• http://www.maestrousa.com/ Maestro

    Love your belt in the second photo!

  • http://asthepumpturns.com Kim

    Mama Heather,

    Honey you do whatever you need to do to keep you healthy and happy…the baby will be fine and happy and healthy.

  • Shawn

    Hey Heather,

    If the dickweeds want to micro manage someone’s pregnancy, then they can just go get pregnant and micromanage themselves. Now *that’s* a scary thought, sometimes those ‘lil dickweeds grow up and become president, no not our cool new president, our old lamest duck ever president. I wonder what would happen if you smoked dickweed while preggers? Maybe you’d actually see that baby bump.

    Seriously many happy returns to you, Jon, Leeta, Chuck and Satan,

    Shawn & Heather (no not you, *my* Heather)

  • LP in OK

    Yay for the bump! So, curiosity got the better of me and I had to do some investigating to see what people were criticizing you for. I have to say, I’m not what I consider to be the most blog-savvy person, but I read several highly trafficked blogs and I’d never heard of most of these Dooce-hater people. These catty, catty, juvenile people! I had to laugh at some of them for sounding like such idiots.

    So, all this to say, don’t even give them a second thought. I’m sure it’s easy to get somewhat caught up in the world o’ bloggers and the drama they try to bring upon you, but just remind yourself that the negative trash they spew really doesn’t matter, and they really ARE just dealing with their own issues. There’s a reason you get an incredible amount of hits, and that’s because you ROCK.
    Congrats, again!

  • http://twitter.com/Wattyz Watty

    omg. You ever sit in a daze and just out of nowhere go “Wait, WHAT???”

    Congrats on the pregnancy! I had to go back to see where the announcement was after seeing your post on twitter. I was all “What the??” Seriously! I’m here often and missed it! Sorry

    Hope the morning sickness goes away soon. And sorry to get off topic, but you look AMAZING on your momversation….I smiled at both your interview and talking about your 4 year old (first off didn’t expect the accent, secondly, I have a 4 year old girl too…they’re fun! Last week she told her brother to pick up his crap that’s next to the bed! LOL)

    So glad the 12 year old boy came before her, he never asked any questions really about how his sister got in there, both times I was pregnant.

    Have a great upcoming weekend :)

  • http://thecamille.blogspot.com/ Camille

    I’ve had food babies bigger than that.

    :o )

    So happy for you and your fam, Heather!

  • Amy

    So I was thrilled to be reading such positive comments, and then I saw the one that called Leta an ugly baby. I was (sort of surprisingly) shocked and enraged and even went rooting through the archives to confirm that her bright eyes and gorgeous smile were there from day one. CONFIRMED. Leta has been stunning from the beginning, and I think the sib is lucky to have such a spunky older sister! Much love from cyber-land, thanks for reminding me that sane people do live in Utah. I spent the first 18 years of my life there, and am still recovering… hahaha.. true, though.

  • http://www.concretewardrobe.co.uk James Donald

    Just come across your blog site through the Observer Magazine. I am based in Edinburgh Scotland and have a wee retail space called Concrete Wardrobe, I think you would like it! I am drawing inspiration from your blogging and trying to get into the same mindset for our one … tricky but not impossible! (www.concretewardrobe.co.uk)

    Look forward to reading more about your ongoing pregnancy!

    Best Wishes

    James D @ concrete wardrobe.

  • Belle

    Thank you for writing this. <3

  • Rissa

    Thank you for using the word “skritchy”. That just made my goddamn day!

  • Vicky

    Thank you…We’re planning having children in a few years and I was terrified…when ever I have gone off my meds in the past I have tried to kill myself with in a month or two. I was terrified that I wouldn’t be able to enjoy my child or even be there…you gave me hope and I hope that you know that your words are helpful and encouraging to so many of us.

  • http://www.poppymom.com Robin

    I took Prozac when I was pregnant with my daughter (she’s a week younger than Leta). She turned out fine. My doc pointed out that, out of all the SSRIs, Prozac’s the one that has a generation of adults whose mothers took it while pregnant. The studies have been good.It’s a hell of a lot better than The Crazy!

    For panic and anxiety, I was given prescription-strength antihistamines. Much safer than Valium, Klonopin, and the other assorted drugs I crumble into my coffee every morning.

