

    thanks for sharing your story with all of us!