Lover, business partner, best friend
About a month or two ago I signed up for Facebook to reconnect with a group of friends I had in college at BYU and since then have noticed several memes making the rounds among my contacts. I'm not usually a fan of memes and couldn't tell you exactly why, I think it goes back to being forced to participate in group activities when I was growing up in the Mormon Church and how the trauma of having to act like I was having a good time is such that when someone even mentions Pictionary my brain starts to liquify and drizzle out my nose. The quickest way to get me to sneak out of your party is to suggest we play charades, unless the rules are that you have to take a shot of tequila every time someone yells out, "SOUNDS LIKE?" Then I'll be sleeping on your couch and stealing your Ibuprofen.
I recently saw one going around where you're supposed to answer several trivial questions about your marriage, and I realized that as much as this website reveals about me, it says a lot less about the man who runs the business end of things. So I thought I'd bring this meme here to give you a peek at the person I spend my entire day with. Every day. All day every day. DAY IN AND DAY OUT. ECHO... ECHO... ECHO...
What are your middle names?
My middle name is Brooke. Jon's middle name is Hepworth. Can you guess which one of us is a great-great-grandchild of polygamists?
How long have you been together?
We've been married six and a half years, together seven and a half.
How long did you know each other before you started dating?
I met him in June of 1997 at an outdoor music festival in Salt Lake City, but we didn't start dating until June of 2001 in Los Angeles. So, four years.
Who asked whom out?
Hmmm... I guess that would have been me, except I didn't ask him out, I asked him to move in with me. I do not like to dilly dally.
How old are each of you?
I'm 33, he's OLD 43. This ten-year age difference is an endless source of amusement for me, and I like to remind him that when he was a senior in high school, I was in third grade learning long division.
Whose siblings do you see the most?
Jon is the fifth of six kids, I'm the youngest of three. All but one of the siblings live in Utah, so we see both sets quite often.
Which situation is the hardest on you as a couple?
I think the thing that causes the most stress in our lives, and consequently the most stress in our marriage, is the same as it is for a lot of couples: work. This job is the same as any other in that there are weeks, sometimes months when the toll of it far outweighs the joy of it, and dealing with that toll can upset the balance of the rest of our lives. I'm not as good a communicator as he is, and he's probably had to spend way too much time than is fair trying to pull things out of me. I'm working on that. I'm always working on that.
Did you go to the same school?
We both graduated from BYU. He got a degree in Humanities in 1992, I got a degree in English in 1997.
Are you from the same home town?
No. Jon grew up in a small northern Utah town called Brigham City, whereas I grew up in Memphis, Tennessee. Sadly, our daughter just looks at me blankly when I talk about chicken wangs.
Who is smarter?
Jon is far smarter than I am and can retain information like a computer hard drive. He remembers everything he reads. I have to work a lot harder to process information, but I'm far more driven and persistent than he is. I have to work twice as hard to be half as quick.
Who is the most sensitive?
Ahem. Next question.
Where do you eat out most as a couple?
There's a great sushi restaurant in downtown Salt Lake City called Takashi run by a chef who is half-Japanese, half-Peruvian. Whenever we plan a date this place is always at the top of our list.
Where is the furthest you two have traveled together as a couple?
Amsterdam.
Who has the craziest exes?
I wouldn't call my exes crazy as much as I would describe them as diverse. It's just, there are so many of them. And I can't really talk about Jon's exes as some of them are probably reading this right now. I will say this: none of Jon's exes ever asked him to stick a kitchen utensil up her butt. He wins.
Who has the worst temper?
Have I ever told you about the time we went as a family to Chipotle after swimming lessons? How Leta was holding her overtired shit together right up until she spilled her entire bowl of black beans down the front of her dress? And she was so inconsolable that we had to pack everything up immediately, and as I was shoving everything into a take-out bag she threw her body face-first on the floor in front of about thirty people. So Jon has to pick her body up off the floor, and she is screaming, SCRAAHEEEEMING, all the way to the car, the entire time we buckle her in, and ten minutes later when she FINALLY calms down, when the chaos has FINALLY silenced and we can all breathe again, Jon whips his head around from the front seat, looks her tear-stained face in the eyes and yells, "WE ARE NEVER GOING TO CHIPOTLE EVER AGAIN."
BECAUSE SHE HAD NOT CRIED ENOUGH.
Who does the cooking?
Definitely Jon. I have four recipes that I can make, and I don't ever vary from that menu. Jon loves trying new things and rarely ever goes wrong when introducing something new he found in a cookbook. However, I often have to remind him to add more salt.
Who is the neat-freak?
Let's just put it this way: I am a much nicer person when he puts away his socks.
Who is more stubborn?
I am Southern stubborn, he is Mormon Pioneer stubborn. And together we gave birth to a monster.
Who hogs the bed?
Okay, fine. Me, but it's not something I have any control over. My limbs take on a life of their own when I'm asleep, and at least once a night I will wake up to find him picking up my entire body and moving it back to my side of the bed.
Who wakes up earlier?
Jon. He's always up at about 6 AM reading feeds on his iPhone, steeling himself for the list of demands Leta will rifle off when she darts out of her bedroom.
Where was your first date?
The LACMA on Wilshire Blvd. in Los Angeles.
Who is more jealous?
This information is protected by the therapist-client privilege.
How long did it take to get serious?
We were always serious. There was never a time in our romantic relationship when we did not think we would spend the rest of our lives together.
Who eats more?
Me, no question. I'm usually finishing off the meal on his plate. However, he is the type of person who will stop by the gas station after an hour-long workout to pick up a bag of cherry Twizzlers and a Snickers bar and will have finished both before pulling into the driveway.
Who does the laundry?
Someone cannot ever remember that he is not supposed to put my sports bras in the dryer, so someone is no longer allowed to do the laundry.
Who's better with the computer?
You should see the veins in Jon's head bulge against his skin when he looks over and sees that it's been three months since I ran a software update.
Who drives when you are together?
Jon, but not because he's a better driver. I lived in Los Angeles for over four years and did enough driving for a lifetime, so I'd be happy if I never had to drive again. However, he's recently started to drive more slowly, a development we may have to work through in therapy. That session would go like this: I wouldn't have to nag so much if he didn't drive like such a dumbass.
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1. e said:
Facebook is the bane of my existence!
Give me a day, and you will have some well thought (non mormon) answers to all these questions on my blog - The comment section here is not nearly long enough
2. Sarah said:
thanks for the lunchtime laugh! As annoying as these memes usually are, I've really enjoyed reading them on FB lately. Maybe its a quick way of catching up with people I haven't really seen in 10 or 15 years...
Oh, and I'm with you on the stubborn: I'm a child of cross between scandinavian pioneers and scots-irish presbytarians (with a good helping of former mormon polygamist thrown in) who's tied her life to a child of good german farmers (whole new kind of speechless stubborn) and french-mexicans. Can't wait to see how the kids turn out!
3. Claire Tien said:
HAHAHAHA! You and Jon are perfect for each other and are both blessed :) I'm not sure why but reading that post put a huge smile on my face. Thank you!
4. admin said:
DUDE. I'm trying to get better GAS MILEAGE. SUCK IT.
p.s. I have the admin login. Watch your ass, Hamilton.
5. The Dalai Mama said:
I often find my driving hanging out in the dumbass catagory. I lived in Santa Barbara for 9 years and spent much time in LA. I completely understand why you never want to drive again.
Thanks for the peek into your life with Jon. It is awesome when you manage to find your best friend and marry them. I know my hubby is my best friend. And we too also knew from the moment we really met that we would be together forever. We are getting ready to celebrate our 9 year anniversay and have been together for over 12 years.
Keep it up.
6. The Single Sister said:
I'm still giggling over my sisters response to the laundry question:
♥ Who does/ did the laundry?
Jason. Laundry has always been his department. I just have to forego my right to bitch; usually I comply with that. About a year after we got married, I caught him pulling my bra out of the drier. YOU DRIED THAT??? Whatever, he said, I've been doing it for a year and you haven't noticed. And so it began...
Me? I'm single. I live with a roommate. I wanted to fit in. So I did one about us http://www.facebook.com/note.php?note_id=63594135228
7. Emily said:
I love the recent comments on Jon's driving. My boyfriend does the same thing. I constantly tell him that if I wasn't in the car With him I would be angrilly speeding past him giving him the finger.
8. danielle michelle said:
I've never left a comment on your blog before, but I read it regularly! I wanted to say how refreshing it is to have someone out there who tells it how they see it! You rock and thanks for the smiles today!
9. Anonymous said:
Very funny and sweet. I'm curious to know what you think about the crap going on over at Facebook with terms of use...
10. Hannah! said:
Ditto on the cooking and the laundry for us. Exactly ditto. 4 recipes, fried sports bras (and when your bras cost that damn much, ain't NOBODY allowed to put them in the dryer).
I also (a) asked my husband out and (b) proposed to him. In the international foods aisle of our local upscale grocery. The conversation went like this:
Me: So, your brother (who lives in Burma and comes to the US once a year in July) is coming in July. Wanna get married so that we don't have to wait another year?
Him: Sure.
Most romantic thing EVAR.
11. coleen said:
you two sound just like my husband & i, except that i am jon & kelly is you!!!!
i love these blurbs about you two. makes my marriage seem so much more normal, as we routinely have weird converstations about what our future pets will be like.
interesting? or just plain strange?
thank you for the coffee break.
12. Sam Tamlyn said:
My husband and I are also 10 years apart (he's 36, I'm 26), and I wouldn't have it any other way. If I had to date and/or marry a guy in his twenties, I think I'd join a convent just to save myself the horror. :-)
13. Phoebe said:
You have no idea how much I wish we could be friends on Facebook. :(
14. Heather's Garden said:
It's clear the love you have for your husband reading your answers. How many stalkers do you anticipate on Facebook now?!
15. Sabrina said:
So...did you and Jon get married in the Mormon church, or was it like barefoot on a beach out in Cali?
16. Kerri said:
I am unashamedly obsessed with the random facts on Facebook. LOVE EM! I'm glad to see you put one up here.
My boyfriend and I have been together since we were 16 (7 years) but met when we were 12.
Laundry: He does it, and he does it well. Plus, I've instilled such a fear in him about drying particular items, that he starts shaking whenver I'm putting the clothes away (I'm a little amazed by the power I can hold). He still hasn't messed up!
17. Adrienne said:
"I wouldn't have to nag so much if he didn't drive like such a dumbass."
Seriously. I could not have said it better myself. I have to physically restrain myself from pushing on his leg. Just step on the goddam gas already!
18. Ann said:
Thanks for the laughs! I love reading these, but probably will never take the time to answer a list for myself...
PS. I don't believe the driving slow = better gas mileage thing.
19. Valerie said:
Dude the Chipotle story realllly hit home AND made me laugh my ass off. I don't know how many times that exact scenario has occurred with my kids and my husband did the EXACT same thing. Wait til the kid calmed and the POUNCED. Why??! Haha, thanks for the hilarious read!
20. Krystlyn said:
You two seem like a great pair! You said it was ok so here is my survey! I love these things!
What are your middle names? Mine is Starr, his is Edward.
How long have you been together? 9 years and 4 days
How long did you know each other before you started dating? 30 minutes, seriously, not joking!
Who asked whom out? I asked him as I chased him down in a parking lot.
How old are each of you? Both 28, but he says he's older even thought only by 9 months.
Whose siblings do you see the most? His, mine live 5 hours away and are in the terrible 6's and 9's, his is 45 minutes away and in the delightful 35's.
Which situation is the hardest on you as a couple? Work taking up a lot of time.
Did you go to the same school? Same Jr. College in Lake Tahoe.
Are you from the same home town? Nope. But we now live in his home town.
Who is smarter? Depends on the category.
Who is the most sensitive? Depends on the category.
Where do you eat out most as a couple? Taco bell
Where is the furthest you two have traveled together as a couple? Hawaii for our Honeymoon.
Who has the craziest exes? Exes? What exes? No one existed before each other!
Who has the worst temper? Him for sure!
Who does the cooking? He is much better at it! Mine would require a bigger food budget for everything I'd waste burning.
Who is the neat-freak? Me, although he pretends he is tidy, but it's a delusion.
Who is more stubborn? Me, and proud of it because it has been a talent mastered over time and practice.
Who hogs the bed? We equally hog and equally wake up with bruises from apparent mid-night fistyciffs for covers.
Who wakes up earlier? It varies on who stayed up later catching up on the days TV shows.
Where was your first date? Taco Bell and a movie
Who is more jealous? I'm jealous that he can walk into any situation and always be right. wink wink!
How long did it take to get serious? 2 weeks.
Who eats more? Me, I'm 50 lbs over weight and he literally has gained 1 pound in 9 years. With no work out. Asshole.
Who does the laundry? He's "afraid" to ruin my cloths which is code for he doesn't want to do it.
Who's better with the computer? Me, it's my job.
Who drives when you are together? Him, otherwise I have to hear about how I'm doing this wrong and that wrong, even thought I'm the one with no tickets or accidents attributed to me.
21. Skylar said:
Wow... Are you sure he is not a polygamist because I think I live with him?! Our therapy goes a lot like that... I wouldn't be such a bitch if he would stop doing things the wrong way.
Thanks for the insight into Jon, I am sure he appreciated it too.
22. Undomestic Diva said:
We may have married the same man. I can literally fry electronics (especially computers) just by looking at them and my husband is a software engineer.
I think anti-virus software is just a theory and my husband has to create highly secure "firewalls" to protect our "network" from the shit I was never supposed to download in the first place.
23. Dani said:
Thank you. My sisters in law look at me like a crazy person when I say I do all the laundry. Maybe their spouses understand that you have to seperate collors and change the settings on the washer and dryer to apply to the items your washing but mine finds these ideas foregin and confusing.
On the other hand he's the cook in our relationship. It's not that I can't it's just that he's so good at it.....and I'm realy realy lazy.
24. Tiana said:
Wow.....
I personally am addicted to Facebook and these types of notes.
I have over 300 notes that are all generally like this one. Only, I'm not married. I'm 15. But I do plan on filling this out when I marry in the next little while. And then I suppose I'll keep the divorce one on hand just in case I marry my father. Poor mother.
I love your answers, by the way. And I'm so surprised I logged on to find only 15 comments. This is a record for me. Usually there's about 500-1000 comments and I give up on replying. Today... nuh-uh. It's MY day.
25. Leesha said:
I fail as a woman. I didn't know that bras aren't supposed to go in the dryer. Guess that might explain why my bras don't last that long.
This was fun to read. You make memes bearable!
26. alex awesome said:
Oh man... here we go. Keep in mind, we aren't married, but it keeps coming up in conversation, more and more as a serious subject and less as a joke.
What are your middle names?
Norma and Eugene. If we went by our middle names, we'd be the awesomest old people couple evar. He'd be the feisty skinny dude with the cane and the pervy sense of humor. I'd be the sweet, demented, fragile looking old lady obsessed with LOLCats.
How long have you been together?
About twoooothree years? Oh man, I suck/fail at this.
How long did you know each other before you started dating?
A couple of months. We never actually dated until after we were together. So hrm. We have a relationship that screws with space and time!
Who asked whom out?
I can't remember. Our relationship was fueled by a mutual love of whiskey and battlestar galactica, so you can appreciate why details like that might be hazy. I say he made the first move when he gave me a joke valentine with a bible verse on the back.
How old are each of you?
23 and 22. Aww.
Whose siblings do you see the most?
We're both only children, so if I tell you that we see my siblings the most, you'll know that I'm nuts. I do have a step sister, but she's in another country, making the point fairly moot.
Which situation is the hardest on you as a couple?
Furniture. Oh, laugh it up, people with children. I swear to god, the only subject that puts us passionately at odds is furniture. He would be happiest living in a cave on some animal skins. I am, apparently, torturing him with soft sheets and indoor plumbing.
Did you go to the same school?
Yes. We met at Temple University. Same major, too! Fat lot of good that did us.
Are you from the same home town?
Sort of. But I lived a mess load of places, so it was only a matter of time before I lived fairly nearby.
Who is smarter?
That's a loaded question. He'd say that I'm smarter, but we'd probably agree that I'm only fractionally smarter. He's a lapsed mensa member, which I find hilarious. I find css soothing after a long day. So there you go.
Who is the most sensitive?
I have very sensitive and delicate skin. He man-cries at sad man-movies.
Where do you eat out most as a couple?
We try to eat out-out at a variety of places. We probably consistently go to the local pizza/diner place.
Where is the furthest you two have traveled together as a couple?
New York, NY.
Who has the craziest exes?
My exes are just morons. I don't think that constitutes crazy, though. So it's a draw.
Who has the worst temper?
I definitely do. But I'm funny-angry. In that I spew bile *about* things in a hilarious fashion. I rarely ever get pissed *at* people.
Who does the cooking?
Moi. I make him eat horrible, meatless things.
Who is the neat-freak?
We both have blind spots when it comes to cleaning. I have a tendency to let mail pile up (shredding is a pain in the ass), but he can't seem to see the ENTIRE BATHROOM for weeks at a time. When our powers combine, our apartment is beautiful.
Who is more stubborn?
I'm laid back, but he's in a coma.
Who hogs the bed?
He says I do, but it's COLD. And he likes to snuggle, so he asks for it.
Who wakes up earlier?
I do. By necessity. Evil, evil necessity.
Where was your first date?
My... dorm? Date, huh. Hrm. Probably the movies.
Who is more jealous?
I think we're tied. He growls at men who dare to look upon me, and I subtly let women know that I can eat their flesh and wear their skin without batting an eye.
How long did it take to get serious?
A few months. We liked each other and thought it could go the distance. Then we *really* liked each other. Then, good god, we got an apartment.
Who eats more?
He eats greater quantities. But I eat more frequently.
Who does the laundry?
He does! It's magical! But I do the dishes, because his hands don't fit in the drinking glasses and he can't get the sponge down there. It DOES matter.
Who's better with the computer?
He's better with the computer technically, in that he installs, upgrades, takes apart, repairs and generally futzes with stuff. I'm good with ... uh... alright, he wins that one.
Who drives when you are together?
He does. I can't stand driving in traffic. I much prefer country roads on sunny days.
I did this because I KNOW YOU CARE.
27. Kristin said:
Dude, I am OBSESSED with Facebook, and NOT ONE of my over 250 friends has done this meme yet. Sweet, I get to be the trend setter!
28. Milla said:
do us all a favor and never break up like the couples do after their appearance on the bachelor. that would just shatter my belief in true love.
29. allison said:
i'm so happy to see somebody else has developed the 'grandpa-driving'! i read this blog all the time and never comment but we just got home (he drove...)
we moved to england about a year ago and the whole driving on the left thing was giving me major anxiety ... like i had permanent white knuckles so he drove everywhere. but now i'm totally fine. except for the occasional whack of the passenger side mirror on a shrub or parked car i'm much better and driving regularly and even like a normal person again. and i've realized that he has been driving like my grandpa the entire time, doing 15 mph on our street because he thinks 25 is just too fast or, ahem, 'not necessary'. this now infuriates me. and we fight about it constantly...as in just now.
he also never puts the parking break on. so there :)
30. Cat said:
Do you NOT enjoy kitchen utensils in your butt? My world just shattered around me.
31. JessicaP said:
OMG yes about the sports bras not belonging in the dryer! I don't know how many times I've become enraged by this. Why do they do it? And you know, I purposely buy them in odd colors so they can't be missed, but it's never made a difference.
So yeah, I do the laundry, I'd prefer to do the driving (he weaves and drifts), and while he's not a bad cook I prefer to do that too because he uses every damn pot and pan in the kitchen and it is such a mess.
But I'm not controlling in the least!
32. Christy said:
Hilarious post Heather! I loved this post. My husband and I have been together for 18 yrs - we started dating when I was a Sophomore in High School (I'm now 33).I totally laughed when I read your response to the laundry question because he is no longer allowed to do laundry either after shrinking EVERYTHING. I still say he did that on purpose so as not to have to do laundry again. ....
My friends are all on Facebook and send me these memes from time to time. I find them amusing, but sometimes frustrating and maddening- especially the one that asks you to answer the following questions with only one word (yeah - like I could answer a question EVER using only one word!!) Have you seen this one?
Using only one word:
Where is your cell phone?
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> Your significant other?
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> Your hair?
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> Your mother?
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> Your father?
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> Your favorite things?
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> Your dream last night?
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> Your favorite drink?
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> Your dream/goal?
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> What room are you in?
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> Your hobby?
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> Your fear?
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> Where do you want to be in 6 years?
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> Where were you last night?
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> Something that you aren't?
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> Muffins?
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> Wish list item?
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> Last thing you did?
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> Your pets?
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> Friends?
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> Your life?
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> Your mood?
> Missing someone?
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> Drinking?
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> Smoking?
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> Your car?
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> Something you're not wearing?
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> Your favorite store?
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> Your favorite color?
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> When is the last time you cried?
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> Who will resend this?
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> Where do you go to over and over?
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> Five people who email me regularly?
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> My favorite place to eat?
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> Favorite place I'd like to be at right now?
