• Nancy

    I think your ‘bump’ is adorable… but I’ve got to tell you that if my tummy looked like that, I’d consider it a flat stomach! Still… it IS a bump, and I think that’s wonderful. As for the Prozac, do what you and your doctor think is right, and to hell with everyone else. And thanks for sharing your pregnancy with us. I wanted kids, but couldn’t have them, so I’m enjoying this in a vicarious sort of way!

  • Arminda

    Heather, You are really an awesome inspiration. I’m so glad you are out here standing up for yourself and other women who may need to hear just the things you so humorously say. I LOVE your site. It helps me to know that the crazy is not for me to keep to myself, but to bestow on others. Congratulations and I hope the barf goes away soon.

  • http://thelass.wordpress.com Laura

    …another example of why 12-year-olds shouldn’t have unsupervised access to computers.

  • Meg

    When reading this entry through the GoogleReader on my iPhone, I thought the sonogram picture said “Species : Intermountain or goat” instead of “Siemens” and “Intermountain OB GYN Spec.”

    Just because bad eyesight is HILARIOUS upon occasion.

    And, you know it, but it bears repeating everyone : you’re awesome.

  • http://www.clintonvillebigmomma.blogspot.com/ Big Momma

    F the haters. You go girl!

  • tb

    i remained on prozac for both my pregnancies. as a result, i have two healthy, cute, smart, well-dressed sons. and i didn’t lose my mind.

  • Beth

    I am so freakin’ happy for you and think you look wonderful! Best wishes for a happy and healthy 9 months.

    I kinda like the name Jemaine Armstrong.

    Are you going to find out the baby’s sex?

  • Kelly

    I’m about 3-4 weeks behind you and I’m going to go down the same road clutching my bottle of Celexa. I don’t know why people have such a steryotype about depression. If you had diabetes, would they tell you back off your insulin? For those of you who dont’ understand…take the worst day of your intire life, add physical pain, lack of sleep and the worst anxiety you’ve ever felt, and imagine it getting worse every day until you just want to gas yourself in the garage with your minivan. Then imagine the best day, calm, happy, clear headed – that’s a day with medication. I don’t know why I got depression. But, I can have a normal life with medication, including adding to our family. With any other medical treatment, you have to outweight the risks with the benefits. Unless you’ve been there, you can’t judge.

  • Amy

    I took 40 mg of prozac daily while I was pregnant w/ child #2 – every single day.

    She is currently a 7 year old drama-queen-first-grader recently put in the program for the extra smart first-graders. she was born at 9 lbs, with 10 fingers, 10 toes, healthy, happy and beautiful.

    best of all – she had a mentally stable mother who very much enjoyed the first few weeks of her babyhood… i was “new mommy” tired and exhausted – even a little emotional – but not hopeless, not dangerous.

    the prozac is safe – staying on meds showed me how much i missed with baby #1 due to the awful fog of severe ppd. Take care of you – baby will be a-ok.

  • Allison

    You help so many people with what you say. Thank you for that.

    And I am going to being working skritchy into my conversations.

  • http://chickanuts.blogspot.com/ Kris

    Second, and subsequent babies almost always show earlier than first babies, because the insides have already been stretched out once. Me? I show almost from conception (which will NOT be happening again, my friend. Oh no. Not me! I make a LOUSY preggo).

  • Karen

    Kudos to you for putting this out there. Only a healthy mom can make a healthy baby. Meds aren’t all bad during pregnancy and sometimes the benefit far outweighs the risk.

    Thanks for sharing, and I hope your puking ends soon!

  • http://www.gumdropsdaily.blogspot.com emily l


    I’ve never commented on this blog, but I can’t tell you how much reading about this pregnancy and Leta’s means to me. I’m just starting to think about the possibility of kids, but as somebody who’s severely bipolar, I’m also scared of what that means for my medicine. Thank you for making me feel that it can be possible.

