• http://www.froginthepond.wordpress.com frog

    Yep, 35 minutes for a 7yo to get from the bedroom to the kitchen for breakfast – via a conversation with three stuffed toys, deliberation over which pen and paper to use for writing a note (with pictures) to a friend who will be at school that day. A whole 15 metres. And we haven’t even started on actually having breakfast or anything totally unexpected like getting dressed.

  • http://greenmountaincountrymama.blogspot.com Heidi

    I am just like Leta and your husband, always jumping from one thing to another, therefore taking much longer to finish the first thing.
    Hus probably assumes I am drinking too much, but that’s beside the point.

  • http://www.moonlit-butterflies.net Erika

    My parents must have instilled fear of instant death in my brother and I if we didn’t wear our seatbelts. My dad used to ask if we were ready and start rolling the car down our driveway which was a long gravel road, and we would both start screaming, “No! Wait!!! We aren’t ready!” as if we were going to die right there in the driveway if our seatbelts hadn’t clicked into the buckle. He thought it was hilarious.

  • http://blog.pao-alfonso.info Pao

    aww, leta is so adorable. :)

  • http://memyselfandmommy.com/ Renee

    Sounds like Katey is a tattle-tale and an amazing assistant

  • http://www.diapermonologues.com/ mrs.notouching

    Katey and Leta will be best friends for life!

  • robin white

    so many comments on the beauty and wonders of add(with or without H) – worked with many such children in the decade – may I suggest reading Thom Hartmann: Attention Deficit Disorder – a different perception – “Hunters in a Farmer’s World. I sent you the book on the dog MO – now in red AND green – love to share more…..xxoo

  • http://brandistrand.wordpress.com Brandi

    Leta sounds like me! I forget what I’m doing in the middle of doing them all the time!

    I can just imagine Leta’s reaction to sitting in the front seat of the car. Today we took our neighbor’s new RV for a trip in the neighborhood and a two-year old was sitting in the front on his dad’s lap. He looked very uncomfortable. Meanwhile, my 10-month old, sitting in my lap, was like, “WHOA, this is cool! Who needs that freakin’ car seat!” Well, actually…he didn’t say anything other than “oooooohhh.”

  • http://www.xanga.com/Bratfink Bratfink

    I SO needed that laugh. Thanks.

  • Andrea

    Heather, I’m a longtime stalker of your site. I couldn’t resist coming out of hiding to comment on this post.

    My 12-year-old was always accused by others of being ADD. We, as his parents, knew there was no way that was possible – though, we weren’t quite sure what he “had” with all his quirks and such.

    Turns out, the child’s IQ is so high he’s gifted according to school standards! You’d never believe how much fun I’ve had answering the, “Is he ADD?” question with “No, he’s just gifted!”

    I predict some serious gifted testing in your not-so-distant future.

  • Jennifer B.

    First of all, Hahahahahaha! Secondly, I love the honesty of children!

  • reikigirl

    Classic. Leta is amazing.

    (And I second what JL (comment #3) said…I could use a Katey around my house.)

  • Oda

    Bahaha, that reminds me of when I as a five or six year-old stubbornly refused a dollar for raking the leaves for my friends mom, all because my mom had told me “not to accept money from strangers”.

  • http://www.featheredbythemoonlight.blogspot.com Noelle

    I just realized something…my child is living a parellel life as your daughter. I swear sometimes the stories you tell make me think they are the same kid!

  • http://www.pleasurenotes.com emma

    The cuteness factor of your child is absolutely killing me. Sigh.

    This is only the beginning, you know. I’m sure there will be a time when you look back fondly at her innocent desire to follow your directions. I can’t wait to hear about her reaction when you pull out this story in about 12 years as a reminded of how she should OBEY HER MOTHER.

    Glad to know that you are taking full advantage of your back yard. Such a simple pleasure, and privilege. I look forward to having one some day as well. For now, I’ll simply appreciate the photos of yours.

  • Christina

    Yeah, yeah…that’s adorable.No really, it is. :)

    Real reason for commenting…my husband and I watched all of The Wire recently too and I completely agree with you on how nothing else compares. Mad Men is pretty close though!

  • Martha Elizabeth

    You do know, Heather, don’t you, that “hyperfocus” is a hallmark of ADD/ADHD?

  • Mir

    That ADD-like ability to forget everything, but then turn around and focus on a book or some other activity that a child who really has ADD would never be able to do is just a part of highly gifted children. Dabrowski’s Overexcitabilities, actually.

    My daughter does the same thing and at 8 I can tell you it’s no better than it was at 4-5. There’s things you can do to calm it down, such as making posters to help a child focus on menial tasks, and adding more physical and mental activities to her day which can help her mellow out all around. Self-paced programs are the best – instruments, ballet, swimming, etc. But mostly it’s about blasting as much mental energy from her brain as possible. The more you get her to use her brain and wear it out, the calmer she will be…in all areas.


