• http://www.ifeelyaophelia.com Jenna Jean

    She is beautiful and looks like a wonderful addition to your family (don’t keep her hidden anymore!) as is her daughter. I love the name Lily too.

  • http://www.winerak.blogspot.com Lisa

    awesome story.

  • Emily

    Dear world (well, actually it’s “dear heather and fellow blog comment readers” but dear world sounds way more emphatic),

    At the risk of getting all hippy mother nature advocacy on your asses I’d like to take a brief moment to explain something. Digesting, understanding, coming to terms with, deconstructing let alone writing a fantastic award winning, “number 26, bitches” post about a natural birth experience takes TIME!

    Heather, I’ve been following your raw and beautiful story now for only 6 months (shame on me for not finding out about you earlier but we all know Canada is a cold and foreign land where only igloos, winter snowstorms and sled dogs prevail) and want to tell you, world, that any respectable, well thought out birth story blog comes to those in 3 separate, well written posts and takes several weeks to take shape and be internet ready.

    Take your time Heather and enjoy the process of reveling in and crafting for the world your story. You are wonderful and I just might want to be you.

  • jessa

    I may have to block your website at work. A teary, snotty receptionist isn’t always a good idea. Thank you, for real, for putting that experience to words. No one does it like you. That may be a life-altering little story for me. *thank you. can’t wait for three!

  • http://knit.vibegrrl.com Lara

    Woah. Anyone else have a WTF moment at Comment #22?

    Thanks for the story, Heather. I eagerly await Part 3. I had been thinking about a natural birth after watching “The business of Being Born” last month (my thoughts prior were much like yours originally were), but I think this part of your story has nearly solidified my decision to go for it. I’m still a few years off from trying to have a baby, but the decision, I think, has been made :)

  • http://www.missivesfromsuburbia.blogspot.com Missives From Suburbia

    Oh. I have tears running down my face. The image of all of those people standing behind that baby’s birth and witnessing that mother’s labor was overwhelming, and it kind of makes me wish I was having another baby so I could experience that. Although, where I’d find 480 people who’d want to watch me give birth, I have no idea. And given my two prior experiences, I’d probably STILL call in my epidural from the parking lot, because I’m a wuss that way. Not to mention, having three kids would definitely make me insane. But it sounds lovely, and I’m jealous in a very theoretical way.

    Congratulations, Katey. What a beautiful birth story and an even more beautiful baby. (Those EYES! Stunning!)

  • elisabeth

    I got chills. They’re multiplying….

  • kelly

    After reading that i was speechless, it is unbelievable how you can write about an experience you have so vividly that I feel like i was right there with you. I am amazed and in awe of your talents on a routine basis, your willingness (and the willingness of those around you) to be so transparent with your lives. I for one have not experienced child birth in any way other than the Ricki Lake documentary and what i have read on various blogs and stories i have heard. But now i kinda me want to go up to the hospital and hang out in the L/D ward waiting for the next woman to come in and ask if she minds me auditing her labor.
    Thanks for the wonderful post, and can’t wait for part 3.

    As a side note: Katey is HOT!

  • Christine

    oh, you’re such a tease, Heather

  • ma2one

    OMG, I love you Heather!
    Your gift for writing is unsurpassed.

    I’m a doula for 19 years and you’re the goddess of birth story writing. I’m sitting here reading and crying. I’ve read hundreds, many a thousand birth stories over 19 years and I’ve never cried before.

    How do you do what you do with your words, it’s like you twist them around my heart until I can’t breath. You blow me away daily with your heartfelt words.

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  • Candy

    Hey, #62, maybe she’s not writing to you. Maybe she’s writing to someone else out there who needs to know this story. Take a step back and give the other readers some room to breathe.

    Heather, that was beautiful. You and Katey are lucky to have found each other. Some relationships are just meant to be.

    Katey, congratulations on a beautiful baby and prayers for a wonderful life for both of you.

  • http://www.momsmostwanted.net Claire

    I start reading thinking this is it.. the story of Marlo’s birth then WHAM you blindside me with a part 3! So far so good, can not wait to read more!