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> Four people I think will respond:
33. Cakes by Tiffaney said:
We are never allowed to go to Chili's...my daughter, who is 3, may have threatened several peoples lives there. I think they even have a picture of her at the door under "Do not serve!"
~Tiffaney~
34. Patrick said:
Should have closed the comments! Nice to get to know you two more.
35. trish said:
Okay, so I WILL do this question thingy, only because I've resisted doing the 25 things about me meme because for some reason it irritates me (my husband will attest I get irritated very easily).
So give me, like, oh, an hour or two? Then stop by http://heylady.net.
But even more important than answering the questions, Heather, is I can't even tell you what a relief it was to find out that Jon is 43 and you're 33. I'm 30 and my husband's 41, and sometimes I just worry about our age difference and having kids and all that. We've only been married 8 months (still counting the months!), but I worry about him being too old to have kids, even though guys can sow their seeds after they're cold and in the ground.
Anyway, you and I connected, even if you didn't know it. :P
36. Kirsten said:
My husband is 14 years older than me and I love teasing him about it too. I love reminding him that when he turns 50, I will only be 36. Still younger than he was when I gave birth to our first child. The funny thing is that he may be older, but I'm way more mature.
I also have to give Brigham City a shout out. I used to love going to Maddox as a kid when we visited our relatives in Utah. That is such a good childhood memory for me.
37. Cautionary Girl said:
I never thought I'd see the day Dooce did a meme, but, true to form, this was highly enjoyable. Thanks for sharing.
I would share some, but since my marriage is currently in a highly volatile stage, so volatile that I've recently taken to blogging anonymously, I think I'll refrain.
38. Lisa said:
Loved the age question. Just yesterday, a guy on the local radio station was talking about how his girlfriend was 10 years younger than him. He said when he could buy alcohol legally, she was in fourth grade.
Wait until the girls start tormenting each other. Ah the screaming and the crying!
39. Lady K said:
First off I have no idea what a meme is.
I have one foot firmly planted in the Luddite world.....which gives you an idea to the answers to at least half of the questions here.
And I am a laundry dictator. Comes from years and years of working professionally in the wardrobe department on film sets.
40. Teri said:
What are your middle names? Mine is Lynn, his is Franklin.
How long have you been together? 23 years, 1 month and 18 1/2 days.
How long did you know each other before you started dating? 1 day.
Who asked whom out? I guess since it was a mutual kiss, we both wanted to see the other again.
How old are each of you? Both 40, but I am officially older by about 9 months.
Whose siblings do you see the most? His - no other comment.
Which situation is the hardest on you as a couple? Isn't it always WORK?
Did you go to the same school? No...good thing too since I nevered dated anyone from the same town.
Are you from the same home town? No...see above.
Who is smarter? I am.
Who is the most sensitive? I am.
Where do you eat out most as a couple? Sadly, McDonalds. We just don't go out to eat very often.
Where is the furthest you two have traveled together as a couple? Las Vegas for our 10th anniversary.
Who has the craziest exes? He does.
Who has the worst temper? 100% HIM
Who does the cooking? I do...but he is really better at it.
Who is the neat-freak? He acts like he is...but that is just a ploy to get me to clean more.
Who is more stubborn? He is...altough I do give him a run for his money.
Who hogs the bed? The dog!
Who wakes up earlier? I do...ugh.
Where was your first date? Geez, I don't remember that long ago.
Who is more jealous? Jealousy is a thing of the past!
How long did it take to get serious? 1 week.
Who eats more? He does...like non-stop.
Who does the laundry? Me, yet most of it is his.
Who's better with the computer? Me, handsdown!
Who drives when you are together? Me...I can't stand the way he drives!
41. LindserAnnie said:
I *almost* never do memes either but I was compelled to do this one last week (on Facebook). My answer to "Who drives when you are together" was "We don't have a car".
There are currently about 20 comments under my meme discussing whether or not this qualifies me & my boyfriend to be hippies (though I did not even mention the vegetarianism or vegan-ish ways that take place in our home).
Of course, we live in Portland, OR so if you ride a bike, rarely eat meat, swap real milk/yogurt for soy (but still eat real cheese!), then you are so totes a hippie. Apparently you don't have to make & wear your own folksy clothing/accessories or use drugs to achieve alternative states of consciousness in order to be a hippie. I object though -- cuz I just don't believe in hippies anymore.
So excited to see you at Powells in March! If you're lucky my boyfriend and I will wittle and paint you some hippie toys ;)
42. Anne said:
I admit this made me chuckle (getting a few curious looks from those around me). I think I will have to subject my boyfriend to this meme at whoahgirl just to see him roll his eyes to the back of his skull. :)
Thanks for sharing the amusement!
43. Daddy Scratches said:
Dear god, I can't get away from the "25 Things" thing. I've been avoiding it like the plague.
I guess if I turn it into a blog entry, that might make it worth the time. Hmmm ...
44. TamiA said:
The main question Heather, is: can we be your friends on Facebook? That would be super awesome. Agh, I'm probably considered "Internet uncool" after saying super awesome. Sigh. Nevermind.
45. Becky said:
Maybe I'll just plagiarize yours and confuse my readers. That way no one will know I'm seven years older than my husband.
46. Anonymous said:
Haha, i love the chipotle story
47. Jessica said:
Oh my goodness, I nearly died laughing. You and Jon are so Me and Edwin. Why do men suddenly start driving like grandma's?! If I had to drive behind him I'd be rude too. He doesn't get why people tail gate and swerve around him. Perhaps it has something to do with driving UNDER THE SPEED LIMIT???
Also, too funny that Jon came on to defend his driving.
http://thismommysjourney.blogspot.com/2009/02/edwin-and-me.html
48. Alison said:
This makes me laugh because I just did a Facebook/Gmail search for possible contacts for the hell of it, and you showed up in my list because I've emailed you.
My husband is 13 years older than I am, and we each do our own laundry because we have different things that DO NOT GO IN THE DRYER. And that's all I'm doing of that meme.
(My CAPTCHA is "stick device." Heh.)
49. Krissa said:
OH, he demoted you to maiden name! It is so on.
Have you tried just pushing on his leg while he's driving so as to add pressure to the gas pedal? :D
50. Phoo-D said:
Isn't an age gap great? I love reminding Mr. B how OLD he is. The Chipolte story cracked me up...I think Leta may have the prize-winning temper in the family!
Phoo-D
http://www.phoo-d.com
51. Amanda said:
First, thank you for not doing the 25 things meme. *shudder*
Second, I love the LACMA! What a great place for a first date :) I lived right behind there when I lived in LA last spring and always wanted to skip work to walk around the museum instead.
52. Stephanie said:
I just noticed this meme recently, but I've much more of the 25 random things about me meme. Sometime you just don't want to know.
I had fun reading about you and Jon and laughed a lot. Thanks.
53. Cathryn said:
Should we all be scared of comment number #4 ???
54. Leesavee said:
What are your middle names? Mine is Diane. His is Richard.
How long have you been together? working up to 7 years!
How long did you know each other before you started dating? We never really dated. We just decided to be together forever.
Who asked whom out? See above. It just happened.
How old are each of you? We're both 40, but I look 25 and he looks 50... :-P
Whose siblings do you see the most? My brother and his sister both live in other areas of the country, so we see each about once a year. I, however, talk to my brother all the time.
Which situation is the hardest on you as a couple? The nagging. About the housework. That he has to do. Because I hate it more than he does.
Did you go to the same school? Nope!
Are you from the same home town? Nope. I'm from Memphis, Tennessee. He's from a small town in Maine.
Who is smarter? I'm more book-smart. He's got far more practical knowledge.
Who is the most sensitive? Neither of us are all that sensitive.
Where do you eat out most as a couple? A sushi place in Portland.
Where is the furthest you two have traveled together as a couple? Thus far, to Memphis. But in a few months, we're going to Ethiopia to adopt children.
Who has the craziest exes? He totally wins that prize. I'd tell you stories that would curdle the milk in a momma's bosom...but I am afraid she'd find out and come after me.
Who has the worst temper? He does. I am as cool as a cucumber.
Who does the cooking? I do most of it, though he is one heck of a griller!
Who is the neat-freak? He is. I am a slob.
Who is more stubborn? That would be me.
Who hogs the bed? Me. And the dogs. Poor thing, he gets about two square inches of covers.
Who wakes up earlier? He does.
Where was your first date? We really didn't have one.
Who is more jealous? Neither of us.
How long did it take to get serious? As soon as we decided to be romantically involved, that was it.
Who eats more? He does. I'm 5'3", 105 lbs. He's 6'4" and 290 pounds of muscular guy. He eats like a horse.
Who does the laundry? He does. Man, am I lucky or what?
Who's better with the computer? I am MUCH better.
Who drives when you are together? He has panic attacks when I drive. So he usually does the driving, unless he's had a drink to mellow out the anxiety.
55. Silvia said:
WHO DOES THE LAUNDRY?
Is it really that hard to remember to NOT put something in the dryer? How many laundry cycles can we possibly go through in a few years? More than enough to remember that I don't dry all of my clothes. Which leads to the question, "Who has the worst temper?
56. Elizabeth_K said:
Oh you are so funny. The day you posted about the driving incident my husband and I had just been fighting about driving {me: you drive so slowly. him: you drive so recklessly). I'll answer these on my Web site --- thanks for getting it started!!
57. B said:
Oh I will answer these over at my blog because I need to post something that isn't about how my family is insane.
58. AZ girl said:
Ex-wife........?????
EX-WIFE??????????!!!!!!!!!!!!!
How come you never told us that before??? Nothing wrong with that, mind you, I just found it interesting and since you share pretty much everything this was a surprise. Huh....
59. Sarah said:
Jon, I actually got pulled over on State Street the other day for going too slow. In my defense, I have lived in a military base for so long that I am use to 15 mph speed limits. SLOW DRIVERS UNIT!
I answered on my blog.
60. Sarah said:
@#58 AZ Girl...the ex has been mentioned about 2347827923 times but always in a very vague and respectful manner, pay attention. They were married when Jon and Heather met. Come on, pay attention! :-p
61. Desiree said:
I had to read your answer to "Who has the worst temper?" to my fiance. I told him, "Let me give you a glimpse into your future."
He responded: "One day, when one of our future children acts up one time too many, I will open my mouth and sing the song that ends the world."
Jon and he may need to hang out.
62. Lauren said:
I totally just added you as a friend on facebook....feel free to decline that shizz. It was a moment of weakness.
That being said, I SO hope I get to meet you possibly in March when you're out in NYC. I can't wait to see the skinniest pregnant woman ever!
Great post. :)
63. coco said:
I thought I was the only one who ate more then her man. Yeah. Go healthy appetites! Love your list.
64. Leslie said:
Awesome. I loved this. My boyfriend and I met in math class in college as well as through friends. It was a very unique situation. Five and a half years later all is well. Though he probably just wishes I'd help more with the laundry. Hehe.
65. Rio Gringa said:
I'm a bed hog too. I'll wake up in the morning wrapped in the whole sheet.
66. Katya said:
This is awesome! I love your notes.
My boyfriend drives because otherwise he will have a brain aneurysm every time I slow down for a yellow light.
I don't like driving any way. so there.
67. J said:
http://allyougetisme.blogspot.com/
68. Casey said:
Holy crap, Jon was married! How did I miss this? You must share this story!
P.S. I enjoyed reading this meme from you.
69. Kristan said:
Aww. :) You guys are so cute in your giant ex-Mormon-ness.
Hmm, I too do not like memes, but YOU are actually asking ME to answer! You want to know more about me! And only me! How can I resist?!
WHO IS SMARTER?
I'm smarter but he works harder and has a better memory, so I think ultimately I lose... :(
WHO HOGS THE BED?
Him. And he tries to claim that it's because he wants to be close to me, but I'm not buying it!
WHO EATS MORE?
Uh... him if we're talking meat, me if we're talking chocolate or Cheez-its...
PS: Andy and I are not actually married, but we're living together in hot hot sin. I thought you'd approve.
Oh Heather, I feel so close to you now.
70. Anonymous said:
LOL, Comment #4
71. msLaura said:
Just waned to pop in and interject that I'm THRILLED to have found another married couple who address each other as Dude. Jon's comment above cracked me up.
I am totally the grandma driver in our relationship, because I'm busy HYPERMILING, bitches! I know I can get 50MPG average if I can just coast on a slight downhill to that next stop sign and avoid stepping on the gas...I also regularly drive 55MPH on the freeways here in the Bay Area, because dude, I don't want to blow my mileage! It's all part of the Zen of Hybrid Driving, except I also do it in my VW Passat Diesel Station Wagon....for the record, I once got 52 MPG average in that sucker on a trip back from San Francisco.
What can I say, I'm a geek.
My husband rolls his eyes when he drives with me, but he has his own multiple forms of weirdness and I put up with those, so he cuts me a good deal of slack.
Our kids are weird too. But they are luckily also very funny, so we haven't sold them on eBay yet.
72. Lynn said:
Who does the laundry?
Steve thinks he's being sweet when he throws all the laundry--towels, my expensive lingerie, our children's socks, and the ferret bedding--into the washing machine all at once and fills it with hot water and (sometimes) bleach. Then he lets is amalgamate in there for two days, growing requisite amounts of mold, because he forgets that wet laundry must go into the dryer too. Or sometimes, he remembers and dries the whole mess on hot so that my delicate lingerie melds into a lovely ball covered in ferret hair. And then I steal money from his checking account and go buy new stuff.
It would be a lot less expensive for him if we just took the laundry to be "done."
PS what do you wanna bet that you have 530 friend requests on FB after this post?
73. erica said:
You should write a haiku about that Chipotle experience for http://www.chipotlehaiku.com (or ask Leta for one!). I run the site with my friend and we would seriously love to have them.
74. Rebecca said:
Loved this post! Here are some answers for mine --
What are your middle names?
My middle name is Louise. His is Josef. Yes, spelled with an F.
How long have you been together?
About six months.
How long did you know each other before you started dating?
About a year.
How old are each of you?
We're 24 and 25.
Whose siblings do you see the most?
His since he lives with his brother.
Which situation is the hardest on you as a couple?
Work. He works for a start-up and I work for start-up. I just wrote about this on my blog. It's a bunch of crazyness.
Did you go to the same school?
I went to UW-Madison and he went to Penn State.
Who is smarter?
I'm an ENFP and he's an INTJ. We have different smarts.
Who is the most sensitive?
Me. Me. And me.
Where do you eat out most as a couple?
We go to sushi too! I heart sushi. We also carry-out a lot.
Where is the furthest you two have traveled together as a couple?
New York and Boston.
Who does the cooking?
He's a good cook... I'm not sure I can claim this one.
Who is the neat-freak?
I apologize if I have multiple papers on my desk.
Who hogs the bed?
He likes to sleep in the middle of the bed and is super tall. Enough said.
Who wakes up earlier?
I do for my job.
Where was your first date?
Our first real date was at the restaurant Magnus in Madison.
Who eats more?
We both like to eat, but when I eat a lot, it doesn't show. He gets to go the gym.
Who's better with the computer?
He refuses to be active on Twitter which annoys me to no end.
75. ed said:
Long time reader first time commenter.
I posted mine to my site! Drop by if you ever have a free moment!
76. Lolly said:
The Armstrong Triumverate is a delightful family.
Thank you for your honesty and humor. And of course, for your smashing sense of style. Delicious.
I am a first time commentor on your blog, but have been stalking it for a few weeks now. Love it. Love it. Love it.
I mean stalking in the most flattering and non-psychopathic way.
Can't wait to read it frequently, and am looking forward to more and more. Thank you for sharing your life, style and other fun stuff with us.
Will post my answers to this meme on my blog in the very near future.
And, I invite you all to visit when you get a chance.
I'm am new to blogging. Please be nice.
www.wesitbyfire.com
77. Mush said:
Oh my, the craziest exes was the best one!
78. Anonymous said:
WHO DOES THE DRIVING WHEN YOU'RE TOGETHER?
Well let's put it this way. If our almost 5 year old granddaughter is in the car, her first words are "Grumpa, give Gamma the keys"!!!
79. firerobin said:
I just signed on to Facebook about a week ago ... I see what I have to look forward to.
80. Katie C. said:
The part about Chipotle made me laugh.
And who wants to guess that you are going to receive like 10,000 friend requests on Facebook today?
81. reebeme said:
Oooh I would like to be your friend on Facebook. But then I guess you probably want some part of your life to be private... or at least shared only with your 500 closest friends. I will refrain from stalking you. Sigh.
82. Ana said:
Dude, long time reader, first time commenter. I, too, am part Luddite and have no clue as to what a "meme" is... but will make it my life's mission to find out. In the mean time, thanks for the many chuckles (and Daily Chucks while we're at it). Lesson for today? Apparently, if I ever get married, I'll need to find a loving way to build "never EVER dry my bras in the dryer" into the vows. Good to know!
83. Emily Rome said:
What are your middle names? Mine is Moriece, his is Flemming Griffiths
How long have you been together? 4 years, 10 mos
How long did you know each other before you started dating? he apparently met me 6 months before, but I didn't remember him until we re-met a few weeks before
Who asked whom out? He asked me out, I said yes but then had to cancel at the last minute. My friend was with us when I cancelled and she invited him to a party that night. So instead of a first date we made out at a party...
How old are each of you? I'm 30, he's 43...
Whose siblings do you see the most? My brother lives a few hours away but comes home a fair amount to see my parents (we live nearby) we see his brother and sister only once a year.
Which situation is the hardest on you as a couple? financial stress
Did you go to the same school? I did my masters in the same place he had gone to college. He was still living there.
Are you from the same home town? Nope.
Who is smarter? He's definitely book-smarter and has a memory that sounds like Jon's. I"ve forgotten something almost as soon as I finish reading it...
Who is the most sensitive? He is really really sensitive. More than me.
Where do you eat out most as a couple? Sushi!!!
Where is the furthest you two have traveled together as a couple? Uhhh, not far. From Boston to Indiana I guess.
Who has the craziest exes? I'm going to give him credit for that for sure.
Who has the worst temper? Him? But he only gets mad very very occasionally. I'm much more annoyed more often.
Who does the cooking? Now we mostly each cook our own meals. After gaining a TON of weight eating with him, we have finally learned that we have different eating needs.
Who is the neat-freak? Neither unfortunately. When I lived with a really neat person, I was much neater, but since I know Geoff is not going to break up with me if I don't do the dishes... our house is a total pit.
Who is more stubborn? Me for sure.
Who hogs the bed? Him, but it's not really his fault. I'm only 5 feet and he is over 6 feet.
Who wakes up earlier? Me, by several hours usually.
Where was your first date? Making out at a party. The next night (and every night after that) we spent together...
Who is more jealous? Neither of us are very jealous.
Who eats more? Him. After trying to keep up with him for a long time, I have finally learned that I can't do that.
Who does the laundry? Sadly we still have to go to the laundromat. He does it most of the time, but he won't do any load that contains clothes I don't want in the dryer. Thus, I also do laundry fairly often. Neither of us put it away though - we end up living out of clean laundry baskets for an embarrassing amount of time.
Who's better with the computer? Him, but we both kind of suck.
Who drives when you are together? Me. He STILL doesn't have a license even though he promised me he would get one after our first month of dating...
84. Elizabeth said:
What are your middle names?
Mine is Elizabeth. Ha! I go by my middle name. His is Vernon, and no, he does not go by his. Sometimes I call him "Vern" just for fun.
How long have you been together?
We've been married for 10 years this April. Thirteen years in all.
How long did you know each other before you started dating?
A couple weeks.
Who asked whom out?
He totally asked me out.
How old are each of you?
I'm 28, he's THIRTY!
Whose siblings do you see the most?
I think we see his brother the most because he lives next door. It's pretty much inevitable.
Which situation is the hardest on you as a couple?
Our house. There's always something falling apart or that needs to be done. Now that I'm big and fat and pregnant, there's not much I can do so I know that stresses him out.
Did you go to the same school?
We didn't go to the same high school, but we did go to college together.
Are you from the same home town?
No way. I was born in California and he grew up in our other neighbor's house---his MOM'S.
Who is smarter?
I think we're the same amount of smart but in different areas. He's the English nerd and I'm the music/computer nerd. We compliment each other well.
Who is the most sensitive?
Don't make me cry. It can be ugly.
Where do you eat out most as a couple?
When and if we ever do go out as a couple, it's usually our once-a-year meal at the Japanese restaurant. He gets a gift certificate from his boss every year for his birthday.
Where is the furthest you two have traveled together as a couple?
Maine.
Who has the craziest exes?
Tough one! I think it's been so long since we've had exes that I can't answer that.
Who has the worst temper?
Me. 100 percent. I'll bite your head off if the trash isn't taken out the "right" way.
Who does the cooking?
We both do. It's only fair?
Who is the neat-freak?
Neither one of us. It's unfortunate for our kids that they have to grow up like this.
Who is more stubborn?
Me. And I'm not going have it any other way.
Who hogs the bed?
ME again. I can't help it now though. The fetus is taking up part of the space that I let him have.
