• Katie Sutton

    Stop making me cry damn you!

  • sunbruz8

    Really, really lovely.

  • http://bumparella.blogspot.com.au/ Michelle Barraclough

    Just beautiful Heather. A gorgeous piece of writing and a wonderful tribute to Marlo and the magic of three year olds x

  • Tara Parker

    Those last two paragraphs sum up my daughter in words I didn’t know how to express. She’s 3 1/2. Thank you, Heather.

  • Molly

    So beautiful.

  • kate

    Gorgeous. Just gorgeous. Her, your love for her, this post.

  • Lori

    this just killed me. I have 2 girls. My youngest is Marlo too…

  • Missy

    I so love your newsletters to your girls, but wow, those last two paragraphs just did me in. Perfection.

  • Whitney

    Some of your best writing yet. Her personality jumps off the page.

  • bambooska

    Possibly one of your best posts ever. And I’m a daily fan since 2004. Thank you so much for sharing this.

  • juxtapose

    The videos are adorable, but the photos are beautiful. In some of them you can see the beautiful woman that I imagine Marlo will become. You are so lucky and blessed to have two such amazing daughters.

  • http://www.boobyandthebeast.com/ Jennifer Campisano

    Your girls are so lucky to have these newsletters. I am living with Stage 4 cancer, and one of the things I consistently say to my therapist is that I hope my little guy (age 2) always knows how much he’s loved, no matter what happens to me. Clearly, I need to start writing him letters like these. Thank you.

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  • KristenfromMA

    Best wishes to you!

  • Susan

    I love your whole entire family.

  • Kathe

    Nailed it.

  • talonsage

    That’s beautiful. And a perfect storm of a summary.

    Goddamnit, you woke up my ovaries.

  • talonsage

    Jumps off the page with a cape, sets it on fire and somehow creates Utah’s very first tsunami, you mean…

  • chiquita

    Ah Heather. a simple birthday newsletter captures the eternal angst of having a kid and knowing you won’t get to see the whole journey (assuming everything goes the way it should.) My little one is 5 and she is a crazy-making, awesome, exhausting bundle of energy and joy every day. Thank you.

  • Susan LaPooh

    Beautiful words – the last two paragraphs gave me goosebumps and all I could think is, yes, yes, I understand!

  • buta86

    I am always amazed at how similar my girls are to yours. Although, I have 3, my oldest and Leta are so alike and my youngest and Marlo are incredibly similar. My middle one would make sure they ALL get to commit that felony. Thanks for your incredible writing.

  • MandaJo

    “I want you to stay like this forever. Please don’t go. Remain here in this tiny body with your stubbed toes, your hands covered in purple marker, your hair tangled in coconut-scented sunscreen and the remains of a pink popsicle, here where you save me every day from the overwhelming circumstances of my adult life, here where you heal the dread that wakes me up because what if one of the things I’m juggling hits the ground?” Oh, my god. This. Yes. This is exactly it, this is PERFECTLY, EXACTLY how I feel about my son. Please don’t go. Exactly.

  • Jeanie

    Beautiful. She’ll treasure this letter in years to come.

  • Shaste

    This is beautiful.
    My daughter turns 4 in two days. Is it me or does 4 feel like the beginning of the end of the perfection that is little-kid-hood? It kills me how damn grown up she is already. Every time she stops mispronouncing a word a little part of me dies inside. I hope she keeps saying punk’um (for pumpkin) for ever.

  • Keri

    I love this. My daughter (also my second/last child) is so much like Marlo, and I couldn’t imagine life without her. Hope she has a great birthday!

  • joan newcomb

    Loved, loved, loved this post. Best of all of yours that I’ve read. I only have boys but Marlo reminds me of my youngest, who talked like Elmer Fudd until he went to kindergarten & got corrected. He said ‘F’ instead of T, which made it really exciting when a firetruck would go by & he’d scream out the window “WOOKIT DE FRUCK”! Oh, and he thought the index finger was the middle finger, so he’d give people the “Number 1″ gesture…

  • Marian Rose

    Happy birthday Marlo! You are my favorite kid in the world! (don’t tell my niece that *wink) :)

  • Jeca51601

    Oh, Heather, thank you for this…And I am not crying, really, I am not.