  • Chrissy

    I’ve been reading your blog for a few years and have been wanting to tell you for a long time THANK YOU. I wish I knew of your blog when I went through my post-partum ‘crazy’. To have such an accomplished & confident woman such as yourself stand up & admit without embarassment your need to be on medication is an affirmation to the countless women out there who suffer silently.
    Congratulations on your pregnancy & thank you for being so open about your life. Oh and about that bump…please! I have a bigger bump after having a bagel for breakfast.

  • lynn

    Full confession: one of the first things I was curious about after reading about the pregnancy was: will she be allowed to stay on medication? You’ve written so often about how it has helped you, and I’m so glad you can keep on it. What I’d love to see is a study showing that the babies of mothers taking antidepressants turn out to be really chill, laid-back kids!

  • Mama Anachronism

    You look great! I have the same size bump and I’m only 8 weeks. This makes me nervous as twins run in my husband and I’s family. I’m also on prozac with this pregnancy as I decided that I didn’t need it while I was pregnant with my daughter and it was the most horrific 40 weeks.

  • Anonymous

    I love your site- have you seen puppiesandworms? They write about being a newlywed and a mom….interesting too

  • http://elevendreams.wordpress.com Jill

    First off – big ‘ol virtual group hug to all the love in this room!

    Second, I have a legitimate question that I hope you can answer. Did you remain on the same dosage as before you conceived, or did you doctor recommend you lower it (if applicable)? I’m newly pregnant myself and have been taking lexapro for a few years. I was on the maximum dosage but decreased it to about half once I learned I was pregnant. Since then I have been such a huge bitch that I don’t even like to be around myself. I know there is a hormonal aspect to my moods, but the lexapro has to be a factor. I’ll have another convo with my shrink but I’m just curious as to the consensus. I hate feeling this way and miss the old apathetic version of myself.

    ReCaptcha: highly joyful. This is both right and wrong on so many levels!

  • http://deescribbler.typepad.com/my_weblog Dee

    Hmm… your bump is about how I look after a big meal. I looked like than last Thursday, as a matter of fact.

    I applaud you for telling the world you are continuing your meds and it’s nobody’s business. Your body, your decision.

    My daughter suffers from nausea a lot in the car. She likes to sit next to a partly opened window with her cheek up against the cool glass. That’s all I can offer, sorry…

    What are you going to call the baby, pre-birth? Everyone does nicknames now. I like Eggbert, or Alien….

    Good luck!

  • Laura

    Thank you for caring enough about your unborn child, Leta, your husband and yourself to continue your meds. Screw people who say you are only thinking of yourself. You are giving everyone the gift of a healthy, strong mother who can be an active part of the growing family.
    And kudos for standing up for yourself!
    I am so jealous of your baby bump!

  • http://naturlinesex.eu/fun-factory-m-10.html naturline

    Thanks for the feed…..I love your blog and you too..lol!!

  • elizabethk

    Blessings! I remained on an anti-d during the pregnancy of one of my children – saved my life, and he is JUST perfect. I really think if anything – epidurals/pitocin need to be looked at much more so than sanity providing meds.

  • http://www.prettylush.typepad.com Pretty Lush

    I kept on my anti-depressants as well, during my pregnancy. Worst side effect? Craving ice cream by the metric ton.

    Best of luck to you and your lovely bump.

  • no one

    Frequent lurker, infrequent commenter. I just wanted to say that I personally and professionally am REALLY HAPPY that you have a prescriber who realizes that SSRIs are basically safe during pregnancy and that the benefits outweigh the risks for many parents.

    I have a close friend who has severe depression, functions super-well when on an SSRI, and has had episodes of depression with psychotic features about once a year when not on her SSRI. When she was pregnant with her first child, she couldn’t find anyone who would continue prescribing it. She experienced severe post-partum depression after this child. She went back on meds shortly after this and recovered quite well. With the second kid, same thing happened. Only this time, she couldn’t find anyone in her area who was willing to prescribe the meds AFTER THE KID WAS BORN. The doctors where she lives insisted she was going to destroy her child by not breastfeeding. You know, because being psychotic doesn’t affect your small child at all. So anyway, she finally had the means to get back to the U.S. when her second child was about 9 months old. She got back on her meds, and for almost a year after that, she presented as having persistent mental illness. Like, she was really flat, didn’t get people’s jokes, asked people the same questions over and over. She tried all different meds to see if she had perhaps developed another disorder in addition to depression, but it didn’t seem to be anything else; it just took her that long to get back to herself. Uh, yeah, much more harmful to both of her children and her partner than just taking the SSRIs would have been.