Who wakes up earlier?
He does. I'm seriously too tired in the the morning to get up and get the boys ready for school.
Where was your first date?
It was a group date and we went Cosmic Bowling. There's only so much you can do as teenagers.
Who is more jealous?
Me. It's part of the reason we don't do theater anymore.
How long did it take to get serious?
Like a week.
Who eats more?
It's a tie. We're both really good at eating.
Who does the laundry?
I wash it and throw it on the papasan chair where it sits until he puts it away two weeks later.
Who's better with the computer?
Me. I'm on it a lot of hours in the day, so I have to be good at it, right?
Who drives when you are together?
He does. I get lost even if I know where I'm going.
85. Kasey said:
Thanks for the laugh.
My husband also does most of the driving, but that's more because of him being a back seat driver than anything else.
So for the sake of our marriage I decided to just let him do the driving :)
86. Jenna said:
http://bloggedbliss.blogspot.com/2009/02/survey-about-us.html
87. Rachel E. said:
I liked your answer to, "How long did it take to get serious?" I thought it was a really interesting idea to be serious from the get go. To just KNOW.
I did mine on my blog: www.laughingeden.blogspot.com
Not sure that my answers are all that exciting but still fun to do.
Thanks for sharing!
88. Emilie Campbell said:
Oh Hamliton, please read this post and tell me you agree.
http://thedailyuncool.blogspot.com/2008/11/me-again.html
You and John are funny. When are you hanging out with Branden & me? I know Branden would love to talk shop with John as he is a hard core Swim Herschel Swim fan and computer geek.
89. Christopher Bigelow said:
I felt a little guilty after I did mine recently, because my wife started cleaning up her clutter and catching up on the ironing...
http://ckbigelow.blogspot.com/2009/02/25-random-married-things.html
90. melissa said:
Is there a particular reason they ask you to reveal middle names? Seems an odd question...what does it mean if you don't know his middle name...or he doesn't have one (at least I'm hoping he doesn't have one...because I don't know it!) ;-)
www.minihipster.com
91. Abi said:
My husband drives. I've gotten better at driving (didn't learn until I was 24), but since I'm Asian, I have the can't-drive-for-shit gene working against me. LOL.
92. Jamie said:
Alright, here's my quiz:
Grumbles & Grunts
I'm so glad I just spent the last 20 minutes of my work day doing that instead of whatever other horrible thing I'm actually supposed to be doing.
93. Eryn C. said:
I laughed uncontrollably at my cube at the crazy ex who asked you to stick a kitchen utensil up his ass. awesome.
the chipotle story sounds like what my life will be like when i finally start procreating.
i check my blog feed at work obsessively to see when you've updated: your blog saves me at work! gracias!
94. ohchicken said:
here you go! http://wearefambly.wordpress.com/2009/02/18/meme-a-la-dooce/
95. Leesavee said:
Inquiring minds want to know: which kitchen utensil? And did you actually stick it where the sun don't shine? I remember the story of the A-1 sauce, but the curiosity is killing me. Ladle? Whisk? Can opener?
96. Margaret said:
Great post...yet another I will have to read out to my husband on the couch tonight. Seems to be a nightly ritual these days...hey babe, guess what Dooce said today! Love reading the variety of other comments so I will throw in my own:
What are your middle names? Mine is Yvonne his is Arnaldo...and he has another Carlo...can you tell he's Italian
How long have you been together? 12 years and a month
How long did you know each other before you started dating? Two years
Who asked whom out? He asked me out once I made it clear I would only respond to being pursued
How old are each of you? I'm 34 and he turns 36 next month
Whose siblings do you see the most? His, I'm an only child
Which situation is the hardest on you as a couple? Our current infertility issues and going through invitro (and no my doctor will not be implanting eight embryos)
Did you go to the same school? Same university at different times
Are you from the same home town? No, born half a world away from each other
Who is smarter? IQ-wise I test higher than he does, but realistically, he can remember a gadzillion more things than I can. As a team we can kill at Jeopardy!
Who is the most sensitive? Definately me...he has tissue at the ready for me for almost anything
Where do you eat out most as a couple? A little Italian cafe down the road from our house. Saturday lunch every week!
Where is the furthest you two have traveled together as a couple? Italy
Who has the craziest exes? Him...she tried to crash our wedding. Can you say psycho?
Who has the worst temper? Him, definately.
Who does the cooking? He's an ex pastry chef who can't cook. So me!
Who is the neat-freak? Me although I tend to be more of a neat freak in theory than practice
Who is more stubborn? Me
Who hogs the bed? No so much the bed but the covers. I will often wake up with him dragging a portion of the comforter over to his side, effectively unwrapping me from the cocoon I have made.
Who wakes up earlier? He does...I start work an hour after him
Where was your first date? At a rave in Seattle, WA (we live in Vancouver, BC)
Who is more jealous? That would be me
How long did it take to get serious? He asked me to marry him a month after we started dating!
Who eats more? He does. To a scary degree sometimes. Two large pizzas should never be consumed by one person...ever!
Who does the laundry? We both do, but he does have a "DO NOT TOUCH" pile of laundry which he knows not to even look at.
Who's better with the computer? Me although I think he'd probably say him.
Who drives when you are together? He does...I've never had a license and since we live so close to the city and Vancouver transit is pretty good, I'll likely never get one. Doesn't mean I'm not an awesome passenger side driver :)
97. Matej said:
"...it says a lot less about the man who runs the business end of things."
Is that a euphemism? 'Cause I really hope it's a euphemism. For sex. In the business end.
98. Natalie said:
Actually loving reading other people's memes as well as yours Heather. Here's an abridged one from me:
What are your middle names?
Me: Maree (boring) him: Allan (nerd)
How long have you been together?
Together 10 years, married 3 years
How long did you know each other before you started dating?
We have lived together since the day we met (flatmates in a house in London shared with 27 other people) got it together 6 months later.
Who asked whom out?
Basically, I had the hots for him for ages but he "just wanted to be friends" ... until I went for a long weekend to Dublin to see an ex-boyfriend. He got with the program quick smart after that.
How old are each of you?
I'm 35. He's 30 (when you find a good man you've got to hang on to him regardless of age)
Whose siblings do you see the most?
Mine. My sister lives around the corner from us in Sydney. His brother is in Denmark.
Which situation is the hardest on you as a couple?
Money. Domestic humdrum that comes with raising kids (4 and 1)
Are you from the same home town?
No way. He's from Hawkes Bay, NZ. I'm from Wollongong, Australia.
Who is smarter?
Intellectually - me. Common sense/everyday life (ie. the practical smarts) - him.
Where is the furthest you two have traveled together as a couple?
Everywhere - we backpacked for 4 years before settling in Sydney.
Who has the worst temper?
Him! (says me) I get annoyed, have a bitch and am over it (mainly because I'm lazy). He explodes and holds grudges - silent treatment (whatever!)
Who does the cooking?
Joe - because he can be bothered. Every now and then I take the spatula and I enjoy it because it's not all the time. Good that our kids aren't eating toast for dinner every night too.
Who is the neat-freak?
Deep breath. I'm just gonna say it: why can't he just pick up his stuff?! If you are born with a penis is it genetic destiny that you can't go that one extra step from the sink to the freakin' dishwasher. OK. I'll stop.
Who wakes up earlier?
Joe - he cannot sleep in! Which is fine with me because it means I don't have to get up to children at a time earlier than farmers have to get up.
Where was your first date?
um ... makin' out on the lounge in our shared house. After a lot of wine. And little food.
Who does the laundry?
See Heather's answer. Apply it to my family.
99. Brittany said:
Glad to hear I'm not the only one with a mac-enthusiast husband who frowns on my consistency to update my computer. I also get that look when he asks when I last got the oil in my car changed. I try to let him know that's why I married him, but he doesn't like that answer very much.
100. Klemptor said:
What are your middle names?
Mine is Mae, his is Ferrell.
How long have you been together?
Eight and a half years, and we've been living together for 7.
How long did you know each other before you started dating?
Around three weeks. We met while we were both working at a video store. I interviewed there because I had a crush on a different guy who worked there, and nothing ever happened with him because Brad started pursuing me. :)
Who asked whom out?
Neither really.
How old are each of you?
I'm 27 and he's 31.
Whose siblings do you see the most?
We see his brother far more than my sister because he lives closer.
Which situation is the hardest on you as a couple?
Dealing with my family because my mother is not incredibly mentally healthy.
Did you go to the same school?
Yes, but never at the same time.
Are you from the same home town?
No. I grew up right outside of Trenton, and he's from a rich suburb of Philly.
Who is smarter?
Would it be horrible to say I am? Honestly we're both pretty intelligent but I probably have the edge.
Who is the most sensitive?
Neither one of us. We're the least sensitive people I know.
Where do you eat out most as a couple?
Anywhere Italian. There's a little restaurant we love called Tré Fratelli, and eating there always brings back memories of when we first started dating.
Where is the furthest you two have traveled together as a couple?
Montréal
Who has the craziest exes?
Neither of us has an ex - I was 18 and he was 22 when we first started dating.
Who has the worst temper?
Neither of us. We're both pretty calm and staid. It's like two Spocks in a relationship.
Who does the cooking?
Me. His mother did all the cooking when he was growing up, so he never learned how. And no matter how much I try to teach him, he never seems to absorb it. Same goes for housework unfortunately. *eyeroll*
Who is the neat-freak?
Me, but it's a completely losing battle.
Who is more stubborn?
Me, without a doubt. I'm an Italiana from New Jersey - I belong to a completely different category of stubborn.
Who hogs the bed?
Brad does. But if I go to bed before he does, I end up sleeping perpendicular to the axis of the bed (I have no idea why).
Who wakes up earlier?
Me. Showering, eating, putting on makeup, and drying my hair in time to catch the train in the morning mean I have to wake up at 6. He rolls out of bed at 7:30 and it takes him about 20 minutes to get ready for work.
Where was your first date?
We never had an official first date - just a whole bunch of hanging out.
Who is more jealous?
Neither one of us is jealous.
How long did it take to get serious?
About two months.
Who eats more?
He does - he snacks all day long...and of course he's a beanpole. I eat about 800 calories a day and he probably has four times that in a day.
Who does the laundry?
He does
Who's better with the computer?
He is, because he's a software engineer and is working on his Master's in Computer Systems
Who drives when you are together?
He does, usually
101. Andi said:
He has no exes, mine are ALL crazy. & there are a lot of them because I had a whole hell of a lot of fun. (=
We both drive a lot for our respective careers. But he is a horrible backseat driver and hangs on to the Oh Shit handle which grates on every nerve I have SOOOO he drives most of the time. I thought he was gonna get us killed in Vegas & D.C. Farm boys shouldn't drive in either of those places, especially when they wave at every car that comes toward them...
102. Caren said:
Thanks for the invite to share, Heather! I just posted my answers to my blog.
103. Habbala said:
The Chipotle story cracked my up.
I did mine on my blog too, not as funny as yours, but you have to start somewhere.
http://habbala.blogspot.com/
104. Dea said:
LOVE IT! I will answer these on my blog as a treat for me cuz its my birthday tomorrow :) check it out here:
http://www.satisfythis.blogspot.com/
105. Valerie said:
ROFL Heather, thank you so much for doing this. This is awesome. I have seen these pop up on my FB for the last week and, honestly, found them intolerable because the people who fill them out rarely have a sense of humor and rarely can construct a proper sentence. But this is awesome.
Do the 25 Things About Me one next!!!
106. Athena said:
The slow driving is KILLING ME TOO, HEATHER. I mean, who slows down to 30mph 100 feet before a green light to take a frigging left turn? WHO DOES THAT?!?!
107. Suzanne said:
What are your middle names?
My middle name is Ellyn. His is Alan.
How long have you been together?
Two years, 7 months
How long did you know each other before you started dating?
Met online, so we didn't know eo b4 we started dating
How old are each of you?
I'm 41, he's 43
Whose siblings do you see the most?
Mine, since they're on the same coast.
Which situation is the hardest on you as a couple?
Now that we have a baby, who gets to sleep
Did you go to the same school?
Nope.
Who is smarter?
He is.
Who is the most sensitive?
He is - which I love about him, most days.
Where do you eat out most as a couple?
Pizza Pi - vegan pizza joint in Seattle
Where is the furthest you two have traveled together as a couple?
New Zealand
Who does the cooking?
Both of us, but he's better. I'm the baker in the family.
Who is the neat-freak?
I am, but that's not saying much.
Who hogs the bed?
I do. Total cover-stealer.
Who gets up earlier?
Me lately.
Where was your first date?
Queen Sheeba Ethiopian restaurant in Seattle.
Who eats more?
He does, but I'm a close second.
Who's better with the computer?
He's a system administrator for an internet service provider, so I'll let you guess. ;)
Can't wait to see you in Seattle in March!
108. repliderium.com said:
See, now that's just not fair! Mention the ex-wife in the VERY LAST FREAKING SENTENCE????
Damn you!
109. Laura said:
I heart you - :-)
110. Lisa said:
I did mine here: http://huntingforporkchops.blogspot.com/2009/02/questions-about-us.html
111. Jacquie said:
What are your middle names?
Mine is Kim, his is James
How long have you been together?
Married 12 years, dated for about 5 before that. God, we’re old.
How long did you know each other before you started dating?
Just a couple of months, I had the hots for him and made sure he knew it.
Who asked whom out?
One drunken night my friend … or is it …one night my drunken friend? Either way works. Anyway, she asked him if he had a girlfriend and he said no, she said “I’m just asking for Jacquie!” and then we made out for about a year.
How old are each of you?
I’m 40, he’s 42.
Whose siblings do you see the most?
His live closer, but we see them less as a family. Mine are on the opposite coast, and I often travel to visit with just the kids because airline tickets are more expensive than yachts, I think.
Which situation is the hardest on you as a couple?
Finding out how to adjust our interests as individuals with the ever changing interests of the family unit so that we aren’t always tag-team parenting.
Did you go to the same school?
College, yes.
Are you from the same home town?
No, we met in college.
Who is smarter?
Me. Sorry honey, but you know it’s true.
Who is the most sensitive?
Hmmmm. Some might say that he is, but he doesn’t know how to express his sensitivity in a productive way so he ends up doing an uncanny asshole impression.
Where do you eat out most as a couple?
Oggi’s, something for everyone (especially beer) and stuff to keep the kids occupied.
Where is the furthest you two have traveled together as a couple?
Niagara Falls
Who has the craziest exes?
He doesn’t have many exes, I have lots. So I win by default.
Who has the worst temper?
HIM, oh man. He knows it too, and he attributes it to genetics because one time his mom threw a cup at him, but we can’t really talk about it because it still pisses him off.
Who does the cooking?
Me, he can’t find anything. In our one cabinet. He is a grouchy chef.
Who is the neat-freak?
Neither of us, sadly. He is a better housekeeper than I am, though.
Who is more stubborn?
Me. And I hold a grudge.
Who hogs the bed?
HIM, the bastard.
Who wakes up earlier?
Me, he’s a sleep junkie.
Where was your first date?
I think we rented movies and hung out at my apartment. We went out a lot with our group of friends, what a raucous group.
Who is more jealous?
Neither of us is jealous, nor do we have cause to be. We ain’t got much, be we do have trust.
How long did it take to get serious?
Depends on your definition of serious. We knew we’d be together, but I did have to threaten bodily harm to get engaged.
Who eats more?
Me, but he is also a weird junk food guy. I can’t let him go grocery shopping because he buys things like cocoa puffs and barbeque potato chips. But not milk.
Who does the laundry?
He does, but we always have a garden of clean heaps in laundry baskets in the living room. And I put away the clothes for 3 of my 4 family members.
Who's better with the computer?
Me, he’s hopeless. He doesn’t even read my blog.
Who drives when you are together?
Me, always. He drives like my grandma. And she’s dead.
http://meandyouandellie.blogspot.com/
112. Allison said:
HA! My husband is 9 years older than me and the what was Allison doing at this milestone in your life game never ever ever gets old! My favorite was realizing I was in SEVENTH grade the year he graduated from college. HEEE!
113. Alli said:
ok, here's mine...
http://allthewildthings.blogspot.com/2009/02/that-crazy-man-i-live-with....
114. Ana said:
I did mine on my blog too: http://myfeetareafraid.blogspot.com/
I wish I had a funny story about my husband's temper, but something just aren't as funny as Chipotle. Or maybe I just don't have a good sense of humor about his temper.
115. Kate said:
Ex-wife?! OH COME ON! You cannot dangle that carrot in front of our noses and not elaborate!
I may just throw myself on the floor in a Leta-state of temper tantrumness and writhe until you dish the dirty details!
116. Anonymous said:
I finally found an open comment!
I LOVE, LOVE, LOVE the new layout!
117. Juggee said:
What are your middle names?
My middle name is Therese. It is supposed to have accents on the "Es" but my keyboard won't allow this. I am not French. My husband's middle name is James. After his Dad. I guess his Grandfather was upset about this when he was born because he thought Ben should have been named after him. I think that is arrogant.
How long have you been together?
7 years, married since May 22, 2008.
How long did you know each other before you started dating?
Hmmm. A couple of weeks?
Who asked whom out?
I pulled a party favor out of his mouth on New Years Eve and kissed him after the countdown. We've been together ever since.
How old are each of you?
I will be 29 on Sunday and he will be 28 in April. Yes, I am a wee bit older. I always thought I would have to marry someone 10 years older than me because I've always acted like I'm 40.
Whose siblings do you see the most?
I think it's pretty equal.
Which situation is the hardest on you as a couple?
Dealing with his Mother. He has finally learned that his Wife should come first and that he is allowed to stand up to her and create boundaries.
Did you go to the same school?
No.
Are you from the same home town?
NO. I grew up in Leduc, he grew up in Edmonton. (Alberta, Canada)
Who is smarter?
I have more commone sense...he is book smart.
Who is the most sensitive?
I think it's pretty equal. We're both sensitive.
Where do you eat out most as a couple?
Sherlock Holme's Pub. Fabulous veggie burgers and pizza!
Where is the furthest you two have traveled together as a couple?
Mexico for our wedding
Who has the craziest exes?
Tied
Who has the worst temper?
Ben got into a screaming match with a trucker who cut us off.
Who does the cooking?
Me. Ben can make a great bowl of cereal though.
Who is the neat-freak?
Amy is. Ben now completely appreciates it and will even start making the bed while I'm still sleeping.
Who is more stubborn?
Tied.
Who hogs the bed?
The dogs.
Who wakes up earlier?
Ben. He gets up as soon as his alarm goes off. I hit my sleep button four times.
Where was your first date?
I think we saw a movie.
Who is more jealous?
Neither.
How long did it take to get serious?
Always serious. This is why I kept on trying to get him to fart in front of me. Why hold it in?
Who eats more?
Debatable. I think we're neck and neck
Who does the laundry?
Amy. Ben likes to pretend he doesn't know how.
Who's better with the computer?
Amy.
Who drives when you are together?
I do. I'm afraid he'll ruin our car by trying to teach someone else a lesson in driving with etiquette.
118. Kristina C. said:
CONGRATULATIONS on being one of Time's TOP TWENTY FIVE blogs!
Woohoo!
119. miltoncat said:
What are your middle names?
Mine is Lain (family name). His is William.
How long have you been together?
Married 11 months, together 2 years.
How long did you know each other before you started dating?
We met via his online radio show. I would chat in the chatroom. After a few months the two other guys on the show badgered him on the air to ask me out. He did. I said yes and thought he was joking. He wasn't.
Who asked whom out?
See above.
How old are each of you?
I'm 36; he's 35. I hate that I was on the planet 1.5 years before he was. Not only because it makes me the older one, but because it means I was on earth without him. It's weird.
Whose siblings do you see the most?
Mine. He works with my brother and his brother lives in another state.
Which situation is the hardest on you as a couple?
My being unemployed.
Did you go to the same school?
Yes, at different times.
Are you from the same home town?
MEMPHIS! Chicken wangs yeah!
Who is smarter?
We're yin/yang. He's smarter in ways I am not, and vice versa.
Who is the most sensitive?
I am, though he's more sensitive to people's feelings than me.
Where do you eat out most as a couple?
Sushi or mexican.
Where is the furthest you two have traveled together as a couple?
Chicago.
Who has the craziest exes?
I suppose I do.
Who has the worst temper?
He does, but it takes a lot to get him mad.
Who does the cooking?
Me. If it were up to him we'd live on Taco Bell and microwaved Swedish meatballs for breakfast.
Who is the neat-freak?
Let's just put it this way: I am a much nicer person when he puts away his socks.
Who is more stubborn?
I am.
Who hogs the bed?
He does. He says he is just snuggling up to me but I know better.
Who wakes up earlier?
He does, since I'm unemployed.
Where was your first date?
a Thai restaurant.
Who is more jealous?
I guess there's a reason every time he mentions a woman's name I yell "WHORE!"
How long did it take to get serious?
Two weeks maybe. I knew by then I was gonna marry him.
Who eats more?
He does, but we can both be hogs.
Who does the laundry?
