Heater, Mother of Lance

2012 in words and photos

I’m not going to lie, I’ve had better holidays. This Christmas pretty much sucked in four hundred different ways, but the girls had fun and that’s all that matters. Yes, there are broken bones and sprained muscles, but we’re all alive, no one is going to bed hungry, and the world didn’t end. Right this second and this second alone I am the valedictorian of looking on the bright side. Watch: Chuck puked about an hour ago, but he did it on the hardwood floor and not on the rug. Blessings!

I am so ready for this year to be over. Christmas for me will be waking up on Tuesday morning and realizing it is no longer 2012. It will be gone forever and I will not miss it. Have I learned from it? Yes, but this is a teacher who will not be getting a Starbucks gift card when I say goodbye.

I’m not making any grand resolutions for the new year, but I am hoping for just three simple things: a little less crying, a little more sleep, and smiles that last for hours. I’m going to try to make that happen.

Here are some of my favorite posts from the last year and the annual year in photos (you’re going to want to watch it all the way to the end). Looking over everything, I think I need to add one more thing to hope for next year: less encounters with wildlife.

Thank you for sticking around. See you in Twenty Thirteen.

Pasty white Canadian farm boy comfort food
“When Jason glanced over and saw what I was doing he broke out into glorious song: ‘Salt salt, butter butter, salt salt, butter butter, salt salt, butter butter, salt salt, butter butter, AMERICAAAAAAAAA!’ Because he’s Canadian and they are more civilized. I was like, I bet your nightly news starts with, ‘BREAKING: Local woman is rude to her neighbor.'”

Newsletter: Month Ninety-Six
“There is no more struggle. And Leta, struggle used to be at the core of your dynamic with everything in your world. You loved to struggle. You were Rocky and struggle was your Adrian.”

CB radio
“A tired toddler is a nuclear bomb. You could offer the wrong thing for dinner and next thing you know there’s a hole in the earth where the western hemisphere used to be.”

Eleven years
“Remember when you could drop someone off at the airport and walk them to their gate? Or meet them eagerly as they walked off of the plane? So does my website.”

The topic that keeps on giving
“A maniacal alien did not crash through her roof in the middle of the night, kidnap her, transport to her some bright operating room on a spaceship and yank out her loose tooth with the claw of the abominable snowman. Although how cool would it be to go to second grade and be all, guys, you’re never going to believe what happened.”

I’m writing this inside a confessional
“‘Hey, guys! Listen. I know you’re currently on a dangerous, high-speed chase with a drunk driver, but I’ve got a fucking bird staring the shit out of my front door.””

That old familiar topic
“The Universe was about to use me and that diaper to make someone reconsider their skepticism of karma.”

Why should rogues have all the fun?
“WTF? Seriously? Like, his own vampire? He’s all, yeah, I’m the leader of the free world and shit, but check out my free vampire! Blackout curtains on all the windows in the White House, y’all!”

Slow and steady
“Can you imagine how boring it must be to walk around that slowly for over a hundred years? They probably hang out in bars and wallow in jealousy over their friends who were lucky, the ones who caught a disease and died in their sixties.”

To the rescue, my friend
“A snake, you guys! It’s, like, raining fucking panties!”

The dreaded year
“Three-years-olds. They are awful, horrible people. I didn’t say they were the WORST people but only because I’m sure there are murderers out there who listen to Nickelback.”

“I also despise whistlers”
“I’m as liberal as you can get when it comes to gun rights, but if someone is going to menace my child with whistling I don’t see anything wrong with owning a machete.”

Danger ahead
“In fact, Chuck stood up on his hind legs, turned around to everyone watching and said, ‘You idiots do realize that a poisonous snake is sitting right there?'”

Newsletter: Marlo turns three
“She wants her toys in their bag tucked into the corner of the closet. You want them dunked in your bowl of chili, thrown into the air and then set on fire with a can of hairspray and a cigarette lighter that you stole from 7-11.”

You peed! In a cup!
“You know the world is totally fucked when someone like me has a platform to write about enemas.”

She drew first blood
“Leave a kid in a completely empty room, arm them with nothing but the clothes on their body, and when you return that room will be covered in red paint and molasses.”

Up and over
“What? You can do 50 pull-ups at a time? Awesome. I just baked a pan of cookies. You can have all of them. Right after I poke you in the butt with the end of a broom.”

And it will become a national landmark
“Do you have any idea how badly I’d love to get the Avon World Sales Leader just a little tipsy and say, ‘Start with 1963. Go.'”

My ongoing struggle with wildlife
“I’d never make it as a pitcher in the major leagues, no, but if there were a sport for pissing off squirrels with carrots there would be a position on the team known as The Dooce.”

On the importance of doing research
“You think you’re going to show up and see a shit ton of salt without really giving that thought the thorough examination it needs: a shit ton of salt. Now, if it were the Bonneville Ketchup Flats? That’s a totally different party.”

After school special
“What to Expect The Seventh Year and Every Year Until They Graduate High School: A Shit Ton of Homework and Uncontrollable Sobbing.”

That time of the month when I strangle my dog
“I tell you what, if a presidential candidate threatened to take away my right to use tampons I’d drive to his house and tie a hundred thousand of them to the trees in his front yard. I totally would.”

I found a creationist science book
“Look at him. He totally wants to take a shit in the middle of my bed.”

Best sister ever
“I’d like to take all the credit for Leta’s generosity, but then I realize I’ve raised Marlo exactly the same way and that kid will eventually be arrested for felony arson.”

Grumpy baking happy fun times

Music is “Take Care” by Beach House

  • Lil Dane$

    2012/12/28 at 2:45 pm

    2013 is going to be eight million times better than 2012 or I am going to pack up all my things and move to Tahiti. Win/win.

