• Sylver

    I’m so sorry for your loss.

    OMG. Marlo totally DOES look like your granny when she smiles! SO amazing. What a wonderful way to always have her with you.

  • Hallie

    Such sad news. I am so sorry for your loss.

    Your granny looks like she was a spunky woman. It must have given her great joy to know Marlo and Leta, and I bet she was proud of you, Heather, for growing into such a great Mother.

    Of course, I think I know one of the secrets of your success—you married a terrific, funny, hard-working fellow who loves you. One smart cookie.

  • http://www.ginnyadkinsphotography.com Ginny

    I am so sorry for the loss of your beloved Granny!

  • http://onewordisenough.blogspot.com/ Zhoen

    I’m sorry for your loss.

    I was left to cry, and I sleep very well. You know best for your own children, because you pay attention.

  • http://lorimac.blogspot.com Lori

    I’m sorry to hear about your Granny. Beautiful post.

  • Cate

    I’m so sorry about your Granny. I lost my last grandparent about 5 years ago, but at least he got to meet all of his great grandchildren. The other three didn’t.
    It doesn’t matter how old they were or how full and rich their life was, it’s always too soon when they leave us.

    Letting a baby cry when all of their needs have been taken care of is not neglect or selfish – it’s just the way it is sometimes. Nobody with half a brain would ever accuse you of not loving your children – and those that do, well, it’s quite well documented how little of our brains humans actually use. They’re obviously using less than most.

  • http://jack-e-lope.blogspot.com Bonine

    A perfect post. Sorry to hear about your grandmother.

  • http://lifeaslou.blogsome.com Leah

    Heather, my favorite grandma died about four days after my son was born. I was a mess and the hormones really didn’t help. I cried at random for weeks to the point where my husband thought I was just a little nuts. Look at the baby, SOB. Look at the computer, SOB. Look at lint on the floor, SOB. It was ugly.

    It is hard when the new and old coincide- beautiful and so so exquisitely painful.

    Anyway, so very sorry. I know that pain very, very well and feel badly for you.

    Here’s an awkward internet (((HUG))).

  • Anonymous

    i am so sorry for your loss – knowing that my grandparents’ time is drawing ever nearer is terrifying, I hope that when the time comes I will have something as precious as Marlo to remind me of the metaphor of life.

    all the best to you and your family,
    …got me all teary eyed

  • http://www.shoppingsmycardio.com becki

    heather, i just wanted to say how sorry i am about your granny. my own nana died last week, and there just aren’t words. i know you’re lucky enough, like me, to have friends to distract you and family to make you crazy during this time…and i think that’s what keeps me from collapsing in a heap of grief on my kitchen floor.

    sending you good thoughts, and a hug from a total stranger.

  • Alex

    My sincere condolences on the loss of your grandmother. My dad passed away a few weeks ago and it just really sucks, that’s all there is to it, but hanging out with my toddler has been the best possible thing for my mental health in the weeks since. Take care.

  • http://hopeful-y.tumblr.com Ali

    I’m so sorry for your loss, Heather. I’ll keep your family in my thoughts.

  • isabelle from mtl

    Condolences and hugs from Montreal.

  • Anonymous

    So sorry about Granny Boone. She will live on through your stories. I would have loved to have met her, she sounds like my kind of people. Your family is in my prayers.

  • Cee

    I’m so sorry about your granny. I’m sure you and your family will miss her a lot.

    You hit the sleep jackpot with Marla! As a baby my son wouldn’t go to sleep unless he was right up against me. I liked it but if he had preferred his own room that would have been fine too.

  • http://.abirdinmyhand@blogspot.com Barbara

    It’s been a while since my kids were little but I still remember how gigantically different they were in personality and in sleep quality! Yikes. I totally get it. You do what you have to do. You’re right. No one wants to hear their kid cry. Good for you, listening to the cues and just going for it.
    I’m so sorry about your granny. Bless her and all of you right now.

  • jeffeboy

    Sorry to read of your family’s loss Dooce (grandparents are pretty special). Peace be with you and yours though these hard times…

  • Anonymous

    So sorry for your loss. Hang in there.

  • http://nuzzie.wordpress.com Stacey

    You just made my heart ache. I am sorry for your loss. What a beautiful photo of your Granny…and Wow, Marlo really does look like her. What a blessing to have such a lovely reminder.
    My sincere condolences.

  • Laura

    Just wanted to say I’m sorry for the loss of your Granny.
    And your girls are absolutely beautiful!

  • Sara

    What a beautiful post and a beautiful picture. I have tears in my eyes. I’m so happy for your luck and so sorry for your loss.

  • Jen

    Oh, Heather, I’m so sorry for your family’s loss. It’s terrible to lose someone. It really made me tear up reading your post.

    On the sleep thing, I’m all for to each his own. Each family is different, and each child is different. I have three boys and they each slept through the night at different ages and with different processes. I don’t think anyone outside the family can/should judge anyone else’s situation.

  • http://www.thatgirlruns.com ChrisB

    I am so sorry for your loss, Heather.

    Your sweet grandmother and my stepdaughter, who also died this morning at the age of 22, will be dancing in circles together.

    “Perhaps they are not the stars, but rather openings in Heaven where the love of our loved ones pours through and shines down upon us to let us know they are happy”
    ~ Author Unknown

  • Laura

    Some of my favorite times were nursing my girls in the very early mornings. It was so sleepily peaceful. Now that they’re big and stuff (4 and 5), I’m glad I remembered to be aware of that special time. It is so fleeting. Congratulations on your good luck in getting Marlo (and your perseverance (and good luck) with Leta too). They’re lucky little girls.