I do. All the time. But he cleans out the litter box so it's cool.
Who's better with the computer?
He can do the hardware stuff. I'm better at the software.
Who drives when you are together?
He does usually because I am lazy. But I end up yelling at him because he will confuse red and green lights.
120. ReRe said:
What are your middle names?
his is Madison, named after Pres. James Madison. mine is too shameful to say. let's just put it this way: i'm named after an indigestion medicine. it's not pepto.
How long have you been together?
married 4, together 6
How long did you know each other before you started dating?
a couple of years. i spotted his long curly hair across the church auditorium and thought: mmmmmm mmmm good.
Who asked whom out?
he asked me out for coffee. i hesitate cus i hate hot drinks -- i'm a spiller. but i decided to go any way
How old are each of you?
he's 33 i'm 27. he likes 'em young
Whose siblings do you see the most?
he is #9 of 11, i'm the oldest of 3. we see my siblings and about 1/4 of his siblings evenly
Which situation is the hardest on you as a couple?
i'm type A. i like things to be perfect: clean house, on time to places etc. He's a tree hugging hippie who makes his own rules, which consists of not putting his clothes in the dirty clothes
Did you go to the same school?
nope. he grew up in michigan and i am an okie
Are you from the same home town?
nope
Who is smarter?
James by far, but he lets me pretend i'm smarter
Who is the most sensitive?
we are both big babies. it's sick really
Where do you eat out most as a couple?
a great place called The Earth. they serve the best tempeh tacos -- i'd take those over meat tacos any day
Where is the furthest you two have traveled together as a couple?
Mexico -- honeymoon
Who has the craziest exes?
we have both lucked out and not dated anyone crazy -- until we met each other
Who has the worst temper?
i plead the 5th (ok, it's me)
Who does the cooking?
me. because if it were up to his vegetarian butt we'd eat rice and beans every night. and my butt is NOT vegetarian
Who is the neat-freak?
i'm gonna say me because i've never understood how people can go to bed with dishes in the sink
Who is more stubborn?
me again
Who hogs the bed?
he's a tiny man, but he sleeps like the fat lady at the opera
Who wakes up earlier?
i wake up early -- and then wake him up.
Where was your first date?
walking along some lake. he was either gonna attack me or be a gentleman. it was a little bit of both :)
Who is more jealous?
me. he does not possess that bone
How long did it take to get serious?
he proposed on the first date. i said no -- and then thought he was a freak. a year later i said yes.
Who eats more?
him. you would think me since i have him by more pounds than i want to admit, but it's him.
Who does the laundry?
he does not understand that some jeans can't be dried or i will never get in them again.
Who's better with the computer?
i just taught him how to use yahoo not too long ago, so i'm gonna say me
Who drives when you are together?
James. i'm the better driver, but i hate driving -- so i put my life in his hands as often as possible
121. Robin G. said:
Some of this seems worrisomely familiar...
122. Genie said:
As for who hogs the bed ...
I read one of those articles "Tell what kind of guy he is by how he sleeps" in a trashy magazine. I was explaining all of these to my husband, Rich, so we could decipher him. It's analysis included that if he slept on his stomach he was insecure but if he slept on his side he was a good listener (hunh?).
One of them said that if "your guy" sleeps on his back that makes him confident. Rich blurted out, "Oh that's you! You're very confident in your sleep!". He has since labeled my sleep postition as "confident starfish."
123. Jennifer said:
I laughed..I cried...I loved!
So many of these answers eerily resemble the crap I have to put up with my little Sugar Booger.
124. Somer said:
This is completely adorable and hilarious. That fact that you and Jon both have such a healthy sense of humor only adds to your appeal. I personally love the memes on Facebook......except that ones that command you to tag at least 12 people or else JESUS WILL BE ASHAMED OF YOU! Somehow, I'm not convinced that Jesus follows Facebook. He's probably much more professional, like LinkedIn.
125. Elisa said:
I'm not even sure my better half knows what a temper is! I do all the driving though and I think I'm moving into the dumbass category. However I will attempt to defend myself by saying that I also used to drive One Bajillion Hours™ a day in commuter traffic AND I have completely destroyed a car engine in the past, rendering it nothing but noise and smoke, by always screaming off at the traffic lights with as much acceleration as humanly possible. I was the one in that car where shit falls off it when it takes off. Yeah, that was me.
126. Sarah said:
"Look how I answered all these questions about my husband without once mentioning his ex-wife!" This comment shows the southern in you way more than any accent... love it.
127. Erin said:
I'm not sure if I'm giggling more at your responses, the fact that they're very similar to some of mine, or at comment #4.
Love your blog, Dooce!
128. April said:
What are your middle names?
Mine: Marie His: Allen
How long have you been together?
9 years, 1 month and 18 days
How long did you know each other before you started dating?
A day or so....
Who asked whom out?
I don’t think we ever “asked” each other out...
How old are each of you?
Me: 30 Him:37
Whose siblings do you see the most?
Neither
Which situation is the hardest on you as a couple?
Him always being gone... I knew what I was in for marrying a guy in the Army but it sucks after a while.
Did you go to the same school?
NOPE
Are you from the same home town?
No. I grew up in Cali and he grew up in Oklahoma.
Who is smarter?
It is a tie. He knows stuff I have no clue about and I know stuff that he has no clue about.
Who is the most sensitive?
Me
Where do you eat out most as a couple?
McGraths.
Where is the furthest you two have traveled together as a couple?
Germany
Who has the craziest exes?
I do for sure.... there is no question about that.
Who has the worst temper?
ME! I have gotten much better.
Who does the cooking?
We alternate. I will say anything containing noodles he is a wiz at. He can look at a noodle and tell when it is done.
Who is the neat-freak?
He is. My dresser is covered in shirts I need to hang up. Only because I know if I let them sit there for a little bit he will hang them up because I complain about not being able to find a shirt
Who is more stubborn?
Me.
Who hogs the bed?
I have to admit he has gotten better. I wake up only a couple times a week with his arm across my head or his knees in my back.
Who wakes up earlier?
I do. If the alarm does not go off he will sleep until noon if you let him. I on the other hand am awake by 6. Even if I force myself to go back to sleep I will wake up every 30 minutes until it drives me crazy and I get up.
Where was your first date?
His friends house for breakfast.
Who is more jealous?
Neither.
How long did it take to get serious?
About 3 weeks.
Who eats more?
During meals I tend to eat more. But he snacks all day long.
Who does the laundry?
He does. It started when we lived in Germany and the laundry room was in the basement. I hated being down there by myself and I thought it was haunted.
Who's better with the computer?
He is slightly. He has had lots of training since it is part of his job right now.
Who drives when you are together?
I do. It is a control issue I have. When he drives, either I am sick, he is taking me to the emergency room or he is trying to surprise me taking me somewhere.
129. angela said:
Which situation is the hardest on you as a couple?
This is tough... I think it would be my inability to communicate properly nor in a timely manner. Or maybe it's those times when I'm 'disagreeable' and he askes me, "So, are you depressed
or whatever right now?" because that's my favorite.
Did you go to the same school?
No.
Are you from the same home town?
No. BF is from Houston, TX (born in Abilene) and I'm native to Orange County, CA.
Who is smarter?
He is for sure, but he claims I give him a run for his money.
Who is the most sensitive?
A couple years ago I would have said I am, but now I think we're tied.
Where do you eat out most as a couple?
Kendall's Brasserie, adjacent to the Dorothy Chandler Pavilion.
Where is the furthest you two have traveled together as a couple?
The Mediterranean.
Who has the craziest exes?
HE DOES. The end.
Who has the worst temper?
He lets it out more often, but I wait until I go nuclear.
Who does the cooking?
We both do. I make a larger variety and he sticks to what he knows. I try new things more often, but when he decides to do something new he really goes out on a limb.
Who is the neat-freak?
We're both utter slobs and work our hardest not to be.
Who is more stubborn?
It's a draw. We're just stubborn about different things, thankfully. And when we are stubborn about the same thing, we usually are on the same side.
Who hogs the bed?
He claims I do, but I always wake up in the exact same place I remember falling asleep so I'm sure he's just making it up for kicks.
Who wakes up earlier?
He does. I'm not a morning person.
Where was your first date?
The Long Beach Grand Prix. I think we may be going again this year.
Who is more jealous?
He is. Definitely.
How long did it take to get serious?
We were serious from date #1, and were planning our lives together by Day Two..
Who eats more?
It's a draw. On the days I work out I eat more, on the days I don't he does.
Who does the laundry?
The Fluff-n-Fold by my office. But I'm the one who drags it in and pays for it.
Who's better with the computer?
Being that he was a programmer for the USAF for 10 years and a web designer for several years after that, I would have to say he is.
Who drives when you are together?
Usually he does, but he simply doesn't have the patience for LA traffic, where I grew up with it. But since I got my new car in December, I've been doing most of the driving.
130. angela said:
Hmmm dont know what happened...
What are your middle names?
My middle name is now my former surname, which I kept so it would be easier for me to prove who I am once I changed my last name. BF's middle name is Alan.
How long have you been together?
We started dating in the spring of 2002.
How long did you know each other before you started dating?
We met on 15 June 2001, his first day of work.
Who asked whom out?
He asked me out and we went to the Long Beach Grand Prix on what turned out to be our first official date. We went out before then, but only as friends.
How old are each of you?
I'm 28, he's 50.
Whose siblings do you see the most?
My sister. His brother lives all the way in Florida; we've never met.
Which situation is the hardest on you as a couple?
This is tough... I think it would be my inability to communicate properly nor in a timely manner. Or maybe it's those times when I'm 'disagreeable' and he askes me, "So, are you depressed
or whatever right now?" because that's my favorite.
Did you go to the same school?
No.
Are you from the same home town?
No. BF is from Houston, TX (born in Abilene) and I'm native to Orange County, CA.
Who is smarter?
He is for sure, but he claims I give him a run for his money.
Who is the most sensitive?
A couple years ago I would have said I am, but now I think we're tied.
Where do you eat out most as a couple?
Kendall's Brasserie, adjacent to the Dorothy Chandler Pavilion.
Where is the furthest you two have traveled together as a couple?
The Mediterranean.
Who has the craziest exes?
HE DOES. The end.
Who has the worst temper?
He lets it out more often, but I wait until I go nuclear.
Who does the cooking?
We both do. I make a larger variety and he sticks to what he knows. I try new things more often, but when he decides to do something new he really goes out on a limb.
Who is the neat-freak?
We're both utter slobs and work our hardest not to be.
Who is more stubborn?
It's a draw. We're just stubborn about different things, thankfully. And when we are stubborn about the same thing, we usually are on the same side.
Who hogs the bed?
He claims I do, but I always wake up in the exact same place I remember falling asleep so I'm sure he's just making it up for kicks.
Who wakes up earlier?
He does. I'm not a morning person.
Where was your first date?
The Long Beach Grand Prix. I think we may be going again this year.
Who is more jealous?
He is. Definitely.
How long did it take to get serious?
We were serious from date #1, and were planning our lives together by Day Two..
Who eats more?
It's a draw. On the days I work out I eat more, on the days I don't he does.
Who does the laundry?
The Fluff-n-Fold by my office. But I'm the one who drags it in and pays for it.
Who's better with the computer?
Being that he was a programmer for the USAF for 10 years and a web designer for several years after that, I would have to say he is.
Who drives when you are together?
Usually he does, but he simply doesn't have the patience for LA traffic, where I grew up with it. But since I got my new car in December, I've been doing most of the driving.
131. Renee said:
My someone can't remember what doesn't go in the dryer either. I can relate.
132. Jen said:
It's not that my husband's driving is so bad, although he gets way too crazy bitching at the other drivers here in Utah... it's his inability to freaking park a car! Give the husband a completely empty parking lot and he would still have a difficult time deciding which parking stall to chose. Insanely annoying, but I love him, what can I say?
133. ikss / Karen said:
I posted mine. And I am having lots of fun reading all of these! :)
134. Christie said:
What are your middle names?
Mine is Marie and his is James. Can't get more uninspired than that.
How long have you been together?
Married for nearly four years but we dated for just over a decade before getting hitched.
How long did you know each other before you started dating?
I met him in high school but it wasn't until he returned for college that we started dating. That's a long way of saying approximately five years
Who asked whom out?
I guess technically it was me but after I heard he was going to hang out at home on a Friday night with no t.v., how could I not invite him back to my co-ed dorm?
How old are each of you?
I'm nearly old and he's two years older than me. The closest I'm willing to admit to is that we're both in our 30s.
Whose siblings do you see the most?
Equal time spent with both siblings that still remain in the same state we live in.
Which situation is the hardest on you as a couple?
Discussing our shrinking retirement portfolio. He also hates it when I yammer on about the plight of the working class.
Did you go to the same school?
Went to the same high school but attended different colleges. In my case, that was multiple colleges.
Are you from the same home town?
Nope. I'm born and raised in Newberg, Oregon. He's from a suburb of that oh-so-like-the-U.S. town called Vancouver, B.C.
Who is smarter?
Darren, although I did get a higher grade in Statistics than he did.
Who is the most sensitive?
Definitely me.
Where do you eat out most as a couple?
El Gaucho.
Where is the furthest you two have traveled together as a couple?
Bulgaria.
Who has the craziest exes?
Neither of us.
Who has the worst temper?
He does. And it comes with one of those gazes that can stop traffic.
Who does the cooking?
He's a better cook but I'm a better baker so we cover all of the bases. And that's important because at the end of the day you need fresh, homemade pie.
Who is the neat-freak?
Absolutely 100% me. And if he tries to argue otherwise, I'll kindly point his memory in the direction of the time I flew down to San Jose to help him clean his apartment. And by help I mean, he went to work and I stayed at home and cleaned all day.
Who is more stubborn?
Depends on what we're talking about and who's had more to drink.
Who hogs the bed?
We're both so busy working to sleep around the cats and baby neither of us has time to hog the bed.
Who wakes up earlier?
Me. Always. The only day Darren can count on waking up before me is the day I die. And then, he should probably let me sleep in.
Where was your first date?
The South Hall third floor dorm at Linfield in McMinnville.
Who is more jealous?
Me.
How long did it take to get serious?
Serious = marriage? Over a decade. I was beginning to lose my patience toward the end.
Who eats more?
Darren but I'm a close second.
Who does the laundry?
I do. Usually in marathon laundry sessions during the weekend.
Who's better with the computer?
As a computer programmer, I'd have to go with Darr.
Who drives when you are together?
Usually me, unless there is snow. Normal driving conditions are too boring to capture Darr's attention. And his reaction time is just a touch slower than mine so I'm usually huddled in my seat bracing for impact.
Feel free to answer some or all of the same questions about your significant other in the comments, or leave a link to your website if you prefer answering there.
135. lizinsumner said:
I'm divorced, so - ahem - I'm going to change the subject. DUDE!! Did you know that you're on Time Magazine's (well, Time on-line, anyway) list of 25 best blogs for 2008?? Cuz you haven't mentioned it once! I read through them all and you and Confessions of a Pioneer Woman are the only 2 blogs on the list that I know of and read and, quite frankly, the other 23 looked like TOTAL SNORES, but still! You're!On!The!List!!!!! Congrats. I'm proud of you.
136. Michelle said:
Ahh, but then you blew it there at the end.
I am not shocked that you say there was never a point in your romantic relationship when you weren't serious, because you two have lasted long (relative to most American marriages). I think most meant-to-be couples know it right off the bat.
(At least I hope that's true, since Josh and I decided the same when we first began dating.)
137. nic said:
not that you'll ever be able to read all the comments you get... but... should you find yourself laid up in bed, pregnant as all get out, with laptop and time on your side... i did my own. thanks!
http://www.mybottlesup.com/
138. Patti said:
Here are my answers...I've read your blog for a year (OMG, I have never laughed so hard in my life!) so I figured I owed you some "answers" about me.
What are your middle names?
I am Catholic which means in addition to my given middle name I have a confirmation (a/k/a Saint) name and I’m married and didn’t want to give up my maiden name entirely. Technically, my name is Patricia Anne Catherine Turner Panariello.
How long have you been together?
We had our first date on March 16, 2003, so we’ve known each other 6 years. We’ll be married 3 years this July.
How long did you know each other before you started dating?
I didn’t know my husband but I knew his family. His brother was my best friend’s brother. His uncle was my family doctor until I was about 8. I grew up about 4 blocks from him.
Who asked whom out?
We were set up on a blind date. He was coming out of a very bad (and long) marriage. A guy who used to stop into his gas station – and who delivered mail to my building – kept telling him to call me. He finally did so the guy would just leave him alone. The rest is history.
How old are each of you?
I am 41. He will turn 50 in 2 months. 50. Wow!
Whose siblings do you see the most?
We see all of our family, on a regular basis. We're both natives of Delaware. Which these days, given all the corporations, companies, transfers, etc., is hard to find. I am the oldest of 6, in order we are 41, 40, 39, about to 38, about to be 29, and about to be 22. My Mom is the next to youngest of 6, all in Delaware. My Dad’s family is in Maryland, no more than 2 hours away. I know, and have met or spent significant time with, all of my family.
Which situation is the hardest on you as a couple?
My husband’s crazy ex-wife. I’m sorry, because I’m sure every second wife says this but really, all I have to say is that my husband was given custody, hands down, with visitation for her, after a 2 week evaluation. Her presence in our lives is a daily source of contention. The kids LOVE THEIR FATHER with all their heart, and they love their Mom, but they know our home is the best place for them. Unfortunately, she does not. Hence, TENSION.
Did you go to the same school?
We actually graduated from the same Catholic high school, 9 years apart. And, as an aside Heather, I put my 12 years of Catholic school up against your Morman upbringing any day. Same cult, different day? And we both attended the University of Delaware (and again, we native Delawareans never stray far from home). I graduated, he did not. Not b/c he’s not smart enough (he is WICKED smart) but b/c he wasn’t challenged enough. He started his own business.
Are you from the same home town?
Yes, we are. Dover might be Delaware’s capital but really everyone lives in Wilmington, which is really most of the county. Even scarier? We grew up about 5 city blocks apart.
Who is smarter?
My husband, hands down. I’m the humanities chick, with a BA in American History. Ask me anything political, historical or social and I’ll give you an opinion, based on fact, but still an opinion. My husband? He and my stepson debate velocity and force of travel. He and my stepdaughter talk about current and the laws of physics. Nobody cares about Lincoln when they can talk about watts, voltage and speed of light. Really!
Who is the most sensitive?
I can cry at the drop of the hat. My husband though? He’s a softie who pretends he’s not and those are the worst kind :)
Where do you eat out most as a couple?
I’m not sure we have a favorite. He hates sushi. I’m married to an old world Italian – seriously, his Mom came here on a boat when she was 7 and his Dad was born here by the grace of God and a slow boat. I want authentic Italian. He and I traveled to Italy a year ago and I can’t eat at the chain Italian restaurants? Really, our best meals? At home.
Where is the furthest you two have traveled together as a couple?
Italy. To visit family ... up and down the coast, in the hills and valleys and Tuscan cities. Bliss.
Who has the craziest exes?
My exes were just the wrong guys at the wrong time. His ex? Flat out, hands down, crazy. He wins. Hands down. I have never EVER met a crazier woman in my life, made crazier because she can’t believe that her TOTAL CRAZINESS did not win her custody of her kids. She thought telling the custody evaluator (sought out only after she demanded SOLE custody but never EVER took the kids for more than 1 day) that yes, she would put her kids in the middle to get back at her ex-husband ... why? Was that a problem? She did get custody of their dog though. OUCH.
Who has the worst temper?
Me. Only he doesn’t see it. I might snap a little at him, mainly in frustration, but I save my finer moments for my car or the garage, where no one can hear me. Maybe he does the same. But, at the end of the day, I’m Irish. So I win. No discussion.
Who does the cooking?
I do ... or we would starve. Not because my husband can’t cook. He can. Very well. But he’s a small business owner. Who may not get to work until 9:00 ... but who frequently can’t leave until 9:00. That’s ok. I’ll cook!
Who is the neat-freak?
Him. We have no mold growing. No unhealthy conditions. But you know, a pile of clean clothes on the floor of my room? Some papers on an end table. Whatever. He usually goes with the flow. Everyone once in a while, it bothers him....
Who is more stubborn?
I’m Irish, which lends to stubborn. My husband? First generation, 100% Italian. I don’t think I need to say more.
Who hogs the bed?
We have a king size bed so we really can’t hog. But I will admit that I tend to spread out more than he does, even in the bigger bed.
Who wakes up earlier?
While I am less chipper as I get older, I am the one who has ALWAYS gotten up before 6:00am. My husband hates mornings. I am up and on the go by 5:30 most mornings. Sadly, I can’t stay up past 10:00 most nights! My husband can.
Where was your first date?
We went to dinner at the Chesapeake Inn, in Chesapeake City, MD. It’s about 45 minutes from where we live in Delaware. He picked me up at 4:00 on a Sunday afternoon. I got home at 11:00pm. And truthfully? All we did was eat and talk. What a wonderful first date!
Who is more jealous?