    Best of luck with everything (and now I have to go all fangirl on you and tell you I love your website and you’re the coolest!)

  • Kim from NY

    That was so refreshing. You just put me in a “I am woman hear me roar” type of mood. That is why I love you! Thank you:)

  • http://www.frumpyandgrumpy.com Lynn

    Your tummy still looks better than mine…and I’m not even pregnant! :D Hang in there, and don’t listen to anyone trying to play doctor.

  • http://mommydawgsfamouschili.blogspot.com/ Mommydawg

    You keep doing your thing the best way you know how, woman! You look beautiful, you’re a smart person, and you’ve got a lot of support out here on the interweb and in your own house from your wonderful husband. You’ve learned to not listen to the nay-sayers. We are PSYCHED for to meet this baby! Best of luck! xooxo

  • http://www.sarahphrase.com SarahD

    Clearly, I am behind on the curve and my blog reading. But today I stumbled across someone who mentioned Tertia was pregnant again, and I told my screen excitedly, “Shut up!!” and then I read on Tertia’s site that you were pregnant again, and I squealed, “SHUT UP!!!!!”

    And then I clicked on your site and found that my work had finally unblocked it, and realized I could visit you and your bump and Chuck with abandon again.

    Best day ever.


  • Anonymous

    You know, if not for antidepressants, I’m not sure I would have made it through this year. This is my first major depressive episode, but I tell you something: if it’s better for me to stay on the Lex whenever I’m pregnant, I will. I want to be there for my baby, in a sane, healthy, strong-enough-for-first-child sort of way.

    What I mean to say is, thank you.

  • http://www.nikkishannon.com Nikki

    Bravo. Kudos. Congrats.

    Way not to let the turkeys get you down. I admire your wonderfully healthy attitude about what is right for you… and your family.

    I’m very excited about your journey, and selfishly excited for all the good blog fodder a new baby will provide. Thanks for that!

    Oh, and did I say congrats?!? : )

  • jax

    FYI, all my doctors (obgyn, fertility specialist, rheumatologist, primary care, neurologist and therapist) have assured me that there is little risk involved with taking Prozac while being pregnant. If it assure YOUR mental health and reduces your stress, then by all means continue to take it. Congrats and blessings and hope for an easy pregnancy heather!~

  • Ana

    Congratulations Heather! Thank you for your honesty, it helps to know there are others out there!

  • http://www.karenelisam.blogspot.com elisa

    Um, I just want to say that I look at your blog from time to time, you seem relatively normal, you seem like a great mom to your sweet kiddo, and I’m sure you’ll be a great mom to baby #2 as well. I had postpartum depression with my first (untreated, because I did not realized that being overwhelmed by the thought of going outside to feed the cat was NOT normal), and am expecting my own #2. I know what you mean about knowing what to expect and feeling more prepared. Best wishes. Hope the nausea ends soon. :)

  • http://peace-inthe-storm.blogspot.com Elda

    It’s weird that you posted your first “bump watch” picture today — when I was going through your archives and seeing Leta’s “bump watch” pictures.

    Your belly is perfectly adorable. I had the slightest hint of a bump for the first six months of pregnancy and then out of nowhere, BAM baby moved in.

    I’m glad that you are standing up for yourself and for the many mothers out there that are going through the same or similar situation. It’ll be fun to watch your pregnancy progress.

  • http://www.webcomicsnation.com/jessica Jessica McLeod

    When I first discovered your blog and read through the archives, it inspired me to go see a psychiatrist and get my antidepressant changed to something that would be safe during pregnancy. (I feel even better now). Thank you!

  • Sherri

    After 6 months of pregnancy and non-stop crying and unbelievable stress, my doc put me on prozac. I have a history of depression and felt that if I had to deal with ONE MORE THING I would waddle my pregnant self in front of a fast-moving bus. What’s worse? Death or Prozac? And yeah, I felt all that guilt and thought people would reprimand me for taking medication while I was preggers. I cried when I took my first pill, unsure of what it would do to my little unborn baby. It kept her, and me, alive. That’s what it did. So you know what? FUCK EVERYONE ELSE.

    I commend you on doing what’s right for you and your baby. And thank you for having the guts to talk about it publicly.

  • Anonymous

    I love you Dooce… I am planning on getting pregnant soon and I have been taking zoloft for years. The doctors tell me that I must make my own decision and I am scared!! I am not asking for your opinion… I am just empathizing??? I think that I will stay on the meds, bc I know what I am like off meds. And I know that the health… physical and MENTAL… of the mother is so important. So, good on ya… take care of yourself… the mama. I cant wait to be the mama.