  • http://tattoosanddrool.blogspot.com Alicia

    Thank you, Heather. The way you describe the beauty of childbirth is just awesome.

    I gave birth nine days ago, my second homebirth, and it is every bit as magical as you have described it. Something that will define me for the rest of my life.

  • Sharon

    What a study in persistence! I had a few tears when I read Lily Blanche’s name…my mom’s name was Blanche, and today would have been her 82nd birthday.
    Welcome to the world, beautiful Lily Blanche!

  • http://www.smyliesforever.blogspot.com Sarie

    Beautiful, poetic, brought me to tears. Birthing is life changing.

  • jlj

    THAT was extremely beautiful. Thank you. I can’t wait to read the rest.

  • http://www.booshay.blogspot.com Donna Boucher

    I totally agree with ma2one.
    You are a remarkable story teller, Heather.
    And hilarious!

    Yay for Katey and Lily!!
    Can’t wait for part three!

  • Kady’s Mama

    There is nothing more satisfying than a natural, drug-free childbirth. That was one of my biggest achievements in my life. Congratulations Katey, beautiful baby. Can’t wait to hear part three!

  • sarah

    just wanted to thank you for these stories–too few people hear things like this! Your posts are beautifully written, but more importantly i think you are Doing Good in the World. As someone who is rather involved in the birth community, THANK YOU!!!

  • robyn

    Katey is a trooper! It takes such mental strength to hang on and keep going without meds.

    Can’t wait for part 3!

  • Cristen

    Fabulous story! So surprisingly to learn of Katey here and now. I can’t wait to read the rest about YOUR delivery. I hope more women will be inspired by you and Katey to take charge of their own deliveries and not defer to their OB on everything.

    And having endured 6 hours of pitocin before giving in and having an epidural w/my first (my other two were all-natural and much easier), I can fully appreciate what Katey went through!

  • http://reasonablyso.com Emily

    Thanks for that, Heather. Very awesome to know about how strong women can be.

  • Jew Jenny

    If I had a root canal without pain meds would it be some sort of spiritual experience? My guess is yes if I had all my favorite people in the room praying and crying and cheering me on. but then all i would have at the end is a good tooth instead of a good baby.

  • http://www.thatridiculousgirl.com THAT RIDICULOUS GIRL

    Your writing is so raw — I was transported into the delivery room with you! Hurry up on Part Three already! Some of us don’t have jobs this summer! :)

  • Megan

    Posts like THIS are why we all love you so much…though I must admit I love you when you are talking about all of the inane details of daily life as well…and even when you talk about things we really don’t need to know. But THIS, this is just beautiful. You are such a talented writer regardless of the subject matter, don’t ever doubt it. Thank Katey for letting you share her birth story with us. You are both so lucky to have each other in your lives & I am sure Marlo and lily will have a great relationship as well. I can’t WAIT to hear part 3!!!!!!!

  • Stephen

    I was there for two of those drug free wonder woman natural deliveries. The boys are now 22 and 24. After 29 years of marriage one of the top 5 reasons I’m still here is because she did “that” for us. (and the boys) The only downside is that i can’t get any sympathy when i whine about MAJOR problems like headache, sore back, stubbed toe…………….steve

  • Anonymous

    regarding #22, the writer/viewer was 12; not the one giving birth

  • http://www.number17cherrytreelane.wordpress.com No.17 Cherry Tree Lane

    Sitting on my couch, crying.
    I wish I had that experience and hope for it in the future.

    Truly miraculous.

  • Anonymous

    I don’t get why Katie accepted the pitocin. Natural childbirth is one thing; but taking all the worst things in medicated childbirth (artificially painful, strong, and fast contractions) and all the worst things about natural childbirth (no help with pain) seems a bit inconsistent to me.

  • Sarah

    Can’t. Wait.

  • http://lesjoujou.blogspot.com Stephanei

    That is amazing! Katy is so lucky to work with you two. Any change you want to hire me as well? What a beautiful story – you made me cry! And Lily is adorable.