I’m not jealous and neither is he. We have no reason to be.
How long did it take to get serious?
I think, like you, we were serious from the start but we couldn’t admit it. I knew he was a wonderful man and that he was different from anyone else I dated. He was scared because of his crazy ex but he knew ... he told me he loved me after 2 weeks. It took 3 more years to get married!
Who eats more?
That’s a toss up. I love to eat. He loves to eat. I think we could give each other a run for the money.
Who does the laundry?
Me, because, again, I’m home at a more reasonable hour. It’s just easier. And I find folding laundry sort of therapeutic.
Who's better with the computer?
Honestly? My 19 year old SS! I can type WAY faster than anyone in the house. I average about 95-100 wpm. My husband? If he and I are doing something together? I make him get up from the keyboard so I can do the work ... or I would kill him :)
Who drives when you are together?
My husband. It’s safer. He can’t stand to not be in control. I can’t stand to hear the “uhh” and “ohhh” and the sucked in breath ... UGH!
139. Marieke said:
I love memes!
My answer:
http://miquette.typepad.com/shopwhatnot/2009/02/relationship-meme.html
140. DVMsWife said:
Been stopping by your blog here and there and had to chuckle at your answers. You tell it like it is! Congrats on your acknowledgement of being named one of the top 25 blogs through Time magazine.
Just wanted to say hi!
141. I'm Busy Living said:
I did the same on my blog! Thank you!
http://www.imbusyliving.net/2009/02/i-married-my-best-friend.html
142. kimca said:
What the hells a "meme"? As you can see I've been avoiding Facebook for awhile now. For some reason it gives me the jitters. But this was fun to read. LOVED the last comment about not mentioning his ex-wife.
143. Theresa said:
What are your middle names?
My girlfriend's middle name is Carleen, after her aunt who was killed by a drunk driver. Mine is Mary, because my mom wouldn't let my dad make Mary my first name.
How long have you been together?
Four and one quarter years.
How long did you know each other before you started dating?
Two months.
Who asked whom out?
I asked her out, because I was not yet out of the closet and I knew I would have to be the one to fess up.
How old are each of you?
She just turned 23 and I'm almost 24.
Whose siblings do you see the most?
Mine--we share an apartment with my older brother and live close to my parents and younger brother. Her three brothers live six hours away.
Which situation is the hardest on you as a couple?
We faced a really hard time recently when we moved after she graduated from college. By a stroke of coincidence I got a great job right away, but it took her several months to get a job. Money and emotional struggles made things pretty rough for a few months, but now we're both employed and slowly building up savings again. Of course, her car died today. Damn.
Did you go to the same school?
We both graduated from UC Berkeley--me in '07 with a BA in psychology, her in '08 with a BA in gender and women's studies.
Are you from the same home town?
Nope. I grew up in a Los Angeles suburb, and she grew up in a tiny town in California's Central Valley.
Who is smarter?
We are smart in different ways. I'm verbally quicker and tend to be the information sponge, but she is much more spatially inclined and can arrange luggage in a trunk or furniture in a room perfectly.
Who is the most sensitive?
I am as touchy as an inappropriate uncle.
Where do you eat out most as a couple?
Heh. This question makes me smirk. Seriously though, we probably go to Chipotle most frequently.
Where is the furthest you two have traveled together as a couple?
Various trips up and down the state.
Who has the craziest exes?
I have no exes at all so she wins by default. One of her exes is really quite crazy though.
Who has the worst temper?
That would be me.
Who does the cooking?
We tend to split, but I am the one who's more inclined to take over the kitchen.
Who is the neat-freak?
DEFINITELY her. Her mom's house is immaculate, whereas I grew up in a house where we kept dust bunnies as pets. We have had long lesbian emotional-processing sessions about kitchen cleanliness, and our most recent fight was about how to make the bed.
Who is more stubborn?
That's me again. Poor girlfriend.
Who hogs the bed?
She claims I do but I deny it.
Who wakes up earlier?
She does. Sometimes she tiptoes out early on weekends, but I summon her back for morning snuggling.
Where was your first date?
The Castro Halloween street party in San Francisco.
Who is more jealous?
Again, me. Seriously, poor girlfriend.
How long did it take to get serious?
No time at all. Our melodramatic teenage love of destiny eventually transitioned to precociously blissful domesticity.
Who eats more?
We both eat too much but I can probably pack it away a little more.
Who does the laundry?
It's most often a joint effort.
Who's better with the computer?
Me, maybe? I am better at finding software tips and plug-ins online.
Who drives when you are together?
I make her drive on long trips at night, but we tend to switch off. I am a very cautious driver, which makes for an obnoxious passenger.
144. Dewi said:
I think I'm married to your Jon and I'm you, I would have to answer similarly to you, but our spawn is older.
I really love that my husband is a smart men, smarter then me, and I'm really smart in a very different way. He's Friday morning NY Times crossword puzzle in ink done a 1/2 hour smart!
however My absent minded spouse is NEVER allowed to inflict himself on our laundry, ever again.
He was in a rush to go out jogging, and "accidentally" poured regular bleach into the washing machine of dark clothes, thinking they were the white clothes.
I mean really, wtf!
All my expensive blue jeans and ridiculously overpriced dark tee shirts were in that load.
145. Lilla said:
Jon's ex-wife, huh? Gotta talk about that please. Is she, like a total b*tch? Spill :)
146. the domestic fringe said:
Just did the same meme on Facebook, but realized either I skipped two questions or they'd been deleted by the time the meme reached me.
You did a fantastic job not mentioning the ex-wife. I mentioned an ex-girlfriend early on.
-FringeGirl
147. sneffnie said:
oooh fun!
http://kaiasmommysaid.blogspot.com/
148. HDC said:
You know why you hate these memes? I'l tell you why you hate these memes. Because they're too fawking long. Good grief that's way too many questions.
149. Kara said:
158th! Yesssssss!
I don't have much to say, I've just never gotten to leave a comment before 800 others. Here's the key to our freakishly long relationship (we're both still in our 30's): my husband is a manchild sex machine and I get to be bossy. Do I need to elaborate on why we've been together for 15 years?
150. Anonymous said:
Ok, so I totally love that your favorite restaurant is run by a guy who is half-Japanese, half-Peruvian. I'm Peruvian and the most of the only other Peruvians I know are in my family, so it makes me all giddy when I hear that other Peruvians exist and that ppl like them. Call me crazy! or any other name that comes to mind!
One of my favorite restaurants out here in NYC is Flor De Mayo (Flower of May, or Mayflower). The owner is also Japanese/Peruvian. My family has been going there since I was a little girl (i'm 26 now). You and Jon should definitely check it out when you're or your in NYC again.
Oh and you and Jon are each other's lobsters! (and for those of you who never watched Friends, it means they're meant to be together fo' life) :)
151. mommarth said:
loved this! did our own:)
http://mommaruthsays.blogspot.com/
152. Amber said:
My husband is 8 years older than I am. I too love to point out our age difference. It's fun.
153. Hayley said:
This was a great post. You've got a great guy!
I'm 25 and my husband is 38. ENDLESS SOURCE OF AMUSEMENT. Chipotle... DRRRROOOOLLLL. Downing tequila is the only way to play charades. And I'm required by my John to hand over my laptop EVERY NIGHT so he can run updates and shit. And now I will seek out this Takashi you speak of when I'm no longer incubating double spawn... Happy Sumo got old a long time ago but I'm the only person I know who likes sushi, so I have no one to give me a good recommendation. SO THANK YOU.
Did I mention that you're hilarious? YOU ARE.
154. Sarah said:
I'm just about to leave work, but I can't wait to go through this later =)
I love that you visited LACMA on your first date!
155. heather said:
What are your middle names?
Ann, Lee
How long have you been together?
Almost 6 years? He's better at dates than I.
How long did you know each other before you started dating?
Maybe 6 months.
Who asked whom out?
He followed me home one night from the bar.
How old are each of you?
I'm 32, he's 44. Same gross story, I was in elementary school when he was graduating.
Whose siblings do you see the most?
It's probably even.
Which situation is the hardest on you as a couple?
His ex-wife. She will never go away.
Did you go to the same school?
Yes, buy many years apart.
Are you from the same home town?
Close, he's from the next town over from me.
Who is smarter?
Depends. Math and logic, he wins. Computer crap - me.
Who is the most sensitive?
Yeah. me.
Where do you eat out most as a couple?
I guess Fiesta Jalapenos.
Where is the furthest you two have traveled together as a couple?
Mexico? Caribbean? Which is further?
Who has the craziest exes?
Hoo boy. He totally wins that. Totally. The stories I could tell.
Who has the worst temper?
We're pretty even on that.
Who does the cooking?
He does in the winter, I do in the summer. He works late in the summer. Darn construction anyway.
Who is the neat-freak?
Uh. I'm the queen of piles. Piles of everything.
Who is more stubborn?
Again, we may tie.
Who hogs the bed?
Him. He always elbows me in the head. Or else the pug. Maybe the pug is the hog.
Who wakes up earlier?
Not me. I could sleep all day.
Where was your first date?
Our first legitimate date? I think Chi-chi's. Then KT's birthday party, complete with Jello wrestling. (I lost)
Who is more jealous?
Me. Used to be him.
How long did it take to get serious?
Maybe a couple weeks.
Who eats more?
HIM
Who does the laundry?
We both do, but he is terrible at it. But I can't get him to leave it in the hamper. See neat-freak question above.
Who's better with the computer?
Not him. Not even close.
Who drives when you are together?
He does. Except for after his surgery, when he wasn't allowed. That was painful. For me.
156. Grumpymoms.com said:
Just curious, why didn't you elaborate on Amsterdam??
157. Laura said:
This has nothing to do with anything in your post, but when I started reading comment #71 (msLaura), I read the first line as "I just wanted to poop."
I was disappointed to be wrong, I wanted to know how she was going to tie that in.
158. LaKatie said:
I really think you are one of the most incredible people I've never met. And my fiance - who I am writing about below - is always asking me if I am reading "the girl with the dogs" and why the page is pink.
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What are your middle names?
My middle name is Eileen. His is Paul. The weirdest part is his middle name is the first name of my ex. Wait, that's not weird. It's dumb and boring!
How long have you been together?
This May will be 2 years, technically, since I moved to Pittsburgh. Really, though, I count it since the previous December.
How long did you know each other before you started dating?
I had met him in Richmond, Virginia, through a common interest: live-action roleplaying games. I assure you, it's not as interesting as it sounds. That was in 2004. We then realized we literally lived 2 doors away from each other, and I randomly showed up to his house one day after class (evidently we both went to the same college), thus earning the best 'oh my god what are you doing on my doorstep' face ever.
Who asked whom out?
I guess he did because he said he wanted to get lunch with me. And I was all, "Okay." And we were all, "Yay lunch." Yay.
How old are each of you?
I'm 24. He's 27. And yet somehow he keeps thinking I'm 18 and I'm accusing him of acting like he's 12.
Whose siblings do you see the most?
Technically, I bring Josh around my family the most often because I have the poor fortune of actually liking my family's presence. As a result, he's usually stuck in a room with my two sisters and their significant others.
Which situation is the hardest on you as a couple?
That would have to be the fact that Josh has been perpetually independent since he was a teenage. I always needed a support structure to hold me up when things started going downhill. Because of this, Josh seeks solitude and an appreciation through separation, and I seek Josh. I also have a chronic addiction to attention and hugs. He gets hives.
Did you go to the same school?
We did, actually. We met going to Virginia Commonwealth University. He was an art major. I was an English major. We were attracted by similarly useless degrees.
Are you from the same home town?
Close, actually. I grew up on a peninsula in Virginia, and he grew up across the water. I want to a Catholic school, and he went to the private one that used to kick our ass in soccer.
Who is smarter?
Josh is intensely brilliant.
Who is the most sensitive?
I am brilliantly intense.
Where do you eat out most as a couple?
I have to say that it's not so much a chain as a type of food. We both love Asian (and Asian loves my stomach). Our first dates were in cozy, local sushi places in Richmond. Up here in Yankeeland, we still seek out great raw fish.
Where is the furthest you two have traveled together as a couple?
That's tough. The longest road trip was from Pittsburgh to Nashville.
Who has the craziest exes?
That would have to be me. Yeah. Just...sigh. Yeah.
Who has the worst temper?
Josh's anger is a force to be reckoned with, when it is provoked. It used to scare the hell out of me, and the one time he actually screamed at me after we got into an accident because I had driven home and not gotten a piece of insurance information, I was so shocked I actually hung up the phone. On my mom. Now, after working in a call center for almost a year, I realize it's a lot of noise and fluff.
Who does the cooking?
We trade off, actually. It's a give and take. He gives me shit for not being able to cook very well, and I take my ball and go home.
Who is the neat-freak?
He seems very antsy about the fact I leave my socks strewn in the living room from when we get home from work, yet I am kind enough to bite my tongue when I finally put something away and he gets mad because he can't find it.
Who is more stubborn?
I'm stubby. There actually isn't much stubbornness. Now, he *is* a hard-headed jerkface who reasons everything out into a week-long logic puzzle, but...
Who hogs the bed?
I have this tendency to slowly spread across a bed, wrecking havoc in an unconscious, blob-like manner. He sleeps the way I imagine Lurch to.
Who wakes up earlier?
Oh, God. Josh. No question. Sleeping past 8 just kills him. He's usually up blowing things up on his computer by 6.
Where was your first date?
I'm going to guess Sticky Rice. Main Street, Richmond, Virginia.
Who is more jealous?
Him. I have the ass he just can't grow, no matter how he tries.
How long did it take to get serious?
SERIOUS COUPLE IS SERIOUS. Well, it actually took a small amount of time. I messaged him with, "I think I Like you" about a year after we met. When I met him up in Pittsburgh in that fated December before I would move up, he asked me if I wanted to make out. So serious.
Who eats more?
Me. Who talks about it more? Jerkface.
Who does the laundry?
We actually do our own. Is this something I should be making him do? I don't like anyone touching my panties but my mom. It makes me paranoid.
Who's better with the computer?
Josh has made his own. My own has made me cry.
Who drives when you are together?
We swap off. Except when there are mojitos involved. Then it's all him.
159. dessessopsid said:
Oh I liked this, particularly your comments on the stubborn.
Like some other singles I've done this about my flat mate and me: http://preview.tinyurl.com/bw4vp5
160. SarahD said:
You just don't get any better pedigree for genetic stubbornness than that!
And it's funny that you say that about always being serious--we were exactly the same way. From the start, when we got together, we knew it would be for good, or not at all.
161. Liz said:
I'm not sure which of these will work, but here are my answers in two locations: http://lizsname.livejournal.com/223935.html or http://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=504405959&ref=profile#/note.php?n....
That facebook link doesn't seem right. Oh, well.
Thanks for the alternative to the "25 facts about me" meme, Dooce : )
162. ami said:
http://heartshapedsky.vox.com/library/post/do-you-want-to-marry-her.html
Thanks, that was a fun read so I answered on my little vox blog.
163. amanda said:
Fun! Love your answers. You can check mine out at:
http://memydogsmylife.blogspot.com/2009/02/and-now-little-levity.html
164. robinv said:
that day, I remember it well. Scott asked me "What do I have to do to get you to stop using fabric softener on my bike clothes?!?!?!?!?
Haven't done a bit of his laundry for 15 years. Yeah Baby! Communication rocks!
165. Laura said:
Ah, a sportsbra error. Why can't the smartest of men do the laundry the correct way, despite having their wives (me) get angry EVERY time they (he) do the same thing wrong?
Is there a glitch?
Is that neuronal pathway totally missing?
And after the 16th time that our daughter's clothes come back smaller than they went in despite very clear (very simple) statements that they should never ever be dried on high. . . "For the love of god, please tell me you did not dry them on high AGAIN."
To which the response was, "But there were a lot of them this time."
Please, Heather, find me the answer. These men are bright. I don't get it.
166. Susan and Meredith said:
As always, that was very entertaining.
We did this as writing partners on our blog, taking out the more schmoopy questions, though.
http://www.whelanflynn.com/main/JustHumourUs/tabid/77/EntryID/12/Default...
167. The Schumanator said:
Thanks for the inspiration! This was my post today:
What are your middle names?
My middle name is Jade and his middle name is Swanson.
How long have you been together? 4 years of sheer un-wedded bliss.
How long did you know each other before you started dating? A couple of weeks I guess - well I don't know, it was like 4 house parties, but not all in the same week - do with that what you will. But we didn’t really get together for real until a year later or so.
Who asked who out? Technically he did. But to be fair I did make him aware of the fact that he COULD ask me out and that I would say yes. That was right after I slipped him the roofie.
How old are each of you? 24 and 25. He is one year older but bless his heart, he was held back in Kindergarten and since I still think of the years of my life in terms of Grades – we are the same age.
Whose siblings do you see the most? His. My only sibling lives in South Korea and I get the distinct impression he enjoys avoiding me.
Which situation is hardest on you as a couple? Deciding what we will have for dinner. Lesser relationships would have cracked under the pressure of this nightly decision.
Did you go to the same school? Harvard of the West baby – Chico State. Okay, actually we met in Chico, but we didn’t go to the same school until we both transferred to SFSU.
Are you from the same hometown?
He wishes dude.
Who is smarter? When it comes to things like measuring or computing – building or constructing, he is much better. When it comes to things that are more language based, I am.
Who is most sensitive? I don’t “get in touch” with my feelings. It makes me feel icky.
Where do you eat most as a couple? We eat at a place we affectionately refer to as JDB where ¾ of the waitresses are out of their fucking minds.
What is the furthest you have traveled as a couple? I think Florence, Italy was the farthest, but taking the earth’s curvature into account, it could very well be the Netherlands.
Who has the craziest Exes? Me. One created online profiles pretending to be my current boyfriend and hit on good friends. It was fucking weird dude.
Who has the worst temper? Whether the dishwasher is broken or I just tripped on a cable, I am known for saying: GOD DAMN SON-OF-A-BITCH!!!!! as one long descriptive word. Stop judging mother that is a page right out of your book.
Who cooks? He does, but I noticed that you did not ask who cleans up the mess?
Who is the neat freak? Neither one of us in our entire lives has been referred to as a “neat freak” but when I compare my cleanliness level to his I am the fucking Pine Sol lady.
Who is more stubborn? He is - Although he would staunchly and unwaveringly disagree.
Who hogs the bed? We are both at the mercy of Lucy and the Cat. The good dog knows better.
Who wakes up earlier? About a year or so ago he started waking up at like 6am, I think just to spite me.
Where was your first date? We ended up at Subway (see # 7). Mr FancyPants could not afford a sandwich – I offered to buy him one but can’t remember if he accepted. He complimented my choice of provolone cheese and while I ate he told me the best story I ever heard.
Who is more jealous? We are both pointlessly jealous like a couple of big babies.
How long did it take to be serious? Neither one of us has ever been very good at "moderation" OR taking things slow.
Who does the laundry? Do you seriously have to ask? When the laundry gets done it is I who does it. I'm glad you didn't ask how often we do laundry.
Who is better at computers? He is of course (as he is building lcd multitouch screens) but every time something is wrong with my laptop I feel certain that it is his fault.
Who drives when you are together? Jon does and I don't know if it is because I have reached child baring age (ha), but I am convinced that every trip in an automobile brings me one step closer to a crunchy, fiery and very untimely death. If another driver on the road turns on their signal I am certain that they will be plowing into us as we pass by - "Dude Allie, people change lanes. Its ok". That is why he drives.
168. Just Jinny said:
That was great! Thanks for sharing.
Here is mine:
http://realworldgirl.blogspot.com/2009/02/happy-couple.html
169. Martha said:
Heather,
The only other thing I need to know about you [and your marriage] is who takes the pups out for first and last pee?
This is important and reveals all. (!)
oh......btw you look GREAT pregnant!
170. Shenanigans said:
Hmmm...I wonder what kind of a meme can singles fill out? On exes, maybe? That should make for interesting reading!
171. Laura said:
What are your middle names?
I don't have one. His is Cyrus.
How long have you been together?
5 months
How long did you know each other before you started dating?
A month
Who asked whom out?
He asked me out
How old are each of you?
I'm 29 He's 33
Whose siblings do you see the most?
Neither.
Which situation is the hardest on you as a couple?
Managing our time together. We have very different schedules.
Did you go to the same school?
Nope
Are you from the same home town?
Nope. He's from Salt Lake and I'm from Orem
Who is smarter?
We are both pretty smart but he is definitely smarter.
Who is the most sensitive?
Easily me.
Where do you eat out most as a couple?
Chanon Thai
Where is the furthest you two have traveled together as a couple?
We are going to Oregon next month.
Who has the craziest exes?
We both have pretty crazy exes
Who has the worst temper?
Probably me.
Who does the cooking?
We take turns. We both love to cook.
Who is the neat-freak?
I am
Who is more stubborn?
We are both pretty stubborn but I am at least willing to admit to mine. maybe I'm a wee bit more stubborn than him.
Who hogs the bed?
He hogs the bed but I hog the blankets
Who wakes up earlier?
He does.
Where was your first date?