    I am so sorry to hear about your Granny Boone. I wish you peace and strength and some extra patience to grieve they way you feel you need to.

  • Wendy

    Awww….Marlo does look like your Granny. I’m sure she was a precious lady and will be missed…

  • http://www.dubiousma.com dubiousMa

    Heather, I am profoundly grateful every single day that my beloved grandparents got to meet my daughter. Granny and Marlo made each other’s acquaintance…thank God for small, big…any miracle really. So sorry.

  • the niffer

    You and your family are in my thoughts, Heather. Wishing you much peace and strength.

  • http://www.flourishphotography.com.au Kellie

    losing a grandmother is a terrible thing. :( hope you’re ok.

  • Ninabi

    Heather, I’m so sorry you lost your wonderful grandma.
    All that talk about “well, she lived a good, long life” is rubbish when someone you hold dear is gone. There’s never enough time to hold all the love you have to give.

    The few bits you have shared with us about your grandmother have been wonderful. I’m glad Leta was old enough to remember her. Again, I’m so sorry for you and your family.

  • http://wishfulbohemian.blogspot.com Audra

    Gah! Yes! Just… yes. To all of it. (My grandmother passed away last month.)

  • Moxie

    Growing up just sucks. But there are rewards, like realizing just how lucky you are and what a fantastic gift you have in your family.

    I am so, so sorry about your loss.

  • rb

    I’m so sorry to hear about your Grandmother.

    I never did get one of those easy-sleeping babies. I thought if I tried a few more times I might get one, but alas, I didn’t want twelve kids, so I stopped at two. I believe you when you say sometimes you get lucky.

  • Anonymous

    My condolences to you and your family. A great family that is, and dont let the haters tell you otherwise.

  • http://www.thefootballwife.com The Football Wife

    A baby is God’s opinion that life should go on. — Carl Sandburg

    Sorry for your loss — your Granny looks beautiful in your photo.

  • Kathy

    My condolences, Heather. Losing a grandmother is one of the most painful things. My best thoughts for you and your family at this time.

  • Christine

    So sorry for your loss, Heather. I see a little of my grandmother in my daughter, and it brings me joy every day.

    Also, it’s amazing to me how similar my parenting experience has been to yours. My first had reflux, was a terrible sleeper and screamed all of the time. We also let her cry it out, and she’s now a perfect sleeper. My son, on the other hand, is one of those easy babies that makes you want ten more. Well, in theory, anyway…

  • JennyM

    I’m so sorry for your loss — even if you know it’s coming, it’s still hard. I’ve been fortunate not to lose too many loved ones (yet, I suppose, not to be morbid), but the thing that has struck me before has been just that — “life goes on” doesn’t really do justice to the weirdness of trying to wrap your brain around someone being *gone* and yet things don’t all just grind to a halt, and the rest of us keep living, and the bizarre combination of betrayal and relief that comes with taking enjoyment out of something while something irreparably sad is happening at the same time….

    Anyway, many, many condolences.

  • http://www.karlotta.com Karlotta

    What a beautiful granny! What a wonderful halo of hair, what a lovely light in her eyes. I’m so sorry you lost her; but I’m happy for you that you had her all this time. She was probably quite the great grandma.

    Tons of love :)

  • Sandra


    I’m so sorry for your loss. You and your family are in my prayers at this time. Take comfort in your little one, and look forward to the day when you get to tell her all about her great-granny, from whom she inherited her stunning good looks.



  • http://www.southernfurnitureunlimited.com Leilani

    I am so sorry for your loss. Thoughts and prayers are sent your way.
    On another note: I loved your post. I just recently became a grandmother for the first time to a beautiful baby girl. I kept her this past week for three nights while her Mommy had minor surgery and I so relate to the “not minding one bit….” part in regard to nighttime feeding (and snuggling.)
    Such special times that so quickly go away as they grow.
    I love your blog and you and your special family.


  • http://www.raisingcolorado.com Zakary

    I am really sorry about your Granny. Grandmothers are the best.

    She looks like a real cool cat.

  • superkittn

    So, so sorry about Granny Boone (from your cyber crackpot friend.)

  • http://www.our-married-life.blogspot.com Annie

    I am so sorry to hear of your loss, Heather. I know the feeling you are having right now – my husband and I were told we had a 2% chance of conceiving on our own. My grandmother (my last surviving grandparent) passed away in June of last year, and I was pregnant by July. The universe, or God… whatever it is, works in mysterious ways. I offer you my deepest sympathies for your loss, and all my best for your future.

  • http://nutmegsgoodies.blogspot.com NutMeg

    There are no better words than I am sorry. How lucky that she got to see you with two happy healthy girls.

  • Morgan

    Throw some of that perfect lipstick on Marlo and you’ve got Granny Boone anytime you want her back. Wow, they really do look similar. You are in my thoughts.

  • http://christelpistol.wordpress.com/ christelpistol

    so sorry about Granny Boone. you and your family are in my thoughts.

  • Rhonda

    Condolences to you and your family.

  • Amanda

    Oh Heather, I am so sorry honey.

  • Kim H.

    Sending you peaceful energy and an internet hug!

  • Tanya

    So sorry about your Granny Boone. You will always have a glimpse of her there in Marlo’s smile.