• http://www.sheyfeymind.com SheyFey

    Your writing is amazing. I can see and feel the experience through your words. Inspiring. Can’t wait to hear how your story goes.

    Congratulations Katey! What a beautiful daughter!

  • Erin

    I love you! Seriously. And I am dying for part three. I am 28 wks pregnant and planning a natural child birth as well. Hence the dying for the rest of your story.

    I burst into tears through Katey’s story. Gotta love the hormones of the third trimester. Way to go – both you and Katey.

  • CC

    Thankfully, I am DONE with childbirth. And a good thing, too, because I bet I could be talked into trying a natural birth. I thought I would the first time, but as you (much more eloquently) said, once that first labor pain hit, all bets were off. I wonder if I could/should have, but instead of regrets, I will await your next installment and revel in your success.

    I can only imagine the number of Doulas who have linked to your site and now high-five each other over your glowing endorsement of what they’ve been trying to tell us for years.

    Congrats to Katey. How wonderful for your 2 babes to have an instant best friend.

  • Dana

    Tears. Chills.
    So beautifully written.

  • Cathy

    I LOVE KATEY! what an awesome addition to your life–thanks for the story. Can’t wait to read the rest of it!

  • Sarah

    Beautiful. Birth is amazing. I have been fortunate to work with midwives and attend several home births (in addition to many many medicated, hospital births).

    While I think you do a tremendous job conveying what the experience of natural birth is like to share in, I don’t think anyone could ever quite explain the power of it. What you miss when you have not been encouraged to endure it only to come out of the other side of it with the most beautiful creature you have ever seen.

    I am so thankful to have been able to share in the births of so many families and even more grateful to have had my own safe, peaceful midwife attended home birth. My little one is four now and the euphoria from our birth is still with me daily.

    Women are missing out on this and they don’t even realize that it has been taken from them. It is something you can’t know unless you have been there.

  • http://kristanhoffman.com/ Kristan

    Gosh darn it, Heather, you’re going to make me want a natural birth! And I don’t even pretend to have a “threshold of pain.” o_O

    Beautiful photos, beautiful story. I look forward to part 3.

    (Hopefully it involves my CAPTCHA words: “bobbing Michael”)

  • Girlmama

    I love your blog. This story makes me want to have a 4th.

  • http://www.diapermonologues.com/ mrs.notouching

    Lily is absolutelly adorable. As always, love the post and really looking forward to the rest of it and maybe more stories about Katey in the future. She sounds really awesome.

  • http://www.kristinwalldesigns.com Kristin

    Damn you for making me cry at work!

    Bravo to natural childbirth (somebody’s gotta do it, right?)

  • http://datingisweird.blogspot.com/ Serial

    OK, I was not prepared for this, and when you started with depression, and I scrolled down to see Katey’s face, and then a baby I didn’t know, I was terrified that you were giving us a “look at this tragic story of a mother whose depression went down the shoot,” but it was just not that. And thank effing god for that, woman.

    Although, I guess, you’re not THAT much of an asshole. Despite what your inbox sometimes says (and your therapist, I guess).

  • Lizzy

    When my two sons were born 14 and 21 years ago, I just decided not to use any drugs cause I was too scared of a needle in my spine and I tend to be anti drug. I took classes in the Bradley method which didn’t really help. No books, no doula, just a hospital that didn’t believe in drugging up their mothers. Only person there were my doctors (two women which might have helped), my husband and the attending staff. It really hurt and then it didn’t hurt. About a thousand times because I had long, long labors each time. That’s about it. When it was all over, people asked how I did it without drugs and I decided that either you can handle the intense pain or you can’t. So for those of you who want to do this, it’s not all that complicated — unless you want it to be.

  • Caiti

    What a beautiful story. The more I hear about natural childbirth, the more I want to learn about it. Congratulations to Katey on beautiful Lily.

  • http://www.hydrangeasarepretty.wordpress.com Shelli

    beautiful. It DOES take a village. How awesome for her, and how awesome she let you share that.

  • Ashly


    When I was pregnant with my first baby 13 years ago, I was talking with a woman at a party and mentioned my intention to go natural. She told me that I wouldn’t make it, adding, “No one does! It’s impossible.” Luckily, I didn’t believe her and after 26 hours and lots of growling of my own, I had a beautiful baby girl naturally and felt the overwhelming sense of power and accomplishment of that amazing experience.

    Thanks so much for telling your story and Katey’s! It is wonderful that the 26th most influential woman in media is advocating for unmedicated birth.