Two Creek Coffee
Who is more jealous?
Me. But I'm getting much better. He has his own little jealous streak sometimes too.
How long did it take to get serious?
Not long at all. Almost from the beginning
Who eats more?
Usually him
Who does the laundry?
I usually do but we take turns
Who's better with the computer?
well since he is the web designer I would definitely say him.
Who drives when you are together?
I do. It would take days for us to get anywhere if he were to drive. He drives slower than my 80 y/o dad. Seriously.
172. Ashley said:
Haha! Oh, the software updates! I get in so much trouble over those damn things.
173. Z said:
Your ex story made me make this face: o_O
174. Bunny said:
OMG absolutely have been getting so many of these lately. Maybe it's the new year? I recently responed to my Mama w/ the words "I generally loathe these thing but I'll do it for you..." and she responed w/ her usual bitchy comment.
Hope you're feeling well Heather.
Bunny
www.goldenlassomystery.blogspot.com
175. Jenn said:
What are your middle names?
Jeanette for me, Joseph for him. Which means we have the exact same initials. How stinking cute. Barf.
How long have you been together?
Together, 8 years. Married 3 this summer.
How long did you know each other before you started dating?
We met in the spring of '01, both ended other relationships, and pretty much got together shortly thereafter.
Who asked whom out?
I guess he did? After I told him it was all or nothing that is. So, he did...by coercion.
How old are each of you?
I'm 27, he's 28. We were born in separate years despite only being 6 months apart. So I like to call him my old man since he'll always hit the new mark first.
Whose siblings do you see the most?
We see his sister most often.
Which situation is the hardest on you as a couple?
Probably the fact that we moved away from all of our friends and my family so we are pretty isolated in our new home. I also have a hard time separating work and home because I teach so it's not a job I can leave a work. He puts up with a lot from me on both ends. Oh, and cleaning. Apparently, he's so near-sighted that he cannot SEE the dirt and dog hair (from our two Coco-crazy Aussies) from 6 feet off the floor. Really?!
Did you go to the same school?
Yup. That is where we met.
Are you from the same home town?
Nope. I'm an LA girl, he's from the Bay Area of California. Our biggest culture clash occurs if someone doesn't put the precious "THE" before a freeway name. It's not "605 to 105"...it's THE 605 to THE 105...
Who is smarter?
Hmmm. I think he is much smarter when it comes to math/computers. He tries desperately to explain but most of that goes over my head. When it comes to random facts, common sense, or language and history related knowledge....all me.
Who is the most sensitive?
Hmm...toss up. I cry more obviously,but he is very sensitive to my sensitivities so in a good way, he's sensitive.
Where do you eat out most as a couple?
Well, if I can drive through them on my way home, it's on the list. We have a horrible take out problem right now.
Where is the furthest you two have traveled together as a couple?
Maui. But we're off to Italy this summer - can't WAIT! Right about the time you are pushing a new spawn out of your hoohaw.
Who has the craziest exes?
He does! The last one was totally psycho. I've dated some pretty stellar jackasses, but I don't think any of them needed to be committed.
Who has the worst temper?
Me. TOTALLY me. There is a hole in the wall near the laundry closet upstairs because I was so pissed about the pile up of laundry that I kicked a some clothes and ultimately, put my toe through the drywall. Yeah. I'm a screamer/slammer/thrower kind of temper tantrum thrower. He just shakes his head. It's that much more infuriating because he refuses to stoop to my level. Damn high road. ;-)
Who does the cooking?
We both cook, but more often than not, I'd say he does. See the above response about me not leaving work at work. Also see the response about our take out habit. If bringing home the paper bag with the food qualifies, I might win.
Who is the neat-freak?
I find him much more physically attractive when he has vacuumed or cleaned the kitchen if that answers the question.
Who is more stubborn?
All me.
Who hogs the bed?
His favorite phrase is along the lines of "check out all of that real estate over there" in regards to my hogging of the bed. I tell him it's just because I want to be close to him so I move closer into the middle of the bed. :-)
Who wakes up earlier?
He does. He gets up and walks the two nutjobs so that they don't lose there ever loving minds while we are at work. On weekends, he gets up and takes them to the dog park while I sleep. Man, I'm not looking good here at all.
Where was your first date?
Hahahaha...a trip to Del Taco for dinner. Yeah college!
Who is more jealous?
Well, if he showed any signs of jealousy, I'd be able to compare, but neither of us really show any jealous tendencies.
How long did it take to get serious?
It always was. It's why we took some time between the end of his last relationship and the official beginning of ours. We just knew it would work.
Who eats more?
Me. I have inflicted terrible eating habits upon him. He used to skip meals if he wasn't feeling hungry. My answer was always, how can you not be hungry?! It's lunchtime!
Who does the laundry?
I, too, live with a someone who cannot remember the rules of laundry. He can follow directions (color coded, typed, spreadsheet style) on what to set the machines at, but he doesn't have the genetic makeup that makes it possible for him to know how to SORT said laundry. So I do it. Remember the hole in the wall over all the laundry that piles up? Yeah.
Who's better with the computer?
I'm pretty damn savvy, but he is better. He can do things with Excel and Photoshop that make my head spin.
Who drives when you are together?
He does most of the time. But he messes up my mirrors. :-)
176. Denise said:
Thanks for letting us get to know Jon better....
177. Denise said:
ooops.... http://cdenisesurvive.blogspot.com/
178. A-2 said:
cute questionnaire. i like some of the others on Facebook. I put one on my blog the other day. I just put this one up too, if you care about reading a strangers' quirks :-)
179. Lisa said:
Laughing hysterically at the "who is the better driver thing" because, though my dear hubby would likely disagree, it is the exact same thing here!
180. content writers said:
Fantastic! Jon... we love you too.
181. karli said:
As a fellow Southern girl having experienced life in the midwest (and for many other equally great reasons) I'm a doocedotcom addict.
And now, after weeks of lacking inspiration to write anything aside from stories for work, I have three posts in queue!
182. adelaide website designer said:
As for crazy partners, I once knew a guy who had his ex-girlfriend hand a visage of him by the neck in his favorite running spot.
Haunting.
183. Lisa Guidarini said:
See my webpage ...
And send along the name of a good divorce attorney.
184. Christy Gannon said:
My husband thinks laundry consists of over stuffing the washer with red socks, white shirts, and my dry clean only sweaters, and then letting them sit there until I stumble in days later to find everything completely moldy. I so want to cut him off from laundry duty, but would rather take the more tedious route of retraining him. It's a good thing he can clean a mean bathroom.
185. Lisa Guidarini said:
Sent wrong website address!
I am such a moron.
My answers are there.
186. M said:
Ok so this isn't about the meme thing.(sorry to wander)
I started to back-check your web site (now that i am used to it i can find my way around) and I NEVER knew you lived in a sub-division. silly me.
I thought you lived in a house surrounded only by snow capped mountains (lame yes. meme. no)and glorious Utah sky.
A clear running stream. Lots of Space. Buffalo?
I knew you moved to the new home,but i just never thought... It is wonderous.
I have been with my husband since 1975.
married since 1981.
some days i wish i could run away.
187. Colleen said:
I love your Web site - thanks for the laughs. My significant other actually filled this in and did a pretty good job. BTW - I didn't know these were called memes.
♥ What are your middle names?
Wilson and Joyce
♥ How long have you been together?
16 years with a few bumps along the way
♥ How long did you know each other before you started dating?
I met Colleen in October of 92 and I have been aggressively pursued by her every since!
♥ Who asked who out?
I did
♥ How old are each of you?
We are both 37 (he's a few months older and yes, it does count)
♥ Whose siblings did you see the most?
Mine
♥ Do you have any children together?
Yes, one daughter
♥ What about pets?
1 dog
♥ Did you go to the same school?
nope
♥ Are you from the same home town?
nope
♥ Who is the smartest?
Colleen on intellectual stuff, me on common sense stuff (he fixes stuff)
♥ Who is the most sensitive?
Colleen
♥ Where do you eat out most as a couple?
Chilis
♥ Where is the furthest you two have traveled together?
together? San Diego, CA
♥ Who has the craziest exes?
Neither
♥ Who does the cooking?
It's Colleen's Kitchen
♥ Who is more social?
It's a tie
♥Who is the neat Freak?
neither
♥ Who is the more stubborn?
ME
♥ Who hogs the bed?
She hogs the covers
♥ Who wakes up earlier?
Colleen, she makes the coffee
♥ Where was your first date?
Turtle Krawls in Key West
♥ Who has the bigger family?
Not even close. She has 7 sisters and 4 brothers
♥ Do you get flowers often?
I'm not a big fan
♥ How do you spend the holidays?
my family is closer (Yes, they are very close. Very close.)
♥ How long did it take to get serious?
a few months
♥ Who eats more?
I do
♥ Who does/ did the laundry?
Colleen (But I won't put it up. Ever.)
♥ Who’s better with the computer?
John
♥ Who drives when you are together?
I drive my truck and I drive her car when asked
188. Megan said:
One day, long after my husband and I were married, I decided to burrow my way through the sixty seven boxes of useless junk buried in our basement. Three years later, covered with dust and wondering why my son could speak in complete sentences and no longer needed a sippy cup, I emerged.
Then I had my grandmother over for dinner. I descibed my journey through old love letters, missives of devotion from boys I couldn't remember. I told her about the pictures of women with far bigger boobs than my own, standing next to my husband with adoring eyes. Then I told Nana, that I had thrown it all away.
Nana thought for a moment before speaking and looked at me with a grin that belonged to woman 50 years younger.
"Megan, you should have saved all that for when you're an old lady. You would have laughed until you cried and remembered things you would have forgotten."
Thank God you blog Heather. You and John will be laughing for ages at this post. My Nana would be proud.
189. BOSSY said:
Bossy and her husband have been serious about their relationship since Day One also, and have most of your dynamics in common, minus the driving too-slow thing (too fast), and minus the part where Bossy makes her living from her blog. What was the question?
190. diana said:
Super-fun!
Here's mine: http://anadventuredaily.blogspot.com/2009/02/smart-otherwise-known-as-ti...
191. rory said:
Now that was an interesting meme. Informative and personal but not embarrassing. Thanks Heather, for letting me link to, and answer, on my site.
192. Dana said:
OK...everyone give me until tomorrow when I'm sitting at my desk and need to look like I'm typing a very important memo...that's when I'll be working on this...don't tattle on me.
http://www.piecrustpromises.com
193. Chaos said:
Hey! I live in Brigham City! But now every time I meet someone named Armstrong I'm going to have to ask if they're related to Jon Armstrong. THE Jon Armstrong.
194. kim at allconsuming said:
I'm so doing this. No really.
www.allconsuming.blogspot.com
195. Melissa said:
We're not married. But we're just like an old married couple. That counts, right?
What are your middle names?
My middle name is Lynn. My mothers middle name is Lynn. Unfortunately, my parents weren't very creative. His middle name is Adam. Unfortunately, that makes his initials NAD.
How long have you been together?
On and off for about 4 years. We're in an on period.
How long did you know each other before you started dating?
I met him in the fall of 2000 in a chatroom. I was 13. We started dating 5 years later....after we actually met.
Who asked whom out?
It was a mutual decision. After we had sex. 2 hours after meeting. (That makes me sound incredibly whorish. But we were both virgins, if that helps.)
How old are each of you?
I'm 21. He's 23. We still have time to break up and get back together 5 more times before the BIG M.
Whose siblings do you see the most?
Considering he loves my family and he's actually met all of my siblings, I would say mine. I've yet to meet his 35ish year old brother. I've managed to meet his sister though.
Which situation is the hardest on you as a couple?
Distance. It was always the complicating factor in our relationship and the reason we've broken up so many times. He's from Niagara Falls, NY and I'm from Moline, IL. 700 miles can put a damper on any relationship.
Did you go to the same school?
Yes, I decided to go to school in New York to be with him. That lasted...oh, one year. I had a bout of depression caused by finances and...well, being bipolar. Consequently, I came back home.
Are you from the same home town?
No. See above.
Who is smarter?
I would like to beg that I am smarter. But only because I have this insatiable hunger for knowledge. I read and absorb everything. But when it comes to maths and computers I fail miserably.
Who is the most sensitive?
I have bipolar. Need I say more?
Where do you eat out most as a couple?
We have several places in my hometown that we adore. All are specific to my area so whenever he's in town visiting me, we make plans to visit each.
Where is the furthest you two have traveled together as a couple?
We've traveled between my town and his. And Chicago.
Who has the craziest exes?
He doesn't have any exes. And the frenchman I briefly dated during my summer in Europe was pretty crazy.
Who has the worst temper?
Me. Hands down.
Who does the cooking?
We both like to cook. I think I like it more though. But we have bad eating habits, so we like to eat out.
Who is the neat-freak?
Let's just say, when I visit him, I'm cleaning for him.
Who is more stubborn?
I am. It's in my genetics.
Who hogs the bed?
We both share pretty equally. Considering the first year of our relationship we shared a twin bed in a dorm room.
Who wakes up earlier?
I do. I'm an early bird. But I'm still hoping one day he will spontaneously mutate into someone who wakes up at 6am. But this is a man who thinks the day should start at 1pm.
Where was your first date?
Fudruckers, next to Motel 6. Shortly after we both lost our virginity to each other.
Who is more jealous?
Him. But only because I've dated more people. And he's only ever dated me. (He loathes the frenchman.)
How long did it take to get serious?
Our relationship is a long and confusing road. After meeting online at 13 and becoming best friends over the internet and then admitting we loved each to finally meeting each other in person. It's safe to say we we're always pretty serious. There's no definable moment.
Who eats more?
We both can clean our plate(s).
Who does the laundry?
I do, but only because he does everything on cold.
Who's better with the computer?
He is. He happens to be studying computer science. I can't compete with that.
Who drives when you are together?
Me. Given the choice, he always has me drive.
196. Abby said:
What are your middle names?
Elise, Jason
How long have you been together?
11 years together, married for 2
How long did you know each other before you started dating?
not very long
Who asked whom out?
He asked me...but I wanted it bad.
How old are each of you?
He's 30. I'm 27. Yeah, we are high school sweethearts/
Whose siblings do you see the most?
Mine. They are cooler anyway.
Which situation is the hardest on you as a couple?
Remodeling our home for the past year and a half. It was my idea...
Did you go to the same school?
Yes. High school and college.
Are you from the same home town?
He was born in Miami. which is funny because he looks like a viking.
Who is smarter?
He is a genius when it comes to almost anything mechanical or mathmatical. He literally does math for fun. But his memory is awful. He also suffers from a disease I discovered called CID or Celebrity Identification Disorder. How could you not recognize Brad Pitt!?
Who is the most sensitive?
me
Where do you eat out most as a couple?
Tres Margaritas. He always gets a #3 no letuca.
Where is the furthest you two have traveled together as a couple?
Seattle. Amsterdam is my dream destination though!!!
Who has the craziest exes?
Ha. None of mine are in prison on charges!
Who has the worst temper?
HE DOES DAMMIT!
Who does the cooking?
I do all of the cooking. His favorite thing to make is Beefaroni. No thanks.
Who is the neat-freak?
Neither of us. That's why no one can come over.
Who is more stubborn?
I found my equal.
Who hogs the bed?
He does. Or maybe I do. Maybe that's why I get kicked all night long.
Who wakes up earlier?
Me. And I'm chipper too which especially annoys him.
Where was your first date?
Ha. Taco Bell and his house. His parents were out of town. So scandalous.
Who is more jealous?
He is. It used to be really bad but I've put on a few pounds so he seems less concerned now
How long did it take to get serious?
Not long at all. I knew he was the one pretty quickly.
Who eats more?
he does.
Who does the laundry?
I do mine and he does his. We never argue about it.
Who's better with the computer?
He's a software developer.
Who drives when you are together?
He does. He's always the DD too!
197. Shaun Paddock said:
Thank you for making me laugh and forget about the tornado warnings we are currently experiencing. It is nice to get to know Jon a little bit better.
Hope you are feeling groovy!
Shaun
198. Terri said:
What are your middle names? Mine is Kay, his is Eugene.
How long have you been together? Married for 11, together for 14 as of next month.
How long did you know each other before you started dating? We never dated. We just "were" We met online - before people met online, long before match.com and at a time when friends assured me I was meeting a serial killer. He lived in SF I lived in LA so he flew down, we met at the Burbank airport and he never went home. Seriously. (And, I had two teenage kids at the time! How stupid was he?)
Who asked whom out? Again, never dated.
How old are each of you? I'm 55 but extremely immature for my age. He's 47. We age average making us both, 51. I works for me.
Whose siblings do you see the most? Mine although my sister is a drug addict and we are now raising her two children, ages 11 and 14 and while she lives a minute away we never see her. My brother is 11 years younger and we like him. What was the question?
Which situation is the hardest on you as a couple? Money.
Did you go to the same school? No, he went to West Point. I went to Northwestern.
Are you from the same home town? No. Not even close.
Who is smarter? He's in Mensa. I'm not. But, I have more sense.
Who is the most sensitive? Definitely maybe me.
Where do you eat out most as a couple? A tiny soul food restaurant, Felix's.
Where is the furthest you two have traveled together as a couple? St. Lucia for our Honeymoon or last summer an Alaskan cruise.
Who has the craziest exes? I hate saying, admitting and living this but the truth is, this is my fourth marriage. You do the math.
Who has the worst temper? Definitely him.
Who does the cooking? What is this "cooking" you speak of?
Who is neater? Look around at the dust. Neither of us! He is OCD about certain things but I like the towels and sheets all folded and going in the same direction.
Who is more stubborn? It varies
Who hogs the bed? The four dogs
Who wakes up first? It varies. We're neither morning people.
Where was your first date? The Burbank airport
Who is more jealous? We don't really have that issue (we have plenty other issues, but not that one)
How long did it take to get serious? We were serious before we met. Our first telephone conversation lasted 12 hours.
Who eats more? Our personal trainer challenged us today to who could lose 10 pounds first. I will never eat again.
Who does the laundry? We argue over who gets to do the laundry. I hate how he does the laundry yet he insists on doing it. I think just to piss me off.
Who's better with the computer? He is.
Who drives when you are together? He always drove for 10 years and lately we've been alternating.
199. Devon said:
My boyfriend and I have also been serious from the beginning. We know what we want and we know we want each other. Because we are young this compels people to tell us we are crazy and weird AS OFTEN AS HUMANLY POSSIBLE. While that is true, we are crazy, it has nothing to do with each other.
I am better with a computer, and I am a better driver. But he has banned me from doing the laundry or trying to cook. It's sad when I do. He can eat more than me, but not by much. Last night, we ordered 3 pizzas from Pizza Hut for the two of us, and we had less than half a pizza left. We can both hold our own.
My middle name is Marie. No, I actually don't have a middle name because my parents gave me a hyphenated first name: Devon-Marie. Which is cute, sort of. His middle name is Maxwell, as in his full name is Alexander Maxwell Handy. And THAT is part of the reason why I love him so much. That and the fact that he recently admitted to me that he texts me while on the toilet.
200. Amanda said:
http://doesthisfoodmakemelookfat.blogspot.com/
201. brittany cox said:
im laughing hysterically-- my husband eats candy after work outs, and definitely drives like an old woman with cataracts. i say that with love.
came across your blog about a month ago, and can't go a day without checking for a new post from you. ill have to post these questions on my blog!
202. aaryn b. said:
You actually need to wear a sports bra?
203. Bethany said:
If anyone wants to share the joy here's my link....
http://silverstreamer.blogspot.com/
I have been bombed with these things lately on FB too. It's like an epidemic. But this one was different enough and sort of relevant for my blog so I indulged. It's always fun to let the world know that I am partnered with the Buddha himself. And that I am similar to a a rabid weasel. It's a great match up.
204. Kimmers said:
I loved this... it was a nice look into your relationship. The grandma driving would make me bananas also - then again at least 50% of the time that my boyfriend is driving I'm positive that a collision is inevitable, so given my choice I'm not sure which I'd choose.
I posted it on my blog too:
http://kimmersforlife.typepad.com/
205. Taylee said:
WOOT-WOOT to Brigham Citians! Good people come from BC, like me for example, I'm pretty great. That was a joke. Sorta.
206. Melissa said:
Heather, I loved reading yours so much I did my own on our blog. http://duolynoted.blogspot.com/2009/02/blogging.html
207. Anneli said:
Oh man, I am definitely doing this for tomorrow's entry on my site (tinykorean.com)! :D I love reading this stuff about others, it makes me tilt my head to the side and go "awww."
208. Mari said:
The best answer to the 25 questions meme was on
http://torvalds-family.blogspot.com today.
The latest entry read, 25 things about me:
1. I get bored really easily.
...and that was it. Smart boy.
209. Leah said:
I'm going to to this just to see if I too can complete it without mentioning my s.o.'s ex-wife!
210. Gori Girl said:
Well, here's my take on the questions as viewed from the crazy world of my intercultural marriage. Thanks for posting this, Heather - it was pretty fun!
211. aaryn b. said:
Okay, Heather. I'm back.