  • http://www.yummymummyclub.ca/the_inside_scoop Sharon

    All I can say is been there done that. PPD with son number one 7 years ago. All hopped up and ready to go with son number two, 4 years ago. Jumped into the crocodile pond with what I thought was a suit of armour only to discover it was made out of a hardened mixture of sugar and water and probably a wee bit of mammal blood to make the crocs swoon at my presence. Until you’ve been through it, you just don’t know how awful it can be. I wish you all the best with your pregnancy – prozac and all! I’m now a year off my anti-depressant and doing well.

  • http://travelingtravelers.blogspot.com/ Suz C

    Hey, if a “guy” can have a baby these days, then I think Prozac during pregnancy is the least of our worries. Cheers & congrats – you’re a very brave woman, Dooce!

    “3 Troopin’ Travelers”

  • Megan

    Congratulations, Heather!
    And for all the people who say that you shouldn’t have more children, as a high-school teacher I can say for sure that we need more kids with loving, aware parents like you and Jon.

  • jiyin

    That’s one cute little goldfish in that sonogram. Best of luck, Heather. I am sure you’ll be just fine.

  • Tammy

    I have been reading your blog for a couple of years now. I have never commented but when I read this I wanted to jump up and scream “hell yeah”. It is your decision to stay on your meds and you have made an informed decision to do so. The dickheads can all just go jump off a bridge. Congrats and the pregnancy.

  • Gretchen Kennedy

    Awww, I think you’re great, and I’m sure this baby will be just as great as Leta is! So here is what’s creepy, right? I had this dream that I was all, “OMG I CAN’T HAVE A BABY,” and then my husband was all, “OMG I MUST HAVE A BABY,” and then he met you and you were all, “Yeah, I’ll totally have your baby,” and then I woke up? And you were pregnant? TOO MUCH DOOCE.

    I love your honesty, I love your writing, you crack my shit up, you are totally awesome. Rock on with your bad self, momma!

  • http://csquaredplus3.typepad.com Chris

    You look great! I’ll validate your bump for you. I see it. Glad you’re taking care of yourself… so important.

  • http://fabulozo.blogspot.com Bev

    Congratulations Heather! I know that you’ll be a great mother to your new baby as you are with Leta.

  • Dawn

    Wow, I know the website supports your family, at least in part, but the trade off of having people make such crappy comments and judgments about your decisions must really suck. You obviously know that the decision about medication (or whatever) is something for you and your doctor to make, but I hope you know that there are loads of people who completely support that. Best wishes for a healthy pregnancy and for a better postpartum experience than you had with Leta.

  • http://joybristol.com Joy

    You look so happy, and that’s the tiniest, cutest bump.

  • Kristin

    Congrats! I am due the last week in June with my first. (I’m 12 weeks this week). So exciting. Twins run in my fam and my hubby’s. Our second appt is Fri — I guess we will find out then if it’s one or two … or three or four … ahhh!!!!! :)

  • http://www.hardtobehuman.blogspot.com Amy

    WTF is wrong with you?! I’m sure you’re the fucking Gerber baby, eh?

  • Sabrina

    Congrats and well said. I found you guys right after I had our January 2004 baby boy and we’re due in April with another boy…looking forward to your realism and humor throughout this one too. Keep up the phenominal work and enjoy your food…I feel the same and PS odds are in your favor that the crapness will go away and the food will STILL taste like you’re tripping.

  • http://forlorelai.blogspot.com/ Regina

    I just want to thank you for your strength and honesty. I would not have the courage to do what you do and I know that this post helped many women. It also possibly helped those who are so quick to judge, to start to chip away at their certainty that the way they do things is the ONLY RIGHT WAY. People make the best choices they can and you are going to have a very happy, healthy baby. I am sure of it.