  • http://bushbabe.blogspot.com Bush Babe

    Leta sounds perfectly normal to me… I have a son that requires about an hour for breakfast and then another for getting dressed. More important things just keep coming up. Like patting the dog. Watching ABC Kids on TV. Seeing if the DS is charged yet. Finding a pencil. A bit of loud rousing (by his Mother) usually works. Or a quiet threat to throw the DS out the window. Marvellous. Oh, and he lives in fear of being found out doing something FORBIDDEN. But lately I have been wondering whether he is actually beginning to enjoy the fear… the drama.

    Maybe ADD should stand for Additionally Distracted and Dramatic?

    Speaking of which…do people really diagnose your kid in the comments section? Gah…

    PS Jon sounds quite adorable.

  • Violet

    Yeah, at 3 years of age, I asked my mom if I could go potty and she said yes. I proceed to climb out of the playpen (yes, that dates me), go potty and CLIMB back in. I don’t know what you call those parenting skills, but DAMN, I was compliant! Ha! Not so much now, though.

  • Kathleen

    Are you sure you didn’t have twins when you gave birth to Leta? Positive? Because she often reminds me of my niece, Samantha. Once during a trip to the roller skating rink, Sam asked me, “Aunt Kathleen, WHY isn’t anyone in here wearing a helmet?!” I said I didn’t know, but guessed maybe it was because helmets weren’t required at the rink. Sam responded, “Well, they should be required. The ground is very hard!”

  • Elaine

    My favorite line of this is, “the brunette barbie has to think about it”.

  • AngelaVan

    My daughter is the same way. Usually you cannot tear her away from something to save your life. But there are other times that I call the “If You Give a Mouse a Cookie” times – because that’s exactly how it feels.

  • http://www.ninesandquines.typepad.com libby @ ninesandquines

    i am SOOOOOOOOO leta….it takes me FOREVER to get ready for work in the morning….i’ll get my hair done, then stop to play with the dogs….then have to turn on the t.v. and sit for a minute to watch it….then look at the clock and it’s all “holy shit! i’m going to be late!” then put on a blouse, then, oh wait, i didn’t make coffee, run downstairs, put coffee and filter and water in coffee maker, then back upstairs, with dogs in hot pursuit. ok they need to be played with again….crap – now i need to find a skirt that doesn’t have dog slobber on it – shit, it needs to be ironed….back downstairs, wait, dogs need to be fed, oh yeah, actually power ON the coffee maker….ok, iron is hot, back upstairs because yeah, i forgot my shoes and purse, oh dogs need to go out? ok – out you go….where are my keys? f***! blackberry is upstairs….let dogs in, tell them to be good (and they look at me like, yeah, whatevah! we’re DOGS! we shall shed anywhere we want and tear up anything we wish). yell out to the horses “morning boys!” on my way past the paddock out of the neighborhood (yes, we get to have horses in our neighborhood :-) ) get half way to work and realize i forgot to put on makeup! and that’s on a GOOD day!

  • http://blog.sailorscorpio.com/ Meredith

    That is too funny (“I’m not supposed to sit in the front seat”). It’s also interesting how kids pick up on our mannerisms and then use them on such a ridiculous level. Every other sentence out of my son seems to start with “by the way” or “don’t forget!”

  • Bonnie

    Leta is too funny. She’s only going to get cooler with age, too. As soon as she can type I hope she starts her own blog!

    I hate to tell you, but ‘they’ are now claiming that absent-mindedness AND over-concentration are symptoms of ADD. Just to prepare you for people telling you so.. (but of course you know that Leta is perfect the way she is). I think ‘ADD’ is mostly BS, but then again, I have a diagnosis.

  • http://belleandnel.blogspot.com/ Belle

    Leta is awesome. For a 5 year old, and for a regular person. And Katey is dually awesome sounding.

  • Nicole

    do you know how many evenings i have enjoyed the shit out of?! DO YOU?!
    i have also enjoyed the shit out of beaches, malls, movie theatres and *gasp* the local McDonald’s playland.
    i can tell you that badgering, while mildly frustrating but cute at age 5, is a lot less cute and a whole lot more frustrating by age 10. Can’t imagine what 15 will be like!

  • Natasha

    I love this post…burst out laughing in the ppl’s office when I should be working.

    As for you daily photo titled ‘BUBBLES’ – Hilarious!!!!!!
    My bf and I watched that entire series while I was pregnant last year…and you’re right; after watching that show, it’s really hard watching regular TV again. BTW, Bubbles was one of my favourite characters of the show.

  • Anonymous

    That is one quick mind ;-)

  • http://madhatvintage.blogspot.com/ Mad Hat Vintage

    Wait—why is ADD a bad thing? Our whole family is ADD, especially my big bro. whose ADD “addled” brain figured out some supposedly impossible process while working in a lab as a 21 year old undergrad. Thanks to his ADD all kinds of new asthma and arthritis drugs have been developed in the last 15 or so years. Sorry to sound soapboxy but I’ve been diagnosed with both asthma AND a rheumatoid illness this week and have been spending way too much time thinking about the serendipity of it all.

  • Cheryl S.