    Excuse me while I go upstairs and hug my children to oblivion …

  • JennyOH

    Your last two paragraphs made me tear up. My daughter is a week older than Marlo and it’s been a joy watching Marlo grow up at the same time as Charlotte. I can’t wait until your sweetie pie is old enough to read and embrace what you’ve written about her.

  • Sarah Osinkosky

    Oh, thank you. In about 7 weeks I will give birth to my first child. And although it’s scary and terrifying and everything is unknown, I am beyond thrilled and excited. I’ve been reading your blog for about 6 years because it is real. And this newsletter is so well written and shows the joy of being a parent. I want that joy. I will embrace all that comes along with this mystery kid inside me. Thank you for letting your girls live and for giving us a glimpse into your queendom.

  • Elizabeth Ruby

    Ah, Marlo Armstrong Iris. She’s Larious. :) Good job, Mama. Thanks for sharing her with us.

  • Melinda

    one of the best things i’ve ever read from you. wow, beautiful!

  • Meg

    Once again, you’ve captured the ineffable into words.
    Happy birthday, Marlo. I’ll never forget that I was at Pride when I learned of your birth — it only gets more appropriate as the years continue. You embody everything I’ve ever seen at such a celebration. (And you already love us!)

  • Erin

    Oh man… The end of that got to me. Tears, so beautiful. There’s nothing like a child’s bond with their Mom!

  • Teal

    Oh man, that next to last paragraph just broke my heart. What a privilege it is to be let into someone else’s life so intimately. And for that, Heather, I, and we as a human race, thank you.

  • Teal

    This part of the post made my teary-eyed. That image of tangled hair and markered hands is so evocative and beautiful.

  • KathrynT

    I’ve read this three different times today and each time I ended up in tears. Just beautiful.

  • Kristen

    I loved reading this :)
    My little girl is five now, and she still has speech problems. But I love them. I know she needs to fix them, and we’re working on it, so yeah… but I’ll miss this. We call her Squawky. She’s got this little squawky voice and can’t say any c/k sounds, and well, I just love it.

  • http://allconsuming.com.au/ allconsuming

    OH MY.

  • http://simple-pleasures-ebks.blogspot.com/ Lindsey

    wow – what a stunningly beautiful tribute.

  • KPreston

    Beautifully written!

    Am I the only one who was hoping that lady would return her glassthesth?

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  • Denise Duffield-Thomas

    Totally beautiful.

  • Zoe

    Thank you for sharing this – wipes tears of laughter and emotion from eyes.
    Am Mum to a nearly three year old funny girl and love, love, love reading about your beautiful daughters xx

  • Alabama

    Wow. Great writing.

  • LindaLu1122

    Ok – you almost made my biological clock start to tick w/ that one. Happy Birthday Marlo!!!

  • http://www.escapingelegance.com/ Stephanie Reidy

    Simply beautiful…

  • joyce

    I’ve been reading you for years…and never bother to comment…but this post is brilliant. Marlo sounds like the PERFECT completion to your family. I often used to whisper to my second son when he was an infant, that he was “exactly what I needed” – that he saved me from going to a dark dark place. Happy Birthday to your Wedgie Dancer!

  • maggie wilkin

    Beautiful post. The references to your daughters resonate with me because I have 2 daughters that are very much like yours, in that they are complete and total opposites. Where my oldest was born more mature and responsible than me and my youngest wants to see what would happen if she cuts her own hair or throws away part of her homework so that she doesn’t have to do it. They both add such amazing things to my life as your daughters do for you.

  • Allyssa Wheaton-Rodriguez

    The last 2 paragraphs brought tears to me eyes because that is exactly how I feel when I look at my 2 yr old.