    Cheers! Ashly

  • Laura Louann

    I’ve been reading your site for a long time, but this is the first time I’m commenting. That post brought me to tears and gave me goosebumps at the same time. Giving birth is such a powerful experience, but there’s something primal in the power of going without pain meds. I birthed without pain medication with my first and C-section with my second. Congratulations on your beautiful girls and keep up the great work!

  • Tobamom

    When I saw today’s photo of you holding Marlo, I was blown away. You look gorgeous — serene and truly happy. God bless you and your family.

  • Mari

    I enjoyed reading the story, and Lily is certainly a lovely baby, but damn, you have the weepiest readers ever.

  • http://www.websavymom.com/ Hokie Deb

    –>What a great story and I think one of my favorite posts of yours to date. Her baby is beautiful too.


  • https://theybelongtous.wordpress.com/ Monkey

    I love that Katey’s story is a part of yours. That’s the way life goes, ya know? Our stories are intermixed with those we are closest to. And we can’t have our story without telling some of theirs.

    I love it.


  • Liz

    Is it wrong that I wanted an epidural just to read that?

  • http://loueffie.blogspot.com/ Leslie

    What an amazing story! Katey is a real inspiration. I can’t wait to hear part 3 of your story.

    You should really look into doing a video segment for the My Best Birth Community about your birthing experience. I just watched Cindy Crawford’s story on their site, and would love to see you tell your story through video as well. You’re so great on Momversation, that I know this would totally suit you. Being that you are NUMBER TWENTY SIX and all, I know that My Best Birth would be thrilled to have someone like you telling your story on their site to inspire women who want to go naturally.


    Just something to think about…

  • Anonymous

    Enough, already about natural childbirth. Having been through this three times, it is not “the greatest thing I could ever do”. I had babies. That is the bottom line. How they arrived is of no real importance to their lives, nor has it affected them. I never even thought to mention it to them. Ye gods, this topic is totally worn out. Women squat in fields in other countries. They would read this stuff and laugh their asses off. What is the big frigging deal?


  • Andrea

    Sounds like a scene from The Handmaid’s Tale by Margaret Atwood.

  • Yolanda

    Dang ladies!! You rocked it!

  • http://www.lovems1.etsy.com Nancy

    I love to read your blog! Can’t wait for part three..how awesome that Marlo and Lily are so close in age!

  • http://www.momsquadblog.com Beth

    Beautiful writing. It brought tears to my eyes and really did justice to the level of achievement you feel after giving birth naturally, and having done it with a support system there to encourage you.

    Looking forward to part three!

  • http://www.margaretsmusings.wordpress.com Margaret

    I’m pretty sure I’m not the only one who is crying right now. And I’ve never even had a baby.

  • http://dou-la-la.blogspot.com Dou-la-la

    Amazing! I’m on tenterhooks for part 3 . . .

  • http://.babyboyneta.blogspot.com Melissa Whippo Neta

    I, too, cried over this birth story.

    I, too, kept saying I would “see how it goes” as I approached my son’s birth. It was better than I could have imagined, except for the rushed ending (I was a 10 on my dining room floor; my doula actually touched his head!) when we raced to the hospital and I had to *hold him in* instead of push. Ten minutes after we arrived at the hospital, my beautiful boy was born.

    Thank you for sharing such a beautiful story.

  • http://www.Beverly-Useyourwords.blogspot.com Beverly

    Your are so right, especially since you birthed her up. I did have natural childbirth 35 and 39 years ago when everyone I worked with (in a NICU) told me I was crazy. I was not going to be knocked out when MY baby arrived. It was the two best days of my life, and I loved your telling of Lily’s Birth….it was so remarkable, I cannot wait for the rest of Marlo’s Birth Story.

  • http://www.lesleydenford.com Lesley Denford

    Wow, what a wonderful story (and photos too). Bring on Part 3, I’m dying to read it! :)

  • http://www.Beverly-Useyourwords.blogspot.com Beverly

    Your are so right, especially since you birthed her up. I did have natural childbirth 35 and 39 years ago when everyone I worked with (in a NICU) told me I was crazy. I was not going to be knocked out when MY baby arrived. It was the two best days of my life, and I loved your telling of Lily’s Birth….it was so remarkable, I cannot wait for the rest of Marlo’s Birth Story.