I blamed you. I hope you don't mind.
Here's mine.
212. Kelli said:
Here goes: Click http://skillywidden.blogspot.com/2009/02/brycentonian.html.
213. Ivy said:
Hi Heather. This made for an easy entry tonight. Thanks! www.unscriptedlife.com
214. Tile Roof Vancouver said:
I like reading your posts. they are very useful.
215. Tina N said:
Hi Heather,
I found you @ http://people.kosmix.com/topic/Heather_Armstrong
OMG, this post had me laughing out loud, THANKS! Specifically the answer to "Who has the craziest exes" LOL! Love it! I'm sending the q's to my girlfriends now!
Thanks!
Tina
216. Michelle said:
I think they do that bra thing on purpose to get out of doing the laundry.
217. mollie said:
What are your middle names? Elizabeth and David.
How long have you been together? 2 years
How long did you know each other before you started dating?
5 years
Who asked whom out? He asked me out persistently for 6 months.
How old are each of you? 24 and 25
Whose siblings do you see the most? Neither set, we live abroad
Which situation is the hardest on you as a couple? Distance from our families and friends- we tend to rely on each other too much since our support network is far away.
Did you go to the same school? Yup.
Are you from the same home town? I went to HS in his hometown, we grew up 15 min apart.
Who is smarter? I'm more philosophical, he's more pragmatic. He thinks I'm the smarter one. I'll let him win with this one.
Who is the most sensitive? He is.
Where do you eat out most as a couple? Any good french restaurant.
Where is the furthest you two have traveled together as a couple? London.
Who has the craziest exes? We're pretty even- we both have dated some crazies.
Who has the worst temper? He does.
Who does the cooking? It's pretty equal.
Who is the neat-freak? He is.
Who is more stubborn? He is, definitely. I'm easy-going.
Who hogs the bed? I do!
Who wakes up earlier? He does.
Where was your first date? We got drinks at our local back home.
Who is more jealous? He is.
How long did it take to get serious? A few months.
Who eats more? I can out-eat him even though I am 60 pounds lighter.
Who does the laundry? I do.
Who's better with the computer? Me.
Who drives when you are together? He does, I hate to drive.
218. Tabi said:
I seriously was on the site when this post came up, and I refreshed 20 seconds after i got done reading it (2min) 250 comments. Holy shmoly lady.
219. Tabi said:
Okay, so only 217.... If only I coulda red good. Love your site.
220. Tabi said:
Okay, so only 217.... If only I coulda red good. Love your site.
221. Amanduh said:
How long did it take to get serious?
Our first date. We were sitting on his couch, listening to records and making out (yeah I know, might be a touch slooty for the first date but eh, oh well) when he pulled away and said " I don't do one night stands and I don't date more than one person at a time." I said "I'm definitely okay with that." Everyone needs someone who understands their crazy side and loves them anyways. I am so happy and thankful to have found my best friend, confidant, and partner in crime.
222. Hannah said:
Done mine!
You should colate a sample of commenters answers, I bet it'd be really interesting, and funny!
223. Sara said:
For another Tennessee gals version check out my blog. There seem to be recurring themes running through these answers....
224. Nikki said:
HILARIOUS! Awesome, Dooce. I had to do one: http://nikkiandnat.blogspot.com/2009/02/me-and-my-much-better-half.html
225. evelyn said:
okely dokely. i'll join in. here are mine: http://elevenbee.com/files/0e2e42784bddf4a74eb70872b9fa8c0a-37.html
i fear i may be one of the few admitted fans of facebook. facebook is my friend. is that wrong?
226. GYL said:
Loved your answer to the neat-freak question :)
I gave it a go. However I am a bit cranky at Beloved. I will hopefully do a loved up version soon.
http://www.grumpyyounglady.com/?p=139
227. Raz said:
I live with my Mum.
Who has the worst temper?:
Ouch, a tough one. Well, there have been times where I end an argument by screaming as loud as I can, and then yelling "I've had enough!" I think we both try our best not to get into arguments but we tend to circle around the same things.
It makes us laugh harder later, though.
228. sarah said:
The laundry question is fun...
I think my husband is color blind. So he is not allowed to do laundry anymore either.
And I tended to do the same as Jon with our son when he was younger, where he told Leta that you were never going back to that restaurant where she freaked out. And now, he is almost 8 and I realize it's soooooo much better just to keep my mouth shut!
229. murphy912 said:
What is it about men and bras?
I get padded bras because I don't like anyone to know when I'm cold, and the padding is very fragile - if you put it in the washer and dryer, it gets lumpy and looks horrid, so you've just ruined a bra. And as many times as I've told my husband not to wash my bras, he forgets. Now when I need to wash them, I have to hide them from him, so he doesn't scoop them up with all the rest of the dirty laundry.
230. Amy said:
What are your middle names?
Christine and Tate. After Sharon Tate. Seriously.
How long have you been together?
15 years--married for 5. I know.
How long did you know each other before you started dating?
He was a customer at the bookstore where I worked for several years. Some of those years I was married to someone else--but he was always on my radar.
How old are each of you? We're 41.
Whose siblings do you see the most?
About the same. We live equidistant from both clans.
Which situation is the hardest on you as a couple?
He procrastinates. I do not. Lather, rinse, repeat.
Did you go to the same school?
We went to the same college, but didn't know eachother.
Who is smarter?
Of course, I am.
Who is the most sensitive?
I show it more.
Where do you eat out most as a couple?
Joe's Crab Shack. They have a playground, and a liquor license.
Where is the furthest you two have traveled together as a couple?
Scotland.
Who has the craziest exes?
That's a tie.
Who has the worst temper?
I show it more--but his is the worst. It's just silent rage.
Who does the cooking?
Me. He doesn't even like to eat. He would take a pill for food if he could.
Who is the neat-freak?
OMFG, me. He's gross. His office makes me cry on a weekly basis.
Who wakes up earlier?
Our 2 year old wakes us both up.
How long did it take to get serious?
Which time? We dated and broke up so many times. We even lived together and broke up.
231. Amy said:
A meme! I'm happy to play along:
http://hardtobehuman.blogspot.com/2009/02/this-is-not-dog-blog.html
232. Krista M said:
All done and posted to my blog. Thanks for the laugh today, and helping me remember some great times with my hubby!
233. Carmen Eckard said:
I posted this on my blog. Thanks for letting us know more about Jon.
Http://www.ahurricanecalledcarmen.com
234. Bette's Bags said:
I needed a good laugh today. Thanks!!
235. Heather said:
Too funny! I am definitely the bed hogger too, and am also lucky to have a man who cooks. That's a good thing, too, otherwise all we'd eat would be canned soup and cherry tomatoes.
Thanks for the laugh this morning!
236. canknitian said:
I'm moving in with beau tonight and we'll be married later this year. I might have to do this meme now and again in a year or so just to see how things change.
Thanks for sharing this part of your life.
237. velocibadgergirl said:
Finally, a meme I haven't seen 700 times before! Here's mine: http://velocibadgergirl.blogspot.com/2009/02/imagine-me-and-you-and-you-...
238. elisabeth said:
I'm not married to my significant other. But I figured that was ok. I did it anyway.
239. Anne said:
I went to grade school with a Heather Brooke. I don't remember much about her except that her parents FREAKED ME OUT. Whenever they were mad at her, they'd just stare intensely at her and say "I LOVE YOU HEATHER BROOKE" in these super-polite voices. They never raised their voices, never threatened, nothing--they only used the alien invasion voices. It was insanely creepy.
240. ...love Maegan said:
lol ...my husband drives SO SLOW ...and we're still in LA. It drives me CRAZY!!!! ...so I always drive. But he gets mad at me when I drive because I talk {or yell} at other drivers who cannot hear me. Why does this madden him so?
241. nicoleballet said:
Here's mine:
http://nicoletriesballet.blogspot.com/2009/02/valentines-day-meme.html
242. Michele said:
All right I participated. Needed something light.
243. Michelle said:
You are way too funny Heather. I look forward to all of your posts. What an adorable pic of Leta and the book. I also am a facebooker. . . I love the lists. I posted mine to my blog
http://sneathenfamily.blogspot.com Thanks for doing this. It was fun. And we'll see if my experiment works. I don't think my husband even reads my blog, so now we'll know for sure!
244. DodiM said:
That's great - and it's amazing how similar you are to so many of your readers, right? Like as far as giving birth to stubborn monsters? I'm so right there with you! (And, I thought my first daughter was ungodly stubborn - till I met #2! She makes sister look like a rookie. She's not stubborn about as many things, but when she does dig her heels in there is NO convincing her otherwise. None.)
However, I'm not sure I could get away without mentioning the first wife. (I'm not sure if you were kidding about that, was Jon married before? Jim was.) She was horrible - but also made him the man he is, and he is an EXCELLENT husband because of some of the things he learned in his first marriage. Plus, after being through all the horror of his first marriage and divorce, he knew what kind of person would be a good partner and wife. And he chose me because he could see that in me. I always try to remember that when I'm mad at him.
And, yes. I'm random and prone to tangents. Thanks for asking!
245. Will said:
Thanks for the post idea! I've put my answers up over at my blog. I love your blog though I never comment. Thanks for sharing!
- Will
246. An American Girl said:
Oh, Lord. The memes! There is one circulating about your experience giving BIRTH. Seriously? I really didn't need to know that some girl that sat behind me in English Lit my sophomore year had a 4th degree tear and poo'd on the table. Is nothing sacred anymore?!
Love this one though!
247. Heather Watson said:
http://hipmommy.wordpress.com/2009/02/19/all-about-us/
Your answers were great! Truly inspiring.
248. Heather Watson said:
http://hipmommy.wordpress.com/2009/02/19/all-about-us/
Your answers were great! Truly inspiring.
249. Jlynch said:
Your child "darts" somewhere in the morning? How does that happen? Mine is just a tiny bit older than yours and I cannot seem to budge her out of bed without idle threats, not-so-idle bribes or physical removal. Your secrets, please. I'll trade you use of The Magical Fairy Dust (which hastens sleep in small children)for the Magical Get Out Of Bed formula.
250. Sarah said:
What are your middle names?
Margaret and Fink.
How long have you been together?
1 year and 2 months.
How long did you know each other before you started dating?
3 months. He asked my co worker (a friend of his from college) for my e mail address to invite me to a party he was having at his house. I never responded. Ran into him 3 months later....
How old are each of you?
I'm 26 and he's 36. And I love playing the when you were this age I was doing this. Ex. When you were 21 bonging beerS at a frat party I was 11 tucked away in a My Little Pony sleeping bag watching TGIF.
Whose siblings do you see the most?
His because of 4 neices and nephews. But my brother is moving back from Florida so hopefully about equal soon.
Which situation is hardest on you as a couple?
Right now, work and finances.
Did you go to the same school?
No, I went to UofK and he went to Centre.
Who is smarter?
He is!
Who is the most sensitive?
Toss up. He cries at commercials and gets teary eyed reading cards. I'm moody and hormornal- which equals unannounced crying fits of outrage about nothing. Usually caused by him giving me the wrong look at the wrong time.
Where do you eat out most as a couple?
Top two favorites- Asahi/sushi and anything Mexican- we love queso!
Where is the furthest you've traveled as a couple?
Amsterdam.
Craziest exes?
Tie
Who has the worst temper?
I fly off the handle easily. He on the other hand is very relaxed unless really pushed to his breaking point.
Who does the cooking?
Joint effort usually. I like trying new recipes and he has the few delicious staples we eat at least twice a week.
Who is the neat freak?
Him by far! Hence my nickname sometimes Messy Marge. I ues to attempt to do more of the cleaning but he refolds the laundry I just folded and my biggest pet peeve re sprays the counter I just wiped down.
Who wakes up earlier?
He does.
251. Meegs said:
Fun meme... here's mine: http://meegs1982.blogspot.com/2009/02/it-was-dark-and-stormy-night.html
252. AJS said:
I read this site every day. And NOT A SINGLE DAY goes by where I am not sending a link or an excerpt to my husband with the note that says: "SEE?!?! It's not just ME." The laundry, the computer, the cooking and Twizzlers at the gas station- all of it.
And now that we know what our firstborn is going to be like, we can fully prepare. :)
253. Yecats said:
I loved this post. I have not commented in a while...lurking more oftne than not, i suppose. be that as it may, i am going to do this exercise with my husband. i recently did one (25 random things about me) on my facebook page, and i found it cathartic, in some odd way.
as a side note, my sig and i are contemplating leaving counseling (nearly 2 years now, in a nearly 5 year marriage...)...i want to, but don't want to all at the same time. truly, it save our marriage, but... i.e. how long until we can be married "alone"...thoughts?
p.s. congrats on baby number 2. i'm thinking about it too...craziness. our first will be 2 in november. she's such a doll, and i'm torn. oy!
254. Lola said:
http://lolarue.com/?p=146 :)
255. Krys said:
I posted my responses on my blog (http://krysworld.blogspot.com).
Love reading your blog!
256. Olivia said:
I took over the laundry when I would not only find my nice bra in the dryer, but the baby bibs with velcro stuck to it.
I dunno what is worst, mormons or mennonite in-laws. Thanks god my husband just 'came out different' according to his mom.
phew.
257. Thekimchan said:
It was fun reflecting on our relationship. Check out my answers on my blog:
http://thekimchan.wordpress.com/2009/02/18/in-response-to-doocein-respon...
258. Kimmy P said:
Well, I actually just started this new blog earlier today so... sorry I look boring so far. YIKES.
259. Thekimchan said:
argh don't know what happened to the link in the previous response. You could just go straight to my blog at http://thekimchan.wordpress.com or to the post http://thekimchan.wordpress.com/2009/02/18/in-response-to-dooce/
Cheers!
260. Kelly-Kell-Kell said:
Chipotle rocks. You can't blame Chipotle...
My husband is the most mellow guy, but when he gets mad, he gets MAD! I hate when he does "construction projects" at our house, I just know he's going to throw a fit like a third grader who can't get the paste to stick. Fo real. He once smashed a fan because sheetrock tape wouldn't sand right. Okay, really? Either our son has that lovely trait or he's three...
261. Katy said:
I am a sucker for memes.
http://confuseddildo.blogspot.com
262. Jess said:
I can relate! My hubby is 7 1/2 years older than me. I love reminding him I was playing with Barbies when he was out on his first date.
263. Lisa W. said:
I'd love to see Jon answer these same questions and give his version.
264. Luckily Heather said:
You can find my answers on my blog or on Facebook where I did a somewhat different version very recently. I have noticed that you very rarely talk about Jon in and of himself, only in a story you are telling or something. Is there a reason for that?
265. LadyLadyLady said:
You CAN actually get better gas mileage if you *accelerate* and *brake* more slowly when you're driving. (I've spent the last three years testing this theory, and have seen a huge difference).
My husband, unfortunately, has a horrible lead foot. He SAYS he's doing the above slowly, but I'm slammed against either the back of my seat or the windshield. When he makes a turn, I'm flying back-and-forth like I'm in a bobsled.
Moral of the story: Mamas, don't let your teenage boys drive like teenage boys. The habit will stick forever and DRIVE THEIR FUTURE WIVES CRAZY.
266. ameliorate me said:
I never thought I'd see a meme on your blog, but I'm glad you did because this was awesome. I did this tag on my blog last year: http://ameliorateme.blogspot.com/2008/02/tagged-about-gj.html. Thanks for the laughs. And as a fellow Salt Laker and Dooce lover, I always get annoyed when I read where you shop. "I go Costco too! How come I never run into Dooce?"
267. preissless said:
Who has the craziest ex? It's a toss up. He made out with Chloe Sevigny back in the day, and was a raver for a hot minute. I had a dude that "borrowed" my bike and never returned it, and another dude that claimed to be headed to my house with a gun while he was high on crack.
268. mallory said:
I'm 33, my husband is 43, and my middle name is Brooke. Creepy! Alas, no Mormon in either of us that we know (husband's parents were both born and raised in Greece; did the missions ever make it to Athens?).
269. Lindsay said:
I'm totally stealing this for today's post. Mostly because after being on bedrest forever and a day, I cannot think of anything to write about other than TV or how much I need a shower. And I don't really need the whole internet to know I stink. I'd rather they know that I'm stubborn.
You crack me up.
270. Desiree - Dessays said:
This was way too much fun to read! Thanks for sharing the info & the idea. I've pulled a 'I wanna be just like you' & have filled out the questions for hubs & I.
Enjoy! If you've got the time... ;)
Ciao
271. Daffodil Campbell said:
I was thrilled to have something to write about that would reveal just enough personal information to bug my mom.
http://daffodilcampbell.blogspot.com/2009/02/all-about-me-and-my-husband...
272. Bridget said:
What are your middle names?
My middle name is Helen after my grandmother and great grandmother. His is Arthur. He's named after his maternal grandfather and that is why he has his mother's maiden for his last name and doesn't have the same last name as his parents.
How long have you been together?
Married 8 months, together 5 years 2 months.
How long did you know each other before you started dating?
A few months. We were introduced by my best friend.
Who asked whom out?
We were on a twisted double date playing pool. I was there with my best friend and my husband was there with some girl he was interested in. My husband had mistakenly told the girl we were going bowling and when she discovered that we were there to play pool, she wanted to go home. My best friend and I had just started a pitcher of beer so my husband said he'd drive her home and that he'd come back for my best friend and I. When he came back, the three of us decided to stay and play pool together. That's when my best friend told my husband that he should "totally hit on Bridget". And he did :D
How old are each of you?
I'm 28 and he's 24. I was graduating from University when he was graduating from high school.
Whose siblings do you see the most?
I have two younger sisters (one's a year older than my husband, the other is a year younger) and my husband has 2 half sisters and 3 half brothers, all much older than he is. We see my sisters more often because they live closer to me and probably because they have less responsibilities since they aren't married or have children.
Which situation is the hardest on you as a couple?
The fact that we've been long distance for nearly all of our relationship except for 3 summers we spent together. He has applied to immigrate to Canada from the US. Hopefully it will only be a few more months.
Did you go to the same school?
Yes but never at the same time. We both graduated from Bishop's University in Lennoxville, Quebec. I graduated in 2002 with a B.Sc. Honours Math, minor Biology and he graduated in 2006 with a B.Sc. Major Computer Science, minor Mathematical Contexts.
Are you from the same home town?
We're not even from the same country. I grew up in Pointe-Claire, Quebec (suburbs on the west island of Montreal) and Venosta, Quebec (rural, about an hour north of Ottawa). He grew up in Central Vermont in South Barre and Williamstown.
Who is smarter?
I would have to say we are equally as smart.
Who is the most sensitive?
Probably my husband. A little over a year ago he became a vegan for ethical reasons. I think that definitely qualifies him as more sensitive than me.
Where do you eat out most as a couple?
Julio's Cantina in Montpelier, VT. We went there last night. I usually get the vegetarian combo (bean burrito, cheese enchilada, and guacamole taco) and he gets the fiesta fries.
Where is the furthest you two have traveled together as a couple?
Saint-Pierre and Miquelon for our honeymoon.
Who has the craziest exes?
He does. There is one he will never live down and oddly enough I sold her my calculus textbook years before my husband and her met. I knew she was nuts then.
Who has the worst temper?
He has a shorter fuse than I do.
Who does the cooking?
I think I do most of it but we do a lot of cooking together.
Who is the neat-freak?
Me. I thoroughly cleaned his apartment before he moved into it (while he put together some furniture).
Who is more stubborn?
When I asked my husband this question last night, he laughed. When I asked him what he was laughing about he just said "Remember the hamburger buns?". Hamburger buns were on special 3 for 5$ not that long ago. He just wanted to buy 1 package and I *insisted* we get 3 to take advantage of the special.
Who hogs the bed?
We stick to our sides of the bed. Though once he gets up, I take over the whole bed.
Who wakes up earlier?
He does.
Where was your first date?
I guess pool with my best friend would count as a first date. After pool we went to the restaurant Capitaine Grecque in Lennoxville, Quebec and had poutine.
Who is more jealous?
I don't think either of us is the jealous type. That's probably one of the reasons why our long distance relationship was able to last.
How long did it take to get serious?
About a month.
Who eats more?
Most of the time he does but from time to time we will go out to eat somewhere and I will shock him with how much food one person can eat and how one person can complain about being stuffed.
Who does the laundry?
Since we live apart, I do my own laundry and his mom does his. He's perfectly capable but his mom insists. I think she feels like she needs an excuse to see him.
Who's better with the computer?
That's easy, my husband. He knows all sorts of crap about the computer that I have no idea about.
Who drives when you are together?
My husband. It would be illegal for me to drive as I don't even have a learner's permit.
273. L said:
What are your middle names?
Ann and George. Both after grandparents.
How long have you been together?
Nearly three years.
How long did you know each other before you started dating?
Ten years. We met online in a chat room and were just friends, keeping in touch even after we outgrew the chat thing. We starting talking regularly on the phone about ten years after we "met" after a death in his family, then started talking for hours on the phone, then finally met in person and ...
Who asked whom out?
Neither of us asked the other out, it just sort of happened.