  • http://radkitch.com erika

    I felt superhuman after my natural delivery….it’s an experience I wouldn’t trade for anything in this world.

  • Marissa

    I am 36 weeks pregnant and bawling my eyes out after reading that. I can only hope my birth experience is half as profound. Thank you Heather (and Katy) for sharing this. Amazing.

  • http://www.millatimes.com Milla

    whoa, i feel my ovaries tingling. i think that gave me contact high.

  • Alex

    My Goodness woman…you sure know how to tell a story. Wow!Wow! Wow!
    You should write a book or two! Oh wait, you already have..
    Nevermind! Carry on!
    And Katey..you’re an inspiration to alot of women out there!

  • newbuffalomom

    Women are stronger than you can imagine. :-)
    I wish I could have another homebirth.

  • Michelle

    Go Katey! They say pitocin contractions are a lot worse than natural contractions. I was induced with pitocin and only made it a few hours before I gave in and got the epidural. It hurt like a mo fo! Hopefully I’ll get to experience labor one more time and hopefully it will be pitocin free. I’d love to be able to see for myself if the contractions are way worse.

    Regardless, Katey is a badass.

  • Monica

    Sure are a lot of blue eyed babies in Utah!

  • yvonne

    Yeah okay so I’m not one to cry but at 21 weeks prego I’m sitting at my desk crying! All that I can say is I’m inspired. Since day one I’ve known that natural birth was my choice since then – it’s nice to know I’m not alone :) Once you make this choice there is this whole new world that opens up to you and suddenly your surrounded by amazing moms that understand you and the choice you’ve made. It’s funny but ppl that have never been a part of a natural birth just think I’m crazy.

  • http://jackandjillputupablog.com/ JIll Put Up A Blog

    Gosh, I don’t know. I still want all the drugs…scary! I can see how it would be inspiring having witnessed it though. Can’t wait to hear the rest!

  • sheameister

    You go, Katey! What a beautiful little girl.

    I just had my second child, and first natural [doula assisted] birth, in December. Your description made the memories of that experience come back so vividly, it was like I relived it… in a good way. Totally had to fetch the Kleenex. I’ll be prepared when I read part III, because I just know I’ll be a wreck. Darn you for teasing us like that ;)

  • Marydaily

    So fantastic that you had the opportunity to experience something like this. I saw my sister have a natural childbirth at age 12 (!) and it really helped me prepare for my daughter’s birth 15 years later; I knew I could do it, I knew it could be done.

    Congratulations to Katey & can’t wait to hear your story.

  • Tracie

    So, now you’ve got my eyes welled up, at work. Thanks. I’m due in February with my first child, and I’m scared to death of doing a natural birth. I may look into it now though, but I’m just not sure.

    As always, thank you for sharing your stories. They are proving to be quite a source of strength for me as I go through this journey.

  • Trinity

    Looking forward to part III…

  • Cher

    Do you have a passport? If I buy you a ticket to Bali will you go help my daughter have her baby in November? It’s really a tropical paradise…

  • Stef

    Wow…8 hours of pitocin and no epidural…Katey is a Super for sure.
    Great story and baby is adorable.

  • http://www.pissybritches.blogspot.com Pissy Britches

    You are amazing & so inspiring.

    Almost makes me want to have 1 more so I can just TRY it, JUST ONE TIME.

    Good lord, hurry up with part 3. Your killing us.

  • http://callipygianchronicle.wordpress.com Yolanda

    Wow. I think I was holding my breath through at least half of that. Way to rock it, Katey.

    (PS I love that another woman’s birthday story is considered an essential part of your own. It feels so sisterly. So, I’m every woman.)

  • Carrie

    What an inspiring story. Thank you for sharing. I can’t wait to read your own personal experience in Part 3!!

    7 weeks and counting for me and this is just what I needed to hear. Its funny that in the Bradley classes all they show you are the labors where the women are coo-ing, sighing, and practically orgasmic during labor. I really wanted to see the more difficult, and I suspect the much more realistic side of natural labor where it is HARD and the woman is struggling to get through it. Its so inspiring to know that yes, I can get through this- even if its so hard I want to give up.