  • http://www.tycastteam.blogspot.com nora

    Long time lurker – like you don’t have a billion of those. But thanks for the beautifully written birth story on all accounts. I’m on my way out of 14 months of PPD and its been nice to read your thoughts on where you have come from and where you are going. Lovely. Child birth is beautiful and in my opinion, the least amounts of interference make for more thoughtful experiences.

  • http://darciedefoe.tumblr.com/ darcie

    i can only think these words, “Holy.” and “Shit.” The end. p.s. also, “Awesome!”

  • http://www.lifeisgoodathebeach.ca/ BeachMama

    What an amazing story. I can’t wait to hear the rest of yours. I had both my kids at home and would recommend it to anyone, it was the best experience(s) of my life.

  • http://www.ramblingsbyreba.com Rebecca (Ramblings by Reba)

    Hooray for Katey! Lily is gorgeous! :)

    Can’t wait to read the rest.

  • Anonymous

    Hate to be the pig on the page, but Katey is HOT. By the way you go girl. Your more man than I for going through it.


  • Jess

    Katey is my HERO!

  • http://www.katiemorton.com/ Katie Morton

    I’m in awe.

    And I’m afraid if I do my research, I’ll want a natural child birth.

    So I might have to keep my epidural-blinders on and admire the brave ones from afar.

  • http://vorilee.typepad.com Deva

    This was so beautifully written. I am waiting for part three with bated breath.

  • allison

    i am so moved and inspired, and want that for myself, to experience the miracle of birth. thank you.

  • http://bohemianlamb.xanga.com/ BohemianLamb

    I love Katey. She seems awesome.

    I know you’re picky and overprotective of your kids and all, and I can understand why you passed over that woman with the pregnant kid and the son in jail, but I hope that you don’t judge everyone based on the downfalls of their family. They are not their family. They don’t have control over what their family does. At least she was honest with you about them. I’m hoping that maybe there were other things you passed her over for besides that.

    I would hate to think that someone wouldn’t hire me because of someone I am related to not meeting their standards. My husband hasn’t ever been in jail, but we’re separated, and he helps me out by giving me rides to places a lot, and I am constantly disrespected because of how HE looks. Back when I was healthy, I was turned down for a caregiver job I would have been perfect for because they saw him drop me off in his rocker skull t-shirt and septum piercing and long goatee and bald head. That wasn’t fair and it really hurt. So you can see why I felt compelled to leave this comment.

  • http://sliceoflemon.com sabrina

    Yay for Katey! For her delivery, and for spelling her name with an ‘e’ — both are awesome.
    And that baby…Good God, look at those eyes! Now Marlo and Lily can be bffs!
    And Leta can be the boss that always tells them what to do.
    What a happy ending:)

  • http://ameyawarde.blogspot.com/ Anonymous

    Aww, WAY TO GO KATEY!!
    what a great set of family/friends she seems to have, too. My family won’t even be in the same county when I give birth (they live here, I’m just sending them away)

    Lily is beautiful! :D

    I do like to hear these stories of women who stick by their birth choices! Obviously sometimes things happen and i’m not saying anything against doing what you NEED to do.. but those are the stories I hear the most. It’s nice to hear this side as well, thank you!

    -scared pregnant lady who prefers natural, but will get back to you after peanut is born about that whole pain killer thing (:p)

  • http://www.themadamequeen.blogspot.com Leandra

    Damn. For the first time I’m regretting asking for that epidural.

  • http://www.happinessontap.com Elizabeth_K

    Oh what a wonderful, beautiful, perfect story. Go Katey, go, and congrats on your stunning little baby girl.

  • http://yolaleah.wordpress.com leah the librarian

    I’m sitting at the law library circulation desk now, where I should be reading about legislative histories or something, and tearing up over this post. Beautiful story. Thank you for sharing.

  • http://icarrie.blogspot.com/ Carrie

    My birthing experiences have been eerily similar to yours…

    As much as I was blown away by the first child I gave birth to, the labor itself was so not what I expected.
    After engrossing myself on the aspect of natural childbirth with number two, it was the most powerful experience ever. One that I like to tell to people just to give them the other side of childbirth that doesn’t involve intervention. (thank god)
    And the awake baby for hours after she was born was utterly precious.

  • Phoebe

    Wow. What a great story. Katey IS a total champ! And Heather you are an amazing story teller, thank you for sharing your experience of Katey’s birth story.

    Having been through through two births (both medicated – loved me my epidural) I decided that for the third I would give the natural route a go…and it was SO worth it. It was amazing, empowering and simply beautiful all at once…..I wish that every mother could have that experience at least once. There is NOTHING like it.