    – Regina

  • christine

    i had pre-, peri-, and post-partum depression.
    i had gone off my celexa several months before pregnancy thinking i was doing the best thing for everyone involved.
    yeah… no.
    the only thing it benefited was the wallets of one psychologist, 2 psychiatrists and the hospital whose psych ward i admitted myself to. so six weeks into my pregnancy i was back on my meds. i love my meds. me and my meds are BFF.
    you heather, are doing the absolute right thing.
    but you know that.

  • Tucson Patty

    I’m proud of you for standing up for your body and health – mental and physical. Congratulations on your little bundle of joy.

  • Kirsten

    And what a cute bump it is. I am thrilled for you and your family!

  • Stacey


    First, congratulations!

    Second, wishing you all the best, and a safe and healthy pregnancy / baby # 2.

    Third, kudos to you for standing up and saying, *I* will make the decisions that I feel are best for me and my baby.

    No one can tell you differently. You kick ass.

    LOVE reading your website.

  • http://cognosco.blogsome.com Anonymous

    @ #188

    Wow. I really admire comments by people who can’t spell and lack the ability to incorporate punctuation. If you’re going to insult people, learn some basic grammar, fuckwad.

  • Anonymous


    I was in the same place as you not too long ago. Had major post partum after my second child, and found myself pregnant with a third, and was so scared. I made the opposite decision, thinking it would be better for my unborn baby if I wasn’t on the meds. And I was very wrong…who knows, maybe if I’d stayed on my meds I wouldn’t have lost my shit at around 12 weeks and spiralled so low to where my docs decided it was medically necessary for me to terminate my pregnancy…so for any other women out there…stay on your meds.

  • http://www.twintalesfromthetrenches.blogspot.com Kelsi

    Yeah I wanted to be all organic and natural birth-y but then I couldn’t get pregnant without drugs. And then those drugs resulted in twins (and yes, the first year was an absolute friggin’ nightmare) and those twins didn’t want to gestate for 9 (really 10) months, no sirreee, they wanted to come early so I needed to be on bedrest in the hospital with an IV pump of magnesium sulfate which is so toxic that they had to test my blood every 9 hours to make sure I wasn’t turning green from the inside out. And they pumped me with steroids to mature lungs and epogen to increase my red blood cell production and three different kinds of antibiotics to fight infection.
    All that still brought me preemie babies who required all kinds of intervention to save their lives.
    Thank God for chemistry.
    So, that’s my long winded way of saying you do what you gotta do. The chemistry that you take is just as important to your life and the well-being of your family.

  • Meegan

    Your bump is lame, but I still love you. I looked like that BEFORE I had even one baby. And now I have two and I WISH my bump looked like yours.

    I took Lexapro through both pregnancies. I also had to begin Risperdol at the end of the second because I started losing my shit. I found the second pregnancy MUCH harder, emotionally, than the first. I also suffered from PPD and I also regularly take a cocktail of meds to prevent me from throwing a full liter sized bottle of water at my husband’s head. True story. For you it was milk, for me it was water. Go figure. Anyway, I have two healthy babies and so will you.

    Last but not least, I’ve recently replaced the Neurontin for Lamictal and I only have to take one pill, once a day. Not sure what your protocol is/was for the Neurontin but you might want to ask your doc about Lamictal. I heart it.

  • Tanya

    Even if there was any danger from the Prozac (and I’ve never heard that there is), I think you’d be putting the baby more at risk by getting off of it. The withdrawal is supposed to be a real, deep blue ass-kicker, and if you became a danger to yourself, how would the baby be safe?

    I hope that isn’t too blunt. What I’m trying to say is that I think you’re doing the right thing. You’re an awesome mom, and proving it again by doing the research.

    Don’t let the bastards get you down.

  • http://www.hang-on-little-tomato.blogspot.com Catherine

    YOU GO!
    I love your attitude about your rights to be happy with your own decision.

    I’m 27 weeks pregnant and haven’t not enjoyed all the opinions that come at me from people I didn’t ask.