How old are each of you?
I'm 41, he's, uh, 33. I like to tease him that when he was watching the Smurfs and eating his CocoPuffs me and my friends were doing Smurf Drinking Games.
Whose siblings do you see the most?
His sister and my brothers live far away from us, but given that his sister is slightly closer and comes out here more, his siblings.
Which situation is the hardest on you as a couple?
Him using the god damned oven to heat the kitchen AND forgetting to turn it off.
Did you go to the same school?
No.
Are you from the same home town?
No. He was born in AZ, grew up in CO and NM. I was born and raised in MA.
Who is smarter?
Neither, though we are each smarter at different things.
Who is the most sensitive?
Probably me.
Where do you eat out most as a couple?
Hm. We have a list of favorites, and a list of places we want to try. We have date night once a week, and we usually alternate between favorites and new places.
Where is the furthest you two have traveled together as a couple?
Denver.
Who has the craziest exes?
Me, by far.
Who has the worst temper?
Me.
Who does the cooking?
Both of us. We both love to cook and argue over who will make dinner. My talents lie more in European-style food, whereas he's the Pan-Asian guru. We make out a weekly menu and follow it pretty closely, and have a pretty wide repertoire of food.
Who is the neat-freak?
Me, by a country mile. Before I moved in he hadn't even unpacked boxes and he'd been living there for over a year.
Who is more stubborn?
He is.
Who hogs the bed?
Our six cats do.
Who wakes up earlier?
Him, but that means he'll get out of bed at 11 on a weekend whereas I'll get up at noon.
Where was your first date?
We didn't really have a first date, exactly ... but at a local restaurant, I guess.
Who is more jealous?
He is.
How long did it take to get serious?
About a month after we started talking regularly.
Who eats more?
He does. Unless it's sushi, then I do.
Who does the laundry?
We each do our own clothes. He does the towels, I do the sheets.
Who's better with the computer?
He definitely cares more.
Who drives when you are together?
Usually me, because I have a small, fuel-efficient car and he has an old pickup. He's a full-time student and can walk to school, so the truck doesn't get used all that much. Mostly when we go grocery shopping or to Costco.
274. Heather said:
These things are crazy?! I never think about this stuff!
http://www.facebook.com/note.php?saved&&suggest¬e_id=53897925853
275. Julie said:
If you think a ten year age difference is funny, the 23 year age difference between my boyfriend and I is hysterical. Sometimes just to tick him off when he's telling a story from his early 20s, I butt in with "Was this before or after I was born?" or "So when you were in the army in Korea, I was in kindergarten, right?". It's good to be the younger one.
276. MsKnudsen said:
I keep finding more and more in common with you folks. Not only am I a recovering Mormon with her own set of poop and depression stories (like Heather), *I* was born and raised in Brigham City (like Jon). Went to Box Elder High School. But I'm 10 years older than Jon, so we never crossed paths. Lucky for him. :)
277. kiroyale said:
love it. thanks so much for bloggin. x.o.
278. Lish said:
What are your middle names?
My middle name is Kay. Nicholas’s is Paul. He’s quite obviously the son of lifer Catholics, while I am as southern as the day is long. Nothing says Memphian quite like the call of ‘Alisha Kay!’ on the wind.
How long have you been together?
Not quite married yet. Together for four years – this October will be the wedding day and the start of a whole new round of anniversary forgetting.
How long did you know each other before you started dating?
Is this really applicable to folks who met online? We talked through Yahoo for a few months until we finally went out. He’d say I blew him off when he called, and he is sort of right. But in my defense, his Yahoo personals picture was of a tanned gorgeous Italian man in a wife beater, admiring his own muscles. Though he did turn out to be much deeper than his initial picture implied, I will say that I talked to him at first mainly for the morbid humor of it all.
Who asked whom out?
This would have been him. I finally had called him back and got a return on the generic drinks invitation.
How old are each of you?
We’re both 28 – though I am three months older, a fact that he likes to remind me of when answering this question himself. As though three months older means I’ll be walking with a cane and complaining of gout by 2010.
Whose siblings do you see the most?
Difficult question. Technically I see his siblings more than I see him – as I’m stuck in Memphis while he’s working hard in Minneapolis at the moment. He has two siblings, I have one – and actually I see them all more than he does. I’m the lucky one. He’s in Siberia.
Which situation is the hardest on you as a couple?
That’s hard to say. The obvious answer would be the distance we’ve dealt with in the past two years, but more than that, when we marry I’m sure we’ll have the normal problem – money. He’s a genius with it, I’m a genius at figuring out all of the cool things you can GET with it, which are entirely at cross purposes. The distance is much more solvable, but no less stressful at times. Especially during wedding planning, which is easily Hell defined. Strike all of this – I’m still mad he wouldn’t let me elope like I wanted.
Did you go to the same school?
Not remotely. He actually graduated, for instance. Several times – originally at a small college in Louisiana, then twice at the University of Memphis. I went to several schools as well, racking up course credits for no real purpose other than bragging rights later – who else can have enough credits to graduate in theory, without actually having a degree?
Are you from the same home town?
No. Nick’s a Livingston, Louisiana man, while I hail from ‘up north’ in Yankee country – northern Mississippi. His grandfather refers to me as the Yankee.
Who is smarter?
We’re both very smart people – I tend to grasp concepts quicker than Nick does, though he is much more motivated and can retain information in a usable form for much longer than I can even imagine. I tend to grasp concepts and move on, forgetting one as quickly as I learn the other – only to have to relearn the original at another time. His brain and ability to express what he learns astounds me and is a talent I will never be able to claim.
Who is the most sensitive?
That… would be me. But I’m offended that you asked.
Where do you eat out most as a couple?
Chipotle. While we have been known to frequent Olive Garden for soup lunches like crazy stalkers, Chipotle has won my heart over and when I visit Minneapolis, I make him eat it with me until he’d rather drop me from a building than have one more organically-raised chicken dish be placed in front of him.
Where is the furthest you two have traveled together as a couple?
Travel together? As a couple? I thought the way to stay together was to avoid doing this? To be honest, the farthest we’ve travelled together is Houston, but that barely counts as a trip – more a bribe to get him to accompany me to a friend’s wedding.
Who has the craziest exes?
That would be me. His exes haven’t ever resurfaced in our relationship and mine have, sometimes in crazy ways, sometimes just as nagging reminders of past decisions gone terribly wrong.
Who has the worst temper?
Nicholas, easily. He gets frustrated with life and stupidity much easier than I do, though I will say that neither of us have tempers – or at least the technical definition of tempers. That’s not to say that we take everything easily, just that yelling and name-calling don’t enter our relationship and never have, mainly because we can express ourselves quite easily with glares and growling.
Who does the cooking?
I do. I love to cook – would do it for a living if it didn’t involve actually working in a restaurant during hours I’d much rather be at home on the couch. If only I could randomly cook dinner for people I love and get paid for it, but I think they call that servitude. Nick can handle himself in a kitchen in the bachelor sense – he can throw an unimaginable mix into a skillet and eat it, when finished, out of a bowl. He does make the best pot roast though.
Who is the neat-freak?
Let's just put it this way: My boyfriend’s white tile floor is currently GREY. FREAKING GREY.
Who is more stubborn?
I’m going to say him, because I can. I’m sure he’d answer somewhat differently, but that’s the beauty of this survey being something I am answering. Neither of us are able to completely agree with the other about much of anything, but luckily we have the nodding politely and smiling thing down pat.
Who hogs the bed?
He hogs the bed, I hog the covers. It’s not my fault he’s a heater – but it is his fault when I nearly end up falling off the bed. I always know when he’s managed it yet again, because I wake up to feeling him pull me back from the edge as though I’m a rag doll – something I love because I feel small and it reminds me of just how sexy and manly he is. THEN… oh wait. Nevermind.
Who wakes up earlier?
Nick is a freak of nature that wakes up, on his own, before 7 each morning. I’m not sure how he manages it, but he not only wakes up, he’s PRODUCTIVE during that time. I, on the other hand, think mornings are for freaks that were dropped on their heads as children and would gladly sleep until the afternoon if life allowed. The fun part of his waking up is that he is convinced that I need to be awake when he is, something that nearly cost him a limb or two before he figured out how to wake me sweetly.
Where was your first date?
Gordon Biersch, when it used to exist here, in downtown Memphis.
Who is more jealous?
I’m more outwardly jealous. Nick is more likely to break steel pipe when thinking about me out with another man.
How long did it take to get serious?
I’m still not sure Nick realizes we’re serious. To be honest, once the initial hormone frenzy passed, we both knew we had something special. It took a while to convince him that it was worth hanging onto through his postdoc experience, but he’s glad I did and tells me how right I was about the entire thing every time it comes up. Me, I just knew that he would be stupid to let me go – who else thinks online video game playing is fun, that his chemistry is sexy, and that football is a great way to spend Saturdays?
Who eats more?
Nick. He can eat a 5lb bag of chocolate in minutes and constantly amazes me with his ability to put away a Michael-Phelps-sized meal daily. And then to stay fit and gorgeous? What a jerk.
Who does the laundry?
Hell will freeze over the day that Captain But-it-all-has-to-be-washed-why-not-in-the-same-load gets to wash my clothes.
Who's better with the computer?
Nick’s a computational chemist and I barely can install the updates by myself, so I suppose the answer is in the job description on this one.
279. Shelah Miner said:
dude-- this is one of those old college friends who wants to be a facebook friend. Friend me--- please?
280. Maile said:
Takashi used to be the sushi chef at Shogun on Main, and he was always brilliant, but more than ever so now.
282. Andrea said:
My husband is also 10 years older than I am. I like to make fun of him, then it gets awkward when I start thinking about the fact that when he was graduating college I wasn't even in high school yet.
283. Loretta said:
I posted my answers in my blog.
284. Megkathleen said:
The boyfriend is always yelling at me about not doing the updates. But who has that kind of patience?! Plus, I am convinced that they screw stuff up somehow...
285. Lisa said:
This was fun. At least until my hubby reads it:
http://babybunag.blogspot.com/2009/02/mommy-and-daddy-meme.html
286. Kitty Lascurain said:
Wow. Writing my answers was almost as fun as reading yours!I posted my answers on my blog.
PS: To Mr. Anonymous, what kind of unfortunate person feels the need to tell a perfect stranger that you don't like her kid? What are you, five? News flash buddy... she is. You have obviously never spent any time with perfectly normal children.
287. Domestic Goddess (in training) said:
That was really funny. I may have to try that, but I am pretty sure we will come out looking like jackasses! And to start the jackass thing early... what the hell does meme stand for?
288. Tori said:
What are your middle names?
My middle name is Lauren. His is Egli; his middle name is his mothers maiden name which is odd because my Dad was named the same way. We plan to follow suit with our own son.
How long have you been together?
We've been together 3 years 5 months and living together nearly 3 years
How long did you know each other before you started dating?
A few days. I figured I'd never hear from him after that first night.
Who asked whom out?
I did, well I asked him home. The several Hurricane's I'd imbibed prior to our meeting made me say something I'll never live down to those who heard me say it.
How old are each of you?
I'm 25 and he's 32. I like to talk about how while he was graduating high school I was in the 5th grade
Whose siblings do you see the most?
His, I'm an only child
Which situation is the hardest on you as a couple?
Money. I like to budget, he enjoys spending. I often pull out an allowance for him and hide the debit card so he doesn't go crazy.
Did you go to the same school?
No
Are you from the same home town?
No. He grew up in our state's largest city and I grew up in the town he vacationed in as a child. Our paths did cross once a few years before we officially met when his car broke down in front of the courthouse in my home town. I stopped because the car was awesome; we chatted briefly.
Who is smarter?
It depends on what we're doing. We share a lot of the same knowledge for fixing things like cars and working on the house. I read a lot and retain things like a sponge. He's got a massive knowledge of all things Mac. He's a pre-press artist and the things he can do in CS and Photoshop are amazing.
Who is the most sensitive?
Both of us. He cries and I cry and it's okay.
Where do you eat out most as a couple?
Usually a sushi restaurant. I like to go out to places where the food isn't something I could make at home for half the price.
Where is the furthest you two have traveled together as a couple?
Maui, Hawaii
Who has the craziest exes?
I'm going to say him. I've had a few crazies but nothing like some of the things he's told me.
Who has the worst temper?
Me, I can get pissed easily and unleash. It usually has to do with him doing something that has directly affected something I'm doing. Like when he left a full glass of water on the table teetering on the edge and when I went to retrieve the cat from the back of that table the glass hit the floor and exploded everywhere. I wouldn't have been so mad had he not sat there and watched me clean up the mess.
Who does the cooking?
That's me. Sometimes he goes in and makes something for dinner but it's usually something he's made before. He claims to be the king of reheating.
Who is the neat-freak?
Neither of us and that isn't a good thing
Who is more stubborn?
Me, I come from the blending of an Irish Catholic Texan and a Mormon Pioneer who traveled via wagon train. My grandparents were tough and I'm just like my Dad.
Who hogs the bed?
Him, he's 6'4" and is mostly limbs. I've been elbowed in the eye more times than I can count. It's like his arms aren't working with the rest of his brain.
Who wakes up earlier?
Me, I'm up an hour earlier than he is on the weekdays and at least 5 hours earlier on weekends. He'd sleep all day if he could.
Where was your first date?
His house. The first time we shared a meal together? The bar we originally met in a few days later.
Who is more jealous?
There isn't a lot of jealousy in this house. If something happens while were out like one of us gets hit on we both know who we're going home with at the end of the night.
How long did it take to get serious?
We were always serious. We never thought about "going exclusive" it was always implied. When I met him I knew I wasn't going to be looking anymore. He says he knew the first time he saw me sight a .22 rifle. That was a few days after our first meeting.
Who eats more?
Not sure. He has his days when he'll suck down dinner and go foraging for more in the kitchen. Other nights he eats half and takes the other half for lunch the next day.
Who does the laundry?
Me, it's always been me. I'm not worried about him ruining clothes. Anything that could get ruined goes to the dry cleaner.
Who's better with the computer?
He is. He's always telling me shortcuts. We have a Mac but I was raised PC so when he tells me a shortcut I'm always confused about using the Apple button instead of control.
Who drives when you are together?
Usually me if it's after 7pm. By then he's had a beer and doesn't want to drive. He's a backseat driver so I'm usually telling him to shut it. One of us has had a few accidents and the other hasn't. I'll give you a clue- it's the old man I live with.
289. Anonymous said:
hey, i like leta! kids obviously need to be taught their manners as well as how to play. don't know why people dont get that. but i just read your 'bookworm' daily photo post and now i adore your little girl.
290. Chris2fer said:
Here's a link!
http://chris2fer.wordpress.com/2009/02/19/a-meme-for-youyou/
291. Diamond Girl said:
Ok, I did the meme too. http://www.alittlediamond.com/2009/02/its-all-about-pat.html
That was fun. Thanks, dooce!
And thanks for being exactly the right mix of smart, crazy and smart-ass.
292. Kylee said:
What are your middle names?
Mine is Dawn and hers is Michelle.
How long have you been together?
We've been together for a year and a month!
How long did you know each other before you started dating?
We knew each other for about...2 years before we started dating.
Who asked whom out?
I asked her out.
How old are each of you?
I am 21, she is 23
Whose siblings do you see the most?
It's almost equal, kinda. But I guess we see her brother more.
Which situation is the hardest on you as a couple?
our living situation. We both moved back in with our parents to prepare to officially move in together. I hate sleeping without her.
Did you go to the same school?
Nope. She went to West High and I went to Hunter.
Are you from the same home town?
Nope nope. She is from Rose Park. I grew up in a tiny town called Price, Utah.
Who is smarter?
She is, for sure.
Who is the most sensitive?
Hello, we're both girls. Give me a break!
Where do you eat out most as a couple?
MMMM! We love Takashi! Also, La Frontera. Haha random!
Where is the furthest you two have traveled together as a couple?
Las Vegas
Who has the craziest exes?
I do. God.
Who has the worst temper?
Whiskey. Whiskey has the worst temper in our relationship.
Who does the cooking?
We both do.
Who is the neat-freak?
Neither, we should be though!
Who is more stubborn?
Again, we're both stubborn! We're both girls!!
Who hogs the bed?
I do usually. But we went camping last weekend and she stole ALL the blankets. Umm hello, it was 5 degrees in Kamus.
Who wakes up earlier?
We're usually up at the same time.
Where was your first date?
Megaplex 12 at the Gateway. One Missed Call. haha
Who is more jealous?
Whiskey. Whiskey is the most jealous in our relationship : )
How long did it take to get serious?
Again, we're lesbians. Ever heard the 2nd date U-Haul joke? Haha we've always been serious. Although we dated for 6 months before I was allowed to really call her my girlfriend.
Who eats more?
I do. All the day long.
Who does the laundry?
We both do!
Who's better with the computer?
I'd say me.
Who drives when you are together?
It's pretty equal!
293. Angela said:
Because I don't need everyone on Facebook all up in my business - I put mine on my blog: http://angelaraew.wordpress.com/2009/02/19/because-i-dont-need-everyone-...
294. Emily said:
What are your middle names?
Mine is Anderson. His is Richey. I make fun of his constantly.
How long have you been together?
Fifteen months.
How long did you know each other before you started dating?
Face to face, only a day.
Who asked whom out?
He did. He actually had to ask me twice before I agreed to drive three and a half hours to come meet the stranger I had an e-crush on.
How old are each of you?
I'm 24. He'll be 30 next week. Yet another thing I refuse to let him live down.
Whose siblings do you see the most?
Mine. My brother lives only an hour away, and his sister is more like three. Plus she's scary.
Which situation is the hardest on you as a couple?
My bipolar disorder. While he's got family members with it, it's difficult sometimes to remember that it's just my brain chemicals talking when I turn into the wretched crazy monster.
Did you go to the same school?
No. He graduated from FSU. I'm on a quest to attend every college in Mississippi.
Are you from the same home town?
No. He grew up in central Florida, and I grew up in the Mississippi Delta.
Who is smarter?
I like to think we're evenly matched.
Who is the most sensitive?
Me. By far.
Where do you eat out most as a couple?
We cook a LOT, but we do eat out a lot for lunch. I'd say mostly a place in Germantown called Jimmy's Asia Grill that has fantastic noodle soups.
Where is the furthest you two have traveled together as a couple?
North Carolina. We're planning on going to Connecticut together soon.
Who has the craziest exes?
Easily me.
Who has the worst temper?
Neither of us is much of a temper, but he's the only one who's every stormed out of a place (it was the DMV, so I understand).
Who does the cooking?
He's usually the head chef, and I do sous chef duty. He's more natural in the kitchen, so I tend to let him take the lead. Usually if I'm cooking it's a huge ordeal and I need everybody out of my way.
Who is the neat-freak?
He is. I can live with a mess, but it makes him nuts.
Who is more stubborn?
Him. He knows he can wait me out on anything.
Who hogs the bed?
Our dogs. I totally admit to being a covers thief though.
Who wakes up earlier?
He does. I'm a night owl, and he's been known to wake up at 3 AM whistling.
Where was your first date?
Sekisui in Cordova.
Who is more jealous?
Probably me, but I blame that on the crazy exes.
How long did it take to get serious?
I knew about two months in that he was it for me. He says that it was when his dog almost died several months later that he was sure.
Who eats more?
He does.
Who does the laundry?
Me. Although I'm not allowed to wash the sheets anymore because I kept breaking up the sheet sets (they're all white!!).
Who's better with the computer?
Me. I have an unfair advantage because we share my Mac and he's grown up on PCs.
Who drives when you are together?
Me, because we drive my car, which he's not insured on. He hates my driving though (with good reason).
295. Sunny said:
So enjoyed the inside scoop on you and Jon...
My husband and I follow you guys on Twitter and although half the time we have no idea what Jon is talking about (Drobo tweets, etc.) the other half the time I think he's hilarious. So much so, in fact, that I think my husband might be a little bit jealous. He doesn't like any competition I guess when it comes to humorous sarcastic commenting.
Love keeping up with the Armstrongs...all 5.5 of them :)
296. Jennie said:
Thanks for this one!
http://jenjoinwyo.blogspot.com/2009/02/married-life_19.html
297. Renee said:
That was great! I know you've written about how you and John met the first time, but are you ever going to write about how you and John managed to reconnect? I suspect it's a great story...
298. Amber said:
I'm jealous that your husband knows how to cook.
Mine thinks shoving a frozen pizza in the oven is cooking.
My husband is only a month and a half older than me and he tries to use it to his advantage:
"We're going to eat at Chilis because I'm the oldest. We're buying that couch because I'm the oldest and wiser."
I just roll my eyes at him and allow him to think that he makes the decisions. (But he doesn't.)
300. Renee said:
So my perverted husband is driving me crazy wondering which kitchen utensils one would want shoved up their butt. Would you like to elaborate?
301. Dewshane said:
Congratulations!
http://www.time.com/time/specials/packages/article/0,28804,1879276_18792...
302. Magdalen said:
I answered at my blog: http://narrowend.blogspot.com/2009/02/me-starman.html.