    I love Leta. what a little smartie pants. And guess what, the absent minded professor thing? It comes with being smart. It was my nickname as a kid. I used to get in the shower with my undies on, forget my shoes, etc. I also graduated with stright A’s from Kindergarten to college. And I DON’T have ADD. Let Leta be Leta, she’ll be fine!

    And, can I have a Katey, please??????

  • linnysol

    my son is similar…they tell on themselves. he’s in kindergarten now- a teacher’s dream we say!

  • http://www.maybebabyblog.com Constance

    When I was little I firmly believed that the car was incapable of starting, let alone driving, without everyone’s seat belts buckled. My parents swear they didn’t start this delusion – I’m suspect, but might use it on our daughter…

  • http://allthatmamadrama.com Kate

    Nothing makes us happier as mommies than those reported moments of remembering their rules when they’re out of our sight. Your daughter sounds charming and sweet, and you’re obviously so in tune with who she is…you are doing TONS right!

  • Kristen

    My husband and 6 year old are both easily distracted. This post made me laugh laugh laugh. So familiar.

  • http://angryredhead.wordpress.com Candice

    I’m fairly certain Leta is going to grow up to become the first female President of the USA.

  • http://deescribbler.typepad.com/my_weblog Dee

    I’m seeing Leta in about 20 years, and she is definitely in the marketing/public relations field. Either that or she’s a second generation blogger… [be very afraid]

  • http://theconfusedhomemaker.com/ beth aka confusedhomemaker

    Ok, I know I’m posting a 2nd time. BUT #168 & #199′s comments on seat belts make me laugh, because it IS that way for my kids. Then again now that I’m thinking about it maybe the rules thing for us is more intense because of our family. I live with 2 boys who are aspies, a daughter who is just my carbon copy, a husband who thinks everything is humorous, and a baby who I’m pretty sure is plotting with the rest of them to get me. So ah hell what do I know;)

    And yes after giving it more thought I am pretty sure it is totally possible to diagnosis a complex disorder from a set of internet postings on your blog. I mean if not then how would all the women on various baby/mom sites know what to do without posting & getting random feedback from strangers? It’s like knowing if you are pregnant, if you post it online & ask people they will tell you. Damn peeing on a stick, just pee on your computer. Hmm….I think I just went way OT.

    btw–thanks for making me laugh, lately it’s been not as easy & your writing definitely does that for me.

  • http://www.silverriverjewelry.com Sonja McClung

    Sounds like your daughter is very bright! Smart kids are so much fun to be around lol! And I would say that yes, whatever you are doing is working!


  • readsblogsatwork

    What a riot – at 56 I start to tell a story, forget where I was going halfway through and hope to God I can remember before I get to the end so I don’t look like an idiot! I’ve always been like that — too much to process. Love your blog – Leta, Marlo and Katey!! — not forgetting Chuck, he’s the shit!

  • Jody

    Different foods touching is the same as “crossing the streams” in “Ghostbusters.” The entire universe as we know it will be annihilated!

  • Anonymous

    Hey…haven’t read the comments… but hyper-focusing on the task at hand is actually a hallmark of ADD.

    The name ADD is actually a misnomer in that respect… especially in girls. I have it btw. And I am “highly intelligent”, so I’ve been told, with advanced degrees with very high grades… many people with ADD are quite intelligent.

    For myself, I say that ADD in girls stands for “always day-dreaming” cus I used to be a big day dreamer as a girl and still love to take time out to let my mind wonder where it will.

    But just know that hyper-focusing and being upset when that gets interrupted is definitely part of ADD… and it would be good to know if she’s got it as a child rather than finding out in adulthood as I did!

    Thom Hartmann has some great books on ADD… I think it’s a gift rather than a curse… our minds work very creatively and make connections that most people don’t see.

  • Harriet B.

    Ummmm….don’t know if someone else said this, but concentrating TOO MUCH on things is a hallmark of ADD. I have ADD and I am the same way. Attention Deficit, is kind of a misnomer because its actually an attention inconsistency…being able to hyper-focus on some things and not focus at all on others.

  • Katherine

    Honestly, people? Read the story, enjoy it, and stop trying to diagnose her kids. An anecdote does not a syndrome make, and besides… must we be so adamant about pathologizing children? Kids get labeled enough by peers, it’s just sad when adults jump in the game.

  • http://babyfavorite.blogspot.com/ Baby Favorite

    Leta sounds SO MUCH like my daughter in the distracted yet intense and also too wise for her age ways!

    And, as soon as you said that Katey had her in the front seat of the car (parked, no less), I instantly wondered if Leta would worry about that! Why? Because that would totally be my kids’ reaction, as well.

  • Janie

    Oh I just adore Leta! Please don’t ever take her away from us!
    I hope she starts her own blog someday. Wouldn’t that be just like her? Writing a blog EXPLAINING all your blog posts about her…telling her side of the story, if you will! LOVE. THAT. KID.

  • http://shapedbyrunning.blogspot.com/ Ulyana

    Goodness, this is just too cute! And she did tell on her, haha!

  • http://www.bytheseatofourpants.com Jasie VanGesen

    I absolutely adore the random and hilarious snapshots into you guys’ life!!

  • Brooke

    Too cute! :-)