    I’m getting better at saying, um….You think you are saying that because you respect me and women in general but you are coming off like a fanatical christian with so much dogma that has NOTHING to do with me or my opinions or decisions.

    Love that belly bump!

  • Sara

    Amen chick! A few years ago there was a family on GMA that the mother was diagnosed with breast cancer shortly after a positive pregnancy test. She kept the baby and went through chemo, and the baby was born perfectly healthy. Pretty sure the Prozac isn’t going to a damn thing except keep you healthy, and that in turn will make for a happy baby and mom :)

    And dude, I almost bought that shirt at Old Navy last weekend. I opted for the multi-colored one though. They’re very forgiving in regards to bumpage.

    You look lovely Heather, really. Where’s the acne you were talking about? You liar!

  • http://www.mattisimo.net Mattisimo

    Congrats on your progress! And don’t let anyone tell you how you should deal with your own pregnancy!

  • kmira

    I spoke with a Pediatric Psychiatrist before conceiving and she said the most researched drug for anxiety/depression was Prozac and it was highly recommended during pregnancy over anything else. I came off of my meds when I became pregnant, and I felt fine…until I was 8 months along and was CONVINCED that the mailroom guy at our office was going to kill me. I spoke to my nurse who told me to go upstairs (psych dept) immediately. We decided on a low dose of medication. She said my stress would be more harmful to the baby than the med. It helped me so much, but I couldn’t breastfeed. That stung a little, but I wanted to be a healthy, stable Mom. And that’s what I am today, after 5 years, 3 of which as a Single Mom. We have a great relationship, which is so much more than my non-medicated Mom could give me at that age.

  • http://tellstoriestold.blogspot.com M

    “I’m perfectly capable of making decisions for me and my baby”

    Fuck yeah! You are an inspiration to me. Keep it up!

  • http://www.phatchik.blogspot.com Phatchik

    I’ve always heard that you start showing MUCH sooner with your second (and so on) pregnancy. I guess your uterus just snaps back into pregnancy-place!

  • Megan

    I have studied this a lot in pharmacy school..Prozac is pregnancy category C just meaning the benefits of taking the drug have to outweigh the risks of not taking the drug during the pregnancy. With what happened previously, I completely understand why you’d choose to stay on it. Don’t let shit-for-brains dickwads put you down!!

  • http://www.iambossy.com/ BOSSY

    Bossy has a similar bump, but it’s a Food Baby. Preferably one conceived with a piece of Strawberry rhubarb pie.

  • Anonymous

    I am that person! you are writing this for me. thank you.

  • http://www.lifeisgoodatthebeach.ca/ BeachMama

    I haven’t stopped by in a bit, but I am so happy to hear that you are having another baby! Congratultions to you, Jon and Leta!

  • http://winecat.typepad.com winecat

    You look blissfully happy. And who better to make decisions for you and your Doocette than you and your doctor. You go girl.

  • http://www.flickr.com/photos/nmudd/ Nicole Miraty

    I had to go on Prozac after the birth of my second child. It was a God-send and was the best thing that I have ever done. When I got pregnant again I took it through my entire pregnancy with not a single problem or lasting effect. If I had quit taking it I’m sure that I would have had problems. It’s hard to take proper care of yourself when you are in the grips of depression, even when you want to. Taking Prozac should be low on your list of worries, below the sucky morning sickness. Stay strong, you’ll make it.
    Nicole “Miraty”

  • H

    Last night my husband asked me if I wanted a baby, I thought of your blog and how I love reading about Leta and the funny things she does and says, although I’m sure at the time it’s a nightmare and I think yeah as long as it’s like Leta!


  • http://www.countrymousetales.com bekah

    so…I rarely comment, but I wanted to say…I am that person. I have been really questioning whether I would ever be able to have children, simply for the fact that I am afraid of the me sans medication. Can I cope without it? Probably. Do I want to chance feeling that despair again? Not really. Anyway…you have a lot of comments here, so you might not even read this, but if you do, just…