  • Paula Schmitt

    Congrats Dooce! Love that baby bump ;)

  • http://lemondropstudio.etsy.com Shauna

    Heather – first, congratulations!! I am so happy for you and your family!

    second, thank you so much for the cute bump watch picture!! I wish I didn’t have a 30-week bump, as I am not even pregnant!! And THANK YOU so much for your candidness and information on medications and pregnancy. My sister-in-law were JUST wondering this, it’s nice to have someone to relate to.

    HUGS from Oregon!

    lemon drop studio

  • sue.g

    I commend you for making an informed decision and saying, “Screw you” to all the nay-sayers that think they know your situation better. The people that are truly fit to be parents are bor-ring!

    Your imagined bump is lovely. My thoughts and prayers for a happy pregnancy and healthy baby are with you.

  • Wix

    You’re beautiful and you’re building a beautiful family. Thank you for sharing at least a little bit of your lives with us, otherwise we’d think it was easy! Its not easy – it can be really hard, but despite it all still so totally worth it.

    Shine on, Dooce.

  • http://www.motherliberpublican.blogspot.com Mother Liberpublican

    Criminy, I can’t believe how many comments you get about a nonexistent bump! I can’t even get the turds in my family to read my blog about foster-adopting my daughter who is REAL. I must suck as a writer. Anwho, I took Prozac during my first pregnancy and the baby had a ginormous head. So keep on keepin’ on, sistah. I love your ‘tude, dude.

  • http://www.monkeythoughts.com Monkey

    I’m slow to the party, but just wanted to say congrats!!

  • Anonymous

    Every time I leave a comment here (which isn’t that often, admittedly), someone comes and leaves a mean, hurtful comment on my autistic son’s blog. So I am DONE commenting but I just want to say good luck with your pregnancy. AND you have some strange, mean readers! But you already knew that I guess.

  • Jill

    My first child is crazy – she is Leta’s age. I was not on prozac during that pregnancy and she is crazy hyper, crazy obsessive compulsive…. lots of “quirks”! My second I was on prozac (for post-partum from the first and then I continued on it and will be on it for life) and my second baby is a dream. She is relaxed, healthy and is everything they describe a baby should be like! You are correcting an imbalance in your own brain and body – that can only help the baby. There are no side effects with prozac- good luck!

  • Anonymous

    If you WERE having twins, you’d probably abort it just so that your life could be spared from “chaos”. Nice.

  • http://www.becomingsomething.com Natasha

    I have that shirt in navy and blue. I also have the exact same hardwood floor.

    I didn’t show until 5-6 months with my first baby either. I avoided stretch marks all the way until the LAST TWO WEEKS of my FOURTH and LAST pregnancy. Still huffy about that.

    And I wouldn’t call that “showing”. ;-)

  • http://willikat.blogspot.com willikat

    You rock.I am not facing any of these issues, but I feel like you’re even supporting ME. That’s how good you are. You’re totally the friend that makes people feel better on a bad day.

  • http://zuungols.myminicity.com cinnarose

    Love you, and I look forward to your pregnancy chronicles. I like vicariously through them (and others) on the internet rather than have my own. As far as the Prozac goes, if two doctors agree and you agree, everyone else should just shut up. But thank you for sharing, I agree that you may help someone else in the same situation not feel bad about doing what’s best for them. Stupid internet people need to go away. That’s all, and I hope things continue to go well for you and your family.

  • http://chocolateandwhine.blogspot.com Stephanie

    I like the bump. I have one, too. But, sadly… no baby.

  • Mom/human/nurse

    Go Heather, you are inspirational.
    BTW ladies, if you are concerned about PPD, there are some commonsense ways to keep it away or milder. Get a good birth plan and hire the least invasive OB you can, as many “modern” interventions such as Pit to randomly hurry labor and C-Sections for the same reason can cause stress that is contributory. So take charge, empowerment lowers depression. Also, take a tip from our sisters who lived in caves. No, silly, do not dig a hole and squat in it. Instead, line up some good female companionship for the first two weeks to help you by watching the baby when it naps in the daytime so you can go without the monitor and nap yourself, fix you fruit and other treats so you can nurse and relax, and run the washing machine and the vacuum. Husbands are great but it is easier to relax if you have girlz to do these, not yer mom, but true friends. Help each other out and you will all feel better, and the lowered stress will help the meds work if you need them.