  • Michelle Fournier

    2012/12/28 at 3:27 pm

    Last year I said it couldn’t get worse so 2012 had to be better. Not jinxing myself like that again. So as I sit here packing to move for the second time this year, with swollen glands and a bad cough I just keep looking to a sign my aunt gave me with a great quote from Christopher Reeves on it.
    ” once you choose hope, anything is possible.”

    I was waiting for Marlo to pop off with “just give me the damn yogurt woman! ”

  • Andrea

    2012/12/28 at 3:38 pm

    Haha, yoburt. I love that kid.

  • 2dkimball

    2012/12/28 at 4:06 pm

    2013 is the lucky year! NO DOUBT! Thanks for sharing your life with all of us!

  • tksinclair

    2012/12/28 at 4:59 pm

    I’m with you…in 2012 we lost our home…lost our jobs…I’m now living in a 1,700 sq ft space with 3,500 sq ft of furniture (It looks like those hoarder homes but without the dust and rats – at least so far)…In fact on the 21st I was pissed at those Mayans..can’t they just get ONE THING RIGHT? I guess all those things I put on hold – just in case the world conveniently ended, I now have do. Yeah, here’ s to 2013….(although I think I said something similar at the end of 2011 about 2012 and look where that got me)

  • americanrecluse

    2012/12/28 at 5:25 pm

    Yobrit! I’m glad I had the sound turned on. :o)

    Here’s to a better 2013 all around!

  • icywench

    2012/12/28 at 5:43 pm

    Heather…I’ve been reading you for quite some time but have never posted. 2012 was a year of change for me, as it has been for you. You are an amazing woman, mom, blogger and I want you to know you are loved.

  • Sharona Zee

    2012/12/28 at 7:11 pm

    Bring on the 2013! And cut yourself lots of slack…

  • Dana Marie Vittum

    2012/12/28 at 7:35 pm

    Your writing amazes me constantly. You make me laugh and cry and want to have kids. I hope that 2013 is better for all of us because it’s been a total crap year.

  • KatieG

    2012/12/28 at 8:52 pm

    I’ve been reading your blog since I was held hostage by my nursing newborn 3 and a half years ago. Thank you for the smiles, the tears and the laughter. I too hope for more smiles and laughter 2013.

  • Karen

    2012/12/28 at 10:07 pm

    Heather, I rarely make comments (unless it could win me an X-Box) but I have been reading your blog since before you moved back to Utah. You were the first renegade Mormon I read on the internet and believe me, I looked all over. I really hope you have a better 2013. Thank you for continuing to do to what you do despite the rest of the bad-tempered internet. And thank you for contributing to my blog roll so that my work day doesn’t begin until around 9:30 even though I show up an hour before that. It’s really the only way I manage to stay an accountant.

  • Jen

    2012/12/29 at 11:16 am

    That video is fantastic. I’m sorry this year and this Christmas were crap in a bucket for you, but I hope 2013 holds much more joy for you and those you hold dear. You deserve it. Happy (almost) New Year, Heather. xo

  • Alison

    2012/12/29 at 1:35 pm

    2013 will absolutely be better… and if it makes you feel better, I said “yogrit” until I was about 5, haha. Happy New Year!

  • =^..^=

    2012/12/29 at 2:11 pm

    But I’ve LOVED your wildlife encounters! Please have more in 2013.
    At least as long as there’s no barf involved, okay? …

  • Kristin

    2012/12/29 at 8:24 pm

    My 3 year old says “yo-grit” – sounds about the same. Happy 2013.

  • KatieMama

    2012/12/29 at 9:22 pm

    Yogrits? That’s what I heard and it’s awesome. Happy 2013.

  • Carol

    2012/12/30 at 12:31 pm

    I hope Jon is ok

  • Jo Ann

    2012/12/30 at 7:48 pm

    I’m sorry you have been so haunted this year. I could feel the pain in the songs that fed you and sustained you through this haunting. I’m so sorry. Twenty-thirteen will be less hollow, I can feel it.

  • Big Red

    2012/12/30 at 9:41 pm

    SHUT UP!! I just ate that yo ert for my lunch!!
    And in other news, that last pic of L and M is just beautiful..
    Here’s to a cracker of a 2013

  • ilj2397

    2012/12/31 at 11:07 am

    I, too, am a long time reader but have never actually posted a comment. But I have to echo what Dana Marie said-you make me cry at least once a week, and the posts you write about your girls make me seriously rethink my decision not to have children.

    I have battled serious mental illness issues my entire life, and, like you, have been institutionalized. I have had countless moments in which I just wanted to stop fighting that battle, unfortunately, but reading your blog gives me so much hope. And the hope is not just a result of of those moments you write about in which life just all seems to come together perfectly. Rather, it’s probably more attributable to your honest accounts of being in that dark place, and your chronicle of how you come back out of it.

    When you decide the fight to come back is actually worth it-that’s when you impact my life the most.

    I am about 10 years younger than you, and am prone to feeling really stuck and lost. When I get to that place, I read random posts about your experiences as a mother, and it gives me hope. Thank you for being you, and for your honesty. Thank you for showing me that, with a little luck and alot of hard work, I can actually live life.

  • Aimee Giese

    2012/12/31 at 2:04 pm

    Thinking of you! My last 2 years have been about the worst in a long long time… hoping our 2013’s are much better!

Heather B. Armstrong

Hi. I’m Heather B. Armstrong, and this used to be called mommy blogging. But then they started calling it Influencer Marketing: hashtag ad, hashtag sponsored, hashtag you know you want me to slap your product on my kid and exploit her for millions and millions of dollars. That’s how this shit works. Now? Well… sit back, buckle up, and enjoy the ride.

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